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If you have a choice, you'd be a: (by syndyela)

Stay At Home Mom
- 23 (32.4%)
Work At Home Mom
- 36 (50.7%)
Career Woman
- 12 (16.9%)

Total Members Voted: 70


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Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
« Reply #120 on: September 25, 2011, 09:12:39 am »

SAHM advantage/s:
Mas tipid kasi pwedeng wag na kumuha ng yaya for your baby. If you can cook and do other household chores mas lalong tipid kung pati helper hindi kn din kukuha

Maaalagaan mo si baby sa paraang gusto mo. Kasi with yaya kahit nagbibilin ka on what to do in the end sya padin ang nasusunod kung pano niya aalagaan si baby based on her own capabilities. depende pag mas matanda pa sayo yung yaya hindi yan makikinig kasi feeling nila they know better. Kapag medyo hindi maganda ang educational background which is usually the case, walang masyadong maimpart na knowledge sa bata. Pag kamaganak mo yung nagaalaga winner nga sa concern pero mahirap pagsabihan kasi may hiya factor.

Maganda pag sa bahay lang palagi mo kasama si baby ikaw mismo magaalaga.  Kasi minsan nakakasama ng loob minsan uuwi ka from work tulog na baby at aalis ka umaga tulog padin. Lalong badtrip kung mas close pa sya sa yaya kesa sayo parang hindi ka kilala pag dumadating ka from work agaw pumasok sa kwarto with you para matulog kasi si yaya ang gustong katabi. 

Shempre magkakaron ka rin ng time in taking care of your hubby's needs.

SAHM disadvantage/s:
May tendency kang mabore lalo kung sanay ka sa office 

Kung hindi malakas kumita si hubby, may tendency kang mdepress kasi since si hubby lang ang nagwowork kailangan ng matinding pagbubudget. e kung alam mo na you have earning capacity naman more so kung tapos ka naman ng pagaaral, parang nakakalungkot isipin na pati pambili ng shampoo mo ihihingi mo pa sa hubby mo. Sad too if you know you deserve a long champ than a divisoria bag or a full body massage with scrub at a spa than a masahe sa bulag.

May tendency kang malosyang kasi nakakatamad na magayos kapag alam mong sa bahay ka lang naman.

Limited yung capacity mo to help other people specially your family. Hindi kasi maiwasan sa culture nating mga pinoy na yung kapatid or pamangkin mo hihingi ng tulong sayo. Kahit hubby mo at kahit pa sabihin super generous sya parang nakakahiya pdin  hingiin sa kanya yung needs ng family mo kasi alam mo pinaghirapan niya kitain yun for you and your kids tapos he will work harder for others na kung tutuusin hindi nyo naman na obligation.

Lastly, if the marriage didnt work out well and you want to quit mahirap coz you know you dont have money to go on your own. Ang drama mo ngayon magtiis ng bonggang bongga.

As for me? Sana freelancer ako so i can work on my own time  or may magandang home based job para nandyan lang si baby sa tabi ko.

siguro the story will be different kung sobrang yaman sobrang generous at sobrang bait ng hubby mo and he will just let you sit like a princess.
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Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
« Reply #121 on: September 25, 2011, 12:00:09 pm »

SAHM (it's been over a year since I resigned) ever since nag-ondoy nawindang ako kasi that time pareho kaming nasa office ni mister tas yung kids nasa byenan ko at walang tao sa bahay namin, low batt cel ko, hindi ko sila macontact, nagtry akong umuwi to find out na lagpas tao na pala yung baha kaya no choice but to go back sa office & dun matulog for 2 days, kaya nag-resign na lang ako, ayoko na ma-experience na may mangyaring bad tas i'm not around to protect my kids, nakakaparanoid, wish ko maging work at home mom na lang ako though malamang magwork na ko ulit by january 2012, maghigh school na son namin & we have a grade schooler din, ang mahal ng tuition & other school expenses, ayaw naman namin sila enroll sa public
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Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
« Reply #122 on: September 26, 2011, 09:38:07 pm »

I'm a career woman ever since... ngSAHM lang ako when I was 9months preggy kasi malapit na ako manganak nun taz while naka mat leave ako nghomebased ako..now patapos na yung leave ko I'll be going back to work next month.It's a mutual decision for me and my husband if ano step gagawin ko after i gave birth. Okay yung work at home or stay home mom kc namomonitor ko talaga si baby 24/7 but then I have to think na it's for her own good kasi madameng benefits din akong mkukuha from work like healthcard..etc. and dumadame ang expenses habang nggrogrow ang baby. so narealize namen ni hubby na dapat tulungan para good future and we can buy everything for our little angel.  :)
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Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
« Reply #123 on: September 28, 2011, 10:13:32 am »

sis kissablesam SAHM = Stay At Home Mom

thanks sis :) hehe tagal ko na nababasa 'to wala naman ako ma-ask kung anong meaning ng SAHM now i know! heheh
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Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
« Reply #124 on: September 29, 2011, 05:17:34 pm »

if I have the choice, mas gusto ko maging SAHM, gusto ko kasi maging hands-on kay baby. Pero after almost 11 months of being a SAHM, eto ulit ako back to work, mahirap kasi na si hubby lang may work, aminado kami na mahirap on our part at mahirap din na iasa sa family namin yung needs namin, although malaki rin ginagastos nila for our baby. Kumbaga ba pinasok namin ito eh, kaya dapat kahit papaano panindigan namin, at kakastart pa lang din kasi namin. Siguro one day if we already have enough savings, we'll put up a business na ako ang maghahandle, at least hindi kasing tagal ako mawawala sa tabi ni baby compared sa office job :)
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Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
« Reply #125 on: October 01, 2011, 10:45:28 am »

I am a SAHM by choice. Although we have a business, I decided not to work muna and let hubby run it alone.

Like in a corporate world, hindi rin madali maging SAHM at household manager. You have to be organized. It's not true that when you stay at home, walang growth, kasi marami. Yun nga lang the growth is not technical that is relevant to your degree. The growth is more of being a great wife, mother and household leader. Challenging din na ibalance silang tatlo. But everytime I make it, sobrang fulfilling.  :)
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Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
« Reply #126 on: October 02, 2011, 11:43:19 pm »

hi mommies pa join.. ;)

been SAHM for 4 months actually its a hard decision to make for me kasi talagang ayaw ko iwan work ko pero pag dumarating si husband from a 7 months contract kasi seaman siya dun ko na rerealize di ko sila napag sisilbihan ng anak ko buti nalang sobrang bait ng asawa ko during his stay w/ us siya pa naglalaba for us from work kain tulog at pasok na lang ginagawa ko pero pag time na napag uusapan namin ni hubby yung sitwasyong namin dun niya nilalabas na gusto na talaga niya ko to stays at home kaya eto so far nasa stage pa ko ng boredom & minsan panghihinayang pero pag nakikita ko yung milestones ng baby namin naiisip ko na wala pala kong dapat ikahinayang naghahanap na lang ako ng online jobs para during free time may pagkakakitaan pa din nakaka miss din kumita ng sarili mong pera  ;D ;D
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Re: any tips on managing time?
« Reply #127 on: October 05, 2011, 09:04:53 am »

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Re: any tips on managing time?
« Reply #128 on: October 06, 2011, 03:34:06 pm »

hala super need ko din nito..
super busy kasi kami ni hubby..
ako nga super payat na.. kasi minsan kahit kumain di na nagagawa.. kasi kasama ang budget sa usaping nanay.. haha..

mahirap talaga.. kasi sa case namin ni hubby, magigising siya 10am.. so maaga pa lang, gising na ko para asikasuhin si baby.. magligpit ng kalat, magluto..

pag dating ng 1pm aalis na si hubby.. ako na lang kay baby.. kasama ng mga kalat na naiwan si hubby..
tapos si baby and house nanaman..
and 9pm pa balik ni hubby..

wala akong regular routine depende kasi sa mood ng bata..
madalas magkakalat.. gusto makipag laro.. so minsan wala kong time mag ayos ng bahay.. kasi gusto niya play.. haha..
pati sarili ko minsan di ko na maayos.. kawawang nilalang..

pag  tulog lang siya ng hapon.. maximum na yung 3 hours dun.. minimum 1 hour.. o diba hirap magayos ng bahay nun..

as in minsan feeling ko, single ako.. kasi si hubby super busy madalas.. pero naiintindihan ko naman.. kaya lang, sadyang nakakapagod talaga. at nakakastress mommy..

in case na ganun din mangyari sayo mommy, payo ko lang, "patience" and you need to ADAPT it! because we have no choice.. and that is our responsibility as a mother and as a wife..
dont be scared..
and pag di talaga kaya gawin ang mga dapat gawin, huwag ipilit.. and ask for help.. make sure kung magaask kay hubby ng help, in a nice way..

minsan kasi tendency pag sobrang stressed na tayo, we tend to get mad and shout.. ayan ang iwasan mo mommy..

lagi naman may time.. hindi yan nauubos.. basta prioritize ang dapat iprioritize..
goodluck po
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Re: any tips on managing time?
« Reply #129 on: October 06, 2011, 03:46:55 pm »

Nung bago ako sa SP sobrang hirap na hirap ako sa oras....
Pero ngayon medyo kaya na.. may mga palpak pa rin pero at least di na ako super haggard.

Talagang isa sa mga tips eh i-accept na kailangan natin ng tulong.
Either sa kasama sa bahay, sa asawa or sa mga magulang.

Alam ko may super tayong mga mommies pero hindi naman tayo immortal. :D
I simplified my life and let go of the things na nagpapatagal lang sa oras ko.

Si miggy tinuruan kong magbalik ng toys niya sa lagayan. Nung bata siya ginagawa ko for him pero now that he's old enough, kailangan siya na mag-ayos ng gamit niya.
Malaki rin ang naitutulong ng maliit na bahay. Habang nag-aayos ako ng gamit, hindi kalayuan ang anak ko. So nakakakilos ako nang hindi siya totally ininiiwanan.

Also, nagigising ako ng maaga kapag weekdays. Pag weekends, lahat ng chores ginagawa na namen sa umaga para more time to rest sa hapon.
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Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
« Reply #130 on: October 13, 2011, 07:45:04 pm »

its not my choice to be a SAHM.. but i have to..
now im thankful ive found a company who accepts part time / homebase.. now i can enjoy time with my son and works at the same time..
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Re: any tips on managing time?
« Reply #132 on: October 18, 2011, 12:09:27 am »


1. Get organized and schedule your chores (spread them out during the week). For example, M-W-S (depending on how big your household is) do laundry. T-Th-Sun clean 1-2 parts of your home each day.

2. Ask your other family members to pitch in! It will help greatly.

3. Don't sweat it if you are unable to do a chore or two. Learn to be flexible and relax. With children around, somethings always come up, like doctor appointments and other events. So if you miss doing the laundry because you had to line up half a day at the clinic, it's okay. Nothing bad will happen :)
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Re: any tips on managing time?
« Reply #133 on: October 30, 2011, 09:56:51 pm »

Prioritize! fundamental yan talaga sa time management ;)
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Re: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
« Reply #134 on: December 01, 2012, 06:01:11 pm »

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