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Author Topic: Hindi madaling maging Isang ina:"Normal" ba ang maki-alam sa pagalaga kay baby?  (Read 13438 times)

FayeP

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i believe sis moonriver, sa culture natin normal na makialam sila pero hindi dapat...as in di sila dapat nakikialam kun ano decision mo o nyo mag asawa kun pano papatakbuhin un buhay ng pamilya nyo...

pero ang mga parents talaga pati MIL or FILs eh mga pakialamero sa buhay heehe parang pinangungunahan ka pa most of the time sa kun ano tama or mali para sa mga bata, sa bahay etc..

di talaga dapat ito kasi bumubuo nga kayo ng sarili nyo family di ba??? dapat supporting characters lang sila, di sila ang bida sa story nyo hehe
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hi sis moonriver..yes for me normal na yung magpayo..not naman siguro makialam..pero ako kasi personally, thankful ako sa parents ko at inlaws ko dahil nandyan sila pra amin..pero siempre ayokong masanay na ganon.gusto ko din na maging independent kami..siguro sis, pwede mo din sya kontrahin in a very nice way...siguro like what sis fayeP said, suuporting characters lang sila...sa desisyon nyo pwede sila magpayo pero kayo pa din ang masusunod.

yun lang...

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yap. normal lang na mgbigay ng payo at makiaalam ang mga inlaws.  be thankful na rin kasi it means may pagpapahalaga sila sa mga babies natin.  nasa atin na rin kung ano ano ang mga susundin or gagawin natin.  kasi sa akin may mga bagay na hindi ko sinusunod at may mga bagay na ginagawa ko rin na sinasabi nila.  love ko inlaws ko kasi inaalagaan nila ang baby ko.
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Naku sis magtaka kung di nangengealam, ganun talaga. E ako pag naging lola nako imposibleng di ako mangealam sa mga apo ko :-)
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Normal naman ito. pero hindi to the point na para kang robot na uutusan ka na talaga. mas maganda parin kasi na may mga advises ang mga parents natin para kay baby. it shows concern from them :)
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normal makialam lalo na kung first time mom/parents kasi dinaanan na nila pero nasasayo parin naman kung susundin mo yung mga pakikialam nila.. :D uhm.. pwede mo naman sundin yung iba na sa tingin mo e tama at pwede mo rin idisregard yung sa tingin mong hindi tugma sa gusto mong way ng pagpapalaki.. :D
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Its normal for in the first place I believe they know better.

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Be realistic about your expectations on how your in-laws can help in child rearing and disciplining, and be open to their suggestions...Be gracious and thankful for their desire to help. 
Let them know politely that though their comments and suggestions are appreciated, the bottom line is this-- it is your responsibility as parents to make the final decisions about how you want your kids to be brought up.
http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/mom-dad/relationships/3-points-to-remember-when-raising-your-kids-with-your-in-laws
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In my experience yes it's normal. Nasa culture din kasi natin. Sa first baby ko I let my mom do most/show me how things are done dahil wa pa alam at bata pa ko. Paunti-unti naman niya ko binigyan ng independence hanggang sa bumukod na kaming mag-asawa. What I love about her is nagsasabi yun ng opinion niya pero she respects my decision din. :)
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^ganyan din mama ko sis tashasabs, yung nagbibigay sya ng advise pero sinasabi niya parin na it's up to me kasi ako daw ang nanay. kaya naman nakikinig talaga ako sa nanay ko when it comes to taking care of my baby kasi she let's me feel na mommy ako ng anak ko so i would know what's best for my baby. unlike MIL ko na laging nagbibigay ng unsolicited advise and she let's me feel na hindi ako marunong at sya lang ang magaling kasi nakapag-alaga na sya ng tatlong anak!  :o
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^Hehe. MIL ko may comments noon kasi nasusulsulan din ni SIL, pero nung nakaaway ko sila ayun pinabayaan na ko. Ayoko kasi yung pagpapalaki ni SIL sa anak niya. Well, di naman siya nagpalaki dun, si MIL din saka yung pinakamatagal nilang katulong noon na napaalis na. Kaya nung sa akin akala same pattern din ako kay SIL kasi nga maaga din kami nagkaanak.
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My mom raised us solely when my father died. I was fifteen years old then. Anim kaming magkakapatid, imagine how she managed to raise six of us ng sabay-sabay although, my lola was there mahirap pa rin yung pinagdaanan niya para itaguyod kami.

Nung magkaanak ako, i'm a single mom by the way, i saw it coming na in one way or another my mom will share her experience on childcare. I don't really mind because hindi naman mahirap kausap si Mama if i want to have my way when it comes to my daughter. Hindi siya yung tipo ng nanay na makulit at nagagalit pag hindi nasunod yung gusto niya.

I'm quite stubborn lang kaya pag may untoward na pangyayari concerning my daughter, napapagalitan niya ako. Pero all in all nagpapasalamat ako because she loves my baby as her own. More pa nga yata. But that's more than ok. ;)
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for me normal na nakikialam but still ikaw pa din naman magdedesisyon nun para sa anak at sa pamilya mo eh... parent is always a parent once na naging parent na din anak mo malamang ganun din makikialam din tayo coz its their way of guiding us
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Yup I think so kasi syempre they also want to lookout for the kid.

Syempre nakakaasar but they just really want to help out :) Siguro impt lang to set boundaries with them. Bigyan niyo na lang sila ng "houserules" niyo pag bumibisita sila sa lugar niyo. But if kayo ang nasa lugar nila, mas maging maluwag ka na lang with the rules
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Yes, thankful nga ko kasi napalaki ko ng maganda eldest ko thru my mom's guidance...
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