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teachermom

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Ang daming suitors ng daughter ko.
« on: May 07, 2011, 02:55:17 pm »

She's just 15 (turning 16 on October 18) and she have 5 suitors  ::)
Nung school days pa, araw araw may dala siyang flowers, chocolates etc. galing daw sa boy classmates niya.
Minsan nga habang pauwi kami nasa Quadrangle kami ng school (teacher ako sa school niya), may nag-abot sakanya ng bouquet ng flowers with Ferrero chocolate pa! Nag-Good Afternoon naman sakin yung boy then alis na. Okay lang naman yun kay daughter, sabi niya sakin, "Okay lang Ma, sanay naman ako eh"

Parang feeling ko she's too young to have suitors, buti nga hindi sinasagot ni daughter kasi priority talaga ng daughter ko yung studies niya. Incoming 1st year college pa lang siya.

Kung kayo mommies, anong magiging reaction niyo? Normal ba yun?
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Re: Ang daming suitors ng daughter ko.
« Reply #1 on: May 11, 2011, 07:24:08 pm »

hi teachermom,

your baby is now a lady ! :)

Ok lang siguro as long as open si daughter sayo and as you mentioned na priority naman niya ang studies niya...

Ang masasabi ko lang kausapin mo rin si daughter on how she feels about it... tapos maging honest sya sa iyo of what she feels towards her boy classmates...

ang maganda nyan, magkaroon kayo ng (established / regular na) mga kwentuhan blues ng tungkol sa nangyari sa iyo that day at sya naman ang nangyari sa kanya that day,  para alam mo rin if may napupusuan na si daughter ng hindi nahahalata na nag-iimbestiga ka na   :) :):)
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Re: Ang daming suitors ng daughter ko.
« Reply #2 on: May 11, 2011, 07:29:25 pm »

i agree with mommy jen ,. dapat mas maging open kayo sa isa't  isa kasi nowadays mas aggressive na talaga mga kabataan at pag pinigilan sila lalong nanggigigil or worst nagrerebelde pa ,. so magkano rin na may komunikasyon kayo ng daughter mo po. tsaka para mapanatag ka din po
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Re: Ang daming suitors ng daughter ko.
« Reply #3 on: May 11, 2011, 08:46:55 pm »

Join ako. Will compose my reply muna, dami ko kasing gustong sabihin eh. Will post it soon.
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Re: Ang daming suitors ng daughter ko.
« Reply #4 on: May 12, 2011, 06:43:47 pm »

ako naman guy ang anak ko same age din , me mga umaaligid naman na girls , at 3 ang nag-add sa akin sa fb na hindi ko naman kilala sabi ng anak ko yon daw yung mga school mate niya , kasi sa fb post ko yung family pics.namin so nakikita nila son ko .

anyways, at first natulala ako ng sinabi niya na me gf na sya , sagot ko na lang basta wag mo pabayaan studies mo , oo naman daw , very open naman sya sa relationship niya , kwento dito kwento don , sometimes gamit pa yong cp ko nakikipag usap ng almost 4hrs. , nakikitext din sya pero d niya dini delete ang messages sa sent items at inbox kaya read ko message exchanges nila....super open sya sa amin kasi inintindi na lang namin at ginagabayan kesa maglihim pa , iba na kasi ang approach sa mga bata ngaun hindi na gaya ng mga panahon natin na kapag pinagalitan iiyak na lang at magmumukmok sa isang tabi.

in your case mommy , girl yong sayo kaya talagang magwo worry ka at magiging over protective , tama ang sabi ng mommies dito open communication lang.
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Re: Ang daming suitors ng daughter ko.
« Reply #5 on: May 12, 2011, 08:20:53 pm »

I was 13 when I started getting letters and gifts from suitors, even invitations to eat out. Tanggap lang ako ng tanggap siyempre kasi "libre". Back then I wasn't aware of the following facts.

-for every thing that you accept, may kapalit yon kahit private talk lang.
-kawawa naman  yung guy na hindi alam na wala naman siyang pagasa, inuubos ang allowance sa bagay ng walang kahihinatnan.

When my daughter grows up and reaches that age (malapit na yon), I'd tell her to select her suitors. I-turn down na niya yung mga hindi niya type kasi kawawa naman and they might have hatred and worse, bully her when they get "basted". She can bravely and calmly tell her suitor/s to stop treating her special because she doesn't feel the same. She'd add "mabuti na yung sinasabi ko na sa 'yo hangga't maaga. I'm not like the other girls who would use you to get as much as they can and in the end will just break your  heart. Para hindi ka na mahirapan, I'd be happy to keep our friendship at  level lang." O diba?

Now if she likes the guy and if she's at the right age. I'd allow her to accept gifts and even date (at the right age). I would also want to be updated and for that, we need to have an open relationship. Nakakasira ng studies ang BF-GF pero for me nakakainspire pa nga, depende sa gabay ng magulang. Daddy Jojo nga once said importante na maganda ang relationship ng daughter sa Daddy niya. Ang concern ko yung teen pregnancy. Until I see that what's going on isn't even close to that, I wouldn't worry yet.
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Re: Ang daming suitors ng daughter ko.
« Reply #6 on: June 13, 2011, 06:06:10 pm »

suddenly, I remember this topic when my daughter who is in Grade 3 just tell my mom-in-law that she cried in school..  kasi daw a boy (other section) shouted her name and say i love you! and her classmates all say "uuuyyyy!" kaya she felt embarassed daw and cried and cried and cried till her teacher came back in.... she cant stop crying daw... 

when my mom-in-law told us this, I asked my daughter what did their teacher says... she answered that her teacher said its but natural and nothing to cry about it....

napaisip ako, dalaga na rin pala ang baby ko  :) :)
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Re: Ang daming suitors ng daughter ko.
« Reply #7 on: September 03, 2011, 09:17:47 pm »

first time mom here... ngayon pa lang nagbabasa basa na hehe..

@mommyjazz.. -  question lang po.. paano yun if yung mga type lang ni daughter ang papayagan niya manligaw.. parang it equals to saying she has feelings for them or likes them na agad diba? hindi kaya magbackfire yung ganun? lalakas loob ni lalake eh

ako pareho ni mommyjazz ng naging experience .. hinayaan ko lang yung mga libre, bigay-bigay..  hirap kasi mambasted lalo na kapag friend or barkada.. patay malisya na lang

 pero kapag may flowers na ayun na tinatanong ko kung bakit may flowers.. kapag sinabi na niya na nanliligaw ek-ek.. ayun sagot ko lagi "ay! nanliligaw ka pala! sorry bawal pa sakin yan eh.. lagot ako sa nanay ko.."

usually they would stop na.. pero i had this suitor for 5 years hehe..ayaw paawat! natigil lang sabi ko may bf na ako kahit wala :P
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Re: Ang daming suitors ng daughter ko.
« Reply #8 on: September 07, 2011, 04:56:02 pm »

be happy kasi atleast pinapaalam sayo di ba.  yung iba eh tinatago mg suitors then after non bf na pala.
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Re: Ang daming suitors ng daughter ko.
« Reply #9 on: September 07, 2011, 06:10:05 pm »

Im a dad and  have a daugther pero if she had a suitor at that aged. I will tell her to focus first on her studies and tuned down all her suitors. At the right age I will let her have suitor and bf. Siguro after college grad hehe. Cant imagine at this time. pero knowing the curiosity of the youth mahirap na ma preggy out of marriage. After college and have work she can have all the time to explore. You can be happy with freinds and family and be inspired knowing that someone cherish you...but no serious relationship pls.
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Re: Ang daming suitors ng daughter ko.
« Reply #10 on: September 07, 2011, 07:46:38 pm »


@mommyjazz.. -  question lang po.. paano yun if yung mga type lang ni daughter ang papayagan niya manligaw.. parang it equals to saying she has feelings for them or likes them na agad diba?



Oo nga no? Then I'll tell her to say what you said. ""ay! nanliligaw ka pala! sorry bawal pa sakin yan eh.. lagot ako sa nanay ko.."
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Re: Ang daming suitors ng daughter ko.
« Reply #11 on: September 22, 2011, 12:35:04 am »

its normal. and im glad your daughter knows her priorities. its ok to have suitors. at least alam mo na maraming humahanga sa daughter mo :)

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Re: Ang daming suitors ng daughter ko.
« Reply #12 on: September 23, 2011, 08:16:42 am »

sis it's pretty  normal. I think it's good that your daughter knows her priority and the best talaga yung open kayo sa isat isa. Me and my mom until now na mom na din ako we are so open sa lahat pati secrets. Now I have a daughter nakakatakot lang kasi baka pag ako na hindi ko to mahandle. hehe.
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Re: Ang daming suitors ng daughter ko.
« Reply #13 on: October 08, 2019, 02:58:14 pm »

Ako naman mga mommy ang problem ko yung mga classmate na girls ng anak ko by the way girl din anak ko 10yrs old.Inaaway nila yung anak ko dahil lahat daw ng crush nila ay nagkakagusto sa anak ko.Very open ang anak ko sa akin regarding sa mga crush at sa mga nanliligaw sa kanya pinababasa pa niya yung mga messages pero i trust my daughter na mas priority niya yung school niya kesa sa boys.