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MommyMichell

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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #60 on: September 28, 2011, 10:49:39 pm »

same kami ni sis kawaiimaridel lahat (as in) ng friends ng asawa ko, friends ko, kamag-anak (not immediate na relatives) ask ng ask kung bakit di pa kami nagpapakasal e we've been together for 14 years na (3 years bf/gf at 11 years live-in and counting ;)) we have 2 kids (11 year old son & 6 year old daughter) pero natatawa lang kami, never pa naman akong naasar kasi sila pa talaga yung excited na makasal kami

ang reason naman na di pa kami kasal, kasi maaga ako nabuntis (turning 18, 18 ako nanganak) syempre bitter & galit nanay ko pero tatay ko cool lang (katwiran niya dun din naman talaga kami papunta napaaga lang kaya galit na galit lalo nanay ko kunsitidor daw tatay ko lol) gusto ako ipakasal pero ako na rin nagsabi na sundin na lang kung ano yung gusto ni nanay para di na madagdagan yung heartache na binigay namin sa kanya at di rin ako naniniwala (just speaking for myself) na kelangan makasal kami dahil nabuntis ako, plan namin sa 25th anniversary na namin  :D
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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #61 on: October 01, 2011, 01:12:26 pm »

hi mga sis :) ganu din kame, we're not yet financially stable, wala pa kameng sariling bahay & ipon pa :)) ganun din both young, i was 18 when i gave birth & hubby was 22 then.. isa pa kelangan ko makagraduate muna & makapasa ng board.. by next year.. we have plans pero wala pang date.. mahirap kasi maya maudlot  :o
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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #62 on: October 21, 2011, 01:10:08 pm »

For me kasi, madali lang magpakasal pero pag nagaway na kayo at gusto nyo na maghiwalay mahirap na. Kaya gusto ko magtagal muna kami, matest namin yung strength naming dalwa then tska kami magpakasal pag okay na yung lahat.
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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #63 on: October 23, 2011, 10:45:03 pm »

for me din kahit 3 na ang anak ko eh kasi sabi ng hubby ko pra makapag ipon ng financial kaso ang nangyari kung kailan na marami syang pera eh nkalimutan niya na ako tapos pinalabas niya na meron akong lover,,,, tapos ang sakit kasi hinantay ko sya ng matagal, sinet up niya lang ako para makapag uwi sya ng babae niya,,,,

Gusto ka lang po ishare...

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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #64 on: October 30, 2011, 04:12:51 pm »

Good day mga mommies.... pa-share

Annuled na ko 2yrs ago sa ex-hubby ko, ( I was young then) and now it's my second chance to have my family again, one reason siguro yung fear na baka di mag work-out again.. baka matulad lang din sa nangyari sa past ko..Other reasons pa I got pregnant kase nung bago palang kame and now my baby is 3 months na, that time gusto talaga nila na magpakasal na kami ni hubby since he's 31 and am 26..first apo pa si baby, gusto din ni hubby ko now but the thing is super laki ng tummy ko parang ang panget tignan naman nakasuot ka ng gown na ganun,and ayoko din masabi na dahil preggy lang kaya magpapakasal diba? so we decided na after I gave birth na lang. But now naman nanganak na ko,super daming gastos.. yung saving niya for our wedding sana, nagamit na sa panganganak ko CS kase ako eh super mahal pag CS diba mga mommies..Plus, nagpa-babtismal pa si baby dito mas mas mahal nagastos 200 persons ba naman eh! Daming kamag-anak :) Then umabot pa sa binenta niya yung car namen para pandadag kaso naman nung nakikita ko how hard for my hubby na mag-commute everyday from bulacan-manila,(we decided to stay here muna kase sa house ng parents niya para maalagaan kame wala kase kame kasama dun sa house namen sa manila pag nasa work sya) So ayon, ako na nag-suggest na wag na muna kame magpakasal buy nalang muna sya ng auto niya para di sya nahihirapan magcommute everyday,Imagine,punuan sa bus,after long hours of work nakatayo pa,nakakaawa. And also, parang gusto ko na din muna na i-try yung live-in kung talagang magwork then go na.. 1 yr palang naman kame together pero click naman relationship namen smooth and steady lang pero syempre we're just starting so gusto ko muna makasiguro this time..hehe

I told him nga one time: Kahit di mo na ko pakasalan basta wag mo lang akong lolokohin, mas ok pa saken yun!! heheh.. ayoko na mangyari saken yung kasal nga kayo lolokohin ka lang din naman pala db?! Mga mommies, wish me luck na sana this second time na wedding ko in the future for real na, I'm hoping na maging succesful na! 

We have different reasons and stories behind but I'm sure we will all get there mga mommies !!! Focus muna tayo sa mga babies and other things para wag mapressure sa wedding issue na yan.. Goodluck to us!!
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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #65 on: October 30, 2011, 06:55:43 pm »

dahil sa Petition ko  :) saka ayoko sabihin ng mga tao na nagpakasal kami dahil sa unwanted preganancy, gusto ko dahil handa na kami at sure na gusto namin na kami na magkasama for life. masakit sa ulo mag pa annul noh. gastos pa, like what my mother is going through, almost 200K para lang sa annulment nila ng father ko.. so i want to be sure..
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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #66 on: October 31, 2011, 08:10:22 pm »

dahil sa Petition ko  :) saka ayoko sabihin ng mga tao na nagpakasal kami dahil sa unwanted preganancy, gusto ko dahil handa na kami at sure na gusto namin na kami na magkasama for life. masakit sa ulo mag pa annul noh. gastos pa, like what my mother is going through, almost 200K para lang sa annulment nila ng father ko.. so i want to be sure..

CORRECT mommy Aicha..  ??? exactly ganyan nagastos namen, waaahh! sayang diba?? Hmp! That's life..
Kaya nga this time carefull na ko ahaha.. oh well.. crossfinger*
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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #67 on: October 31, 2011, 10:13:47 pm »

oo sis kaya ayoko agad magpakasal kami, nung preggy ako sabi ng mga relatives kahil civil lang daw muna kasi ang reason ko walang budget, pero sa totoo lang di pa ko sigurado. hehe, dahil narin siguro sa nangyari sa parents ko kaya ganito ako. hehe  ;D ;D
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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #68 on: November 02, 2011, 12:24:38 pm »

ics ako budget din hihi at parang takot na din.. sa dami ng hirap ko heheeh..

pero gusto ni hubby mag civil kaso ayoko e.. we can do naman church or what basta simple lang db? saka kasi gusto ko din yung magchurch for myself and for my mom..
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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #69 on: November 03, 2011, 12:48:45 am »

^ako naman nag-aantay lang.. Pero at the same time hindi nagmamadali. Gusto ko kasi matulungan si bf mag ipon para samin, hindi ganun kadali kasi magkalayo kami at kelangan din iproseso ang visa naming mag-ina. Ayaw din naman namin makitira sa house nila ng mom niya. Mamimiss ko din pamilya ko dito. Pero we can choose to stay here na lang sa pinas kaya lang sayang ang citizenship at financial stability niya doon.
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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #70 on: November 03, 2011, 02:38:35 pm »

joining....

@sis RONA oo nga sis mahirap nga un pag sa work medyo nakahiya, kami ni hubby madalas makaexperience ng ganyan..

Eto ang kwento ko.. hehe!!

8 years na kaming living together ni hubby, 3 years bf/gf when we have our first baby, so nagdecide kami na magsama na dahil mas magiging madali for both of us at sa baby kung magkasama kami at mahal naman talaga namin ang isa't isa, nung time na un di pumasok sa utak namin pareho na magpakasal all our concerns ay si baby at sobrang excited kami nun sa pagdating ni baby naging smooth lahat, tapos when i gave birth kay hubby surname ni baby di namin pinagusapan basta un nalang ang nangyari, parang wala ng dapat pang pagusapan. years passed ngayon medyo nahirapan na kami at ngayon namin naisip na sana pala nagpakasal na kami nuon na maluwag pa sa budget dahil lumalaki na si baby at masakit para samin na illegitimate parin sya kahit na were ok naman as family di parin namin maalis yung thought na di parin ligitimate son niya si baby at di pa kami kasal pareho kasi kami naniniwala ni hubby na mahalaga sa pagsasama ang kasal kahit sa simbahan man o civil lang at mas magiging madali sa lahat ng kakaylangin ng mga kids pag laki nila, isa pa hirap din kami sa work ni hubby kasi single nga nakalagay sakanya so lahat ng benefits di namin magamit ni baby tapos ngayon we will having our 2nd child pa so di na naman namin magagamit yung philhealth at faternity leave ni hubby n dapat meron kung kasal kami. nagyon namin gustog gusto magpakasal para maging maayos na ang lahat kaso tight na ang budget dahil preschooler na  si panganay tapos preggy pa ko ngayon syempre need namin pagipunan lahat ng needs sa panganganak ko at things ni 2nd baby plus needs ni kuya at needs dito sa bahay.
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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #71 on: November 04, 2011, 06:40:27 am »

mommy jadz1826 i agree with u.. ang hirap ng magplano no?? kasi ako 2 years old na ang anak ko.. hindi padin kami kasal e.. apelyido nga ng lalaki yung gamit pero db??? illegitimate padin yung baby... nakakaloka pa.. mauunahan na kami ng sister niya..

sharing lang hihi.. lulungkot lang minsan..  :( :( :(
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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #72 on: November 04, 2011, 05:56:49 pm »

pero ok lang yan sis, hehe! isipin mo nalang darating din yung time nyo ni hubby mo..  :)
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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #73 on: November 04, 2011, 09:12:39 pm »

kami naman dahil din sa petition.. we're together for 11 yrs na pero dahil nga nakapetition kami as single eh wala kaming choice kundi maghintay kung sinong unang makaalis samin! ok din naman for me as long as dala ng baby namin ang family name niya and we're happy living in together! :)
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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #74 on: November 10, 2011, 04:47:07 pm »

^parehas tayo sis, petition din. We've been together for 6yrs na. Now lang kami nagkababy. By choice pa. On Dec 19 na ang interview ni hubby sa embassy. We're planning (hopefully) by next year makabalik sya for us to get married. Hays, finally... Tagal ko din nagantay for the marriage.... At magaantay na naman for his petition naman for us.

Nakakapikon nga pag madami nagtatanong. Andyan yung bakit kasal na ba sya etc... Weird mga tao. Kaloka...
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