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andrej

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Re: Dealing with the EXes (yours and your partner's)
« Reply #135 on: July 18, 2012, 03:29:20 am »

stop communicating with him na...mashado n niya pnahirap buhay mo...
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Re: Dealing with the EXes (yours and your partner's)
« Reply #136 on: September 15, 2012, 02:29:28 am »

Civil lang kami, one time kasi nakipag flirt pa sya sa akin Na alam ko naman and alam niya Na Pareho na king committed sa iba.
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Re: Dealing with the EXes (yours and your partner's)
« Reply #137 on: February 03, 2013, 11:29:24 pm »

Mga mommies/sissies e pano kung single pa ex ni hubby and mukang gusto prin ni ex c hubby kaya wala pa siya ka relasyon (nagiimbestiga kz ako sa fb ni hubby lagi e) e until now mg friend prin sila and same place sa work..inaask q naman c hubby about ky ex ayaw niya pagusapan Kz..i smell something fishy tuloi..pero i trust naman c hubby..
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Re: Dealing with the EXes (yours and your partner's)
« Reply #138 on: February 03, 2013, 11:46:27 pm »

tama sis, trust mo lang si hubby, baka kaya ayaw na pag usapan ni hubby kasi ayaw niya na pag awayan niyo pa yun,minsan kasi tayong mga girls hilig magtanong about sa past tapos pag sinagot tayo magagalit tayo, we'll say na tandang tanda pa niya or updated pa siya about his ex,pag hindi naman tayo sinagot magagalit pa din tayo kasi we'll think of other reason na makakasakit satin, so better not open this topic na lang unless you see signs and changes kay hubby...mahahalata naman sa lalaki kung nagloloko eh, laging may katxt, napapadalas yung pag uwi ng late sasabihin ot pero pagdating ng sweldo wala naman nadagdag,basta watch out for other signs if you really smell something fishy  ;) and kung may friend ka na girl na officemate ni hubby, try to ask ng mga simpleng tanong na hindi mahahalata na ineembestigahan mo si hubby like kamusta si hubby sa work,etc etc hanggang sa matanong mo kung close pa ba sila nung ex niya  ;D
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Re: Dealing with the EXes (yours and your partner's)
« Reply #139 on: February 04, 2013, 12:25:55 am »

 ;D Salamat po sa reply..wala lang akong tiwala sa ex ni hubby talaga.. :onag ask narin ako sa mga kasama nila sa work napapansin daw na madalas naguusap..pinipilit kong dedmahin at iwasan na mabigyan ng malisya..

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« Reply #140 on: February 10, 2013, 11:53:48 am »

Hi mommies!

Although past is the past, hubby likes to bring up stories or remember one of his ex's.

Kasi yung "ex" daw niya na yun ang naka "una" kanya plus, mas older sa kanya at that time (school age pa siya nun) and maganda.  Si hubby yung third party sa relationship nila. For him, parang "trophy" daw yung ex niya.

Hindi ko siya masyadong pinapansin kapag napupunta na sa topic na ito, sometimes nire-reverse psychology ko na nga, but there are times na nakaka-irita na.  I don't even know if kino-compare niya ako sa kanya.

If I were to bring up my past naman, nagagalit siya.  Bihira ko lang naman gawin ito, kapag na-asar na ako sa kanya under the same topic.

I'm confident na mahal naman ako ni hubby, but if you were in my shoes how would you react? Kakainis diba?

sabihin mo.."trophy pala e..bakit ex mo na ngayon?" lols..ako kasi maldita.. lalo na pag naaasar na ako.pag yung tipong yung kwento niya parang yung unlimited na load na walang katapusan tapos cocompare kapa..mababara ko talaga.lols..pero infairness naman sa asawaq,d naman niya ginagawa yung ganyan sakin..ako pa nga minsan na ngungulit..kaya nung inaway ako ng MGA EX  niya,,lahat sila barado sakin kasi alam ko lahat ng kwento nila at kalokohan nila sa asawaq nung sila pa..ngayon naman,tahimik na mga ex niya  ;D
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Re: Dealing with the EXes (yours and your partner's)
« Reply #141 on: July 13, 2013, 05:10:38 pm »

My husband's ex cheated on him and I guess she feels guilty pero I'm super pissed off at her because parang napakadesperada niyang ipagsiksikan sarili niya sa buhay ni hubby, eh may bf naman siya. They kept communicating kasi even after the breakup and si girl eh kalandi landi na sinasabi "kung may ililihim man ako sa bf ko eh ikaw yun" (kapal..ganda mo teh...) and even nung naging magbf-gf na kami ni hubby, feeling niya mas may karapatan siyang maginarte na parang pagaari niya yung asawa ko. Nakakabwiset talaga. When I confronted her about it, mega deny siya at mega sumbong sa asawa ko na parang siya yung kinawawa, so ang sinabi ni hubby eh i-block nalang daw si girl sa fb. So I did. We blocked her sa account ni hubby, eh nung kinasal na kami sabi ko wala naman na dapat problema siguro naman marunong rumespeto ng marital vows tong si babae. I unblocked her sa fb ng asawa ko, aba wala pang 1hour may friend invite na si girl! Grabe stalker much? Dont tell me minamaya't-maya niya tingnan yung fb ng asawa ko kung hind na siya blockedS!? Then she messaged my husband na parang sana daw he's sure about what he did na pagpapakasal sa akin kasi daw worried sila ng friends niya... Blah blah ANG KAPAL TALAGA NG MUKHA. Swear I really wanted to have that girl murdered, So what me and my husband did was, we rejected her friend request eh diba sa fb may itatanong na "do you know this person outside of facebook?" We clicked no and then fb alerted na "this person will no longer be able to send you friend invites" then we customized my husband's fb na only his friends will be able to send him messages, ayun natahimik ang aming buhay. Sana manahimik na yung babae ang kapal ng mukha niya
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Re: Dealing with the EXes (yours and your partner's)
« Reply #142 on: July 15, 2013, 03:23:46 pm »

I mentioned it before,
Hindi naiintindihan ng mga single ladies ang respeto na dapat i-extend sa mga lalaking kaibigan nila na married na, primarily kasi hindi pa sila married and they don't get the reason why they need to keep distance .


Question, pag nag reject ba ng friend request sa FB, makikita ba yun nung nag request?


In dealing our exes (my husband's and mine), since matagal na yung mga pangyayari and I don't want to bear any hatred anymore (otherwise hindi magiging acceptable ang prayers and offerings ko), I pray for them nalang. I pray that God grant them the good wishes of their hearts, I pray they find the right partner and be happy like us, I pray for their health and happiness and for the Lord to bring into their lives the right people or person who should fill their needs. Mahirap to pray for blessing for the person you hate that's why you have to do it everyday. This is essential for it to work on your sincerity. It worked for me. Nawawala ang mga nega sa buhay ko.
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Re: Dealing with the EXes (yours and your partner's)
« Reply #143 on: July 16, 2013, 01:18:54 pm »

we just ignored my hubby's ex. di maganda yung break up nila tapos kung ano-ano ang tinext sa'kin. ginawa ko mega-forward kay boyfie ng mga messages para alam niya mga sinasabi sa'kin. di ko rin sya sinagot thru text. after two years, lo and behold, nagparamdam sa akin thru friendster (yn pa uso nun!)! ignore na naman. altho forgiven na, di ko ata kaya maging friends with her. then ngayon naman, may friend request sa fb. i saked hubby kung sino yun kasi iba ang pangalan na (married na kasi), yun daw yung bff ko! hehe i asked him kung i-approve ko request, ako daw bahala. until now deadma lang. hehe di ko lang ma-gets kung bakit biglang may invite from her. di naman kami close noh! pero friends sya with my mil and sil's.
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Re: Dealing with the EXes (yours and your partner's)
« Reply #144 on: July 16, 2013, 02:56:26 pm »

Sa amin naman ni hubby, at present we've no problem with our respective exes, although pinagdaanan din namin stage na yan, well, on his part lang and before we got married. Naranasan ko makareceive ng foul words and even threats from his exes, which I merely shrugged off, but demanded from him to deal with them accordingly (yes, them, kc naging makulay din past ni hubby before we met and even nung kami na but before we got married). Fair enough, ginawan naman niya ng paraan para tumigil na panggugulo sa akin ng mga yun. At present tahimik na.

On d part of my ex naman, si hubby ang medyo makulit dyan, sya  palatanong o kaya palasingit sa usapan ng tungkol dun. Alam niya kc na yun lang naging bf ko before sya, tapos we're both lawyers pa, so madalas, out of nowhere, bigla nalang magtatanong ng, "sure ka ba di kayo nagkikita sa mga hearings o kaya seminars?" Admittedly, nakikita ko pa si ex once in a while pero hanggang hi at hello na lang kami. Also, we've common friends dn kc so although wala na kaming direct communication, nalalaman namin ang latest sa isat isa through them, and kahit di ako nagtatanong e meron at meron talagang nagbabalita sa akin about him, like yung single pa rin sya til now, although me gf naman din, na bago n naman kotse niya, things like that. I don't know what's their purpose of updating me about him e sinasabi ko naman sa kanila na were through matagal na matagal na, and I'm happy with my family now. In one event where I was one of d ninangs of our common friend's baby, he (ex) happened to be a ninong naman, and although he came alone, I ignored him kc I was with my husband, and I decided not to introduce them to each other kc I believe no need to do it, tsaka baka lalo lang ma-insecure si hubby pag nakita niya si ex personally, so ayun, para sa katahimikan namin, d ko na sinabi ke hubby na nakita niya na ex ko who was just seated next to us.
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Re: Dealing with the EXes (yours and your partner's)
« Reply #145 on: July 19, 2013, 06:08:36 am »

Thank you mommyjazz! Sana lang talaga pag nagpakasal yung ex ng asawa ko, hindi niya maexperience na may nanggugulo sakanila kagaya ng ginawa niya sa amin, anyway, ang alam ko hindi nakikita nung nagrequest na nireject mo yung friend request niya sa fb eh...

Ako naman I dont pray for the people I hate. I just dont think about them hahaha, pero sige nga masubukan nga itong advise mo, wala namang mawawala sa akin kung may idadagdag man ako sa prayers ko :)
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Re: Dealing with the EXes (yours and your partner's)
« Reply #146 on: August 04, 2013, 03:13:46 pm »

me ganito naman..

my bf has a kid but hindi sila kasal nun girl. hindi rin sila nagsama kasi ayaw nun fam ni girl sa bf ko dhil mayaman un girl. 3x palang niya nakita un baby niya. his atm was with the girl tpos binibigyan nalang cia ng allowance which was so liit hindi kakasya sa panggastos niya. ganyan set up nila before nkipaghiwalay un girl and before naging kami ni bf. inassure ako ni bf na wala na sila nun girl and un kid lang habol niya kaya may communications sila ( kid expenses).. i was so secured and so happy until i saw his old fb with newly uploaded pic of that girl (prof pic &cover Pic). i was so furious kasi sabi ni bf deactivated na un and he created new account. so i txted him kasi hnd ko na kayang hintayin na magkita pa kami, he said he didnt know na un photo na un ang inupload nun girl and sabi lang daw sa kanya pics daw nun bata un iuupload ( yes, she has access).  for bf, its not a bigdeal and alam niya daw un totoo at kung cnu mahal niya. wala daw ciang pakealam sa kung ano un nasa fb. he didnt even bother to change those photos when he checked it.

un dating saken nun pics na un eh feeling parin nun girl na sila prin ni bf. its her pic on his fb name, anyone  who could see that pic would think na sila prin. bf said he will introduce me na daw sa family niya para hnd na para maging secure ako... and lagi niya binabanggit na next year mag-iiba na daw ako ng status..

i hate it but im starting to feel insecure and jealous everytime na sumasagi sa isip ko yun...
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Re: Dealing with the EXes (yours and your partner's)
« Reply #147 on: January 15, 2018, 08:15:20 pm »

 Jodi's former husband and Thirdy's dad, Pampi Lacson, is now in a relationship with Iwa.
Iwa Moto and Jodi Sta. Maria: 'Unexpected Friendships Are the Best Ones'

Read it on Smart Parenting. Click this link:
https://www.smartparenting.com.ph/life/love-relationships/iwa-and-jodi-unexpected-friendships-a1154-20180115
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