my baby is just 5yo. i am a single parent, and thankfully, hindi naman sya palasagot, kasi 'tono' pa lang ng sagot, nasisita ko na. he's extremely talkative, so may tendency that he would reason, on and on, and on....before following something. he needs to understand the logic behind the instruction before he does something and when he doesn't want to do something, ang galing din naman mag-rason.
hopefully, ganito lang sya hanggang sa lumaki sya. i want to keep an honest, open, amiable and yet respectful communication with my son, although sometimes, yung temper talaga nandyan. ako pa rin naman ang super hero niya, so i get his adoration and love...siguro kapag hindi na, mahirap na rin silang i-parent.
when i hear him say something not nice, i immediately correct him, and say gently ...
me: 'baby, that's not nice. you're mad at me?
him: no. i didn't shout naman ah. i didn't say...'mommy, why do you do that?!!!!'
me: you didn't shout? but why is your voice so loud? i can hear naman ah.. you want mommy to talk to you in a loud voice also, like you?
him: no.
me: so, what do you do?
him: talk softly.
me: really? promise?
him: yes.
me: and...? what will you say?
him: i'm sorry mom for shouting. i'm not mad.
littlest sign of rebellion, like raising their voice, or yung sinasabihan mo tapos sa iba nakatingin, i re-direct his attention to me, and talk to him. ayoko kasi talaga ng palasagot na bata. mainitin ang ulo, baka masaktan ko sya, kapag sinagot-sagot niya ako.
