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[babyblair]

Thank God dahil walang tantrums si blair. I don't know if it's early to say. Pero as of now 13mos na siya. Eh hindi siya iyakin. She listens to me. And I would like to keep her good behavior hanggang sa paglaki niya.

Question ko paano pag pinagalitan ko siya dahil she did something I don't like.and she starts to cry? Ano ba dapat gawin? Susuyuin? Aamuin or just let her cry para she knows di niya ako makukuha sa iyak?

[chococream]

you have to be firm on teaching her the lesson sis, you don't generally have to spank her. explain to her what makes it bad, and why you don't like what she did sis. tapos if twice na repeat ka pa din sa reason why bad and why's tapos add ka nalang ng consequences kung uulitin niya example is hindi mo sya papayagan panoorin yong favorite cartoon niya or use her favorite pillow or something pero hindi talaga matagal bali ang punishment enough to teach her the lesson pero never deprive her sa necessities niya.

yon kasi ginagawa ko now. dahan dahan na namang nagets niya ang reasons ko, like other sisses here, deadma galore nalang talaga ako. damn those that listens to the whining toddler na nag tantrums. Tapos yong mga kukuha sa kanya goodluck sa akin. hehe

[Anne Mercado]

What exactly do you do when your child has tantrums? --> need to know this so I can help you better But in the meantime:

It's normal for toddlers to have these. And they continue to have them because 1) they do not know how to manage their emotions well, 2) they get your attention when they scream

So what do you do? Well, NOT punishing them for it is one.

The only way to do this is to reward positive behavior. That means ignoring screams even when they escalate. When he has calmed down- he will eventually, it's just a matter of time, that's when you talk to him. Its also important to tell your child you know what they want (even if they can't have it)

[Tiger Lily]

One of the reasons why some kids cry a lot is that they might want something. To know if they do, reading this article could be of help: Does your Child Use Crying to Get What he Wants?

[aliya_liapot]

Hi mommy maphine. Im encountering the same problems din with my daughter. Ive tried several styles but and nag work lang is yung tinitingnan ko sya ng masama. Kasi alam niya that im already mad. Tapos tatahimik sya and will avoid eye contact. Minsan magpapacute pa siya para hindi na ko tumingin ng masama.

Every child is different so try mo kung ano magwwork sa kid mo. Bringing toys that she loves also helps para maaliw. Sad to say pero ipad never fails to amuse my daughter. Try mo din yun.

Goodluck!

[twelvth_goddess]

My daughter is at a stage na she uses screaming to get what she wants. As in loud, piercing screams talaga. We just ignore her. Napansin ko lang na pag daddy niya ang nag-firm voice, mas madalas na tumitigil sya kesa pag ako ang nagsasabe.

[hlazaro]

Hello moms i need help, im short tempered mom i want some help how to handle my 20 month old baby girl.

1. is that when I gave her meds or vitamins since i also have hard time give it to her. Afterwards she starts tantrums crying more than hours.
2. Shes too clingy, i wanted to go down the stairs or cook and she whines afterwards she doesnt want to be left behind. All she wants to do is me to carry her.
3. How to introduce to her new yaya, coz she doesnt want to even go to her she only want to stay with me.

I REALLY NEED help IM GOING CRAZY ALREADY

[Mommy Jazz]

Hello hlazaro! I shared my story similar to yours, backread nalang po.
1) check out another thread about giving vitamins, techniques other moms shared. When you give her her vits, does she somehow take it with tantrums or totally refuse it? Showing a little compliance kasi even with tantrums is a positive sign that she can be worked on.
2) If her being clingy stops you from you regular routine, let her whine and cry. Finish your duties and attend to her afterwards. Kung wala naman siyang sakit or doesn't hurt herself, is not hungry or wet, there should be no cause for worry. Nakaka stress talaga but it's part of the training. Start distancing yourself from her pa konti-konti. Leave the house say 15 minutes for the next 3 days leaving her with her Yaya, gradually increasing it to 30 mins in a week until her tantrums stops. Your absence is vital in this training. Kasi pag walang audience (ikaw yon), titigil ang performance (her tantrums). She needs to learn to come out of her own misery by herself without anyone comforting her. In my case, my toddler (now 5yo) sees me as an extension of his body and as a slave. His crying increased when I applied these steps pero when he came to realize he can't have it his way by crying, it gradually decreased. You also have to tell family members not to pick her up, even to show concern or recognize her tantrums. This way mas mapapabilis ang process.
3) With these , she should be ready to be with her Yaya na.


I got these tips from a Child Psychologist who checked my boy when he was about your daughter's age. Hope it helps.

[prettyhope]

hi, Sisses! happy new year po! ako din, im happy na walang tantrums si gabbie ko and she's 2yrs and 4mos old now.. pag may gusto sya at hindi ko binigay yuyuko lang sya at hihikbi.. minsan iiyak pero kakausapin ko lang at papaliwanagan. like if gabbie wants a toy sabihin ko lang, wala nang money si mommy.. minsan okay na sa kanya minsan naman hindi.. minsan sasabihin niya "melon pa money mommy! wallet dame!" the first time i heard that hindi ko alam kung matatawa, matutuwa o maiinis ako eh hehe one thing is for sure, nagulat ako dahil alam niya na sa wallet nakalagay ang money hehe.. 

i am thankful kasi hindi naman sya yung bata na tulad ng iba na naglulupasay sa floor at ngangawa..  iiyak lang sya sa tabi ko or habang naka-kandong... then maya maya okay na sya. madali naman sya kausap.. i pray na hangang sa paglaki niya ganun sya.. and one more thing i like about her is she say thank you every time makuha niya ang gusto niya 

[hlazaro]

thanks Mommyjazz it really help that some moms does help 1st time mom like me be guided. My daughter is very intelligent insecure lang kasi last 2 months ago umalis na yun yaya na nakagisnan niya since then kaya sya naging clingy now kasi ala pa me nakikita na permanent na yaya sa kanya so iba ibang faces nakikita niya sa house so ako lang ang trusted niya kaya sya mas nagiging clingy sa akin at doesnt want to go with other people she just met.
If my mga mom suggestions pa po kayo feel free po i really need some help i want to discipline her kasi
I'll try to apply on it. hirap lang talaga iwanan thanks again

[KVsmommy]

my 3.5 year old isn't really the ma-tantrums type of kid, pero lately, grabe she's become really difficult to handle. Ayaw makinig, ayaw sumunod, and always wants her way. Palibhasa she can express herself better na, and yung siguro nagkakaron na din talaga sya ng personal preferences kaya marunong na mag insist on what she wants. Hirap lang talaga pag tinamaan ng mood at nasa labas kami, naku nakakagigil minsan...

[chester]

my baby boy is 17 months old.  tantrums sa mga simpleng toys na gusto niya binibigay ko.  sa mga bagay na gusto niya pero maari niyang masira or makasakit, hindi ko binibigay, instead i shift his attention sa ibang bagay. pag nakakasakit siya sa iba/ako and he laughs, i told him na nasasaktan na ako and it's not funny.   He knows kung galit na ako and kikiss siya sa akin sa lips.  kung hindi ako galit at humihingi ako ng kiss sa kanya, inilalapit niya ang cheek niya para halikan ko, hindi siya ang hahalik.

[CherrylOTRP]

i think ang key dito eh communication, teach them how to express their feelings na it's ok to feel that way, earn his/her trust & most especially show your love & appreciation...

sakin importante kilala ko anak ko, alam ko kung anong gusto at ayaw niya. kung anong kaya at limitasyon niya. sa ganon malalaman mo kung pano mo sya iha-handle. ...at pag di natin maituro sa kanila kung ano man gusto natin, don't feel bad, loosen up there's still ways.

Good Job Mommy Kalix!!!

[susanlinamartinez]

my son just turned 2 this month. he's a quiet a shy type boy. and when he gets upset the tantrums starts.. he will doing things that i dont like and will change his mood in a bad mood.. and when i talk to him in gentle way he will not stop crying.. but when i start scolded him..he will gets anger too and dont stop crying.. i dont know na what to do.. my way of diverting him every time he tantrums seems no effect anymore.. what wil i do? ayaw ko naman na lagi syang napapalo o napapagalitan.. ayaw ko sana syang sanayin sa galit..

[Mommy Jazz]

Topic "whats the effective ways to a tantrum baby?" merged with this topic.