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εїз" Mrs.Pisces "εїз

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Re: pakiramdam ko katulong ako
« Reply #30 on: May 29, 2009, 11:49:16 pm »

hello mommy lore thank you sa advice mo ngayun lang ako nakapag online ulit super busy kasi lam mo nah!!!! yeap were doing okay now.. thanks sa mga advice ng mga mommies here... i think na parehas pa kaming nag aadjust pero kinakaya naman namin masasanay din siguro kami hehe thanks po again
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Re: pakiramdam ko katulong ako
« Reply #31 on: May 30, 2009, 02:18:56 am »

hi there!u know may similarities sila sa ugali ng hubby ko pero nagtitiis ako since love ko sya at mas nilove niya ako now d na sya ganon kanagger we have fights dahil don but now nagkaintindihan n kami d n ako msyado napa2god kc pna stop niya muna me sa work to concentrate with him & our 3 kids but you still need to talk to him in a nice way about that kc mahirap talaga yun lalo na now meron k n baby kaya mo yan sis! besides he's ur husband at mahirap n isoli he,he!   
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Re: pakiramdam ko katulong ako
« Reply #32 on: May 30, 2009, 05:12:00 am »

my husband also works abroad, every three months uwi niya.  when he's home, todo trabaho sya sa bahay  :D it's like he is making up for the times na wala sya.  joke nga namin sya ang maintenance guy.  feeling ko tuloy minsan, ang tamad-tamad ko compared sa kanya.

tama nga advice ng ibang moms dito.  you have to talk to your husband about this.  and try na sya ang pagawa mo ng house chores for one full day, see kung ano masasabi niya.  if he was looking for someone na ma-aalila, katulong dapat kinuha niya.  at kung compare ka niya sa mom niya, dapat pinakasalan na rin niya mommy niya  :P

about the finances, try to look for income na you can save up for your own.  personally, i don't like the feeling that i can't provide for my own needs (medyo magastos din kasi ako kaya nahihiya ako kay hubby na gastos ng pera niya, hehe).  advice ng mom ko, save up as if you are a single parent. para in case anything happens, kayo mo i-support kids mo  :D
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Re: pakiramdam ko katulong ako
« Reply #33 on: June 03, 2009, 01:41:02 am »

Sis, I was just wondering kung kinausap mo na ba si husband about it. Nag-try ka bang humingi ng tulong sa kanya kahit man lang sa pagluluto? Ako kasi, I learned it the hard way. Napapansin ko na ako na lang lahat ang gumagawa habang si hubbby ay nakahiga,nanonood ng TV. Dumating ako sa point na gusto ko ng sumigaw at iwan lahat ng ginagawa ko. Pero nabasa ko na kung ginagawa mo ang lahat without asking for help, tendency mo na ikaw talaga gagawa ng lahat. Kung ayaw naman tumulong ni hubby at di ka na talaga magkandaugaga, mag-hire ng katulong.

Sis, I suggest na kausapin mo siya and give him little chores. pag ginawa niya yun, show appreciation.
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Re: pakiramdam ko katulong ako
« Reply #34 on: June 03, 2009, 09:09:22 am »

hi mommy yuri...

i think your husband needs to go back to the neanderthal times hahaha.  no, seriously, chauvinist yung attitude niya.  my kumare ako.  she used to be a SAHM, di din sya binibigyan ng datung ng hbby niya.  ginawa niya nagtindatinda sya ng pansit, ice candy sa tapat ng bahay nila.  when her hubby confronted her about it ang sagot niya, may pinagiipunan kasi ako.

for one, mommy yuri, you realy need to learn to wake up early din kasi paano pag nag schooling na anak mo di ba?  besides, mas prone ang babae sa weight gain, hypertension when we overstay sa bed.  it realy takes an effort.  specially kung teething na si baby.

household chores given na yan sis, sa buhay natin.  maganda din sana kung mapag usapan ninyo n hubby your preference in doing your household chores.  why don't you draw your own weekly plan, and shove it, este, show it to hubby.  like, tell him, o i will wash our clothes every mon, wed,fri. day off ko sunday. i will pre cook na some food para iinitin na lang.  then maybe, since dito naman sya sa pinas dvide the household chores between the two of you.  like, brieakfast sa kanya, lunch and dinner sa you.  encourage him, too, to bathe the baby, disguise mo na lang na bonding moment nila ni baby yun.

y hubb ain't perfect but am thankful he is the one who washes the clothes.  paano nagyar yun?   tld him, "Ney, ang lalak ng damt mo (he's 5'9", am 5'4"), di ko kaya mga pants mo" so, nakita naman niya yung point ko, wash and press clothes kanya.  tiklop, akin.

i'll give you one las tip whichmy aunt-in-law gave me:  if you're a Catholic, you'll appreciate this:  put a drop or two of Holy Water in his coffee or water and breathe a prayer: Holy Spirit, sanctify my husband_______.  Bless Him with a kind heart and a listening mind. Amen. MY AIL did this with her hubby many, man years ago and it worked.

sorry medyo mahaba, but it irks me when men take advantage of us women.  We are the life giver and the vessel of life.

Goodluck mommy yuri.  pag hindi nagtino, bash him in the head, hehe. joke

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Re: pakiramdam ko katulong ako
« Reply #35 on: June 03, 2009, 01:14:26 pm »

no offense ha..
but i guess your husband needs medical attention.. bka naman may kung anong nangyari sa kanya while he's away na nag result sa pgiging OC niya?
much better if you talk to him about it. magreklamo ka din sis. di naman pdeng lagi nlang sya ang masusunod. you're not a robot that is programmed to follow his "time table". and hindi naman pdeng ndie ka niya tinutulungan. try mu mkipag palit ng role sa kanya. go to work and ask him to stay home with your baby. ask him to do the household chores. ewan lang kung kakayanin niya. naiiinis ako when something like this happens to girls kasi sobrang unfair. my sister kasi experienced the same thing too kaya gigil na gigil ako. pasensya na.
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Re: pakiramdam ko katulong ako
« Reply #36 on: January 14, 2012, 01:41:59 am »

i have the same prob with you εїз" Mrs.Pisces "εїз... nung mag bf-gf palang kami ganyan na partner ko, ngaun may baby na kami, ganun pa din.. i don't know why i cant let go of that person.. pero alam mo i dont do what he likes (doing household chores in his pattern), maldita kasi ako kaya i dont give my best to him lalo na wala naman ako complement diba/... i wish someday i can learn how to let go... but i think the baby will sacrifice having a complete family in the future.. hays... minsan talaga nagtatanong ako sa sarili ko bakit ba sya pa napili kong sperm donor :))
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