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torn

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Challenge to Single Moms..Let's move on together...
« on: November 26, 2010, 10:06:45 pm »

Hi Single Mommies

Gusto ko ichallenge sarili ko at kayo na din kung ano yung mga nagawa niyo today to move on with your lives without SD. Positive reinforcement lang ng mga nagawa natin kahit small things lang.

Here's mine:
I managed to get up for work yesterday kahit alam ko I'll see both of them (SD and GF)
I have not looked at their FB account for a month already
I have not texted SD (kahit kating kati na daliri ko)  for a week ngayong may sakit si baby at nagsusuka dahil sa ubo
I kept on managing to pretend na hangin/istatwa lang sila everytime makasabay ko sila.

Dadagdagan ko pa to next week. I know I'll be better each and everyday=)

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Re: Challenge to Single Moms..Let's move on together...
« Reply #1 on: November 26, 2010, 10:16:56 pm »

We will be behind you mare...
with all our prayers!...

kayang-kaya yan!
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Re: Challenge to Single Moms..Let's move on together...
« Reply #2 on: November 26, 2010, 10:42:03 pm »

Sali ako.

1. dying to view his FB account but I never did for more than a month.
2. Not texting him anything even about baby.
3. ignoring anything I her about their wedding from our friends (pasok sa isang tenga, labas sa kabila)

Kaya natin to mommy ;) I'll post again din next week ;D
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Re: Challenge to Single Moms..Let's move on together...
« Reply #3 on: December 03, 2010, 07:23:23 pm »

-Not in pain anymore pag nakikita ko sila. Indifferent.
-Hindi ko na sila cinucurse sa isip ko. Hindi ako galit. Indifferent.
-The other night nagtext si SD skin ng ingat kami lagi ni baby. Deadma ako. Indifferent.
-Pag kumakain kami sabay-sabay sa pantry deadma din ako. Kain lang ng kain. Lalo na pag masarap food. Magsubuan pa kayong dalawa diyan. Basta ako kakain at susubo ng malaki. Hehe. Indifferent.

Sana-sana tuloy-tuloy na ako sa pagiging indifferent ko.  ;D
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Re: Challenge to Single Moms..Let's move on together...
« Reply #4 on: December 03, 2010, 07:55:18 pm »

* being firmed in declining everytime he asked me to go out and do the old stuff.
* its been 5mos since i saw him. its also a struggle kasi im always kating kati na etext o tawagan siya either para inisin o maglambing..
* i cant help na silipin FB niya at ng wife niya

the biggest challenge siguro eh yung wag na siya isipin o silipin ang FB..nagawa ko siya wag etext o kausapin  for the past few months but once nagparamdam siya uli i easily give in  :)
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Re: Challenge to Single Moms..Let's move on together...
« Reply #5 on: December 05, 2010, 08:57:58 am »

* ignoring the feelings that i felt everytime he texted me sweet nothings..
* can't help to check his fb too
* feelings of unattachechment

haay, eventhough it's really hard, we really need to move on and accept the things we can't change..

let's be strong.. kaya natin to mga single moms..

in God's perfect time, everything will be fine..
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Re: Challenge to Single Moms..Let's move on together...
« Reply #6 on: December 05, 2010, 09:30:47 am »

alam niyo mommies akala ko dati yung pagtexttext niya may meaning. Antagal ko nagpadala. Pero in the end wala din. Iwan din sa ere. So yung mga text na ganyan wala lang talaga yan (unless ofcourse accompanied by actions). Dapat iignore kung hanggang text lang at wala naman ginagawa para tuparin mga sinasabi sa text. Pero tanong ko lang mommies bakit naman kaya ganun SDs? I mean bakit kailangan pa magtext at magpaasa diba e wala naman na pala talaga balak panagutan tayo????Lahat ng SD kaya ganun? insensitive at inconsiderate.....
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Re: Challenge to Single Moms..Let's move on together...
« Reply #7 on: December 05, 2010, 09:44:39 am »

haay.. ewan ko nga ba, hindi naman sila magkakakilala pero pareparehas sila.. hahaha..  ;D

may mga tao lang talaga siguro na mga paasa.. hindi na sila nakuntento na saktan tayo, pinapaasa pa at ang daming promises but in the end, hindi naman nila tinutupad and of course, hurt us even more..

smile mommy torn!

naniniwala pa rin ako sa karma.. hihi..  :D
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Re: Challenge to Single Moms..Let's move on together...
« Reply #8 on: December 05, 2010, 03:02:32 pm »

@torn,
I don't think they are trying to make paasa pa. Tayo lang ang nagbibigay meaning sa mga texts nila.
Example ko lang yung friend ko, crush niya yung isang classmate namin. This classmate is just trying to make friends with us all kaya he sends us sweet messages. Kala nun friend ko sya lang sinisendan nun yun pala lahat kami sinisendan  ::) Maybe madami syang load and he "SEND TO ALL" kaya nasasama pa tayo sa mga texts nila.

Or baka isa syang sobrang samang tao, gusto ka lang nyang itorture. Wag ka mag patorture, dear  :)
Change your number so he wont be able to text you.
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Re: Challenge to Single Moms..Let's move on together...
« Reply #9 on: December 05, 2010, 05:11:26 pm »



uhmm sis Torn...

you mean lage mo sila nakikita everyday? with the gf?

mahirap nga yon.. pero support kami jan..
single momdin ako.. and i know what it feels...
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Re: Challenge to Single Moms..Let's move on together...
« Reply #10 on: December 06, 2010, 06:01:37 pm »

thank you mommies. yes lagi ko sila nakikita. monday to saturday yun.

@mommy ilovegabe hindi naman po forwarded text niya na parang galing lang sa crush ko hehe. specific text niya for me na hindi siya masaya at ask niya kung tatanggapin pa ba namin siya ni baby. Accompanied by paghaltak niya sa braso ko nung magkasalubong kami sa lobby na hindi niya kasama si GF at tanong niya kung bakit hindi ko reply text niya. Siyempre sinabi ko after alll ng ginawa niya........hindiiiii!!!!So ayun isang sabi ko lang ng hindi tumigil na at wala nang ginawa. Pati si baby kinalimutan na.  :-\ Kinabukasan ayun parang walang nangyari at may I parada as usual sila ni GF sa harap ko. Hay talaga naman mga taong yun oo. Sarap patirin ;D

Madami pa nangyari na ayoko na ikuwento dito kasi may plan talaga is to move on. And I don't see any hope anymore. Hindi na din ako umaasa. gusto ko lang talaga makamove on. haysst. Anyways, thank you mommies. Lahat ng posts niyo words of encouragement yun sakin. Isip ko kung kinakaya niyo, kaya ko din. May God bless us all :)
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Re: Challenge to Single Moms..Let's move on together...
« Reply #11 on: December 06, 2010, 06:14:01 pm »

alam niyo mommies akala ko dati yung pagtexttext niya may meaning. Antagal ko nagpadala. Pero in the end wala din. Iwan din sa ere. So yung mga text na ganyan wala lang talaga yan (unless ofcourse accompanied by actions). Dapat iignore kung hanggang text lang at wala naman ginagawa para tuparin mga sinasabi sa text. Pero tanong ko lang mommies bakit naman kaya ganun SDs? I mean bakit kailangan pa magtext at magpaasa diba e wala naman na pala talaga balak panagutan tayo????Lahat ng SD kaya ganun? insensitive at inconsiderate.....

super agree torn  ;)

ako siguro medyo malayo na naachieve ko :)
- i stop googling his GF :) 1 year na
-stop viewing his FB account and totally blocked him
-the last time he text telling me na nasiraan yung sasakyan niya etc etc.. i just reply 'OK" :d di ko kelangan na mkipagkwentuhan sa kanya sayang load :D before kasi super dooper reply pa... and sumasakay pa ako sa pagflirt niya, and at the back of my mind kawawa naman GF mo :)
-hindi ko na sya naiisip  ;) and hindi na sya kasama sa picture namin ni baby  :)

BTW, my son will turn 2 this april :)
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« Reply #12 on: December 06, 2010, 11:09:43 pm »

thats the only thing left for me, hope... not necessarily hope na magkabalikan kami kasi its not gonna happen, but instead hope that something good will turn out after all this pain.

i never hated my sd nor condemn him with what happened to us kaya walang bitterness or bittersweet ending.
minsan nakakatuwa rin patulan ang mga text niya, then paikutin din minsan minsan...
oo masakit pa rin pag my mga nakikita sa FB but thats part of the reality that im taking.

i told my self kung di rin lang naman si sd o yung isa ko pang ex, di bali single ako, dadagdagan ko na lang baby ko.. i just cant imagine my self kissing another guy, ewww just the mere thought of dating or going out kinakatamaran ko na.
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Re: Challenge to Single Moms..Let's move on together...
« Reply #13 on: December 13, 2010, 10:19:29 pm »

Sali ako dito, parang medyo naiyak ako sa ibang posts ah? hehe, hay, sd ko din ganyan dati everyday nagtetext tapos ngayon once a week and then twice a month, ayaw ko na sana magreply pero ewan ko ba, gusto ko nga magpalit ng number kaso naman ang tagal tagal na ng number ko at ayaw ko naman magbago, siya na lang. Ang hirap din kasi alam ko yung mga email accounts niya though iniba na niya yung fb login niya, pero minsan gusto ko pa rin silipsilipin, tapos after naman nun nag memega iyak ako pati sa paguwi, ni cocompose ko lang sarili ko para hindi ma feel ng baby ko yung sadness and loneliness na na fifeel ko.
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Re: Challenge to Single Moms..Let's move on together...
« Reply #14 on: December 14, 2010, 03:42:44 pm »

  Join ako.. 

     My ways to move on:
      * Nag stop na akong mag text sa kanya. Kahit tungkol sa baby hindi na ako nag text ( sabagay sa if na he
            cares )
      * All the stuff that reminds him inalis ko na sa paningin ko. Kasi everytime na may nakikita ako I can't help 
             it but may mga memories akong naaalala.
      *  Yung mga picture namin sa cellphone ko inerase ko na.
      * Im trying not to think of him. Kasi everytime na naiisip ko siya hay naku na hihigh blood  ako at
             naiisip ko lahat ng mga pinaggagawa niya sa akin and  how he bacame irresponsible to my son!
      * Dati I'll never stop dreaming and hoping  that one day we will live happily ever after but now.. STOP na
            ng pa fairytale effect ko. It's obvious that my SD is starting his new life without me and my son. So
            GISING na ko!
       * I'll always keep telling to my self that I need to move on and be strong for all challenges comes to
           my Life.. 
       *  FOCUS AND START A NEW CHAPTER OF MY LIFE WITH GABRIEL...

                                       GO..GO..GO.... FIGHT !! FIGHT !!! FIGHT !!!


 
 
                                             
                   
         
 
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