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Rights of an illegitimate child and his/her mother?
« on: September 28, 2008, 12:28:27 am »

I know that an illegitimate child has rights.
as a mother of an illegimate child meron ba tayong rights?
Can we sue for moral damages and the likes?

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Re: Rights of an illegitimate child and his/her mother?
« Reply #1 on: September 28, 2008, 08:35:22 pm »


   If we are talking about rights like asking for financial support or something-It seems to me that i dont want my son and i to ask anything fron HIM-I wanna raise my son alone-I wanna prove that i did the right choice to not to get married -I still cant believe that I survived that dark part of my life-AMEN!  ;) ;) ;) :D ;) ;) ;)
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Re: Rights of an illegitimate child and his/her mother?
« Reply #2 on: September 29, 2008, 10:04:33 am »

If we are talking about rights like asking for financial support or something-It seems to me that i dont want my son and i to ask anything fron HIM-I wanna raise my son alone-I wanna prove that i did the right choice to not to get married -I still cant believe that I survived that dark part of my life-AMEN!  ;) ;) ;) :D ;) ;) ;)


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Re: Rights of an illegitimate child and his/her mother?
« Reply #3 on: September 29, 2008, 03:03:30 pm »

ay ako lalaban ako....hindi ako titigil..hinde kc ito pansarili kong laban..para kc ito sa anak ko.. by next year im planning to file a case to SD..

PSYCHOLIGICAL VIOLENCE..thats a criminal case...
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« Reply #4 on: September 29, 2008, 09:26:33 pm »

   I dont know-for me-if the father really wants to support your baby you dont have to file any case or something-He would definitely do it willingly-but since you'd like to file a case-Its seems that he is not doing his part-and now youre forcing him to do that-which he'd do because he is forced not because he likes to-its a wonderful feeling to see your child growing-without asking any cent  from the father-I know a lot of moms who do that-They dont ask any support or whatsoever from the father-Its hard though-but,theyve survived !! We can do this moms!! we're the stronger gender!!
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« Reply #5 on: September 30, 2008, 03:39:09 pm »

   I dont know-for me-if the father really wants to support your baby you dont have to file any case or something-He would definitely do it willingly-but since you'd like to file a case-Its seems that he is not doing his part-and now youre forcing him to do that-which he'd do because he is forced not because he likes to-its a wonderful feeling to see your child growing-without asking any cent  from the father-I know a lot of moms who do that-They dont ask any support or whatsoever from the father-Its hard though-but,theyve survived !! We can do this moms!! we're the stronger gender!!
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OK...

  ipinaglalaban ko lang kasi ang KARAPATAN NG ANAK KO...sa legal na paraan....
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Re: Rights of an illegitimate child and his/her mother?
« Reply #6 on: October 03, 2008, 12:42:13 pm »

i think filing a case for the financial support of the child from the biological father is a legal thing to do naman,after all it's their responsibility,it's in the law! sa ayaw at sa gusto ng lalaki,willing man sila o hindi magbigay ng pera,wala silang magagawa once we file a case against them.i repeat,it's in the law. ngayon,ang decision naman nasa ating mga mommies,ako i personally choose not to demand a financial support kc it only entitles him to visitation rights which i dont want to happen,wala kc siya kwentang tao and i dont want my child to know him and idolized him baka ma pick up pa ng baby ko negative traits niya. so kanya kanyang decisions lang yan sa buhay, if a mom demands a financial support sa guy,it's not begging for money,it's a matter of making them pay for what is due to us specially to the child,pero do this at your own risk kc doing this means giving the guy rights to the child,and siyempre,in constant communication kayo. aba dapat lang managot sila,wala ako pake kung sapilitan at di sila willing magbigay,it's in the law,they have to obey or else be in jail.lahat naman tayo diba should obey the law and the law says we have a right to demand money-not beg or force them to give money,but they HAVE TO GIVE SIMPLY BECAUSE IT'S IN THE LAW.kung pwede nga lang mag demand ng pera kay SD without giving him any right sa bata,kahit visitation right i'll surely file a financial support from him. e since may kapalit ang financial rights ng bata,wag na,kanya na pera niya. :D
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« Reply #7 on: October 06, 2008, 09:29:49 am »

mommies when you say financial support as in 100% ng expenses ni baby? like milk, vaccine, food, etc.? hindi half? like half is from mommy then half is from SD.. ganun ba set up nun?

and when you say rights to the child, does it mean na pwedeng hiramin yung bata or visit visit lang?
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Re: Rights of an illegitimate child and his/her mother?
« Reply #8 on: October 06, 2008, 11:25:48 am »

ang alam ko if u are a legitimate child, 100% financial help. kasi base on my SD's situation, yung father kc ni SD may iba nang asawa and may mga anak sila,though the father of SD got married first sa mother ni SD,so sila SD ang legitimate child at kahit may iba nang family ang father ni SD, all of the income on SD's father,kila SD mapupunta. so tuwing sweldo,yung mother ni SD nagpupunta manila to claim it(through bank).ang alam ko may business yung fathr ni SD(aside sa job niya),and yun ang sinusustento niya sa second family niya and besides that may job din yung second wife niya. ganon ang set up nila. about the visitation rights, nung bata pa daw sila SD,every sunday they go out with their father kc hindi welcome sa bahay yung father ni SD ayaw siya makita ng mother ni SD,so they go out instead(SD with his siblings),ipapasyal sila ng father nila sa mall mga ganon. yun na pinaka visitation rights. kung tutuusin the father has a right to visit the kids sa house,pero dahil ayaw ng mother ni SD,ok lang sa father ni SD so they compromise, they go out nalang. ngayong matatanda na sila SD, ang pinaka visitation rights nila,nagpupunta sila sa house ng father nila tuwing may occasion lang o kelan nila gusto. father na nila vinivisit nila, minsan they go out. ganon arrangement nila.

whenever this happens,the mother of SD stays at home alone. i dont know if it's good or bad,good kc she can have some time for herself,bad kc malungkot mapagisa? ;D or somtimes the mother goes out with friends when the kids are with their dad.hati lagi attention ng kids,for example pag christmas,24 till midnight noche buena,yung kids mag christmas sa house with their mom, dec 25 morning alis na magkakapatid to go to their dad,uwi nila gabi na.so the mom stays at home alone,di naman makalabas with friends kc kanya kanyang family to spend christmas ang friends ng mom nila.

ay teka,i remember an argument with this situation. when the time came nagkasumbatan silang family(i was actually there). naubos pera nila, wala pang sweldo sia makukuha sa father nila. SD's mom has no money din. what SD's ate did, they went to their father to ask for money para may makain sila for the rest of the days na wala pa sweldo.ang nagbigay ng pera non sa kanila yung asawa ng dad nila.nagalit yung mom nila nung umuwi sila na may pamalengke na at itinanong san sila kumuha ng pera,edi di na sila nakapag sinungaling,nagalit yung mom nila(dala na rin ng pride). kasi she felt useless at dun pa tumakbo sa father nila.feeling ko eto lang conflict lalo na pag may asawa na si SD,pag bitter pa tayo,bka makipg kumpitensya tayo sa asawa. the mom of SD feels insecure siguro  sa asawa ng dad nila. i met the wife of their dad,she looks more decent and edukada than their mother. not to mention very kind and generous person,kaya close sila SD don sa asawa at sa mga half siblings nla sa father nila. the mom feels competitive talaga.
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Re: Rights of an illegitimate child and his/her mother?
« Reply #9 on: October 06, 2008, 01:52:14 pm »

mommies when you say financial support as in 100% ng expenses ni baby? like milk, vaccine, food, etc.? hindi half? like half is from mommy then half is from SD.. ganun ba set up nun?

and when you say rights to the child, does it mean na pwedeng hiramin yung bata or visit visit lang?

hi mommykris :) tungkol dun sa financial support depende kasi kung papadaanin mo pa sa court or hindi na... kung bait naman si SD at kaya niya give 100% financial support kay baby mas maganda... depende talaga yan sa mapaguusapan nyo ni sd.... now if mahirap naman hingan si sd pwede mo na padaanin sa court (but it doesnt mean na masusuportahan niya yung expenses ni baby 100%) hihingan ka nila ng proof ng mga expenses ni baby (receipts ng vitamins, milk vaccines etc...) tapos depende rin kung ilan ang mga anak ni sd (including yung sa inyo at kung meron pa iba) at kung magkano salary niya..... tapos ididiscuss na un sa court kung magkano ang kaya niya ibigay sa baby nyo at twing kelan.... pero mahabang process daw ito sabi ni hubby (he's a lawyer kasi)....

tungkol naman sa visit automatically my right na si sd ipasyal at bisitahin si baby pag nagdecide na ang court bout sa support thing... kasi pag bumuba na yung decision ng court na bibigyan ng support yung anak nyo, tapos hindi mo sya pinapayagan na mag visit (or ipasyal niya) si baby baka bigla niya itigil sustento kasi tinatanggalan mo sya ng rights na makasama or makita anak niya.... oh di magsasampahan nanaman kayo ng mga demanda....  :(

mahaba talaga process un mommykris kaya mas maganda pagusapan na lang.... yung financial support ni baby di ako sure kung pantay sa fin. support ng mga legitimate (if meron) ask ko si hubby mamaya pag dating niya ;)
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« Reply #10 on: October 06, 2008, 02:34:58 pm »

mga sissies thanks..

ibig sabihin depende rin yung sa current salary ni SD.. pano pag halimbawa ngaun nadiscuss yung amount ng support then nagincrease ang salary ng father or nagkaroon siya ng another child sa iba.. automatic na din bang increase or decrease yung financial support? or we have to undergo the same process again?

sis shalee patanong naman po ke hubby mo kung pwedeng discretion nlang ng mommy na pasamahin sa father.. kung pwede visit lang.. parang ayoko ng set up na kukunin sakin yung anak ko like what glace said, malungkot magisa.. pwede bang visit visit lang niya? or pwede niya hiramin pag kasama lang ako hehe :D

and if meron na kaming agreement na hindi dinaan sa court.. do I need to create a contract and notarize it para legal? and may habol parin ako if ever hindi siya tumupad?
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Re: Rights of an illegitimate child and his/her mother?
« Reply #11 on: October 06, 2008, 02:49:40 pm »

why sis kris, ar u planning to split up with hubby? :-\
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« Reply #12 on: October 06, 2008, 03:04:55 pm »

and if meron na kaming agreement na hindi dinaan sa court.. do I need to create a contract and notarize it para legal? and may habol parin ako if ever hindi siya tumupad?

yes sis maganda kung contract ang agreement nyo at notarized (be sure na kasama mo si sd pag nagpanotaryo may iba kc na hindi pumapayag inotaryo pag wala yung kabilang party) pangit pag verbal lang.. para kung hindi man matupad ni sd yung nasa contract atleast my evidence ka na ipapakita sa court (if magdecide ka na magdemanda kung di niya masusunod yung nsa contract)... at walang questions kasi notarized pag di kasi notarized pwede ideny ni sd na pirma niya un at pineke mo lang.... sis yung isa mong tanong mya na ha la pa si hubby eh.... pero advice ko lang sayo sis gawa ka na lang contract nyo mahirap kasi pag padaanin mo pa sa court matagal at magastos esp. pag kukuha ka pa ng private lawyer.... tska yung abala.... tska ka na lang magfile ng case pag hindi sya tumupad sa contract of agreement nyo...... :)
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« Reply #13 on: October 06, 2008, 04:09:38 pm »

@glace.. medyo manhid na kc ako ngaun eh.. worst comes to worst parang ganun na nga.. para kong pingpong pinapaikot ikot nalang (ayan naiiyak na ko  :'( )

@shalee.. thanks sis.. last question.. practical lang ba na humingi ako like 50% ng salary niya, since hindi kami dadaan sa court it means kami lang magiisip ng amount ng support niya.. tama ba?
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« Reply #14 on: October 06, 2008, 04:11:06 pm »

mommykris ito po sagot ni hubby... :) tinext ko na lang layo pa kasi sya ;)

pwede ka mag file ng case para sa support ni baby kung kinikilala sya ni SD (if so hindi kanikilala pwede mag request na ipa dna si SD at baby). Pag inutos na ng court yung support sa anak pwede bgyan ng visiting rights ng court si SD or share kayo sa custody (kung gusto ni SD) depande sa magiging agreement nyo un. bout naman sa pag tumaas ang salary ni SD dapat daw tumaas din ang support niya kay baby pag nag increase salary niya(try mo muna sya kausapin) pero pag hindi pumyag humiling ka daw sa court para itaas.... ;)

hope this helps!!!! ;D

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