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Re: My baby died when he was only 22 days old. I only saw him ..dead...
« Reply #30 on: October 10, 2010, 10:37:44 pm »

after reading your story sis ..
napaiyak talaga ako..
its very painful..
wala akong mai-advice kase parang affected din ako sa situation mu ..

iba naman yung sakin ,,,
3 months palang yung baby ko ngayon,,
and this year aalis ako papuntang japan para mag-work
andun kase yung mother ko..
pag naaalala ko yung pag-alis ko..
niisip ko si baby na parang di ko yata kaya na iwan siya ,
gabi-gabi nalang umiiyak ako bago matulog sa tuwing naaalala ko yun ,,,

pero wala naman ako magagawa ,,
kailangan kong maging practical para sa future ni baby
pero iba talaga ang pagmamahal ng ina sa anak niya ..
first time mom ako kaya ngaun ko lang naramdaman to,

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Re: My baby died when he was only 22 days old. I only saw him ..dead...
« Reply #31 on: October 10, 2010, 10:56:37 pm »

Sis,

I'm sorry for your loss...For sure your little Angel is happy with God and knowing na mahal na mahal mo sya.
hindi ko na binasa yung ibang comments ng mga sis natin. Parang sasabog na rin ang dibdib ko. Napaka unfair talaga! hindi dapat ganun ang treatment nila lalo na kung buhay ang nakasalalay. Dont worry sis...mabibigyan mo rin ng justice ang baby mo. Taga Antipolo Sumulong pa naman ako....grrr. Basta sis be strong not only for yourself but for your kids na rin. Andito lang kami mga mommies handang makinig sayo at magbigay ng payo. Pray ka lang sis...hindi ka niya pababayaan.
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« Reply #32 on: October 10, 2010, 11:19:37 pm »

Awww, mommy naiyak ako sa story mo.. :'( Although I'm not in your shoes, I can feel your pain. Just be strong mommy, your little angel is watching you from above, look on the brightside since you still have your other kids with you and you need to be strong for them too. Easier said than done pero we have to move on, God has a plan for everything, believe it or not I've experienced unfair treatment from a hospital also when my mom got sick, until now we're still paying our debt (they didn't let my mom out until my cousin signed a note na we will pay it monthly) kahit na my mom was long gone. Nakakainis to think na hindi na rin nila binibigyan ng any care ang mom ko kasi di na rin kami makabayad, sana pinauwi na lang nila kami, I mean what's the point of staying pa kung wala ka din namang nakukuhang care from them?! I guess they really had to re-evaluate their policies. Until now, I don't even want to think of that hospital, kasumpa sumpa, diyos na bahala sa kanila. I hope justice will be serve to you mommy. I wish you well, keep the faith. A tight hug for you..
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Re: My baby died when he was only 22 days old. I only saw him ..dead...
« Reply #33 on: October 10, 2010, 11:46:37 pm »

Sis naiyak talaga ako dun sa story mo. nahirapan ako tapusin yung story mo dahil d ko mapigil ang pg iyak. sobrang nakakalungkot yung nagyari at the same time nakakainis yung ginawa nung hospital sayo. dapat talaga sila turuan ng leksyon. hospitals are supposed to save lives. pero sila parang hindi yun yung pangunahing goal nila. dapat sa mga hospital na ganyan pinapasara na. hay...dont know what to say talaga d ko mabigil ang d mainis...basta sis, just always have faith in God. kahit anong problem naman maoovercome natin if we have faith. i will pray for you to win this battle. just be strong. :-*
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Re: My baby died when he was only 22 days old. I only saw him ..dead...
« Reply #34 on: October 11, 2010, 11:22:03 am »

sis yhamsloveŽ,I know na my baby is guiding us everyday. If you only knew ano mga dreams ko about him at night. Minsan nakikita ko siya, na hahawakan... nakakusap. Alam mo ba, I had a dream once nasa Chowking daw kami sa Eastwood pa! And I was ordering food sa counter, bigla siya pumiglas sa akin and he said to me "Mommy, alis na muna ako ha..." in a very soft voice. And I said 'teka anak, antayin mo ako", and I grabbed my purse from the counter and turned to go after him, bigla siya nawala... dun ako na gising. Na iyak ako when I woke up. I wanted to dream about him again and again. There was another one, na nasa incubator daw siya in a nursery full of incubators. And the doctor who was watching the nursery, said "gusto mo ba makita anak mo?, eto tignan mo na" and nakalapit ako and there I saw my baby.... his face, him crying...... hay ... again na iyak ako sa pag gising ko.
May dahilan din ang Diyos kung bakit kinuha niya anak ko sa akin. I just have to trust him.* Salamar sa yakap.

sis leilatoto, I did send a letter via email dun sa email address na kita ko sa Tv show. kaso walang reply. Hindi ako maka punta kasi ayaw ng mama ko. Dapat noon ko pa ginawa yon. Perobaka di ko na papakinggan mama ko about it, I want to find justice. If you can get that hotline for me I'de be really grateful.

sis youngmom18, it is scary being a new mom lalo na when you are uncertain about what the future holds. Pero that is what makes us stronger. Ang dami ko pagkakamali in the past as a new mom pero I don't regret those mistakes kasi, it made me stronger and wiser. And it made me trulu understand what a mother is. Ang hirap iiwan ang nak sis. When I began working kasi may anak na ako, ayaw ko pumasok minsan. Gusto ko lang siya katabi...kayakap. Pag nasa office ako, I would remember him cry... pero we work kasi we need to provide them with a better future than what we had recieved good or not. I admire your courage pag punta Japan to work. Pero sana give it some time kasi 3 months lang baby mo. I never had the chance to enjoy my middle child kasi 2 month lang siya wala na ako lagi sa house. Nung ng 3 years old lang siya dun ko siya na enjoy at dun lang kami naging super close. I regret not being able to enjoy him being a baby. Sis, this is the moment you should be here muna for your child.I don't know your situation pero I know the feeling of regret in not being able to treasure this chance.

sis anerba :)
, I just hope my baby knows how sorry I am for not being a better mother. I know I am not a good mother yet pero I know I am a mother who would give her life para lang sa mga anak niya. Sana alam niya na I had big dreams for him. I will try to be strong as days and years come... para lang sa mga anak ko.

sis mainymaine, Alam mo, sana I was given that option, to pay the hospital monthly than them detaining me and my son's corpse. I would gladly accept it. MOney kasi isn't a major issue. Hindi lang ako makakilos before kasi I was preganant and incapable of magaing my kids and teh house, kaya pati partner ko had to stop working or else ewan ko na lang what would have happened sa amin.If they didn't treat us that way, if they sincerely took care of my son, if they didn't treat us like uneducated, ignorant people I would have gladly find a way to pay them kasi they gave the medical attention I expected and had the right to recieve. Kaso hindi eh. Tru sis, ang Diyos na lang ang bahala sa kanila. Sana dun sa Ob-gyne at Pedia na yun, sana buhay pa conscience niyo. Pati anak niyo nasa loob ng operating room nanunuod. yun anak nun isa pa nag inject sa akin ng anesthesia (with the dad monitoring of course). Sana lang kung dream nila maging doctors din mga anak nila, maging good examples sila and not good examples of money making doctors.

sis sweetlorry, their motto is "a hospital that truly cares". I really don't know if they know the meaning of care. My main intention is to have them reprimanded. Magsara muna, ayusin nila facilities and system/protocol nila and then open again. I don't wish them anything bad. I can never wish anyone harm kahit ano pa.My faith had returned and I know now to trust him whole heartedly without fear.

Mga sis, I'm sorry sa mga di ko na replyan kasi medyo patago pag post ko dito. Mama mo may pagka curious laging silip ng silip sa ginagawa ko sa computer. I don't want my mom to know that I am opening up na. She doesn't like us telling anyone and everyone about how we feel or our problems. Pero di ko na kasi kaya. Sasabog na ako with all the pain in me.   
Kaya again I am thankful sa inyong lahat. I never expected to recieve such heart warming responses. You guys give me motivate me to be a better mother and a better person din. Thank You.
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Re: My baby died when he was only 22 days old. I only saw him ..dead...
« Reply #35 on: October 11, 2010, 11:48:53 am »

@ameerstouch: naku mommy, pa-hug *hug* di na kita na hug the last time. i was too focused on what actions could do (against that hospital), na i forgot how to comfort you. *sorry*

as to finding a way to release your thoughts and emotions, really mommy, the mommies here are super kind and non-judgmental. i found my refuge here as well, and with these kind of group, you are not only comforted, we give each other hope, we give each other help, in as little and as important, as listening.

we prayed for you last night, baby and i. we'll pray for your mama as well, pati si partner mo, and your 2 kids. they might need solace too. everybody's hurting and everybody's trying to move on....pero i know, everybody's hurting. in time mommy, aayos din lahat. wag mong ikulong ang feelings mo....and pray to God always. di man natin maintindihan kung bakit nangyari ang mga nangyari, pero laging may magandang dahilan...di pa lang natin alam.

try reading the book "the fifth mountain" by paolo coelho. it has helped me. maybe it could give you some help as well. :)

god bless you and your family.  :-*
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Re: My baby died when he was only 22 days old. I only saw him ..dead...
« Reply #36 on: October 11, 2010, 12:48:00 pm »

@ ameerstouch:  mommy, be strong...have faith...i dont know what more to say...cry hard and pray hard...God is listening...
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Re: My baby died when he was only 22 days old. I only saw him ..dead...
« Reply #37 on: October 11, 2010, 02:24:47 pm »

Sad story Mommy :(...tears keep flowing on my eyes.. i can feel the pain in you. God is good all the time, he wont give those trials if you cant overcome. Every problem has its on solution. Just hold tight and never ever doubt on God's greatness. Surrender your sufferings to him and soon he will give you reliefs. May God bless you always and your family.
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Re: My baby died when he was only 22 days old. I only saw him ..dead...
« Reply #38 on: October 11, 2010, 02:40:37 pm »

send u Pm sis..God bless..keep the faith in our God..di ka niya papabayaan..
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Re: My baby died when he was only 22 days old. I only saw him ..dead...
« Reply #39 on: October 12, 2010, 04:19:51 pm »

@funnyarte: Yun lang hinahanap ko for so many months .... someone to listen to what I have to say and how I feel. It's been tough claming everything inside. It has made me feel very helpless and depressed and just not motibated to mingle with people anymore unlike before. Sana the hurt would fade in time and replace it with much happiness. For whatever reason God allowed this to happen, I now trust in his judgement. He wouldn't have allowed this kung walang magandang dahilan. I'll look for that book sis. Thanks so much for your prayers.

@TineNiItoy: I make sure na I cry really hard para malabas lahat. And then I pray in silence. Kaso everynight na lang yung crying hard eh. I just can't stop.

@Liane: I am holding on tight. God's will be done.

@leilatoto: Thanks

Mga mommies, salamat ulit. Salamat sa mga prayers na I just really really needed. Prayers are powerful and I know sa tulong ninyo, magiging ok na ako at kaming lahat at maayos na din problema na to. Thank you for making me stronger right now as I still endure each day as is.
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Re: My baby died when he was only 22 days old. I only saw him ..dead...
« Reply #40 on: October 12, 2010, 04:39:12 pm »

oh my! this story made me cry... *warm tight hug* i feel your pain as a mom... i am now on my 6th month of pregnancy with my 3rd baby as well with my current hubby as i have 2 kids by a previous marriage. i don't know where and how to begin expressing what i'm feeling right now... sobrang sakit ng nangyari sayo... and thank you for entrusting your story with us... first of all, ang unang advice ko is stop blaming yourself... wala ka naging kasalanan. lack of financial resources is not your fault. 2nd, pray, tirelessly, offer your pain, lift up everything to HIM, laking tulong sis. God always watches over us at hindi tayo pinababayaan. everything that happens to us happens for a reason. at hindi ibibigay ni God yun kung alam Niyang hindi kakayanin. wag ka lang mapagod ng kaka-pray and have faith. we'll also pray for you, for emotional healing. as for your legal fight, go for it sis. yes, it will not bring back your baby, but it will give justice. hindi katwiran ang kakulangan ng pera para tratuhin kayo ng ganun. at bawal yung pag hold nila sa inyo dahil kulang ang pera niyo. ang daming na violate ng hospital na yan. suggestion ko, lumapit ka sa CHR, PAO and if you know someone na mailalapit ka sa ABS or GMA para ma-media yang hayup na ospital na yan
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Re: My baby died when he was only 22 days old. I only saw him ..dead...
« Reply #41 on: October 12, 2010, 04:56:55 pm »

hi mommy ameerstouch, i sympathize with you and what happened to your baby..:( it was a very sad event really. i'll be praying for you too.. please know that God does allow hurtful things to happen to us at times to make us strong.. and in that strength, we may find courage to face more difficult trials in the future.. but that the Lord is also a Lord of comfort.. in Him we can find peace..

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1 God is our refuge and strength,
       an ever-present help in trouble.

 2 Therefore we will not fear, though the earth give way
       and the mountains fall into the heart of the sea,

 3 though its waters roar and foam
       and the mountains quake with their surging.

 4 There is a river whose streams make glad the city of God,
       the holy place where the Most High dwells.

 5 God is within her, she will not fall;
       God will help her at break of day.

 6 Nations are in uproar, kingdoms fall;
       he lifts his voice, the earth melts.

 7 The LORD Almighty is with us;
       the God of Jacob is our fortress.
       Selah

 8 Come and see the works of the LORD,
       the desolations he has brought on the earth.

 9 He makes wars cease to the ends of the earth;
       he breaks the bow and shatters the spear,
       he burns the shields with fire.

 10 "Be still, and know that I am God;
       I will be exalted among the nations,
       I will be exalted in the earth."

 11 The LORD Almighty is with us;
       the God of Jacob is our fortress.

Psalm 46

you'll be in my prayers sis.. hope you can also find help with the case against the hospital.. God bless!
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Re: My baby died when he was only 22 days old. I only saw him ..dead...
« Reply #42 on: October 12, 2010, 05:00:53 pm »

@ameerstouch - >hugs< sis. I know no amount of words can really erase the pain that you felt and still feels, with regards to the lost of your baby. Even though you didn't get to hold your baby in your arms when he was still alive. Just think now, he is with Jesus and his angels and Jesus is carrying him and holding him in His arms.
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Re: My baby died when he was only 22 days old. I only saw him ..dead...
« Reply #43 on: October 13, 2010, 06:56:51 pm »

@ameerstouch > wala masama sa pag-iyak, mas okei nga yun narerelease mo ang pain kahit gaano pa ka onti. mas maloloka ka kapag tinago mo lang yan sa loob mo, kaya buti nalang din at ni-share mo dito yan. in time, the scar will be there, but the pain will be lessened. may times na nawawala ang trust natin kay God but He will still find a way para bumalik tayo sa Kanya. kakayanin mo yan sis. malakas ka. ;)

Mother Theresa once said, "If you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt,only more love"
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« Reply #44 on: October 13, 2010, 07:59:23 pm »

sis I'm afraid to read your story..kase yung title pa lang for sure heart breaking ito para sa ating mga mom!

will read it later......

hugs for you!guide your mommy little angel!
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