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[lady_torque]

I was really touched with the concern you've all shown me.  Thank you all since you're one of God's angels from heaven.

Things have improved in the past months but he became more violent just this week ~ accusing things which I know is from talking constantly from my MIL since we're in the same compound.  He accused me of stealing (MAGNANAKAW RAW AKO). In  2 hours or so, he found the amount that I supposedly stole (daw) ~ in the form of a check from one of our customers.  Since lumaki sya in an environment wherein nauuna ang pambibintang kesa alamin ang totoo, he alternately cursed, accused, shouted & hit me. 

My left upper arm has bruises, good thing that I can cover it with long sleeves or big shirts. But I can't hide the bruises on the right side of the face, including the eye area.  MIL was even "happy" when her son hit me, unknowing of the real situation.  Maybe the 2 of them needed the much-sought-counselling since my MIL is also a problem of my FIL (walang pakelam kahit may sakit sya).  MIL is also the problem of the entire household since she always wants to be the center of attention & ayaw na maapawan ang galing.

Planning to leave & find a job when I'm ready to talk about the situation to my parents.  I would like my children to grow up with my parents since my MIL is really terrible about good manners & right conduct...  Hoping that things will get ok, thru God's help...

[two_angels'_mom]

hi sis! its good to know u are now planning to leave him and start anew..kaya mo yan sis..were all here to support u and also with Gods help and guidance everything will be okay..i know..coz iv been there..looking back now naiisip ko na lang bakit nga ba hinayaan ko gawin ni SD sa kin yun but then again i know the answer to that i love him too much ive hoped he will change and also for our daughter..kaya naiintindihan kita kung bakit pinatagal mo pa ng ganito..kaya lang even love and our kids welfare is not enough to hold on..kasi sa huli sila din naman magsasuffer seeing their parents fight..you would not want your kids to live in the environment that is all violence db..ako yan ang ginawa kong motivation..natiis kong sinasaktan ako ni SD nun, verbally and sometimes physically pero nung nakita ng anak ko what he is doing to me dun ako natauhan..kasi nakita ko epekto nun sa anak ko..muntik na sya matrauma and sabi ko tama na..and so 2 years after that..eto ako mas me peace of mind, i cant say things are great kasi syempre iba pa din sana kung meron kalalakihang ama anak ko but then we are getting by and i can say that things are better now..so rest-assured everything will be okay..

dun naman sa part ng family mo..i can understand u..ayaw mo kasi magworry sila kaya hindi mo sinasabi..pero u better start telling them..kasi you will be needing a lot of help from them..in bringing up your kids..whether it be just moral support or financial help..wag ka matakot..kasi at the end of the day sila lang naman talaga ang matatakbuhan mo..ang talagang tutulong sayo..

so goodluck sis..and God bless..

[eloytski]

...kasi sa huli sila din naman magsasuffer seeing their parents fight..you would not want your kids to live in the environment that is all violence db..

Sis, I agree with two_angels'_mom -- think of the kids and the impact of such an environment.

I'm not an expert, but I guess malaki ang matutulong if you indeed have your own job, and even your own place. If you're self-reliant, you will not be afraid, and maybe you can even fight back (hindi naman physically, pero you can assert your rights and maybe even report your husband to the authorities).

You need love and support from the people who truly care about you, and that's your own family. Kaya don't hesitate to ask for their help and protection. And of course, always seek God's blessings and enlightenment.

God bless you Sis!

[imiyeeyesiam]

How are you now Lady_torque?