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nathzkimeme

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Re: Challenge to Single Moms..Let's move on together...
« Reply #105 on: December 10, 2011, 12:13:38 am »

Just wanted to share my story: [at para din maglabas din ng sama ng loob] :)

I was very much inlove with an indie film director and we were going steady for a year in a half. We had an on and off relationship when i got a job at a very known agency in makati and he felt that i didnt have enough time for him. Till finally we got back together for the last time and promised to make our relationship work. We were so happy together to only find out that i got pregnant, I was so happy until he told me to abort our baby. He said that if i kept the baby, i would lose him and if i aborted it; he'll still be in my life. I resented him so much because i saw my future with him even before we became an item, i saw myself walking down the aisle and waking up every morning with his face next to mine. I was so hurt and sought help from his family, i told them my case and his sister at first was siding with me; but to no avail, blood is always thicker than water finally shunned me aside and washed her hands clean of my unborn child.
I then found out that he started dating his ex girlfriend and made a big farce about how i was sleeping around with a lot of men and knowing how thomasian girls are, we swoon over men. I hated them both and out of that hate and anger, the pain ate me and i almost had a miscarriage during my 3rd month. He was dismayed to know that i was still carrying and wished that my baby had a defect. It was such a disgust to have a child with me and he resents ever getting into a relationship with me. He couldnt believe that he left his ex-gf for me. Hearing such hurtful words from a person you loved ever so dearly, fought for, gave everything to; just ate me up and thus i decided to move on. Have my baby and leave the country for good as soon as i give birth. I was raised by a single mother that fought tooth and nail for my happiness and supported my dreams till my graduation day. I may have never wished or imagined myself to be a single mother, but I can daresay that I have the courage and strength to do every possible right decision that came my way.
I am now on my third trimester and counting the weeks till i see my handsome baby boy, the donor by the way messaged me after so long, asking about how i was, how my pregnancy has been shaping up and how he wanted to see me. i simply sent him a message stating that he knew where i worked, he knew where i lived, he knew my friends, he knew how to reach me, he knew my work schedule. He could easily find me but he just chose not to, so why say that he wanted to see me if he couldve made an effort. It just angers me that there are still cowardly jerks out and about the city crawling with their tails between their legs. I just wish the films that he makes will never see the light of the indie scenes ever again. :) I just hope that every inch of pain, sacrifice and hurt i felt will return to him 100x more.
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A reaction also coming from a Single Mom
« Reply #106 on: March 16, 2012, 12:36:03 am »

You know what girls? as a newbie here, reading some of the topics and comments from the commons, we girls need to move on with our lives and focus on our little ones. Some here stay and experienced emotional conflicts from  their own partners. I don't see the value of respect we should be receiving for God's sake. I have experienced the worst and tragic situations from my ex and entered the world of martyrdom! Glad I am free.


If you think 100x and your partner is not worth fighting for & would complicate you & your baby's life.
"It's a better-without-him scenario!"


I wish us girls, A happy life!

Life is short. Enjoy! ;D
« Last Edit: March 16, 2012, 09:39:04 am by Tiger Lily »
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Re: A reaction also coming from a Single Mom
« Reply #107 on: March 16, 2012, 01:26:32 am »

happy for you sis!mabuhay ka! i wish more and more women would be like you. focus on your little one and yourself. seek help from your support system (family,friends and even society).

happy women's month!
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Re: A reaction also coming from a Single Mom
« Reply #108 on: March 16, 2012, 04:07:07 am »

my motto: It's better to be single and wishing you weren't, than to be in a relationship and wishing you were single..

single with a child in our case. I know it's hard sometimes to be single kasi you have no one to share some emo moments with, pero i've been through a 4 year relationship with my baby daddy, and i'm glad that he's out of my life,  of course case to case basis din to, i'm happy for some couples na happy and living in harmony etc, im also hoping that someday may ma meet ako na that would make me truly happy, pero if palagi nag aaway and just staying just for the sake of their children, hinde ko yun gusto mangyari saken, i don't want to be in a toxic and helpless situation which is what I felt nung nagsasama pa kami ni baby daddy, im just glad that my mom intervened  ;D although mahirap din kasama mom ko, mas kaya ko sya ma tolerate kesa kay ex.
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Re: A reaction also coming from a Single Mom
« Reply #109 on: March 16, 2012, 05:43:44 am »

Congrats mga mommies! Fighting!! ^_^
« Last Edit: March 16, 2012, 09:39:50 am by Tiger Lily »
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Re: A reaction also coming from a Single Mom
« Reply #110 on: March 16, 2012, 11:20:39 am »

Good luck sa atin mga mommies..  ;)
Mahirap na masarap ang maging single mom.
Everyday laging may lesson, just like yesterday tinanong ako ng teacher ng anak ko kung nasan daddy niya Hindi ko napaghandaan ang tanong :( bigla ako na blanko  :D feeling ko kasi lahat naman ng nasa paligid ko alam na single mom ako, bigla ko naisip dapat from the start pa lang sinabi ko na sa teacher niya na im a single parent para hindi na siya magtatanong.. kasalan ko rin naman :)
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Re: Challenge to Single Moms..Let's move on together...
« Reply #111 on: March 16, 2012, 11:31:52 am »

Same topics merged.
This thread should be used for inspiration and motivation posts and replies regarding Moving On for Single Moms.
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Re: Challenge to Single Moms..Let's move on together...
« Reply #112 on: March 16, 2012, 11:49:31 am »

when people ask you where the Dad is, don't fret. you don't owe them any explanation.  ;D
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Re: Challenge to Single Moms..Let's move on together...
« Reply #113 on: March 16, 2012, 10:33:36 pm »

Hey Hot Single Mommas!

From what I have experienced, finally I can say that I want a change as in CHANGE EVERYTHING in my life.
I forgot to love myself in 2 years being committed with my stupid ex. He tried to manage the relationship, but in the end I think nothing will happen GOOD! I am 19 and he was 21, we are not mature enough pero mas mataas naman ang level din ng maturity ko instead his..

About his current status, I really have no idea and not bothered to check our fb at all. He sends me a text sometimes (nag babakasakali siguro, my txtback pa sa huli eh haha) but you see, Im enjoying using my pride as of now and I'm happy with that.
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Re: Challenge to Single Moms..Let's move on together...
« Reply #114 on: April 20, 2012, 12:50:58 pm »

Hi Sisses! Currently creating my support group. Just a few days ago, hubby told me na magpapahinga muna siya at ayaw na niya. Sobra akong napahiya nung sinabihan niya akong "Di ko ba daw kaya na wala siya". Siya na dito ang may kasalanan, siya pa ang nagmamalaki. Pero tulad ng gusto niya, I gave him the freedom na hiningi niya. Masakit sa kin at tina-try ko na magmove on at ifocus sa anak ko ang attensyon ko. Sa ngayon, di na ko nagtetext sa kanya actually deadma rin naman siya. Nasasaktan pa rin ako..
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Re: Challenge to Single Moms..Let's move on together...
« Reply #115 on: April 27, 2012, 05:39:08 am »

I wanted to move on... hirap na hirap na din ako.  :'(
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Re: Challenge to Single Moms..Let's move on together...
« Reply #116 on: May 15, 2012, 08:20:23 am »

I'm back.....

Fortunately, I can say ok na ako than before.
1.  Since last August, no communication -- so that's good.
2.  No more stalking on his online accounts. Hahaha. Better person na to realize there are much more important and better things to do than be "updated" on him.
3.  When you busy yourself with work or other income-generating activity, it actually helps you more to focus on your priorities.  Pag super busy ka na, you won't have time for petty, non-productive things, kasi your time and your efforts should revolve for you and your kid.

Moving on, is largely based on a DECISION, then prayers, kasi God will pave the way for you to heal and give you opportunities to see the world as bigger, and our hurts, smaller, comparable to what others are dealing with. In time, we will learn to "learn" and heal.

Congratulations on those who are still trying and working on this. Congratulations on the efforts. Don't give up. Life does not end here, better things will come, if only we are open for it.
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Re: Challenge to Single Moms..Let's move on together...
« Reply #117 on: May 15, 2012, 01:17:33 pm »

weeh pa join super relate... just last week I've let him go, burst all my hatreds to him and said to him ''Sorry, had to end this. It's not working anymore and I'm not happy anymore.'' He's just one hell of a jerk. sana makapag-move on na din ako totally cause until now we're exchanging emails still fighting over things.
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Re: Challenge to Single Moms..Let's move on together...
« Reply #118 on: May 17, 2012, 11:22:07 am »

super nakakarelate ako mga kapatid....
****DATI halos magpakamatay ako sa ama ng anak ko, NGAYON....natatwa na lang kami pareho...and take note we are now friends, exchanging texts/quotes to each other.We are now happy with our new lives now. me with my fiance and HIm with his GF..

Thanking God that weve both moved on totally already.Kahit di kami nagkatuluyan, Happy naman anak ko kasi sometimes nakay Daddy sya, sometimes na kay Mommy sya...


****God will give us the best and that is absolutely /100% sure....:) :)
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Re: Challenge to Single Moms..Let's move on together...
« Reply #119 on: May 21, 2012, 09:49:03 am »

mga sissies... im back on this topic..hehe what i did before was very effective that he beg like a girl to take me back, eh since maaawain ako i gave him his very last chance but this time i dump him for good coz he's a hopeless no good individual..in short inutil..hahaha..

its been nearly 2 months now..
-not checkin his FB since i dump him, deleted his other friends that still on my list.. ( i didnt add the old ones that i deleted)
-no more textin..
-not askin for support anymore, idadaan ko na lang sa legal na paraan.
-going out with my friends again..
-dating again *wink wink* (i dont care anymore if he slept with hundred of girls)
-hookin up with this special someone.. :D

you know mga sissies this time its more easier than the last time..i still believe after all of this we will be happy again.. :D just be positive! we can do it!!!
« Last Edit: May 21, 2012, 09:50:43 am by bellamortem »
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