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If you have a choice, you'd be a: (by syndyela)

Stay At Home Mom
- 23 (32.4%)
Work At Home Mom
- 36 (50.7%)
Career Woman
- 12 (16.9%)

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Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
« Reply #90 on: October 01, 2010, 05:42:22 pm »

Career woman by choice.. madali kasi ako ma bore and i cant even imagine myself doing nothing the whole day. Gusto ko lagi busy, nag iisip ng work, stress and other stuff. but if given the chance i would like also to be WAHM.
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Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
« Reply #91 on: October 01, 2010, 07:08:29 pm »

pwede bang i don't have a choice? like ShadRaniaj, wala ding magbabantay sa bata. halos two years na akong di nagtuturo. kaya medyo namimiss ko na magwork.

like mommy zhel, madali akong mabagot. kahit sabihing naglalaro kami ni baby, naiinip pa din ako. naalala ko pa yun unang post ko dito sa sp, i asked for help:

http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/parentchat/index.php?topic=19062.0

sana sa june 2011 makapagturo ulit. miss ko na din mga preschoolers  :)

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Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
« Reply #92 on: October 20, 2010, 06:08:25 pm »

SAHM here. Not my choice but i have to because there's no one to look for my son at home while me and hubby are at work e. Sila lang kasi ni yaya maiiwan sa house kapag nagwork pko. Di approve kay hubby maiwan si baby mag isa kay yaya. But anyways, i'm enjoying every minute of the day with my son and i get to continue breastfeeding him. ;)
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Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
« Reply #93 on: January 23, 2011, 11:46:06 pm »

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Re: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
« Reply #94 on: July 11, 2011, 12:11:54 am »

a must read for SAHMs
A Day in the Life of a Stay-at-Home Mom

A working mom shares her musings on the rewards of being a stay-at-home-mom.
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Re: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
« Reply #95 on: July 14, 2011, 11:45:29 am »

Haha after more than two years, I've stumbled upon this thread which I have started.

I became a work-at-home mom doing oDesk jobs, part-time consultation in my previous company and some online selling.

I am going to end my 2-year "maternity leave" this July as I am going back to regular employment.

What can I say about being a WAHM? It was worth it and I am sure going to miss it. Being able to hug and kiss your child any time of the day is PRICELESS. It's worth sacrificing my career for. But I know that I have to prepare for my children's future (I gave birth to another boy within that 2-year self-imposed "maternity leave"). We've just added another member to our family and I need to help my husband to establish financial stability for our family.

I can say that I'm so happy that I took a couple of years off to stay at home. Definitely worth it.

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Re: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
« Reply #96 on: July 14, 2011, 10:37:44 pm »

^hi sis congrats sa new baby :) anyways I'm a SAHM for 4 months and counting trying to be a WAHM so help me God. sis ask ko lang bakit ka bumalik sa corporate world? hindi ba kaya sustain ng odesk pay? kasi sis sa oDesk din ako naghahanap ng work. I'm giving myself until end of July na kapag kahit part time walang kumuha sakin, balik BPO na talaga ako. haaaaay!
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Re: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
« Reply #97 on: July 15, 2011, 12:08:55 am »

@swtgrl_bee - thanks  ;D i'm going back to work kasi i'm having slight panic attacks. i'm 27 now and i'm fast approaching 30, naisip ko i might have a hard time finding a job by then. alam mo naman dito sa pilipinas may age discrimination. just go to jobstreet and you'll find job postings with age limit (candidate must not be more than __ years old). although in other countries bawal yon, pero dito if you reach a certain age mahirap na maghanap ulit ng work.  :(

and i missed working din, yun bang aalis ako for work then i will miss the house. kasi since work-at-home ako, maghapon ako sa bahay. i also miss dressing-up for work hehe. feeling ko din kasi nalolosyang na ako. it might sound selfish but i guess i want to have a sense of accomplishment sa career (i used to work in advertising and market research). pero super worth it talaga yung nag stay ako to take care of my kids. wala na yatang mas masaya pa na kasama mo maghapon yung baby mo, tapos you have time to teach him things.

aside from the self-accomplishment factor na-guilty din ako as a daughter hehe. ang mahal ng tuition ko nung college, gusto ko din naman ipakita sa dad ko na i can achieve things using my education. syempre di ba pride din ng parents na makita na may accomplishment ang anak? he did not impose it, na-guilty lang din ako na hindi ko ginagamit yung napag-aralan ko.  :) na hindi naman nasayang ang pinaghirapan niya.

regarding the odesk pay, nung una ok sya kasi konti palang ang nakaka-alam. ngayon pag sinabi kong  nag-odesk ako lahat nag tatanong kung pano, e hindi ko naman masagot kasi lately wala na din masyadong available work sa dami ng competition. :) i offer services for Apple iWork software na hindi masyadong madami ang competition, matumal pa rin ang jobs. lalo na yung mga virtual assistant na bagsakan din ng presyo kasi nga madami ding competition. so bottom line (i am speaking for myself lang ha), hindi kaya i-sustain ng odesk alone, pang sideline lang talaga sya.

pero in my experience, ok lang na reason yung "taking care of kids full-time" as reason for a gap in your resume. sa mga interview na napuntahan ko, so far ok naman yung reaction nila, valid naman na reason yon for putting your career on hold. HINDI KA NAMAN BUM OR TAMAD lang, nag-aalaga ka naman ng anak mo ano!  :)

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Re: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
« Reply #98 on: July 15, 2011, 12:52:41 am »

sahm din ako for 11 months now, quit my job 2 months before i gave birth)...last week of may may tumawag kay hubby asking kung gusto ko na daw ba mag-work, actually di naman ako nag-aapply for a job but i agreed to have a meeting with the employer/boss, the job they were offering was magaan lang actually, 1 hour only but with the preparation sa pagpasok and travel time, it will take up almost half of the day,  but then nag-commit ako na mag-start ng june, then nadelay ng nadelay because of various reasons (but actually i was having second thoughts at that time), then nagpasabi ako na ill start on july na lang....1 day before,  i backed out, told my husband na di ko pala kayang iwan si baby sa yaya, naiiyak na ako maisip pa lang na di na ako ang magpapadede sa kanya at maghehele kahit half day lang ako mawawala...yes nakakahinayang yung education, tuition fee ko dati and all, but my priorities changed totally nung dumating si baby...i may not be earning my own money now, but just taking care of my son and be able to witness his every milestone is so priceless....thankful lang ako to have a husband na sobrang understanding, sya pa nag-explain sa employer since nahiya na ako magpakita, although sobrang bait naman at nagsabi pa na if ever gusto ko na pumasok, they will accept me anytime :)...
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Re: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
« Reply #99 on: July 15, 2011, 01:09:56 am »

sis tangytomato thanks sa reply, actually ako din 4 months palang akong SAHM parang namimiss ko na din mag dress up for work ;) kapag tinitignan ko yung mga shoes ko parang tinatawag nila ako. Grabe nga competition sa oDesk ngayon, hindi pa ako makapasok kahit bagsak presyo na per hour ko. Pero still enjoying being a SAHM pa ako. Sis goodluck sa new work mo :)

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Re: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
« Reply #100 on: July 15, 2011, 09:18:07 am »

I've been a SAHM to a working mom to SAHM and now a WAHM  :)

What can I say? its really harder to be a SAHM than a working mom taking into considerations the level of self-fulfillment that is sacrificed in having to stay home and take care of the family. Nandun na rin cyempre minsan pati ang level of self-confidence ay nate-threaten.

However, if we are to talk of the fulfillment as a wife and a mother it sure encompasses the things a woman loses to sacrifice her dreams, lets say as a career woman. Personally, the joy and warmth of having seen my son accepted his merits for academic excellence overrides the happiness I felt when I had my transfer with promotion, my then so-called dream. The memory of my son's beaming face is enough for me to fill my happiness meter until now.

Being a SAHM, doubles the sacrifice and the effort of actually giving and receiving. Giving in the sense, even our so-called 'ME' time are often negotiated in exchange for those left undone chores, kids' school activities, hubby's requests, etc. And not to mention, the budget we allot to ourselves are often times on the bottom of our list(You'll suddenly realize this when you found out your lipstick has reached the bottom of the tube and you have to use your pinky finger to amass what is left of it  ;D) Remember the old cliche, "Isusubo ko nalang ibibigay ko pa sa iyo!" Ito ang classic example. You wanted to buy something for yourself and you'll end up buying a new pair of rubber shoes your child needs. Para sa ating mga moms non-negotiable ang needs ng mga bata. "Tsaka nalang ang new blouse ko nasa bahay lang naman ako", "Tsaka nalang ang new haircut, itatali ko nalang muna buhok ko" . Sounds familiar ano po?  :D

 Receiving on the other hand, has more emotional notes in it. Hubby forgot your date/ anniversary/birthday. "Walang time sa akin?"  :( Child forgot to kiss you or say thank you, "Di man nagpaalam"  :-[..in short,  our we need to feel appreciated is sometimes overlooked. Yon naman talaga reward and compensation natin, hugs, thanks, kisses.

And so i thought, being a SAHM it requires a great amount of creativity and resourcefulness. We are the ones, who will make our lives more livable on top of all the household chores and  kids' activities. We are required to double our being resourceful to enrich ourselves. Mas maraming requirements ang pagiging SAHM.

Job Requirements/ Competencies:

     *Patient
     *Energetic
     *Hardworking, willing to work overtime, fulltime, part time
     *Multi-tasking
     *Excellent organizational skills
     *Excellent leadership skills
     *Excellent communication skills
     *Trustworthy
     *Can work under pressure
     *Innovative
     *Creative
     *Resourceful
     *Flexible
     *(You may add to this... :))

Anyone who's up for the challenge?, Be a SAHM.




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Re: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
« Reply #101 on: July 15, 2011, 09:45:46 am »

@imeego - totoo yan, napaka-bigat ng feeling mag-decide. actually ilang months na ako nag procrastinate pero may magandang opportunity na dumating (dati kong officemate ang magiging boss ko, then super family-friendly yung company). and now that i'm about to start working again nakaka-praning talaga kasi you had your system sa house dati e, magbabago yon. i don't know how my kids will adjust but i hope we'll all manage to get through this adjustment. and yung BREASTFEEDING, korek ka jan, sobrang nakaka-attach talaga and i feel sad na hindi na kasi magkadikit ng baby ko most of the day. hopefully makapag-pump ako sa office. iba talaga pag kasama mo mga anak mo. and don't worry i'm sure you'll be able to find work later on. di ba masarap i-enjoy yang ganyang age, hindi pa sila mabaho sa kaka-laro sa labas, hindi pa amoy araw hahaha. super sarap yakapin at halikan all day.

@swtgrl_bee - thanks, grabe nga rin ako maka-pag browse ng femalenetwork at nagd-drool sa mga sapatos and other things hehe. ang ginawa ko para ma-curb yung urge ko to buy, nag-lista ako hehe. sabi nga ni MaritheMom, "Isusubo ko nalang ibibigay ko pa sa iyo!" haha. pero wala tayong magagawa anak natin yang mga yan, matitiis mo ba sila? kaya ang mga pang-sarili ko delayed muna :)

@MaritheMom - totoo yan about self-confidence! i know it's wrong, but you can't help thinking about how other people's career are progressing, lalo na in this age of FACEBOOK! pero come to think of it, dami naiingit sa akin kasi nakapag-WAHM ako. isipin mo, instead of staying at your desk at 2pm you could have been singing the alphabet song with your baby. it's really a privilege pero it also requires a lot from you. if i may add to your list, you also need to be able to deprioritize sleep, lalo na pag may sakit si baby or pag madami pa syang leftover energy at night. hayyyy!!! hahaha yes, totoo yan about haircut and also for spa/massage! minsan i make do with other alternatives, kasi hindi naman talaga necessary e.

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Re: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
« Reply #102 on: July 16, 2011, 12:33:23 am »

sis MaritheMom tama ka diyan :) ako ang tagal tagal ko ng sinabi sa sarili ko na kapag may extra I'll buy a venti of Mocha Frappe from Starbucks, since sa BPO ako nagwork before nung wala pa si baby halos every other day hala kape dito kape doon. But simula nung dumating na si baby never na :D so almost 2 years na akong hindi nakakainom ng a bit pricey na kape =p Pero kapag dating kay baby all out :) Tipong sasabihin ng ibang tao na bakit ang mahal mahal ng bote ng baby mo eh parepareho lang naman yan :D Iba na kasi talaga priorities kapag mommy na :) Back to the topic, sana maging WAHM na ako. waaaah!

sis tangytomato grabe kasi ngayon sa oDesk, ilan yung nagaapply tapos ilan lang ang kukunin? as in JOBS OPEN 4? tapos yung applicants 200 plus na, woooh! okay lang, still giving myself a lot of time. hehe ;)
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Re: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
« Reply #103 on: July 16, 2011, 01:01:09 am »

hi join ako SAHM din ako for a year and 8 months now pero will go back na ulit sa work this coming aug.
I enjoyed every bit of it, kasi nga lahat ng milestone and development ni baby andun ako, kaso hubby and I decided na mag work ulit ako since lumalaki na si baby, lumalaki na din mga gastos. kaya yun, kaahit nakaksad isipin ko na alng para kay baby naman yun :)

^swtgrl_bee - same tayo sis, grabe before, all I care about is my things being branded. ngayon na anjan na si baby, halos lahat na lang para sakanya. ganun pala talaga pag mommy na. :)
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Re: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
« Reply #104 on: July 18, 2011, 02:44:08 am »

^tama sis :) ako din until end of July nalang ang job hunt ko sa oDesk/online jobs after nun back to the real world na ako. haaaaay! need na din kasi ng extra kasi syempre mga babies natin papasok na ng preschool. hehe :D how old na ba baby mo sis my baby's 15months old ;)
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