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[babywaby]

hello fellow momsies!!! i'm glad to say na after 20 yayas, we finally found the ONE! 

she was referred to us by a previous maid. nung hindi niya makasundo yung kasama niya, ipinasok niya yung anak niya para makasama niya. so far, 3 anak na niya yung nakasama namin. yung una, nag-asawa, 2nd one moved on to an office job, yes an office job and we're proud of her. the 3rd one is still with us. super loyal at sipag ng family nila. we are so blessed to have them. kahit matanda na si manang (58), we wouldn't mind taking care of her kahit hindi na sya makapag trabaho if she choose to stay with us. yung ibang mga anak naman niya are willing to be with us when we need them. we're so thankful that we have them. tapos na ang yaya horror/hate stories ko. sana kayo din momsies makahanap na ng inyong the ONE. we prayed about it and was answered. Thank you talaga Lord Jesus. now we can be extra nice again, or should i say naturally nice 

[CallcenterMom]

I believe, necessary pa rin na maging super bait at marunong pa rin tayong magbigay at magpasensya ng extra sa mga kasama natin sa house.  Remember mga mommy, sa kanila natin iniiwan ang mga anak natin, bahay and all.  Sila din ang nasa kusina.  We do not know what our maid is capable of doing.  Marami tayong napapanood na "pambabalahura" na ginagawa ng maid.  Such as duraan ang bibig ni baby, saktan and the like.  Not to mention she/he can put anything sa food na kinakain at iniinom natin.

Better be careful na rin.

[kandie]

yup yup.yun nga lang minsan sa sobrang bait natin sila pa yung abusado.naghahanap sila ng mabait na amo syempre tayo din gusto din natin matinong yaya/maid.kami kasi kinakausap na namin sila una pa lang,pag may mali sila ok lang pagsasabihan muna paginulit pa nila warning na yun pagpangatlong beses na ok kaya paulit ulit na lang lagi yung pagkakamali sorry na lang,ang hirap din kasi sila pagsabihan kahit maayus yung pagkakasabi sa kanila.

[fashionistamom]

Sad but true mga mommies, iiwan at iiwan din tayo ng mga yaya's natin in the end no matter how nice we are ganun pa din kasi nga naman they have their own lives din naman syempre except of course kung magiging old maid ang yaya natin. Pero tama rin na we have to set boundaries with our yayas kasi parang sa office lang yan eh tayo ang boss sila ang staff

[bambi275]

Hello mommies!

I badly need your advice... how will you remain nice to a maid/yaya who's lied to you and eventually her lies boomeranged and became a bigtime bother to you and hubby? What should we do?
Ganito po kasi yun, she just had a miscarriage last wednesday and the doctor who checked her suspected that it's induced (which i myself thought so too).  We didn't even know that she's pregnant.  To think na biniro ko pa sya nung dumating sya na baka preggy sya.  And she's assured the yaya of my friend, who referred her to us, that she's not pregnant.  She's been with us for less that 3 weeks!  Then she's flushed down the fetus in the toilet p, omg talaga! We still need to have our house blessed and the baby.  Now she's still in the hospital, we're paying for all her hospital expenses and we also sent money to her bf (who got her pregnant) so he could come to manila and fetch her home.  Nagtext sya sa mom ko na lalabas na daw sya mamaya, nagpapasundo at kung pwede daw silang tumuloy sa bahay.  Hubby and i decided to bring them to the bus station to straight from the hospital, once the doctor says that she's fit to travel, and see them off.  I don't want her back in our house kasama pa bf niya.
It's too much, she's the worst of all the maids that we had.  After treating her well kahit less than 3 weeks pa lang sya, ganito ang igaganti niya.  Gumawa ng hindi maganda at idadamay pa kami.  Ang hirap! 

thanks in advance!

[toughmom moderator]

•    Treat your staff like family (the Filipino value of “malasakit”).
•    Teach them to have pride in their profession.
•    Instill in them the desire to learn new things and the humility to accept change.
•    Teach them to be self-motivated (kusang loob) and praise them accordingly.


Read more:
http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/home-living/about-yaya/4-steps-to-have-a-super-yaya

[Morefun]

Hi sis!  I think it's ok to be good to our helpers.  Tao din naman sila.  But again, we need to put boundaries.  Let's do them what we would like others to do to us.  Ako kasi employee din ako.  Kung anong respeto nakukuha ko sa boss ko, ganun din ang respeto na binibigay ko kay yaya 

[eloytski]

Hmm, I don't get why we should not be kind and nice to our helpers and yayas just because we anticipate them leaving us anyway. It's like saying wag na nating mahalin mga boypren o asawa natin kasi maraming relasyon nauuwi din sa hiwalayan; or wag na nating kaibiganin yung bagong employee kasi after three months expired na kontrata nyan.   

True, hindi din naman talaga lahat ng mga yaya at helper na pakitaan mo ng mabuting ugali ay magtatagal sa 'yo at rerespeto at igagalang ka. Then again, sometimes, nagpe-pay off din naman -- we had helpers who stayed with us for 5, 7 years and who until now remain dear to our hearts. Minsan din naman kasi hindi naman din nila choice ang umalis -- minsan tawag din ng pangangailangan ng sarili nilang pamilya, kaya kailangan nilang tumigil sa pagtatrabaho.

I agree with rianne_mallows:

because we were nice, they refer nice people too.. and even before the maid sees us, may good vibes na agad because of the kwentos of our former maid.. alam niya hindi dehado maids sa house

This reminds me of my neighbor's situation. In a span of 5 months, nakaka-limang yaya na rin sila. Walang magtagal kasi sa amo may problema: husband and wife fight even in front of the help; they do not provide enough meals and nourishment (damay pati nga ang baby e); and they do not help to make taking care of the baby easier (eg. ayaw ikabit nung among lalake yung duyan, madaming reason, samantalang dun nakakatulog ng maayos ang bata). Ayun wala tuloy magkainteres na pumasok sa kanila because of their rep. Kawawa naman din si baby at si mommy.

[Morefun]

@ toughmom Hi sis!  Di ko po mabasa yung buong link.  Kalahati lang.  I wonder what's wrong.   

[twelvth_goddess]

I've only had 3 yayas in the last 3 years. Yung una, 1 month lang nagtagal, yung second yaya 10 months, and the last 1 year and 4 months. I was very nice to them, I treated them like family, blah blah blah. BUT my mistake was that I expected them to be decent and to show gratitude dahil nga naging mabait ako sa kanila. That was very wrong of me. They shouldnt be expected to be grateful of the things that you give them and the treatment that you show them in the hopes that they will stay dahil kung gusto nila umalis and magloko, gagawin and gagawin nila yan kahit pa halos mala-santa ka na sa kanila. Why? Because they dont see the value in real relationships and they only have short term goals. Lahat ba sila ganyan? Absolutely not but MOST of them are.

Time and time again I've been reminded that they deserve to be treated decently but always with GREAT CAUTION. Dapat din matuto tayo na mag-manage ng expectations natin.

[Morefun]

Tama mga mommies!  Today is my first experience na magpaalis na ng yaya.  Ang kapal ng mukha niya.  Pero no regrets pa din ako sa mabuting pinakita ko sa kanya.  At least malinis ang konsensya ko.  I'm sure God KNOWS and SEES everything.  yang mga abusadong kasambahay at yaya, they will get what they deserve if they keep doing what they are doing, good or bad!!!