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[Scottish Mum]

My 8yr old daughter Rebecca is really bad for taking tantrums just now but I am struggling on how to stop these because my   punishments don't work and just seem to make her tantrums worse :-(.   I have tried talking to her to see what caused the tantrum but she just ignores me, I've also tried naughty step, grounding her, sending her to bed early and loss of priveleges but none of these work.

Here are 2 examples of her tantrums:

1) She was playing Tennis on Xbox yesterday (she is a massive Tennis fan as am I) and computer was dominating scoreboard so when she was nearing defeat she threw controller on floor and started to cry and then shouted "ITS NOT FAIR, I NEVER GET TO WIN!!". I came into room and calmly said "I think its time for a little timeout because you are getting angry, you can go on it later once you've calmed down but if you take another tantrum, Xbox gets confiscated".

2) Yesterday, she wanted to walk to School with a couple of friends so I got her to get ready 5mins early so that she was ready to leave when friends got to the house. She put  her shoes on quickly and got me to tie shoelaces for her, then she put her jacket and schoolbag on so I then nicely asked that she zip the jacket and put her hood up.  She ignored me so, I put the hood up and started zipping the jacket but she unzipped it and put hood back down so next, I went to zip jacket back up but this time she didn't let me, she threw jacket on floor, stamped her feet on ground and shouted to me very loudly "I WANT MY JACKET OPEN STUPID MUMMY!", so I sat her on naughty step for 8mins explaining why she was put there.  Once 8mins were up, I put the jacket and schoolbag back on her and very, very firmly said "now this time, YOU zip it or else you are walking with mummy", she turned away from me in a strop so, I zipped her jacket and put the hood up and said to her "You are walking with mummy because you didn't do as I asked! The friends arrived as soon as I was leaving the house so I told them that Rebecca was walking with me because she misbehaved.

So, how did I handle the situations, could I have done anything differently and also, how can I stop or punish these tantrums because, as I've said, nothing I try seems to work?

[Mommy Jazz]

10 Thoughts That Cross Your Mind As Your Child Goes Through a Meltdown
http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/parenting/pinoy-parenting/10-thoughts-of-a-mom-whose-child-is-going-through-a-meltdown

[emillywilliams]

There are some techniques on the internet that would teach you how to deal with your child emotionally, kids at this age don't understand logic, so you have to deal with him emotionally, let him feel that he decide and he's the one in control, while he does while you want and you are the one in control, that's very important (Emotional)

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[Maricris Castillo]

Ako din po mommies my daughter is 18 months and nang uuntog po sya pg may tantrums or pinapalo ulo niya. Stressed nko sa call center tapos makikita ko pa anak ko na ganun. It makes me feel i wanted to quit from work pero im the only one na may work since pinapaaral ko pa si hubby

[Freya's Mom]

^My 19 month old baby does the same! Untog  niya talaga ulo niya as in pag di nakuha ang gusto. Minsan biglang subsob muka niya sa bed tas di gagalaw mga 3 minutes. Talked to her pedia about it and she doesn't seem worried about it. Basta here pedia told me na pag sinabi kong "no.", e paninindigan kong "no." talaga. Otherwise, mamimihasa and I'll be raising my very own Brat daw pag sinunod ko yung gusto everytime na mag tantrums.

[Mommy Jazz]

Try to leave your child alone in the room pag nagta-tanrum. In most cases kasi, they want attention and stop pag wala silang audience. Make sure na safe ang room or play pen.
Leave them alone muna for 15 mins, then gradually increase that hanggang sa masanay na ang bata na wala kayo sa paningin niya. The objective here is for the toddler to learn how to calm him/herself. To give him/her that chance, dapat hindi kayo present.
Mahirap para sa ating mommies at first kasi instinct natin ang laging maging "to the rescue". We need to train ourselves as well.

[Mommy Jazz]

Faced With a Huge Tantrum? Let It Happen, One Mom Suggests


The mom recognized she needed to let her son to express his emotions before he could be consoled, even if it meant a huge tantrum. There was no shortcut, she said. You just had had to let out these difficult feelings.
Read more:
http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/parenting/preschooler/think-of-this-when-you-re-faced-with-a-crying-child-says-mom-a00026-20171006



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[Leslie Vera]

Hi Mommies Im glad I saw this post. I have 3 boys. eldest is 5, 2nd is 3 and youngest is 2. my 2nd son throws tantrums the most the the weirdest power! AS IN! he cries over spaces in between beds saying its not perfect and wants to have things done his way. its his way or no way. my eldest didnt have the same attitude. my husband work overseas and i work home based, but I have a yaya to help me out with the chores so pretty much im well hands on to my kids. thing is sometimes he just burst out of anger, masyado siya grumpy and he screams really loud. as a mom xempre i have to have all the patience in the world to deal with it. and aminin natin it gets into our nerves.I spoke to a doctor regarding his behavior since i was concerned dahil medyo advanced siya. ( he started reading books at the age if 2) and told me its normal. and he will outgrow it. i gave him timeouts and take away his privilege kapag nagpapasaway na. no treats, toys, milk for 5 mins. so far naman medyo sumusunod na siya. I feel you mommies. Just hang in there, di kayo nagiisa.

[Mommy Jazz]

Thanks Mommy Leslie. I remember the days din na isasara ko nalang yung mga bintana at pinto namin para hindi marinig ng mga kapit bahay. Sa lakas at frequent na tantrums na baby ko noon, baka isipin nila sinasaktan namin.

What we did is to ignore and true, tumitigil siya pag walang audience o wala ako sa room. I pull myself away basta sure ako na safe siya sa kinalalagyan niya.