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Re: My baby died when he was only 22 days old. I only saw him ..dead...
« Reply #15 on: October 09, 2010, 06:56:26 pm »

God Bless sis, i know you may not have enough faith in him..and i understand why but when you're ready.. He's just there to help you with your burdens. Sis, there are a lot of SP moms and dads here who will be able to read your story. Maybe one of us can help you get justice for your baby and you. can you let us know the name of the hospital and the doctors/ director who neglected you and your child? this will also be an early warning to some mothers here who might be thinking of going to that hospital.. maybe you can save some lives as well. vent out all you want. that's what the forum and SP is here for. we're here to listen and advice. you and your family will be in our prayers sis... much love from my family to yours. you'll survive sis. you have to. you have other kids who need you and love you. God Bless again.
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Re: My baby died when he was only 22 days old. I only saw him ..dead...
« Reply #16 on: October 09, 2010, 08:04:02 pm »

ang dami mong puwedeng ikaso... persist dapat maparusahan sila... dami nilang maling nagawa...

my prayers to you and your baby. God will punish them, siya na ang bahala sa mga souls of those who wronged you and your baby
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Re: My baby died when he was only 22 days old. I only saw him ..dead...
« Reply #17 on: October 09, 2010, 08:49:50 pm »

Firstly, I want to thank everyone who comforted me. Hindi niyo alam how much I appreciate it. How much comfort you guys have given. I am very glad na I joined this site...I should have done this before kaso I just couldn't get the courage to write or talk about it. It has been very hard for me. To pretend na I'm ok, to smile and laugh para di ma affect mga kasama ko dito sa house. My mom doesn't talk about it kahit she hates that hospital. My partner ayaw din kasi alam niya magdamag ako iiyak.

I keep myself busy with my small business para wala na akong oras to think about it, but at night before I sleep its there....

The hospital's name is Antipolo Medical Hospital at Sumulong Highway Antipolo. I cannot remember the name of teh man who called who said he was the director kasi na gulangtang na ako that time. So hysterical that I had to lock myself in my room for an hour para di makita mga anak ko pagiyak ko.

My other son was born there too but maybe because we looked well off then kaya maganda treatment sa amin. Alam niyo ba, during the time inaayos ko papers ng anak ko after his death, I went there sa records section. Yung records section nila katani lang ng nursery. I saw a young mother na bagong panganak lang who was being wheelchaired to the nursery while her husband was videoing her. I was shocked na pinapasok siya sa loob ng nursery kahit naka wheelchair. Eh ako? na cs na then naglalakad na ako sa hospital and used the stairs pa pero di ako nakapasok sa nursery to see my son na nasa incubator lang sa isang malyong sulok ng room.

Pagtumatawag ako sa DOH wala pa daw update, sa regional office naman lagi walang tao or di ma contact. Kung may malaking pera lang talaga ako, I would have gone to court with a very good lawyer. Pero alam niyo, pag naiisip ko what if umabot sa ganon alam ko ibabalik sa akin lahat ng hospital na yan eh. That I am an irresponsible mother na who didn't plan my pregnancy, kasi I remember sinabihan ng billing dept ang mama ko na pinaglalaanan ang pag buntis. Thing is everything was planned... but always getting sick in my first and second month of pregnancy wasn't, loosing my job kasi I couldn't get to work dahil muntik na ako magka miscarriage wasn't, my partner leaving his job para maglaba,cook and manage my kids dahil di na ako makakilos wasn't, I didn't plan that it would be this way.

Antipolo Medical Hospital had GMA and ABS-CBN shoot in their hospital para sa mga TV shows nila tulad yun kay gerald, coco and kim where there was illegal operation of organ harvesting ... I can't remember the name of the show na. 

Medyo gumaan na dibdib ko here. And I'm very thankful sa lahat ng words niyo. I really needed it. I just did need it so badly.

Malapit na mag Dec 23 ... dapat 1 year old na baby ko : Ameer Allain. I don't know how I am going to celebrate Christmas this year or the coming years.... Siguro maghahanap na lang ako ng bazaar to participate in (bitbit mga kids sa stall) during the holidays para nandoon ako and busy. Hay ....
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Re: My baby died when he was only 22 days old. I only saw him ..dead...
« Reply #18 on: October 09, 2010, 09:08:27 pm »

Nga pala, when nag punta ako sa PAO ang sabi tinanong ako kung sigurado daw ba ako na anak ko nga yun nakita kong patay dun. Naloka ako! She was right. Pero I know anak ko yun namatay, he was the only pre mature baby there na newborn. Then she asked me kung sigurado din ba ako kung di sinadya na hayaan mamatay anak ko kasi the hospital assumed na I wouldn't pay them.

Alam niyo di ko pina autopsy anak ko kahit sinabihan ako sa funeral home. I just wanted my baby's body to be in rest na. Alam niyo ba yun feeling na awang awa ka na sa anak mo... na tipong binaboy na nga ng hospital tapos papayag ako na ioperahan pa siya.... I just couldn't allow it. Kahit I know na dapat, I couldn't. I just couldn't.

Guys if you know anyone who can help me win this, please help me. Wala akong habol sa hospital na yun na pera. What I want it for them to be reprimanded. I want them to fix their system, their operation their staff... and I still will not pay them anything. I really want people to know what sort of hospital it is and why did Antipolo allow that hospital to operate with a facility they call a morgue? Eh wala namang freezer yun morgue or kagamitan para itawag na morgue yun. Tapos they detained me pa kahit I was waving more than half of the money I owed for my bill right under the billing dept employee's nose.

Alam niyo, bigla ko na isip, Christmas may be better if I find justice na. Maybe I would be able to move on .... ewan ko lang.

God Bless you mga sis, tama nga, he does send blessings through other people. I'm very thankful. He has been kind to me ever since I embraced him after my son's death.
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Re: My baby died when he was only 22 days old. I only saw him ..dead...
« Reply #19 on: October 09, 2010, 09:31:41 pm »

akap ng mahigpit sis...

hustisya talaga... sana di na maranasan ng iba ang napagdaanan mo. pero sino ba ako para umasa sa ganun? isa yan sa mga masaklap na realidad dito sa Pinas... pera ang nagpapaikot sa lahat. hay. at health care? isa dapat basic social service, di maprovide ng maayos dito. nakakapanlumo.

sis sana talaga mahanap mo ang katahimikan. at hustisya. our heart goes out to you. our prayers too...
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« Reply #20 on: October 10, 2010, 01:17:31 am »

nako sis that's very true. My family and I have decided to get health insurance na for all of us just in case na din. Dati sabi ko ok lang yun SSS at Philhealth pero musta naman!

I am very thankful sa inyo kasi I sort of feel at home na online. Dati mag oonline lang ako to post ads, email and update my business site. Pero ngayon I can write how I feel na din without fear.

I am praying din na sana sana that hospital would feel guilty pero I keep forgetting na business din pala yun. HAy.... The good Lord will work his wonders... in time.
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« Reply #21 on: October 10, 2010, 03:51:42 am »

sis... grabe, ang bigat sa dibdib nung binasa ko post mo... and actually, until now, naiiyak pa din ako... :(

sa totoo lang, wala akong maisip i-type... parang na-blank ang mind ko sa story mo, i feel so sad for you and your baby...

i just pray you find justice para sa nangyari sa inyo. nakakakalungkot lang bakit may mga tao at institution na katulad nyan na parang hindi tao ang nagpapatakbo. walang mga kunsensiya at walang puso. seek justice, tapos ipagdasal mo na lang yung mga tao na gumawa sa inyo nyan.

and welcome to SP sis. know that we are here for you. we are also glad na dito ka nakahanap ng refuge sa forum na to. Kasi maraming magpi-pray para sa inyo ni baby, at makikinig sayo. :)

OT: ps. SP moms and dads are always on the look out for great buys. share your online site para naman mas dumami ang buyers mo, to take your mind off what happened. kahit dun sa area na yun, for sure, willing to help ang sp moms and dads! :)
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Re: My baby died when he was only 22 days old. I only saw him ..dead...
« Reply #22 on: October 10, 2010, 08:04:32 am »

Yes sis, sadly, PAO has a point, we need evidence. And kahit PAO yan, they're one of the better and more experienced lawyers. Wala pang Medical Malpractice Law here sa Philippines so I really can't say what criminal case could you file against them, and to file, we need strong, if possible, irrefutable  evidence. There's a tv program and newspaper column by PAO and Atty. Acosta heads it. Why not try writing them, you might get their attention and assist your case with particularity. Write Korina's column, I know she's pushing for the Medical Malpractice bill.
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Re: My baby died when he was only 22 days old. I only saw him ..dead...
« Reply #23 on: October 10, 2010, 09:35:13 am »

@ameerstouch:

Sorry for your loss sis. Ang hirap ng pinagdaanan mo or pinagdadaanan mo ngayon, in time makakarecover ka din. Yung makita mong magkasakit mga bata ang sakit na sa dibdib, what more yung makita mo pang pinabayaan sya sa hospital and see him dead. :'( Ibang klase yang hospital na yan. Hindi naman makatarungan na kung wala pang pambayad, hahayaan na lang na ganun ang patient. May God give you and your family more strength to face all this. Be strong and isipin mo na lang andyan pa 2 babies mo. Your kids loves you more than you'll ever know.

Take care and do not hesitate to talk to us.

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Re: My baby died when he was only 22 days old. I only saw him ..dead...
« Reply #24 on: October 10, 2010, 11:36:31 am »

as i was reading this, im having a terrible back pain..medyo nwla siya wyl reading this. super heart felt. im preggy now and ur story enlightened me in so many ways.i just cud imagne how hard it was for u to re-tell it and detail ur story.
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« Reply #25 on: October 10, 2010, 01:20:51 pm »

Mga mommies, again thank you, it was great waking up today remembering that there are other mommies out there who understand me. Mas nagkaroon ako ng pagasa. Yes, I will try writing na din siguro there. I hope I pray pansinin ako... yun nga lang, writing my story again is going to be hard. Nahihirapan ako with writing everything down kasi napapaiyak ako then natutulala hanggang di ko na alam kung gusto ko pa ituloy.

I really do hope na magkaroon tayo ng law about such situations sa hospitals. May fear na ako to go to a doctor or anywhere near a medical facility dahil dito, yun tipong wala ka na tiwala sa kanila.

But, I shall not fear the worst, because I know the good Lord will not leave me. Mga mommies, have a blessed Sunday po! We are so blessed to have our angels in our lives. We are complete.
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Re: My baby died when he was only 22 days old. I only saw him ..dead...
« Reply #26 on: October 10, 2010, 03:49:29 pm »

sis ameerstouch finally natapos ko rin basahin letter mo, i started reading it kagabi kaso nag-iiyak ako kaya inawat na ako ng father ko baka mabinat ako. kapapanganak ko lang din.

Ang lungkot ng pinagdaanan mo sis at sa baby boy mo. Kung anjan lang ako i would hug so you tight. But all we have is SP so thank you for sharing this to us and we are just here for you. Sis agree ako sa suggestion na isulat mo yan sa abs o gma, sa imbestigador, wish ko lang, rated k, failon ngayon etc. for sure pakikinggan ka nila.

Don't loose your faith to God sis, everything has a reason. Magtiwala ka sa kanya, tutulungan ka niya..balang araw magkakaroon din ng hustisya at kasagutan ang lahat. Hugs and kisses  :)
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« Reply #27 on: October 10, 2010, 07:51:25 pm »

chimendoza09, sis, thank you. wow, may new bundle of joy ka. i hate to say this pero na iingit ako sa mga may newborns ngayon. Sabik na sabik kasi ako magka baby ulit. in time, pag stable na ulit kami, gusto namin magka anak ulit. May takot ako about having another baby, pero there's something inside me saying na I must have another baby. I don't know, pero siguro di ko na enjoy 2 boys ko when they were babies kasi lagi ako nagwowork, juggling 2 jobs, tapos pag uwi ko i need to sleep. kay ngayon gustong gusto ko ma-feel yun. I thought I would get that chance with Ameer.

Take care of yourself sis and your new baby. God Bless You.
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Re: My baby died when he was only 22 days old. I only saw him ..dead...
« Reply #28 on: October 10, 2010, 09:58:35 pm »

@ sis ameerstouch;

Welcome to SP sis!

Thank you for sharing your story with us, sis. I'm saddened and moved into tears. Nilagay ko yung sarili ko sa iyo at talagang nanikip yung dibdib ko, naramdaman ko rin yung galit mo at that time.

Those people just don't understand. Puro lang sila pera. Nakakalungkot kase totoo palang may mga ganong ospital. Ang akala ko, mas importante ang buhay ng tao kaysa sa pera pagdating sa mga medical professionals na tulad nila. Hindi rin pala.

I'm really sorry, sis.  I know it still hurts and i don't want to rub it in.. kayalang, naiiyak talaga ako eh (sorry ha).

Don't worry sis, hindi lang batas ang maniningil sa kanila, bibigyan din sila ng leksyon ng Panginoon natin.

And to your baby boy: Baby, lagi mong bantayan ang mommy, daddy, siblings and grandparents mo ha. Ikaw na ang guardian angel nila.  ;)

Sis, you came to the right place. Your SP family will always be here for you. Thanks again for entrusting your story with us.

God bless you sis! *Yakap ng mahigpit*
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Re: My baby died when he was only 22 days old. I only saw him ..dead...
« Reply #29 on: October 10, 2010, 10:08:54 pm »

i really fell sorry for your loss..

pero mali naman at sobrang di makatarungan yun ginawa nila..
i know some people who can help you if you are willing to go to them..si tulfo sis, u watch bitag sa untv everyday around 9:30 sis, madami nagsusumbong dun..may araw sila ng sumbungan, tingnan ko bukas hotline at website nila..meron din sa radyo,punta personally dun station, i assist ka nila, wanted sa radyo 558 frequency..raffy tulfo naman host siya nakakausap kay mendoza yung sa hostage sa luneta..everyday din un mga 2 to 5 ata..







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