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hi CAMILLE... Welcome to SP

Mommy start ka ng own topic mo so you get more response... anyways... about your problem.. alam mo medyo mahirap kasi kung wala ka proof lalo na may family na rin si Daddy ng baby mo.... kung mag papa DNA ka naman, depende pa un kung kikilalanin nga ng daddy niya yung ggwin mo... kasi kung hindi kahit ang OWWA wala naman karapatan na basta nalang mag bawas ng sahod...

Suggestion ko try your best to get a proof na siya ang daddy
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hi single momma. how are you now? nag give birth kana ba? hope u and ur baby are  ok. share ko lang. i have a friend na nabuntis. then nag plan sila pakasal. naipamigay na yung mga invitations and all then bigla nalang naglaho na parang bula yung bf niya. kahit family ni bf wala alam kung nasan sya. sakit noh. connecting that story with yours, i think mas better yung situation mo kasi u know na the rel ended kahit indirectly sinabi. move on. mahirap pero live one day at a time. mamamalayan mo nlang its been months and ur not hurting anymore. makakarma din yang bf mo! focus on your little angel.

may nabasa akong book dati. sabi dun na every person is created according to God's will. whatever the situation is, whoever are the parents, YOU are created according to God's plan. Kaya yung baby mo binigay ni Lord yan. gaano man kapangit ang sitution mo now, that is a test given by God to make you stronger. Pray. Malalagpasan mo din yan...
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pwede ko ba idemanda tatay ng anak ko ng no support?
« Reply #17 on: May 24, 2010, 04:02:31 pm »

mga mommies na may asawang lawyer o kakilala na lawyer ask ko lang kung pwede ba kong mag file ng case na no support yung tatay ko? tsaka sole custody? kasi simula ng naghiwalay kami because of other girl eh nahihirapan na kong humingi ng suporta sa kanya umabot sa point na napagod na ko kasi parang namamalimos na ko para sa anak ko. alam ko may pera siya kasi umuwi nga siya dito sa pinas para daw magtayo ng company!

naiinis ako kasi naghiwalay kami na ang usapan makukuha ng anak ko yung dapat na para sa kanya tapos biglang ganito, tapos malalaman ko na magpapakasal na sila nung girl ok lang naman kaya lang bigla nyang sinsabi na hindi na daw niya muna pag aaralin baby ko kasi wala pa daw siya work ngayon, eh ang totoo eh magpapakasal na sila sa december at inuna pa niya un kesa school ng bata! ayoko sana umabot sa ganito kaya lang nahihrapan na ko hidn pa ganon ka stable yung work ko at nahihiya na kong umasa sa maglang ko although nangako mommy ko na siya na magpapa aral sa baby ko hanggat hind ko pa kaya!

BTW gamit ng anak ko surname ng dad niya and we're also not married. thank God!
TIA
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Re: pwede ko ba idemanda tatay ng anak ko ng no support?
« Reply #18 on: May 24, 2010, 04:22:27 pm »

hi sis majousef!

pwede kang magfile ng case sis. support para sa bata. some of the evidences that the lawyer might need to support your action is the birth certificate of the child bearing his father's surname and the father's birth certificate. hindi ko lang alam kung ano pa yung ibang kailangan.

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Re: pwede ko ba idemanda tatay ng anak ko ng no support?
« Reply #19 on: May 24, 2010, 04:36:58 pm »

hello mommy majousef, yung best friend ko po also filed a case against sa husband niya for not supporting their daughter. nagpatulong po siya sa PAO sa lugar nila ( sa QC) para makakuha siya ng lawyer na walang bayad. up to now po dinidinig pa yung case nila.

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Re: pwede ko ba idemanda tatay ng anak ko ng no support?
« Reply #20 on: May 24, 2010, 04:47:39 pm »

^oo nga mommy francine. hindi rin kase ganon kabilis matatapos. magko-compromise pa rin naman kapag naghi-hearing na eh. kase baka sakaling magawan pa ng paraan.

dapat cooperative both parties (petitioner and respondent) para madaling matapos yung case.

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Re: pwede ko ba idemanda tatay ng anak ko ng no support?
« Reply #21 on: May 25, 2010, 07:46:18 am »

Advice ng lawyer friend ko regarding support, there's no need to go directly sa court. You have to have an agreement in black and white, signed by both parties and witnesses and possibly notarized na he will give support. Pag hindi sya nagbigay you can sue him for breech of contract.
Mahirap kasi yung punta ka kaagad sa lawyer, kasi mas mahal pa yung ibabayad mo sa lawyer kesa makukuha mong support monthly.
The money (for support) you will get also depend sa capacity nun guy to give. Now that he is starting a family of his own, the judge will have to consider that.
Regarding custody, you have your child's sole custody. He cannot take your child away from, or he will have to go through the eye of a needle and have lots and lots of money to take your child away from you. Even if your child is using SD's name, it will not matter. Your child is your own.
I already proved this  :), I recently requested a copy of my son's Birth certificate through e-census, and nakalagay sa request mother's name lang, no acknowledgment of the father.  ;D
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Re: pwede ko ba idemanda tatay ng anak ko ng no support?
« Reply #23 on: May 26, 2010, 12:31:05 am »

thanks mommies!!!! pinag iisipan ko pa din naman kung ano ba talaga ang gagawin ko sa tatay ng anak.. kasi ngayon ayan ang hirap nanaman hanapin, naisip ko tuloy hayaan ko na lang na wag na siyang magbigay ng support para kahit hiram sa bata hindi na niya magawa... kasi dati napag usapan namin na if ever magkaron kami ng kanya kanyang partner eh hindi pwedng makilala o makasama ng anak namin bilang respeto namin sa isa't isa pero kilala ko kasi un eh sinungaling at walang isang salita at ngayong nagsasama na sila ng girl im sure pag hiniram niya anak ko eh kasama niya yung babae if ever lumabas man sila.. eh 2 yrs old pa lang yung anak ko matalino yung bata pero alam ko hind niya kakayanin un at maguguluha siya kasi nakita niya kami before na isang pamilya eh tapos biglang ito may ibang kasama ang tatay niya... hay ang hirap ng ganito...

anyway thank you po ulit sa advice mga mommies!!!
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Re: pwede ko ba idemanda tatay ng anak ko ng no support?
« Reply #24 on: June 16, 2010, 10:30:48 pm »

this topic is very helpful..... :-*
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Re: pwede ko ba idemanda tatay ng anak ko ng no support?
« Reply #25 on: July 03, 2010, 07:08:51 am »

Sis share ko lang reply nung lawyer friend ko. Nagpatulong din ako kasi on what to do on my case. Read on:

In terms of financial support for your child, please read my Legal Updates post Support for abandoned woman and family or download free PDF newsletter Issue no. 004 July 31, 2008 on the same topic.




Essentially, through a Protection Order, the court will order your child’s father and his employer to set aside a certain percentage of his salary to be remitted directly to you and your children on a monthly basis. If your child’s father and/or his employer fail to do so, they can be charged with contempt of court.

The Family Code provides that amount of support is balanced between the necessities of the person asking for support and the financial capability of the person from whom support is being asked. Support shall be reduced or increased proportionately, according to the reduction or increase of the necessities of the recipient and the resources or means of the person obliged to furnish the same.




In filing a petition for financial support, the following are government offices or agencies you can ask help from. The addresses are for Metro Manila but you can try to contact their regional offices (specially the NBI).




Department of Social Welfare and Development (DSWD) Crisis Intervention Unit (CIU)  Rehabilitation Unit Tel. No.: (02) 734-8635 NCR Ugnayang Pag-asa, Legarda, Manila Tel. Nos.: (02) 734-8617 to 18

Philippine National Police (PNP)  Women and Children’s Concern Division (WCCD) Tel. No.: (02) 723-0401 loc. 3480 Call or text 117 (PATROL 117)

National Bureau of Investigation (NBI) Violence Against Women and Children’s Desk (VAWCD) Tel. Nos.: (02) 523-8231 loc. 3403

DOJ Public Attorney’s Office Women's Desk, Tel. Nos.: (02) 929-9010; 929-9436 to 37

Philippine General Hospital (PGH) Women’s Desk Tel. Nos.: (02) 524-2990; 521-8450 loc. 3816

Women’s Crisis Center Women and Children Crisis Care & Protection Unit – East Avenue Medical Center (WCCCPU-EAMC) Tel. Nos.: (02) 926-7744; 922-5235

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Basically Sis hindi muna demandahan.. You start by a written agreement then pag ayaw pa din.. thats the time you contact anyone from those listed above.

keep us posted and I hope this helps!
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Re: pwede ko ba idemanda tatay ng anak ko ng no support?
« Reply #26 on: July 08, 2010, 04:06:03 am »

sis thanks alot ah...
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Re: pwede ko ba idemanda tatay ng anak ko ng no support?
« Reply #27 on: July 08, 2010, 02:59:58 pm »

Panu kaya mga sister kung wala dito sa Pinas ang husband? Panu maidemanda for financial support?
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Re: pwede ko ba idemanda tatay ng anak ko ng no support?
« Reply #28 on: July 08, 2010, 05:06:34 pm »

mga mommies na may asawang lawyer o kakilala na lawyer ask ko lang kung pwede ba kong mag file ng case na no support yung tatay ko? tsaka sole custody? kasi simula ng naghiwalay kami because of other girl eh nahihirapan na kong humingi ng suporta sa kanya umabot sa point na napagod na ko kasi parang namamalimos na ko para sa anak ko. alam ko may pera siya kasi umuwi nga siya dito sa pinas para daw magtayo ng company!

naiinis ako kasi naghiwalay kami na ang usapan makukuha ng anak ko yung dapat na para sa kanya tapos biglang ganito, tapos malalaman ko na magpapakasal na sila nung girl ok lang naman kaya lang bigla nyang sinsabi na hindi na daw niya muna pag aaralin baby ko kasi wala pa daw siya work ngayon, eh ang totoo eh magpapakasal na sila sa december at inuna pa niya un kesa school ng bata! ayoko sana umabot sa ganito kaya lang nahihrapan na ko hidn pa ganon ka stable yung work ko at nahihiya na kong umasa sa maglang ko although nangako mommy ko na siya na magpapa aral sa baby ko hanggat hind ko pa kaya!

BTW gamit ng anak ko surname ng dad niya and we're also not married. thank God!
TIA

I understand what you feel.
pero sis sa tingin ko it would be better to just let it be & try to accept the fact that you (& the kid) are not the priority of the father of your child.

Honestly speaking, i can see bitterness in your heart.

Been there done that, kung wala mabigay, kunag ayaw talaga magbigay ---> WALA na tayong magagwa don! Unless you continue what your asking fromt he start of the thread....

Its just a waste of your precious time.

Its a matter of acceptance. Kaya mo yan sis... Remove your anger from your heart.

Let it be.. Hayaan mo siya magpakasal sa kung sino mang poncio pilato. Hayaan mo siya na hindi magbigay...

GOD IS GOOD sis....

Dont get mad at me sis.. just my opinion..but of course... in the long run kaw pa din nakakaalam kung ano ang tama...


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« Reply #29 on: March 01, 2011, 08:34:27 am »

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