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syndyela

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How to deal with Officemates
« on: May 06, 2011, 09:49:19 pm »

I love my work, but not my officemates...nakaka-stress kasi sila.

Officemate # 1:  Single girl, she's an officer/managerial position, walang boyfriend pero kabit siya ng isang in-a-relationship na guy.  Laitera-- lahat nalang sa ibang taong hindi niya magustuhan nilalait niya na akala mo naman napaka-perfect at napakaganda nyang tao.  Inggitera-- bibilhin niya kung ano yung binili ng kasama niya, etc.  Mabait naman siyang tao pero yun nga lang, sometimes I feel na she lets me down...kasi nung kinwento ko sa kanya na I was given a choice by our boss na magtake ng managerial training, simula nun lagi niya sinisingit sa mga kwentuhan namin out of the blue na yung mga sumali sa training na yun ay mga kumlaude (hindi naman kasi ako kumlaude).  It made me feel na she's giving the point na wala akong karapatan na sumali sa training na yun kasi hindi ako kumlaude.  Pag may mga activities sa office, she doesn't listen to my suggestions and when I tried to, hindi niya ako sinasali sa pag-organize ng mga activities.  Pakiramdam ko gusto niya na forever rank and file ang station ko sa office na laging utusan lang.  And I'm beginning to dislike her as a friend.  Ang masama pa nito, she likes me to be her housemate pag maghanap ako ng apartment next month (dahil mag-aabroad ang hubby ko and my daughter will stay with her grannies sa province).  Na-stress na nga ako sa kanya sa office...parang hindi ko rin ata kakayanin pag housemate ko siya.....Pero how can I say "no" sa kanya na makasama siya sa apartment...she'll probably hate me and make lait to me sa other officemates!  gosh.

Officemate #2: saka ko nalang ikkwento, hehe.
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Re: Stressed sa officemates (Officemate #1)
« Reply #1 on: May 06, 2011, 09:57:10 pm »

hehe natawa ko sis not bec. of your story ha dun lang sa part na stressed ka na nga sa kanya sa office tapos magiging hosuemate mo pa if ever,. well about being housemates try to tell her na lang na you want to be alone kesa naman mag-lie ka hehe

tapos po sa you think na she's putting you down, hmm don't think that way sis, give her the benefit of the doubt, malay mo naisisingit niya lang talaga yun, pag megasingit na lang sya ng mga kumla cumlaude na yan just listen, think blankly and just nod parang nagsasalita lang sya sa hangin para di maimbyerna beauty mo sis!

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Re: Stressed sa officemates (Officemate #1)
« Reply #2 on: May 12, 2011, 02:04:48 pm »


malaking factor pa naman yung work environment sa productivity ng isang empleyado. mahirap talaga pag naiistress ka sa kasama mo sa work, even worst if she becomes your housemate. so just tell her na you need some time alone muna. na you need some catching up with yourself since this would be your first time to be away from your family.hehe
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How to deal with bully office mates?
« Reply #3 on: August 25, 2011, 02:37:26 pm »

Siguro matatawa kayo dito. Pero napipikon ako.

To begin with, I want to describe myself. I'm 4'11 almost 5ft in height. May moles sa muka. Siguro nahuhulaan nyo na kung ano..

I have this office mates na sinasabing kamuka ko daw si GMA (pero moles not in the same position). Napipikon ako. di ko alam kung bakit. Siguro dahil obvious naman na maganda ako (lakas ng kompyansa) at di naman talaga kami magkamuka. I'll post a picture next time. Saka ang pangit ng image niya at ayokong macompare sa kanya. Nakakababa ng self steem kasi ginagawa akong katatawanan which i see in a negative way. Minsan pag naka polo-barong pa sila they're acting like my bodyguards when we go out lunch (bawal tumawa!). Lalakas pa ng boses. Nakakahiya. Syempre pag may nakakita o nakadinig na iba, makikitawa din.

Marunong akong makipagbiruan pero i make sure na di offensive. Sinabi ko na din sa kanila na napipikon ako pag ganun pero they did it again. Sobrang nakakaasar talaga.
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Re: How to deal with bully office mates?
« Reply #4 on: August 25, 2011, 02:52:36 pm »


^ sis sorry talaga no offense meant natawa talaga ako sa body guard. Sorry, Sorry.  Ganyan din ako ganyan naiinis ako minsan sa office pagtinatawag ako na lola ang ginagawa ko tinatawag ko rin na lola yong tumatawag sa akin eventually tumigil naman siya hindi ko na nga matandaan kung kailan.  Cool ka lang sis sakyan mo na lang sila pag-nag act sila na body guard mo mag-act ka rin na ALA-President of the Philippines sabihin mo mga uripon pagsilbihan niyo ako ang presidente heheh.. Give a dose of their own medicine and if you can't beat them join them.  Sis no offense meant yon ha.
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Re: How to deal with bully office mates?
« Reply #5 on: August 25, 2011, 02:55:01 pm »

if i were in your shoes, i'd say, "i'm not enjoying your jokes. you are insulting me."  then don't mind them at all. 
 
we have this new hiree, super mahangin na parang bagyo.  i am older than him, but he knew me way back in college.  every friday, our wash day in the office, i wear corporate attires, and i seldom wear pants/slacks.  one day, when we met in a hallway, he commented, "is that the effect of taeboo?  you're wearing dress?"  to which i replied, "excuse me, this is how i dress in the office.  i'm now a corporate employee, not just your governor in the college of commerce."  then walk away.
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Re: How to deal with bully office mates?
« Reply #6 on: August 25, 2011, 03:02:20 pm »

Gustuhin ko mang sakyan e di ko magawa. Yung ibang biro nila nasasakyan ko kahit asar din ako. Pero ito talaga yung pinaka hate ko. Worry ko pa pano kung makalakihan ng anak ko na yung mommy niya ganun ang tawag. Tutuksuhin din sya at pagtatawanan.
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Re: How to deal with bully office mates?
« Reply #7 on: August 25, 2011, 03:20:33 pm »

Hi sis..:)

I agree with mommy mariann..you talk to that bully officemates of yours..tell them na hindi ka natatawa sa joke nila...much better if they know that you don't like what they are  doing..
alam mo kakainis ang mga taong ganyan eh...pag saken yan ginawa talagang aandar pagka mataray ko..hhmmpp..anyway hindi ko sinsabi na awayin mo sila ha..
basta tell them that hindi ka nag eenjoy sa ginagawa nila and maghanap na lang kaya sila ng pwedeng gawing kakatawanan..or better yet huwag ka na sumabay sa kanila..kung everytime na magkasama kayo ikaw ang ginagawa nilang "joke"..
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Re: How to deal with bully office mates?
« Reply #8 on: August 25, 2011, 03:27:28 pm »

Wag mo muna sila pansinin. Sameng magkakaibigan pag nagkakapikunan, ipapakita talaga ng pikon. Lumayo ka muna sa kanila. Mararamdaman naman nila yun eh and kapag lumapit sila sa'yo sabihin mo yung reason. Kung sasabihin nilang maarte ka, then they're not friends that you should keep.
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Re: How to deal with bully office mates?
« Reply #9 on: August 25, 2011, 03:43:25 pm »

Lahat naman ng mga tao may mga flaws. Like me dati, they would say I'm mataba tapos sasabihin pang sexy (siksik). Sinasagot ko na lang, I know sexy ako, ngayon mo lang nalaman?! And I tell them na mabuti nang malusog kesa mukhang walang makain! Kaya yung mga officemates ko, hindi na ako tinutukso kasi binabara ko rin sila and they found out that I carry myself confidently.

Kaya kung next time sabihan kang "GMA"  sabihin mo, salamat po.. pang presidente pala ang beauty ko.. kaya nyo yon?? Tapos barahin mo rin sila na di ka pikon, kinda bounce back to them ang mga sagot mo sa kanila tutal nasa joking mode naman sila, di ba? Asarin mo rin.. sabihin mong pang body guard lang pala kayo... utus utusan mo nga para maramdaman din nila yung degrading na pinapa feel nila sa iyo. Besides, a president is still a president, kahit mabuti o masama, di lahat nagiging presidente... It only means they have the brain and the power...kaya cheer up! Sikat ka! Sila pang body guard lang pala, panangga sa mga bala ng baril tapos pagnabaril pa sila e may tawag na doon.. hehe!   :)
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Re: How to deal with bully office mates?
« Reply #10 on: August 25, 2011, 03:49:30 pm »

I agree with mommy marian. Kung very offensive na ang joke nila syo, confront them right away and ignore them. Pero kung hindi mo naman kayang iconfront sila or siya, write them an email. 
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Re: How to deal with bully office mates?
« Reply #11 on: August 25, 2011, 04:07:51 pm »

hi sis! hindi pa ako nagttrabaho pero alam ko yung pakiramdam ng nabubully..
ako kasi malaki ilong ko buti nga sayo GMA ako nga ALLAN K.diba asar?
ako kasi pag super asar na minsan magsasalita ako ng  "O nakakahiya naman sayo ganda ng mukha mo". tapos hahanap ako ng kapintasan din nila yung tipong hindi rin nila magugustuhan yung tipong kabaong nalang kulang lubog na sila sa panlalait ko.. (natuto ako sa mga nanlalait din sakin..)

pero kung hindi naman ganyan ugali mo mas maigi nga na sabihan mo ng katulad ng sentence ni mommy mariann.. simple pero direcho yung pagsabi mo.. para atleast matauhan sila na nakakasakit na sila..
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Re: How to deal with bully office mates?
« Reply #12 on: August 25, 2011, 04:16:57 pm »

sorry sis ha?natawa din ako sa mga bodyguards mo eh.. ;D ;D

alam mo dati sa oofice din namin, malalakas mang asar mga kasama ko..mataba din ako and may pagka boobsie kaya tampulan talaga ng tukso. pag inaasar nila ako, dati napipikon ako pero wa epek sa kanila..what i did was pag inaasar nila ako, di na lang ako kumikibo as in deadma para magmukha silang tan**.  ayun yung iba nakakahalata. marami kasing mga insensitive na tao na kahit asar ka na di ka pa rin titigilan. lalo ka pa aasarin.  Sinasabi ko na lang sa mga nang aasar sakin "dyan ba kayo masaya sa pang aasar sakin? o sige wag kayo tumigil ha?ituloy nyo lang yan at least nagiging masaya kayo dahil sakin" sabay ngiti. ayun yung iba tumitigil.

find the best approach. pwede iconfront mo, pwede rin deadma na lang depende sa mga bodyguard mo yun este officemates pala hehe ;D ;D basta wag ka papatalo. kaya naging matatag din ako sa asaran gawa ng mga ganyan..

cheer up sis! basta alam mo mas maganda ka kay Gloria, GO lang! :)
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Re: How to deal with bully office mates?
« Reply #13 on: August 25, 2011, 04:50:47 pm »

wala ba kayong policy sa office about bullying, discrimination annd harrasment...parang grounds na eto if they cross the line. harrasment can be in any form...this is one of them even if its a joke. you can ask your hr policies and complain them pag medyo hinde na healthy, siguro naman matatahimik mga yan if magkaroon sila ng warning or memo...that can lead to suspension.
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Re: How to deal with bully office mates?
« Reply #14 on: August 25, 2011, 05:18:26 pm »

i don't know if i, myself is a bully kasi may napaiyak na ko'ng officemate dati.

she was part of the group na sobrang lakas mang-asar.  unlike mommy nylej20, i wasn't blessed with the boobs naman (sis, pahingi! hehe).  so pag usapang boobies na... laging akong asar... nung una, ok ok lang kasi totoo naman talaga... hindi ako nahihiya dati.. pero nung parang kahit anong panahon na lang eh yun lagi ang tira niya sa kin, kahit hindi naman biruan period, hindi ko na kinaya... kaya sabi ko lang, "O, yun na yun? natawa ka? O, uwi na.  " akala ko, epic fail... pero effective pala.

sya mismo nag umpisa kaya expect niya, magse-second the motion yung iba.. kaso walang sumabay sa biro niya kaya hindi na yung biro niya sa kin ang nakakatawa ngayon. Sya na ang nakakatawa kasi WALEY na ang joke niya.. kung baga, hindi na benta.  i don't know exactly what happened pero kulang na lang i-BOOO! sya ng mga dati nyang kasama sa panunukso sa kin...

kaya today, hindi ako mabully ng mga ka officemate ko.  siguro 1) i earned their respect,  2) napagalaman nilang hindi lang sa boobs nabubuhay ang babae, or 3) takot na silang ako naman ang bumanat ng tukso sa kanila.

kung baga, ako na ang mayor ng selda tres...  ;) 8)
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