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Re: Lagot! Baby, asked..."daddy ko?"
« Reply #15 on: April 18, 2011, 04:49:16 pm »

when i think about it, I really don't know what to say sa 3 year old kid.  Yun nga lang tanungin ka ng mga new acquaintances or officemates ng "Nasan yung daddy ng baby mo?" ang hirap hirap na sumagot.  Like sis caramel, I have a humorous way of answering this question nung single mom pa ko. I always say "He's an astronaut.  Went to the moon, and never came back." When I say that, gets na nila na it is an off topic, and the dad is out of the picture already.  However, it is a different case kay sis funnyarte since bata ang involved.  I agree na as much as possible, make him feel that he is complete even if his dad is not around.  Ang malaking problema, HOW TO PUT IT IN WORDS???
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Re: Lagot! Baby, asked..."daddy ko?"
« Reply #16 on: April 18, 2011, 05:39:57 pm »

mommy ilovegabe wala naman akong nafi-feel nung sinabe at pag sinasabe ko yan ,. parang deadma po kasi alam ko naman di ko na makikita papa ko at naiintindihan ko naman na babaero sya ,. di ako galet sa kanya lage ko kasi iniisip 'may mama naman ako' ,. never kong hinanap papa ko kasi ayaw ko ng false hope ,. i feel complete even without him kasi napunan naman ng mama ko lahat ,.  pero pag nagkita kami in the future may respeto pa din ako for him ,. tatay ko yun kahit ganun yun ,. pero tama ka din po di dapat tinuturo sa mga babies naten yun ,. sa part ko natutunan ko lang yan sa bestfriend ko hahaha  ;D kasi pareho kame ng sitwasyon walang tatay ,.
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Re: Lagot! Baby, asked..."daddy ko?"
« Reply #17 on: April 18, 2011, 06:32:43 pm »

buti naman kung ganun sis caramel, your mom brought you up well  :)
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Re: Lagot! Baby, asked..."daddy ko?"
« Reply #18 on: April 18, 2011, 06:46:56 pm »

thank you mommy ilovegabe  ;) i guess pag kuntento naman tayo sa isang bagay we will not ask for more diba ?
pero going back . . mommy funnyarte sana makaisip ka na ng paliwanag bago  magtanong ulit si baby pogi ,
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Re: Lagot! Baby, asked..."daddy ko?"
« Reply #19 on: April 19, 2011, 12:45:47 am »

gusto ko lang din magshare

SD just visited us 2weeks ago after a year and a half na hindi nagpakita sa house. ako siguro i am not concerned if magtatanong anak ko kung nasaan daddy niya because i make sure na  alam niya.

my baby is 2yrs old and most of the time tinatanong siya kung nasan dad niya.. she knows what to answer- either she would say daddy no more or she would answer daddy is with girlfriend..

hindi ko lang alam ang magiging epekto nito paglaki ni baby but as much as possible im telling her whats going on with me and her daddy..
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Re: Lagot! Baby, asked..."daddy ko?"
« Reply #20 on: April 19, 2011, 04:08:36 am »

Thanks sa awesome replies. Sorry at pati kayo nahirapan. I think baby is really curious na. I heard from my yaya that whenever her bf would call her, baby would also talk to her bf and call him 'daddy'. He's calling everyday and so my son talks to him as well.
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Re: Lagot! Baby, asked..."daddy ko?"
« Reply #21 on: April 19, 2011, 02:13:39 pm »

Ang sagot ko dati sa ganitong mga moments ay, "anak, wala na siya.." yung bang parang dead na? kase naman, wala nakong planu ever na to keep in contact with him. as in tinapos ko talaga ang lahat. though exposed kase ang mga bata na kasama ay kaming 2 ng nanay ko, hindi na din sila naghanap or nagtanung further? Pero after that, I will say, "but I am here, hindi kita iiwan. Kung malayu man tayo, you are here- (pointing to my chest) in my heart, always."  Then group hug kame. Now, Isobel calls me "MaPa" parang Momma at Papa. Greatness.  ;D

Sis, kahit anung compensate natin, like with our material needs, dadating pa din yung point na parang kulang. Pero when we love our children with all our hearts, maybe, hindi na nila mafi-feel yun. Will pray for you. Nalampasan ko yan, malalampasan mo din.


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Re: Lagot! Baby, asked..."daddy ko?"
« Reply #22 on: April 19, 2011, 02:31:06 pm »

Ang hirap ng tanong at ang hirap sagutin.. esp on his age, medyo nkakatakot.. but it all depends on the words we chose to deliver in order for our kids to understand, a perfect timing when they should really know the truth and of course the maturity of the kid..

you can tell your son the reason but not too much on explanation... it depends kung ang baby mo is understanding and a good listener.. like my son kasi i always explain to him every single details, and good to know that he understand it very well and accepted everything i said. its just a matter of words, communication, trust and love in order for you and your baby to have a good conversation with less pain and hardship. you have to entertain the thought of the reality comes na hahanapin talaga niya ang dad niya lalo na boy ang baby mo. but i gues... you're the only person who knew very well how to handle your son and how you can open it up to him without hurting him much.. mas maganda kasi yung bare all..

i am blessed that the father of my son is with us.. and i am very grateful for that... i wont worry too much bout it. goodluck sis.
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Re: Lagot! Baby, asked..."daddy ko?"
« Reply #23 on: April 19, 2011, 02:46:23 pm »

share ko lang mga sis..nangyari na kasi sa akin ayan..nagtanong eldest ko san daddy niya..
Nung 2yr old palang sya halos lahat ng makita niya lalaki,tintawag nyang daddy,nakikita niya rin kasi mga cousins niya na may daddy kaya nakakasad talaga pag walang daddy si baby na kinalakihan. :(
When he turned 4yo eto na..nagtanong na sya,san si daddy niya sabi ko na lang may sariling house si daddy mo,malayo dito sa house natin and syempre expected ko na na itatanong niya bakit di namin kasama sa house bakit mga cousins niya kasama mga daddies nla,sabi ko na lang kasi may things na hindi pa niya maiintindihan talaga kasi baby pa sya, I raised him for 4yo without SD and walang suporta which is choice ko naman talaga..Ayaw ko na rin kasi hindi ko carry yung emotional and physically abused ang pakiramdam kaya kahit mahirap talaga alam kong kaya ko and kakayanin kong wala si SD back to the topic ngayon 5yo na si Raven alam na nyang hindi yung hubby ko ngayon yung dad niya,sinabi ko na rin since nakakaintindi na sya saka sabi niya na pag malaki na sya saka niya na gustong makilala dad niya pero ngayon daw gusto niya na daddy si hubby.:)
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Re: Lagot! Baby, asked..."daddy ko?"
« Reply #24 on: April 19, 2011, 03:38:54 pm »

since pinanganak ko ang anak ko inanticipate ko na, na ONE day itatanong niya sa akin.. where is my dad? asan daddy ko? bakit di natin sya kasama?... pano nga ba sagutin?

eto pa lang yung naisip ko na isagot.
meron ibat ibang klase ng family. in our family there is a mommy and lolo and lola  who love you dearly but no daddy. some family don't have moms, some don't have dads.
di na siguro kelangan munang idetail kung bakit magkahiwalay, masyado pa naman silang mga bata  :)

and sana after nung wag na muna uli sya magtanong.. hehe
sis i feel for you since pareho tayong single mom.. and i hope maintindihan ng mga kids natin kung bakit wala silang daddy  ;)
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Re: Lagot! Baby, asked..."daddy ko?"
« Reply #25 on: April 19, 2011, 06:23:36 pm »

Grabe, I'm overwhelmed with the overflowing support and empathy. Thank you! I'm still choosing between: 1. Daddy is at the office. 2. Daddy is a house far away. 3. Daddy is broken and needs to fix himself. 4. Your dad does not deserve you yet. 5. When you love someone, you have to be strong and brave to be with them. He's not yet strong, or brave. But mommy is, and your lolo and lola. We're here for you.  Haay, hirap gawing basic ang explanation.
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Re: Lagot! Baby, asked..."daddy ko?"
« Reply #26 on: April 19, 2011, 07:55:24 pm »

Grabe, I'm overwhelmed with the overflowing support and empathy. Thank you! I'm still choosing between: 1. Daddy is at the office. 2. Daddy is a house far away. 3. Daddy is broken and needs to fix himself. 4. Your dad does not deserve you yet. 5. When you love someone, you have to be strong and brave to be with them. He's not yet strong, or brave. But mommy is, and your lolo and lola. We're here for you.  Haay, hirap gawing basic ang explanation.

yup sis.. assurance lang din talaga need ng mga kiddos natin, na kahit anong mangyari, they have us. and lift it up to the Lord. always, when I'm  doubtful on certain things, prayer really helps.. kaya yan sis, kahit konting time ko lang kayo nakasama ng son mo, nakita ko na kaagad yung bond and love niyo sa isa't isa, and that would be your strongest weapon  :)
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Re: Lagot! Baby, asked..."daddy ko?"
« Reply #27 on: April 20, 2011, 07:00:41 am »

naiyak naman ako kakabasa dito, nag gagather na rin ako ng ideas kahit baby pa anak ko, kasi one thing's for sure, she'll be asking for her dad someday
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Re: Lagot! Baby, asked..."daddy ko?"
« Reply #28 on: April 20, 2011, 11:29:11 am »

@mommy angel: thanks sis. I know our bond is strong but I also know how my son is. He's sweet, kind, and trusting. I can't bear him hurting of some things that I can't help him with, even when I tried. 
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Re: Lagot! Baby, asked..."daddy ko?"
« Reply #29 on: April 20, 2011, 12:32:53 pm »

@iamkiara: i'm thinking of a basic explanation of what is a family. it need not be blood relatives, and not all relatives are family. only those who loves you, looks after your welfare and stays with you. 
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