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angelchie23

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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #75 on: November 11, 2011, 02:54:49 pm »

kami din ngayon lang magkakababy.. sana nga maisama niya pag alis! buti sau sis mejhez malapit na interview.. sa bf ko siguro medyo matagal pa! gudlak sa interview ng hubby mo! ayaw mo ipasama si baby mo? pwede naman un diba? kaso malalayo sau c baby! :)

oo nga sis.. daming etchosera sa paligid! kiber ba natin sa kanila as long as happy tau at alam natin ang kwento kung bakit d pa tau kasal! :)
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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #76 on: November 11, 2011, 03:23:48 pm »

pa join mga sis..

kami naman, dapat magpapakasal kami last month, para before lumabas si baby, kasal na kami. pero sobrang tight ang budget. kay baby na nga lang medyo kulang na kami, we decided na lang to postpone it. siguro pag nagwowork nako ulit, ipon ipon muna for civil wedding, kase mas mura. another reason is hindi alam ng parents ko about me and bf, magkasama kami sa apt now. and hindi nila alam na preggy ako. sobrang complicated ng buhay ko kaya hindi na muna namin dadagdagan ng another complication. may problema din kase sa mom ni bf. nasa last will niya na hindi makukuha ni bf yung mana niya pag nagpakasal sya. kaya eto "married by hearts not by the law".  ok na din yun, at least happy kami..  ;)
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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #77 on: November 18, 2011, 11:45:14 am »

hmm I remember nag post ako dati dito ang reason kaya hindi kami makapagpakasal kasi short sa budget..ngayun kasal na kami (civil Wed) mabilisan kasi alis na ko mag fly na to finland..eh gusto namin ni hubby na before ako makaalis maayos laht ng papers & xempre gusto ko at niya na dala ko surname niya so ayun we planned and now finally married na kami..
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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #78 on: November 18, 2011, 08:54:08 pm »

me too, naalala ko nag post din ako dito regarding sa kung bakit di pa kami nakapag pakasal ni hubby.. nut now ok na nasinggit narin namin sa budget sa wakas yung civil wed namin.. we make it simple but memorable. tsaka para narin sa kids namin.. mas maganda kasi daw talaga para sakanila..  :)
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« Reply #79 on: December 30, 2011, 09:47:29 am »

kami din ngayon lang magkakababy.. sana nga maisama niya pag alis! buti sau sis mejhez malapit na interview.. sa bf ko siguro medyo matagal pa! gudlak sa interview ng hubby mo! ayaw mo ipasama si baby mo? pwede naman un diba? kaso malalayo sau c baby! :)

oo nga sis.. daming etchosera sa paligid! kiber ba natin sa kanila as long as happy tau at alam natin ang kwento kung bakit d pa tau kasal! :)
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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #80 on: December 30, 2011, 12:13:29 pm »

join ako dito...

gustong gusto na namin magpakasal kaso were still waiting for his mom's consent..everytime na tatawag sya sa nanay niya about our wedding, hindi sinasagot pati sa mga text walang reply..ayoko kasi na walang consent ng both parents eh kasi parang walang blessing yung kasal namin pero hindi naman pdeng forever kameng maghintay nun diba? hindi ko rin alam kung kelan ko lalagyan ng due date yung paghingi namin ng consent..nakakainis at nakakasakit na kasi..  :'(
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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #81 on: December 30, 2011, 12:38:16 pm »

kami din ngayon lang magkakababy.. sana nga maisama niya pag alis! buti sau sis mejhez malapit na interview.. sa bf ko siguro medyo matagal pa! gudlak sa interview ng hubby mo! ayaw mo ipasama si baby mo? pwede naman un diba? kaso malalayo sau c baby! :)

oo nga sis.. daming etchosera sa paligid! kiber ba natin sa kanila as long as happy tau at alam natin ang kwento kung bakit d pa tau kasal! :)

Approved na sis. 2nd week of Feb alis. Di ko pinasama si baby ko. I'm gonna get crazy... hehe... Di pwede....

So ngayon, aalamin ko ano na magiging reaksyon ng mga etchosera.... Hmp...
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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #82 on: January 02, 2012, 01:26:47 pm »

Meron palang topic na ganito...E di sana last year nakipost na agad ako. :-)

My/Our reasons for remaining technically single:
1. We have so many issues to settle among ourselves.
When we got pregnant, everybody was very much against it. People did not understand that we are old enough to decide for ourselves, that whatever choice we made, we gladly accept the consequence/challenge that comes with it. Naapektuhan na kami ng kaliwa't kanang batuhan ng issue--- sumbat from each party, judgmental people (surprisingly friends and family members pa sila), isama na rin natin ang financial issues.

2. We need more time for adjustment.
We are both freedom-loving individuals. I don't know if we can attribute it to the fact that we are both Sagittarians (you know, zodiac stuff), but we really need to adapt to our situation, and learn that as parents, our individual hobbies and interests take a backseat sometimes. Hindi pwede na palaging parang buhay-binata. Mas applicable ito sa kanya kasi mas mataas yung desire niya to still pursue the same things he does when he was still very much single. Pati sa pag-uugali, ideals in life, nakita namin na magkaiba kami sa maraming aspeto. I can say that though we've been living with each other for 4 years now, it is only now that we are moving towards understanding each other for what we are, what we want, and what we need.

3. Budget
At first , we thought that this is our only probloem. Later on, as the days passed by na magkasama kami sa bahay, hindi lang pala ito ang tunay na problema namin. May #1 and #2 pa (abovestated).

Actually, the trick to facing questions on our being single is choosing smart answers. With smart, hindi ko naman sinasabing dapat intellectual reply, but more of a reply that would make them back off, without us being mean. Example, pag tinatanong ako bakit hindi pa kasal, una kong sinasabi: "Bakit?" or "Why do you wanna know?" Eh di mag-iisip na sila agad kung anong isasagot nila. Pag sinabi na dapat magpakasal na kayo para sa bata, ang sinasabi ko naman, ang kasal formality lang yan. Hindi nga yan para sa bata eh, para yan gawing lehitimo ang pagsasama ng dalawang indibidwal, pero hindi kailangan minamadali, may anak ka man o wala. Pero gusto ko yung sagot na napagkasunduan namin ng partner ko: Darating din tayo dyan. :-)
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« Reply #83 on: January 26, 2012, 10:06:22 pm »

hindi naman sa nagmamagaling ako laban sa paniniwala ng mga catholic... pero kasi, ang kasal, papel na pipirmahan  nyo lang. hindi naman pipirma anak nyo dun, so isipin dn ang magiging kalagayan ng baby kung magpapakasal lang kayo dahil sa kanya tapos in the long run eh maghihiwalay din.

1st reason: hindi kayo stable. walang sariling bahay. kasi naniniwala ako na dapat kumpleto na ang pangangailangan ng magbf.. kasi ikakasal nga kayo tapos sa nanay@tatay nyo dn kayo maninirahan.
2nd reason: if for the last 5 months you are arguing about financial problems. kasi kaakibat ng financial problem ang insecurities...mamaya ikakasal kayo un pala nagaaway pa kayo dahil lang sa pera. i know its childish, pero kasi pera lang yan bakit pa kelangan pagawayan,kung walang pangpakasal eh d wag piilitin.
3rd reason: if you are planning to be wed on a courtroom.. ewan ko kung bakit naniniwala ako kelangan lumakad ng babae sa simabahan, mas respectful kasi pag ganun ang plano ng babae at lalaki, yung ikasal sa simabahan.
4th reason: kungisa sa RASON NYO IS DAHIL NAGKABUNTISAN KAYO. its not enough reason to get married. getting pregnant unplanned is the most frustrating thing a woman may have. hindi solusyon ang kasal, sometimes it triggers depression, kasi iisipin ng babae, pinakasalan lan niya ako dahil buntis ako.. ang solusyon is wag nyo takbuhan ang responsibilidad nyo panagutan nyo in short.
5th reason: kung nakapetition ang isa sa inyo. kasi sayang un, i know getting married before the petition will add a process and it will take longer to be approved.

be open minded ladies and gentlemen.. wag pairalin ang old ways. be practical. mahal ang annulment at divorce :)
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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #84 on: January 27, 2012, 09:40:47 am »

we plan not to get married during the time that i was pregnant because i want to pursue my post grad studies pa and parents ko magpapaaral sa akin. bf naman is hindi pa din graduate. ayaw namin magpakasal kasi hindi pa talaga kami ready para suportahan sarili namin. tsaka walang pera family niya para dun baka kami pa gumastos. :p
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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #85 on: April 25, 2012, 09:01:02 am »

Naisip ko lang na related itong SP article to this topic
1 in 4 Babies Born to Unwed Couples, says Report

It says here: "More people are cohabiting. It's more likely that they are going to have children when in cohabiting unions,” ...
”Marriage is an achievement that you enter into when you’re ready. But in the meantime, life happens. You form relationships. You have sex. You get pregnant. In a perfect world, they would prefer to be married, but where the economy is now, they’re not going to be able to get married, and they don’t want to wait to have kids.”


http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/community/news/1-in-4-babies-born-to-unwed-couples-says-report
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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #86 on: April 30, 2012, 03:12:18 pm »

Buti pa mga sis na nammroblema sa budget. Mas mahirap kasi kung ayaw ka lang talaga pakasalan. yung di mo alam where your relationship stands.kung may future ba or what.. hindi naman din appropriate na magtanong na kung di naman kayo ppakasal, eh maghiwalay nalang kayo.db. haaay ang hirap ng complicated.
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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #87 on: April 30, 2012, 04:25:31 pm »

sakin pag may nagtatanong nito ang sinasabi ko na lang hindi na uso ang magpakasal ngayon. ang hirap kasi mag explain each time na may magtatanong niyan kasi parang pang telenovela lang ang buhay ko. Ang husband ko kasi is naka arranged marriage para mapabilis yung pagpunta niya sa ibang bansa. 2008 pa sila kinasal ang up until now hindi pa niya madivorce yung girl kasi kulang pa yung papers niya. Pero minsan symepre napapaisip din ako ng negative. Mag 7 years na din kami at 2 na kids.
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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #88 on: June 12, 2012, 10:42:40 am »

buti nga halos lahat kayo budget ang problema, ako nga d man lang namin napag-uusapan yung tungkol sa kasal.. haist.
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« Reply #89 on: June 28, 2012, 04:36:55 am »

join ako jan! WHY?
- we're still young, wild, and free. (parang kanta to ah.)
- still a bit immature.
- we have super complicated TRUST issues.
- magastos! i wanna graduate first and save! ipon muna ako now for my kid.
- i wanna find myself first. rebuild my self-esteem, self-confidence, self-worth, (at lahat na siguro ng self-whatnots)
- kahit na 5 years na kaming nakikipagsapalaran sa isat isa, it's not yet enough. im going to make sure i know him from  head to foot inside and out. i know him quite well... but still, not enough.
- kahit kailan, gusto ko pa rin ng PEACE. yung tipikal na bati both families nyo, etc. (malas ako dito eh.)
- i wanna be respected first by my son's dad.
- lastly, i wanna be asked by Him. like in movies. 
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