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kalix

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unappreciated mom...
« on: June 25, 2008, 05:07:57 pm »

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hi moms!

did you ever feel na your not a good mom at all? sometimes, i feel that...
you see, my son is sickly. from the time I conceived, lagi na lang ako sa hospital, maselan kasi ako magbuntis. ilang beses na rin akong muntik makunan. Buti na lang palaban baby ko, according to my doctor. Halos lahat na ata ng pampakapit eh naibigay na sakin... :)

Then I gave birth to my son. Thank God healthy naman sya.
The bad news eh lagi na lang syang nagkakasakit, 5 or 6 times na ata sya nahospital. It was really stressful! Lahat na ata naramdaman ko. nakakapagod, nakaka stress, nakaka depress, nakaka nerbyos & all. traumatizing na rin sa anak ko. Everytime na ii-inject sya naaawa ako sa kanya. Mommies, binibigay ko naman lahat sa kanya. Nagresign na nga rin ako sa work ko para lang maalagaan ko sya. I gave him nutritious foods, mahilig nga sya sa gulay at prutas. I gave him vitamins, good hygiene & clean environment, regular check up sa doctor etc., most especially LOVE & AFFECTION. pero bat ganito? other people still think na I'm not a good mother I mean kulang pa. kesyo pabayaan ko lang daw kumain ng kung ano ano, kesyo hayaan ko lang daw magdumi. Haller! kaya ko lang naman binibihisan ang anak ko kasi baka matuyuan ng pawis. mali po ba yun mga mommy? kesyo ganito, ganyan, blah, blah, blah! parang kailangan every minute nakabantay ako sa anak ko.pag ginawa ko yun, pano naman matutong maging independent ang anak ko kung lagi na lang akong nakabuntot. I make sure naman na safe ang place na pinaglalaruan niya before I let him. & I checked him naman from time to time. ano pa ba ang kulang?... ???
even my mom, she makes me feel na kulang pa binibigay ko para sa anak ko.Wala na nga akong halos time para sa sarili ko...

Di nila alam kung anong hirap ang magisa na nagpapalaki ng anak. My husband works abroad that's why kami lang ng son ko. Kaya tuwing may problema mag-isa ko lang, wala akong ka share. Kahit na laging tumatawag husband ko iba pa rin yung andito sya....pero of course I understand, kasi yun ang bumubuhay sa min. Lalo na pag nahohospital ang anak ko. Grabe!ang nerbyos ko. kasi nung nahospital sya bumaba oxygen level niya, nahirapan na po syang huminga.naiyak na talaga ko.natakot ako...ganun po pala ang feeling...pinipilit kong maging strong..nung naging stable sya, lumabas ako at don ako umiyak ng umiyak....ang hirap ng nagiisa.

imagine lahat ng pinagdaanan ko sa anak ko until now, na sabi nga ng pedia cardio na meron daw syang myocarditis. OMG! kelan kaya matatapos to? may asthma pa ang anak ko. kaya nagbabalak na naman akong dalhin sya dyan sa Manila for 3rd opinion. according don sa 2nd mukhang hindi naman daw kasi clear yung 2 D Echo niya at other lab tests. kasi may pinapainon sa kanyang gamot. & now eto't wala ng ginawa ang ibang tao kundi makialam at kung ano ano pa. sino po bang ina ang may gustong maysakit o nahihirapan ang anak? instead of supporting me or di kaya'y palakasin ang loob ko lalo pang pinaparamdam sakin na nagkulang ako...
even my MIL, nung time na bumaba level ng oxygen ng anak ko at parang di sya bumubuti, all I need is a word of encouragement, yung emotional support man lang. wala akong nakuha sa kanya,pinaalam ko kasi sa kanya.mantakin mong sabihin sakin sa cp nung nagusap kami na, "pasensya na, di ako makakapunta dyan,alam mo naman na wala akong pera". sobrang sumama po ng loob ko. kasi di naman niya binibisita apo niya dito samin. nasa province kasi kami. 6 hrs byahe papunta dyan sa manila. kesyo wala daw syang pera, hindi naman yun ang hinihingi ko sa kanya.at bakit pag pupunta sya ng province nila na mas mahal ang pamasahe eh nakakapunta sya. kahit anong oras gustuhin niya. at mababaw yung dahilan nyang wala syang pera. kasi sustentado sya ng mga anak niya & di sya mawawalan ng resources...

pero pag good things na nangyayari sa anak ko. ex. yung accomplishment niya sa school. feeling ko lahat ng credit nasa husband ko.haaaaay!...
napahaba na masyado kwento ko mommies...sobrang sama lang ng loob ko... wala man lang naka appreciate sa ginagawa ko sa anak ko...lahat may kulang...:(

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"..there is no greater prayer than that of a MOTHER for her children. These are the purest prayers because of their intense desire and, at times, sense of desperation.

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« Reply #1 on: June 25, 2008, 06:21:15 pm »

kalix, hug kita!

you are a good mom! kaya hayaan mo na kung ano yung sinasabi ng ibang tayo na kulang pa ginagawa mo. the important thing is ginagawa mo lahat ng makakaya mo to be the mom and dad sa baby mo. like you ofw din husband ko and oo mahirap talaga kung may mga problema tapos sa phone nyo lang pwede pagusapan.

basta eto YOU ARE A GOOD MOM!
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« Reply #2 on: June 25, 2008, 07:31:55 pm »

u know sis kalix,we can't perfect motherhood but i know we all do our best but to others and minsan sa sarili na din natin,parang laging may mali o kulang. :'( it's a sad thing that sometimes,we feel unappreciated kahit na binigay na natin ang lahat. but u know what,for me,as long as my child loves me and thinks i'm the best mom in the world,wala na ko pakielam sa iisipin pa ng ibang tao,be it my mom or kung sino man. ;) if someone says your not a good mom,pasok nalang sa isang tenga at labas sa kabila.u don't owe them any explanation because they don't have the right to judge u. ang importante,ginagampanan mo pagiging Ina mo sa anak mo and your son feels loved and cared for.wala sila karapatan diktahan ka kung pano maging Ina sa anak mo kc ikaw lang nakakaalam kung anong best for him.if they give their piece of advise,listen and judge well kung makakabuti nga ba yon sa anak mo.nasayo padin ang huling desisyon dahil ikaw ang Ina.always remember pag may nag jujudge sayo-NO ONE CAN PERFECT MOTHERHOOD.. we all make mistakes for one reason-to learn and to grow as a mom.never mind them kc wala naman sila maitutulong sa pag cocomment nila sayo.the best emotional support u can have is from God so always pray for strength and good health of your baby.
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« Reply #3 on: June 25, 2008, 07:58:57 pm »

lakasan mo loob mo mommy kalix. kasi as of now.. kayo lang talaga ng son mo yung magtutulungan. Always pray and ask God for more guidance and strength. sabi nga nila.. hindi ka naman bibigyan ni God ng mga pagsubok na hindi mo kakayanin. in time, i know that your son will be ok. tama sila mommy gail and youngmom... whatever happens.. always remember that you're a good mom and the best mom for your child. wag mo isipin yung sinasabi sau ng iba. kasi alam mo naman sa sarili mo na you're doing the best of everything for your son.  ;)
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« Reply #4 on: June 25, 2008, 08:53:18 pm »

to mommy gailey, thanks for the hug. that's what i really need now...naluluha ako...wala kasing makagawa nyan sakin ngayon bukod sa anak ko...thank you! ramdam ko kahit binabasa ko lang. :)

to youngmom, tama ka, you know what last time sabi ng son ko, "i luv u mommy, your the best mom!" sabay hug at yakap niya sakin. for no reason at all, grabe! naluha talaga ako...one time ulit nakita nykong naluluha, kumuha sya ng tubig binigay sakin.saka ako tinanong ng,"mommy sad ka ba?" gusto mo tawagan ko si daddy?" hehe!natawa tuloy ako...& yes! we can't perfect motherhood. :) thank you!

to mommy_drew, I always pray to God to just make my son healthy, & take away all these worries...& I know kakayanin ko to & that's why binigay niya sakin anak ko.Because he needs me & I need him...nabasa ko nga sa isang book na ang sabi, "...there is no greater prayer than that of a mother for her children. These are the purest prayers because of there intense desire and, at times, sense of desperation..." thank you! :)
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« Reply #5 on: June 25, 2008, 09:00:50 pm »

mommy kalix, Be strong yan ang pinakailangan mo at ng anak mo ngayon. Pray all this to God. Hindi na ibibigay sa iyo yan kung hindi mo kaya. yung mga comments, side talks and lectures huwag mo na lang pansinin basta ang alam mo sa puso at sa isip mo na isa kang napakabituting Ina. God bless you and your son. Believe in the powers of God. He will not fail you.
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« Reply #6 on: June 25, 2008, 09:42:51 pm »

Sis, huwag ka na lang paapekto, madedepress ka lang, hay naku, gugustuhin mo bang magmukha matanda kakaisp, stressful yan dear... deadmahin... basta alam mo na you do your part and you are everything just for your kiddo...

ako na dedepress lang ako pag di ko mabigay yung gusto nila, saka pag napapalo ko...

"Anyone can be a mother, but it takes someone special to be a real mom..."

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« Reply #7 on: June 25, 2008, 10:32:43 pm »

"...there is no greater prayer than that of a mother for her children. These are the purest prayers because of there intense desire and, at times, sense of desperation..." - this is such a good quote,the best one i've heard now that i'm a mommy na.what book is this and whose the author?
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« Reply #8 on: June 26, 2008, 10:09:03 am »

nakakaencourage ang thread na ito :) kaya mom kalix, don't feel bad tama silang lahat wag mong sisihin sarili mo, cheer up! :D i know na gnagawa mong lahat for ur baby. YOU ARE A CERTIFIED GOOD MOM :D kc ur giving ur best. hope we already helped u in a way :D :D
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« Reply #9 on: June 26, 2008, 10:12:28 am »

hi mom kalix, sana nabasa mo yung PM ko sau. basta kailangan nating magpakatatag para sa mga anak natin and to save our sanity....just keep on praying, ako din dinadaan ko na lang sa dasal.
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« Reply #10 on: June 26, 2008, 01:28:55 pm »

"...there is no greater prayer than that of a mother for her children. These are the purest prayers because of there intense desire and, at times, sense of desperation..." - this is such a good quote,the best one i've heard now that i'm a mommy na.what book is this and whose the author?


hi young mom! actually, that's one of the best book I've ever read. & that's my favorite quote in the book. It's EMBRACED BY THE LIGHT by Betty J. Eadie. I dont know kung may mabibili ka nito sa mga bookstore. kasi i bought this in "bargain books" here in our place. Luma na 'to. pero try mo maghanap. It's a must read book especially those people na whose going through a lot. This book was recommended to me ng lawyer mom ng classmate dati ng anak ko. & she keeps on talking about this book. & I think this book was meant for me. serendipity ata tawag dito.  ;D kasi eto ang una kung nakita sa shelf. something inside of me na nagsasabing bilhin ko sya, may force ba? tapos naalala ko nga na eto pala yung binabanggit nyang book :D di ko naman pinagsisihan. It almost answered all my questions about life...I bought one also for my husband. hope makahanap ka nito. :)
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« Reply #11 on: July 02, 2008, 10:23:49 pm »

hi kalix, i feel for you. i really do. hang in there, i know you're doing a great job. sino ba naman ang nanay na gustong mapasama ang anak. dami challenges right now, but it will only make the bond of your family stronger. sometimes i want to tell my wife every now and then that shes a great mom and doing a great job. new parents kami eh so i want to continuously encourage her... in your case, im sure all the moms here will be praying for you and your child. i know i will.

hang in there, be strong... we appreciate and recognize your efforts.
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« Reply #12 on: July 02, 2008, 10:53:18 pm »

hi kalix!
kaya mo yan sis! :D
hayaan mo na sila, basta ang importante u know that ur a good mother and nanjan yung hubby mo to support you. medyo nakakarelate ako sa situation mo kase nagkasakit din yung baby ko. peo tama sila sis, wala namang binigay na pagsubok c God na di natin kaya lagpasan di ba? matatapos din yan....
 As for me kase sis, jan kami naging matatag sa mga pagsubok...Basta, lets pray for our baby's good health  :D
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« Reply #13 on: July 02, 2008, 11:49:04 pm »

hi kalix..,
remember dat in ur son u will olweiz b a good mom. so b strong :D
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« Reply #14 on: July 03, 2008, 09:31:29 am »

mommy,wag mong intindihin sinasabi ng iba..ang importante alam mo sa sarili mo na hindi ka nagkukulang sa baby mo...your baby can atest to that naman..cheer up ;D
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