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[J0]

I read this on an FB status today

"To be in love is merely to be In a state of perpetual anesthesia: To mistake an ordinary young man for a Greek god Or an ordinary young woman for a goddess"

This explains why I keep on seeing my wife like the goddess in my favorite painting.

"The Birth of Venus" (French: "Naissance de Venus"). A painting by the French artist Alexandre Cabanel (1823–1889).

[>r0sey cHeeKs<]

natuwa naman ako sa topic na to
since isa rin ako sa mga mommies na tumaba simula ng nagkababy
sweet naman ni daddy jojo and daddy brandon vera, kainggit naman mga wifes nio
 mommy wendy star bongga!
pareho tayo mommy chubyswife im also 22 din infairness pareho tayo ng height and waistline hehe..
pagkabasa na pagkabasa ko ng topic na to tinanong ko agad si hubby 
ito sagot niya copy paste ko nlang:
hindi huh, kahit ano kapa, kahit tumaba kapa ng husto, hindi kita ikahihiya, pero mas maganda kung magpapayat ka, luv you
natawa na lang ako
im trying to lose weight pa rin not for my husband or for anyone else but for myself syempre connected pa rin un sa health natin in the future diba?

[ceejhei]

^ isa din ito sa mga kinatatakot ko mangyari. i was an ex-model with a stats of 34-26-36. almost perfect. kaso after i gave birth tumaba ako. Everytime na pupunta ako ng mall and nakikita ko ang mga co-models ko na nag eevent or simply bumping them somewhere, nahihiya ako. although i gained a little weight lang naman. pero iba pa din ang confidence kapag alam mong sexy ka. i weigh 110 pounds before. tapos after mga naging 125. pero dahil bata pa ako (24) at si hubby ay nag ttrabaho sa call center at alam kong madaming babae dun at baka ma-tempt siya, kaya eto nag sumikap akong ibalik yung sarili ko sa dati. konti nalang ay babalik na ako sa dati kong shape i am now at 115lbs pero and hindi ko lang matago ay yung belly fats, kasi nga nalagyan na ng bata sa loob kaya ang hirap na ipabalik unless magpa surgery ako.

i asked him din dati kung tumaba na ako ng as in mataba na, ang sagot niya? "walang problema hun, edi magpapataba din ako ng sobra para pareho tayo."

[Mommy France]

Tumaba ako pero mas lumaki yung asawa ko kesa saken.

Nag-cold turkey kasi siya para hindi na siya manigarilyo and na-focus sa eating lahat.  Ayun.

So, I'd speak for the partners na lang of those who had gained weight.

Hindi ko kinakahiya yung husband ko. Love na love ko yun. Hindi naman kasi siya nagbago saken and pogi pa rin siya.

Xiempre minsan malulungkot siya pero I always try to boost his self-confidence. Kahit nga tumaba siya andame pa rin lumalapit eh. Mas lalo pa kaya kung hindi.

[angelicabo]

naiiyak ako habang binabasa ko yung thread na to. 

ako rin kasi tumaba after i gave birth. pag inaask ko naman si hubby kung kinakahiya niya ako sabi niya hindi. pero iba naman yung nararamdaman ko. lagi na lang niya akong inaasar everytime na kakain kami. like kanina. nakaka degrade kasi ng personality... gusto ko ng mag diet but the thing is, sobrang pagod talaga from work at pag uwi sa bahay si baby kahit may yaya na sakin pa rin. kaya pag eating time na, dun ko binabawi ang kaapguran kaya kain ako ng kain. 

[keih liwanag]

it's sad when women lose their confidence because of weight problem, either under or over. it affects us really. what's even more saddening is when the love of our lives get affected too.
honestly, my husband was never affected. before, i would ask him several times or even spy at his answers just to get assurance that he is not mindful of my weight. eversince we met, i already am chubby. i receive compliments even so. and even if he doesn't give compliments much on my figure, his praises on the way he adores my face and intelligence are more than enough for me to be confident.

i actually learned it from my mom who is chubby as well. she once said that if i want to go on diet, my heart should be into it. she only meant one thing, i should have discipline and most importantly, i am doing it for myself, not for any body else, even for my husband. she said i cannot live with his compliments for the rest of my life and happiness coming from compliments are just an immediate effect, instead, i can only be beautiful if my mind said so.

not that i don't care about losing weight any more, i still go on diet. it's just that now, i am more after the healthy me, not the sexy-physical me. pano if sexy ngako pero sakitin naman ako. or sexy ngako pero wala naman balance ng nutrients sa katawan ko. i am more after to making my heart healthy, my resistensya, my respiratory system. hehe kase mas hahaba ang buhay ko pag dito ako nagfocus.

after all those years, i have learned to accept it. that beauty is not just physical. if you project it, you will be. if you focus on some areas on your body - smile, hair, teeth, skin, and a lot more... you still can be beautiful.

take it from me mommies, matagal nakong chubby. 

[J0]

Mas masarap kayakap ang mataba at medyo mukhang losyang lalo na kung mahal mo.  Ako, ayoko ng wife na sa sobrang conscious about appearance eh nababawasan o affected na ang interaction namin.  Mas nakakalungkot naman na ang marami diyan na parang isa lang o limited ang notion about beauty.  Siguro, sa sobrang panonood ng TV, Magazine, Billboards, internet images at iba pang media. 

"Beauty is truth, truth beauty," - that is all
        Ye know on earth, and all ye need to know."

- John Keats, Ode on a Grecian Urn

Hindi mo na alam ngayon kung totoo pa ang nakikita mo sa media.  Parang standard procedure na ngayon ang mag-alter ng pictures.  May makita ka mang maganda in person, di mo alam kung babae ba iyon o lalaki.

Ang babaeng sinumpaan mo na mamahalin habang buhay ay kilalang-kilala mo na. 

When you came, you were like red wine and honey,
And the taste of you burnt my mouth with its sweetness.
Now you are like morning bread,
Smooth and pleasant.
I hardly taste you at all for I know your savour,
But I am completely nourished.

-- Amy Lowell, Decade

You no longer see her as she appears but you experience her, wholly, completely.  Paghawak mo sa braso niya, hindi mo mapapansin na kung medyo iba na ito...pero mararamdaman mo ang kakaibang init.

Pagyakap mo sa kaniya mula sa likod at mata-touch mo ang tiyan niya...di mo na maiisip kung nagbago man ang puson niya...may kilig pa rin na nararamdaman sa paglalapat ng inyong katawan.

The body remembers, that's what my wife and I would always say.  Meron kayong intimacy na kayo lang ang nakakaalam.  You no longer see each other at a distance and see mere appearances.  You are so close that you are no longer two different persons.  Body and spirit - you would always feel each other's existence because you are one...and you are as infinite as the universe itself. 

Sana madiscover pa ng maraming tao ito. 

[yhamslove®]

^Daddy Jojo... simula ngayon titira na ako sa refrigerator!! o di kaya sa kusina na ako matutulog!!

it's nice to hear such words from a guy!

Sana madiscover pa ng maraming tao ito.

I totally agree!

[momofrainchira]

hehe... :)i love this topic...
last week lang cnamahan ako ni hubby bumili ng new pants ko na size 31,from size 24...after nun cnamahan din niya ko mamili sa megamall ng sunblock,spa salt,pang ahit ng kilay,at kung anikanik pang beauty,hindi naman niya ako cnsaway infact minsan sya pa suggest try ko pkulay ng hair,pa facial kami etc...
nmeet niya ko chubby ako,kasi restau ako work so puro fuds,tas nung stop ako pumyat ulit ako,so nkita niya sexy daw pla ako kaya ayun tinuluyan nko then nbuntis s pnganay namin,tumba ulit after 2 years pumyat ako ulit ayun nsundan tuloy may bunso n kami ngayun...hehe...ask ko sa kanya if kinkkhiya niya KO DHIL ANG LAKI talaga ng tinaba ko sabi naman niya ok lang nadadaan p naman daw sa face value,pero malakas mang asar c hubby minsan big mama tawag niya skin...pero ok lang kasi kahit ganun nkikipag holding hands parin naman cia skin wen wer out,tsakakasama ko parin cia nagsusukat ng malalaking size ng hehe...
but then ayokong pabayaan sarili ko kasi maraming haliparot jan pogi pa naman c hubby,kaya lapitin...

[JoshuaGummies]

nakakatakot hmmmm..



daddy jojo sana lang lahat ng lalaki/asawa tulad mo! kahanga hanga ka!
pero realidad hinde! karamihan tumitingin sa panlabas na kaanyuan at kung may option naman na mas healthy and fit ang mahal mo di ba mas ok?

Being Fit and healthy ay kayamanan hindi naman sya beauty lang .... siguro as long as "you feel good about yourself" mataba or fit man... Beautiful   me personally,pag mataba ako di ako happy kaya I dont feel beautiful:(

[JoshuaGummies]

proud na proud din ako sabihin na Im soooo lucky kasi partner ko tulad ni daddyjojo na di ako ikinahiya noong Fat ako! and sa kahit anong paraan ipinaramdam niya na love niya ako kung ano man itsura ko but mas proud akong sabihin na dahil bumalik ang fit/healthy/sexy na ako mas super love niya ako ngayon... 

[babywaby]

my hubby never liked obese nor chubby girls. i used to be slim. after 3 kids im 130lbs na with a big tummy from 2 c-sections and round fat arms. he wants to transfer his lifetime membership in slimmers world to my name, he wants me to box, swim, play tennis...before im dying to lose weight primarily for him. it became my insecurity. when he had a one night stand while i was preggy with our baby girl, i told myself if i will do anything to myself, it will be for ME. not because of anyone. not just to please other people. so now im taking time. i will lose these fats in due time. not to please my husband but to please myself. i will wear sexy clothes again not for my hubby but because i want it. i will swim and play tennis because those i my sports that i missed doing-not because my hubby said so.

[anhing]

nice topic we got here....

i use to have a "sexy" figure prior to having a baby. back then, si hubby p yung umaawat saken, bwal too much make-up, huwag masyado malilim ang neckline, no body hugging shirts/jeans, even my shoes sinisita. pansinin kc ku becoz of my complexion and modesty aside, maganda talaga figure ku nun at hinde naman aku panget! hehe. but after i gave birth.. kablam! inaasar nga ku ni hubby n pwede ku n labanan si pacman becoz of my weight. but did i ever feel na kinakahiya niya ku? NEVER! naku ngagalet p nga un kung nag-ddiet aku. but i still want to loose a few pounds. i want to bring back the old me, not about being sexy, more of being confident. after all, sexiness is measured on how confident you are, right mommies? 

[dianne_gwa@yahoo.com]

Hello mommies
I had to ask the help of our daughter to translate this question for me. I am Dianne_gwa husband, for me there's nothing I can be ashamed of my wife. She is beautiful, intelligent, kind, caring , loving words cannot describe the good qualities that she has!
Sometimes she is complaining about her "extra fats" on her tummy, I always telling her she is fine. I love her flat nose and her brown skin. No matter what will be the physical look was, the important is the character. I LOVE MY WIFE SO MUCH

[JoshuaGummies]

sa lahat ng mommies na tulad ko, sana lang di dahil ikinahihiya tayo kaya gusto natin magpa fit at sana lang hindi dahil di tayo kinahihiya na mataba tayo kaya ok lang. Our husband/partner deserving naman siguro na bigyan ng FIT and di losyang na asawa/partner at siguro mas lalo nyang mamahalin at bigyan ng halaga ang lalong magandang tayo .

at sana lang aware tayo na ang pag-gain ng weight ay di maganda sa kalusugan at di naman ito sa pagandahan lamang:).
maraming safe na paraan para magpahealthy, Let's fight global epidemic which is OBESITY...

that's why kami we are promoting COMMUNITY WEIGHT LOSS CHALLENGE

Overweight and obesity are defined as abnormal or excessive fat accumulation that presents a risk to health. A crude population measure of obesity is the body mass index (BMI), a person’s weight (in kilograms) divided by the square of his or her height (in metres). A person with a BMI of 30 or more is generally considered obese. A person with a BMI equal to or more than 25 is considered overweight.

Overweight and obesity are major risk factors for a number of chronic diseases, including diabetes, cardiovascular diseases and cancer. Once considered a problem only in high income countries, overweight and obesity are now dramatically on the rise in low- and middle-income countries, particularly in urban settings. -WORLD HEALTH ORGANIZATION