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Errych

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Re: right way of disciplining a child (3yo and up)
« Reply #30 on: April 20, 2012, 11:29:35 pm »

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Re: right way of disciplining a child (3yo and up)
« Reply #31 on: April 20, 2012, 11:37:23 pm »

^^kaninang hapon sis. nasigawan ko anak ko :( kasi sobrang pagod na ako, tapos ilan beses ko ng sinabing wag itapon milk powder niya dahil hindi naman biro ang ginagawa namin para bilhan siya ng milk. ayun tinapos pa din. maiyak iyak na ako.
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Re: right way of disciplining a child (3yo and up)
« Reply #32 on: April 21, 2012, 12:24:13 pm »

grabe now lang ako nag online ulit, oo nga mga mommies 2 1/2 na rin daughter ko , prolema ko naman palagi nyang pinapalo daddy niya tapos tatakbo- kahit sinasaway sya di nakikinig sa daddy. balak ko pa namang isali sa mga playschool sa June , fear ko lang  baka gawin niya sa iba, wala rin ako helper kaya medyo maiksi din pasensya ko minsan pag pagod kaya napapagalitan ko din sya .
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Re: right way of disciplining a child (3yo and up)
« Reply #33 on: April 25, 2012, 12:09:25 am »

I would just like to share to you the process that I heard in a seminar, when I joined a parent seminar last year. To tell you the truth, pilyo at napakakulit ng anak ko. Tatahi-tahimik at first pero may biglang burst ang kakulitan. may times na akala mo nakaupo lang dyan, tapos bigla kang dadambahin. my son is sooo makulit at yun ang comment sa kanya ng mga teachers niya nung kinder siya. even if i work as a doctor, i am also a dad of a 4 year old boy. Hindi ko alam kung advantage ang pagiging lalaki ko, pero pag dating kasi sa akin mabait ang anak ko. hindi siya pumapalag kapag nandiyan ako. pero kapag yaya lang o teachers sobrang kulit daw. Mahirap para sa akin kasi nagwowork ako, tapos widower pa ako. mag-isa akong dumidisiplina sa kanya. Ang ginagawa ko na lang every night kapag umuuwi ako, i see to it na nag-uusap kaming dalawa despite of a very busy work, I still find time to talk to him and to ask what he feels.
My first question is: How's your day?
And then it will have a follow - up question of, o i heard from yaya na naging makulit ka or may nasabi kang hindi maganda sa classmate mo. What happened ba?

Eventually, a child from pre-school will explain his or her side naman e. Then I'm going to tell him that, you know what. There were times that what is fun for you is annoying for other people. O what do you think, happy ba yung ginanun mo? then the child will answer. From that process makukuha niyo na kung paano ituro sa bata e. Tayo po ang mas nakakakilala sa mga anak natin. Kaya po natin yan parents! 8)

I hope nakatulong.
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Re: right way of disciplining a child (3yo and up)
« Reply #34 on: April 27, 2012, 12:54:58 pm »

For those parents who have (a) son(s).... this article is worth reading:

Raising Good Boys: The 5 Values you Need to Teach your Son
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Re: right way of disciplining a child (3yo and up)
« Reply #35 on: April 20, 2013, 01:40:05 am »

4 Discipline Problems Solved!
Read it on April 2013 issue of Smart Parenting magazine
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Re: right way of disciplining a child (3yo and up)
« Reply #36 on: June 10, 2013, 04:32:02 pm »

The proper way of disciplining children starts with a relationship may involve the following:
1. Role modeling - children will always imitate what you do. If they hear you saying bad words, then they will say bad words as well WITHOUT KNOWING WHAT THOSE WORDS MEAN. If they picked up those nasty words from someone else, explain to them that they are "not nice" words. Correct them in private and not in front of other people.
2. Consistent rules - Set a general set of do's and don'ts for the children at home and stick with them.
ALL the adults in the household should implement the same rules for it to be effective.
3. Reward positive behavior! Compliment them if they do something proper and correct.
4. Negative reinforcement of "punishment" should always be the LAST RESORT (only if the child has willfully disobeyed meaning, with full knowledge that he is not supposed to do it or that it is a definite NO-NO for his parents). If it has reached this point, it should never be done when a parent is emotional (angry, frustrated). Also, one has to be extremely careful where to do the spanking. Never in the sensitive areas of the child's body. Most of all, talk to the child why it was done and reassure him of your unconditional love.

With all these, I still recommend that parents do the first three suggestions. The fourth one only in extreme cases.

Each child is unique and will respond differently. Most children will respond to the first three recommendations.

I recall being spanked twice when I was a child. But I remember for what reason. I did not hold such action against my parents because it was clear to me why it needed to be done :)

Hope this helps.
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Re: right way of disciplining a child (3yo and up)
« Reply #37 on: June 18, 2013, 11:02:49 am »

I can sooo relate to this...
My 3 yrs old son utters bad words talaga..heartbreaking on my part.. gaya ng ibang moms here, nung una, brother ko ang nagturo kasi nga komo nga bata, nakakatuwa pakinggan , nagalit ako syempre sa kuya ko kasi hindi tama un.. Then nadinig naman sa mama ko, un bang tipong pag nagagalit si mama sa mga apo niya, napapamura.. shempre, komo nadidinig sa matatanda, akala niya, keri lang un..

Working mom din ako, kaya hindi ako 8 hours sa bahay, on weekends yes, ako ang nag aalaga.. one time I overheard him saying P.I.. as in, kausap niya, nagtatalo sila ng cousin niyang 4 y/o din.. as a parent, short tempered ako minsan, so when I heard him say that, I immediately call his attention ang told him that saying that is bad and if ever he'll say it again, I'm going to spank him sa lips til mamaga.. I know its NOT the proper way to discipline him pero that time un ang naisip ko gawin.. again, I overheard him saying that nasty word, pinalo ko talaga until nagdugo yung bibig niya.. tiniis ko umiyak siya ng todo, while doing that, durog na durog ang puso ko, pusong ina na parang gusto ko mag sorry sa anak ko pero I have to be firm with what I tell him I will do..

ng matapos yung scene naming na yun, up to this very date, when he hears mama and kuya or minsan ako (pag nadudulas ako), he will immediately tell me, MAMA, SI LOLO, TITO, NAGMUMURA.. DI BA MASAMA YUN?.. DI BA MAGAGALIT KA, DUDUGO LABI?.. then me naman, will tell him, yes anak, bad yun, magagalit si Jesus,hindi na tayo ibless, wala na tayo pambibili ng gatas mo, gatas ni bunso, at toys mo.. gusto mo ba magalit si Jesus?..

may konting kirot pa in pag ginagawa ko yun ganung klaseng disiplina sa anak ko but I have to do that.. somehow, yung punishment ko that time, remember niya..

I know mali yun, pero hindi ko pinag sisihan kasi it taught him in a way.. madami nagsasabi pag boy ang anak, talagang nuknukan to the highest level ang kakulitan.. so ayun, share ko lang..

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Re: right way of disciplining a child (3yo and up)
« Reply #38 on: June 19, 2013, 02:57:56 pm »

Hi mga sis! I dont know if right thread po ito for my question.

Kahapon kasi sumama ako sa school ni baby ko. I saw her na gustong makipaglaro sa 2 girls na magkahawak kamay. She was trying to hold the others hand pero tinatabig sya. Lumipat naman sya sa isang bata, trying ulit sya na hawakan yung kamay nung isang bata pero tinatabig din sya. Kaya nilapitan ko na. I told her na pumili lang ng friends. That kung ayaw kako sayo, hayaan na niya. Hanap na lang ng ibang mabait na classmates. I dont know kung tama ba ang mga sinabi ko. If kayo po, what would you do?
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Re: right way of disciplining a child (3yo and up)
« Reply #39 on: June 21, 2013, 11:23:30 am »

hi mommy chinaheart:

when we are at playhouses, may mga batang ayaw talaga makipagshare ng toys or ayaw makipaglaro sa baby ko (he is 2yrs & 4mos). i would suggest that he would play with something else. hinahayaan ko siya actually and i observe what his reactions would be. i let him experience those types of rejection from other people.

yes, it nice to save them especially now that they are little but i guess what we could teach them is confidence and self-worth. when they grow up, when they know what they are able to do, they will just shrug those rejections off.
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Re: right way of disciplining a child (3yo and up)
« Reply #40 on: June 21, 2013, 11:27:44 am »

i also wanna share how i discipline my son who is 2yrs and 4 months. he is physically active and playful so i choose my battles. i dont think that we should discipline them just coz they are makulit - kasi nature ng bata yan.

we have a wooden rod at home specific for spanking (sa butt). he gets it when:
-he hurts people
-he breaks/destroys things
-he doesn't obey (which in this case you have to be patient); and if ang kapalit eh dangerous like touching the fan or outlets
-he talks dirty/offensive speech
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Re: right way of disciplining a child (3yo and up)
« Reply #41 on: July 02, 2013, 12:20:16 pm »

Hello mga sis i wanna share my part from being mom, napaka hard to disipline talaga ng bata i have my 3year old son and he's so very kulit talaga as in. hindi na namin alam kung anong dapat gawin ng papa niya then sawayin mo uulitin ulit sa sobrang kulit napapalo ko talaga siya mas worst pa ako kesa sa father niya. but then i realize na mali din pero kahit pag sabihan mo wala din nangyayari super kulit talaga,,
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Re: right way of disciplining a child (3yo and up)
« Reply #42 on: October 12, 2017, 12:02:24 pm »

“Thankfulness is just not part of [a child’s] job description,” “No one is born grateful,”
How to Teach Your Child Gratitude: Don't Force Him to Say Thank You


Smart Parenting shows you a different way of understanding and solving this issue. Read it here:
http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/parenting/preschooler/teach-your-child-gratitude-dont-force-thank-you-a00026-20171011
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