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Re: Dealing with the EXes (yours and your partner's)
« Reply #105 on: February 13, 2012, 10:10:54 am »

Possible na insecure siya and he probably wants to give you more love than your ex ever gave.
Continue to boost his confidence para mawala yung insecurities niya.

Wag mo na lang talagang sagutin.
Appreciate his little efforts and always remind him na siya lang ang love mo.
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Re: Dealing with the EXes (yours and your partner's)
« Reply #106 on: February 13, 2012, 10:49:26 pm »

May I ask, bakit siya nagpapakwento?
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Re: Dealing with the EXes (yours and your partner's)
« Reply #107 on: February 14, 2012, 02:52:53 am »

During our BF/GF days ganyan din ang ugali ko magpapakwento ako sa BF (now husband) ko about sa mga EXs niya. He had four previous relationships pero puro short-term lang, ako naman 1 MU (pupply love lang siguro). Parang siya talaga first boyfriend ko, so parang gusto ko malaman lahat ng tungkol sa mga EXs niya.
 
Kasama na siguro doon yung selos saka insecurities sa past relationships niya. Umpisa magtatanong ako kung pano sila mag-date, pano naging sila then doon na mapupunta sa comparison. Kung bakit ganon siya sa mga ex niya, sa akin hindi. Sabi niya naghahanap lang ako ng ikakagalit ko. I was jealous talaga.
 
Siguro kailangan mo iparamdam na yung past relationships mo e tapos na, ang importante kayong dalawa. Walang maidudulot na mabuti kung pag-uusapan pa. Mommy France is correct, wag ka na lang magkwento kasi at the end of your conversation mauuwi lang talaga sa away. Ganyan na ganyan ako. Naghahanap lang ako ng ikakaselos at ikakagalit ko sa mga bagay na kung tutuusin e tapos na.
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Re: Dealing with the EXes (yours and your partner's)
« Reply #108 on: February 15, 2012, 10:51:01 am »

ako naman baliktad, never ako nagtanong about his ex, pero minsan namemention o may nakkwento ang husband ko. dun ako naiinis kasi hindi naman ako nagtatanong pero magkkwento sya. wala na akong pakialam sa ex niya kaya hindi ko na gusto marinig ang mga kwento about sa kanya kasi alam ko din naman na magagalit ako. pero pag nangyayari yun inaassure naman ako ng husband ko na wala na yun at ako na lang mahal niya.

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Re: Dealing with the EXes (yours and your partner's)
« Reply #109 on: February 15, 2012, 01:00:48 pm »

Thanks sa advices Mommy France ,Mlabable ,Ea_brea
 siguro nga kapag nag tnung sya d q nlang sasagutin , kasi ang kulit kulit niya tanung ng tanung wala na rin kasi sa kin yung past relationship ko kasi mas mahalaga yung relationship ni hubby , Feeling ko talaga insecure sya lagi ko namang sinasabi sknya na mas better yung hubby ko kesa sa ex ko and sinabi niya din skin ng seselos sya everytime na ganun . Hayss d ko talaga sya maintindihan . Basta d na lang ako mag kkwento about sa ex ko limot ko na rin kasi :)

@Mommy Jazz
 D ko alam ang reason niya kung bakit sya nag papakwento , Pero kadalasan nyang sinasabi gusto niya daw malaman at nacucurious lang sya . Pero minsan paulit ulit na rin tinatanung niya skin halos na ata lahat na kwento ko na.
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Re: Dealing with the EXes (yours and your partner's)
« Reply #110 on: February 27, 2012, 09:42:13 pm »

pano ka ba magkwento sis? baka he sees your eyes sparkle eke ek pa while making kwento ;D  magseselos talaga yun! haha... just kidding

pwedeng your kwento is different from what he is expecting... pwedeng hirap siya maachieve or medjo lamang si ex mo sa kwento mo.. 

example, hubby mo bachelor's degree, syempre proud siya dun... eh si ex pala, doctor/lawyer ganun, nabokya yung pride niya kaya nagalit to hide his insecurity
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Re: Dealing with the EXes (yours and your partner's)
« Reply #111 on: March 02, 2012, 12:59:55 pm »

Pag naiicip ko ito sumasama talaga mood ko :'( nahuhurt ako kasi yung ginagawa namin now as husband and wife for sure ganun din sila nuon.
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Re: Dealing with the EXes (yours and your partner's)
« Reply #112 on: March 02, 2012, 05:27:13 pm »

minsan curious ako, pero i never asked him how they were o kung ano ginagawa nila. medyo nagseselos lang ako sa fact na halos palagi silang magkasama noon. pero ang tagal na nun. i'm very different daw from his ex (hindi ko alam kung mabuti na yun or masama, bahala na) and inaassure naman ako ng husband ko na wala na yung sa kanila.

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Re: Dealing with the EXes (yours and your partner's)
« Reply #113 on: March 02, 2012, 08:37:45 pm »

oo dati ;D pero now hindi na,wala na rin namang mangyayari. besides past  is past,ako pinakasalan kase ako mahal niya ;)
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Re: Dealing with the EXes (yours and your partner's)
« Reply #114 on: March 02, 2012, 09:13:06 pm »

oo at nakakaasar kung iisipin mo.. pero minsan nakakatawa na lang..
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Re: Dealing with the EXes (yours and your partner's)
« Reply #115 on: March 02, 2012, 09:18:20 pm »

hindi... nakwento naman niya saken lahat nung magbf/gf pa lang kami, pero ngayon hindi, nakaraan na niya yun e,(pero minsan napagkwekwentuhan namen)  wala ng kong paki dun, ako ang present at future niya yun ang mahalaga. tsaka alam kong ako ang pinakamamahal niya sa lahat :)
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Re: Dealing with the EXes (yours and your partner's)
« Reply #116 on: March 03, 2012, 08:23:41 am »

:) hindi pala ako ngiisa :) nkakaselos lang diba?lalo kung nkalive in nla dati yung ex nila,hubby ko kasi nakalive in niya yun,kaya naiiyak nalang din ako kahit wala n yun  :'(
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Re: Dealing with the EXes (yours and your partner's)
« Reply #117 on: March 03, 2012, 07:59:09 pm »

Same topics merged.
This thread may be used for experiences on how a relationship is affected by past relationships.

We strongly advise searching of existing topics before creating new threads.
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Re: Dealing with the EXes (yours and your partner's)
« Reply #118 on: March 14, 2012, 12:59:36 pm »

ano ba tong topic na to? haha . kapalaran nga naman :)

Do I think of him? YES
Why? He was my friend, gayfriend, sister as In lahat kasi We were great together yung parang lalaki sa movies yung perfect. kaso may catch sa relationship namin, He was 10 years older than me, I met him 15 years old lang ako he was visiting yung common friend namin "kaisan" then after a few months ayun naging kami I would stay at their province for  2 days, punta sa birthdays, anniversaries,kasal, patay ng kamag-anak niya take note sa province yun ha, ako naman si punta.
Okay kami until I found out na meron siyang ibang GF na mas nauna kesa sa'kin. Ang ending eh ako pala yung "kabit", I broke it off, he called and even went to my school para mag-usap pero ayoko. Then He called my bestfriend tas sabi niya hiwalay na daw sila and nag-sorry siya eto naman si bestfriend sinet-up ako . gumimik kame then pag punta namin dun sa bar andun siya He explained everything then ayun naging kame ulit "first love" ko kasi . then nalaman ko ulit na hindi pala totoo sila pa rin nung girl kaya I broke it off again. I blocked him sa lahat pati sa CP ko.
Ito yung pinaka-masakit eh, tumawag siya iba number gamit, he said  He loved me so much kaso bata pa ako marami pa mangyayari sa buhay ko at kung hindi lang daw naging complicated kami pa din.

few months later (college na ako) I found out he got maried kasi buntis yung girl. he tried to contact me though our common friend "kaisan" pero pinigilan ko sarili ko na kausapin siya.

Don't get me wrong maha na mahal ko hubby ko kaso syempre di ba first love never dies, it just fades away and naging part siya ng buhay ko . :)
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Re: Dealing with the EXes (yours and your partner's)
« Reply #119 on: March 14, 2012, 01:34:31 pm »

I do think of them sometimes...
Them talga kase medyo madame din hehe
but my ex before hubby was the "most serious" like everyone thought we'd end up with each other...
He cheated me for several times and I was like "I forgive you" all the time... Then here comes the nth time, I decided to quit and broke up with him.. told him straight to his face that I believe in karma and that you will never find someone like me anymore.. he kinda thought its a curse coz until now, I mean after me he never had a girlfriend anymore....
We are in good terms, we cannot be enemies I guess kase our family has a deep connection as in from his lola to mine are really friends so they are really a family friend.

Recently he had an accident as in 50/50.. I coudln't understand what I felt that time not because I still love him but maybe it's because may pinagsamahan talaga kame.. And Im so lucky to have a very understanding husband (btw they became friends too) I told my hubby why am I feeling that way? and is there something wrong? but he opened my mind and said no it's because you have shared a somewhat good relationship before and he even accompanied me to the ICU of the hospital to visit him.... luckily he survived but I guess medyo affected parin brain niya coz he would call me up and say he misses me and that why did I leave him and why I married my husband..from then I cut my connection with him, I tried to understand at first kaya lang parang di ko ma-take na ganon ang mga sinasabi niya...

But I'm thankful because if he didn't cheated on me hindi ko maybe makikilala c hubby ko...and I learned a lot from him... maybe kung kame ang nagkatuluyan ewan ko lang. But definitely I wont be happy as I am now

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