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Author Topic: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?  (Read 46775 times)

YanYanYanYanYan

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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #90 on: September 17, 2012, 09:41:08 pm »


Simply because we are happy as it is. Masaya kami, contented and ofcourse we have God in the center of our relationship palagi. Marriage is just about legality mapa church or civil. Depende pa rin yan sa pagsasama nyo. Kasal nga sa harap ng simbahan but you don't practice the real meaning of marriage like puro away, sigawan, bulyawan, sakitan. murahan what's the meaning of it di ba...

medyo iba kase pananaw namin sa marriage ng Hubby ko kaya siguro next time na ang kasal pag convincing na ang meaning neto samen.  ;) Besides, assured naman ako na we'll sticking together till the end.
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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #91 on: September 28, 2012, 10:18:34 am »

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ako po mga sis, ang problema namin ng hubby ko kaya hindi pa kami kinakasal is yung birth certificate ko po. :(
wala kasi akong birth certificate mga sis, nalaman ko lang yun nung nakagraduate na ako ng elementary. pinera daw kasi ng naglakad yung pamparehisto. nakakainis talaga, kasi pati sa papasukan na school ng anak ko ngayong gr.1 kasama na ang marriage contract ng parents sa mga requirements. :(
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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #92 on: September 28, 2012, 02:54:52 pm »

kaka matay lang ng father ni hubby, hindi pa nag 1year kaya hindi pa puede which is ok na din kasi la pa din naman budget kahit civilman lang hindi pa talaga kaya always short
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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #93 on: October 02, 2012, 01:07:22 pm »

seriously i have put off my own wedding for two times already.

apart from budget, i have trust issues. i want to be sure that he will be a good stepdad for my son and good role model for him. actually, puro trust issues pala. hahaha. i'm still weighing if he wants to be married to me, because i earn more, or talagang ako ang gusto niya.

for single moms on the next guy kasi, iba ang tinitingnan ko --- apart sa dapat love ako nung guy, i am waiting to be convinced that:

1. he can provide for me and my son (kahit na i can provide naman) --- kasi syempre, gusto ko ng katuwang sa buhay. i have this possessive notion kasi na kesa naman makahati ka ng anak ko sa pera ko, sa kanya na lang. i am obligated to raise and support my child, not support my husband. he can fend for himself, malaki na sya. I am the only responsible and willing parent to raise my son, so I have to be careful that I don't waste my money on somebody who will not love him.

2. he can love my son wholeheartedly --- na even if magka-baby kami, there are no special treatment to the 'next' child.

3. has he accepted wholly that i am a single mom with a child? -- i am still observing how he is with my son and with me. his temper, his predispositions on character --- basically his values and prejudices.

4. yung money aspect --- it's more of my security.  although he said he will sign a prenup, ayoko pa rin. para namang nagkamali ako ng pinili if i insist on that. i just want him to consistently deliver and pick himself up again.  his confidence level is based on how much he earns and i want him to have that again. nakakain sya ng hiya and insecurity over these prolonged forloughs in income eh.
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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #94 on: October 08, 2012, 11:43:42 pm »

As much as we want to, hindi pa pwede. Nakapetition kasi siya for the states. Actually, silang dalawa ni baby.  Tsaka sabi ko sa kanya, gusto ko pag kinasal kami, yung napag ipunan naming dalawa kasi minsan lang naman kami ikakasal sa church. :)
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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #95 on: October 09, 2012, 03:17:43 pm »

Money matters of course...

di ba kasalan ang magsama ng hindi pa kasal??
kaya nga lagi kami nagpapray na sana maintindihan kami ni Lord sa sitwasyon namin..


pero marami namang way para maikasal..
minsan kc literal nang nagtatanong si partner sa akin,
pakasal na tayo.. kahit civil lang..

well,
hindi din namin magawa, kasi parents niya nasa ibang bansa.. at di basta basta makauwi..
2nd.. im still studying.. so after ko pa makagraduate..
ang alam kasi namin mahirap makahanap ng work kapag malamang married na ako..

isa pang rason,
di pa ko nakukumpilan, wala pa din aqng 1st communion.. buti n lang nabinyagan na ko.. hehe..
nahihiya akong makisabay sa mga kiddos.. naku, hintayin ko na lang baby ko.. sabay kami sa 1st communion at kumpil niya.. hehe

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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #96 on: October 20, 2012, 12:27:34 pm »

 ;D hehe, naku ganyan din problem namin ni hubby.  budget.  isang malaking problema.  but you know what mga sis, maraming nagsabi sa amin na dadating din yun when you least expected it.  so gora kami ni hubby.  may wedding date na, nagpareserve na sa church at restaurant pero ala pa ding ipon, ay meron, mga 20,000 but we need so much more.  alang honeymoon kaming plano kasi nga ang budget.  pero you know, God is good talaga.  after the wedding, ayun, ala kaming utang at miracle of miracles, may savings pa kami.   ;D hanggang ngayon napapaisip pa rin ako kung paano na palano ni Lord ang lahat lahat.  super dami ang nagbigay sa amin na hindi talga namin inasahan.  plus may nagregalo pa ng trip to hong kong!  Thank you Lord talaga!
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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #97 on: October 20, 2012, 02:10:03 pm »

I have a very simple wedding dream, basta church lang.. Sa ngayon, tama na muna kami sa ganitong set up basta masaya kami, i know naman darating din kami sa "big day" hopefully next year... :)
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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #98 on: October 21, 2012, 04:00:54 pm »

not to marry muna because both partners are not yet ready to give themselves to others meaning giving oneself to your partner and soon to be kids  :)  madamot pa, gusto muna pansarili tulad ng pag angat sa career, pagtulong sa pamilya, patunayan ang sarili sa mundo, etc.  pag ready na yung parehong partners to give up these matters and share themselves to others, share their time, share their knowledge, atbp then i think marriage is in the offing  :)
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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #99 on: October 23, 2012, 02:32:15 pm »

well sa hirap ng buhay ngayon one big reason is not financially stable. cyempre iba padin if your styaing with your parents libre electricity water pag uwi mo may food nang nakahanda etc. well for some naman hnd pa talaga ready.
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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #100 on: October 24, 2012, 02:23:04 pm »

main reason is ayoko pa! gusto ko magpakasal kami ni ni boyfriend after ko grumaduate.
second unahin muna namin ang ibang dapat pagkagastusan. lalo na at may baby na darating sa amin.
third wala si bf nasa abroad kaya di pa pwede.
basta paguwi niya kasi bubukod na kami. i'm still living pa kasi sa parents ko now. kasi unexpected si baby ko eh. kaya di pa naplano ng maayos. hehe.
pero SOON darating din yan.  :)
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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #101 on: December 13, 2012, 04:19:03 pm »

ako rin no budget tlaga kulang kaya di pa kami makapagpakasal ni hubby...
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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #102 on: July 23, 2013, 05:23:26 pm »

di pa sya ready  :( commitment nga di pa sya ready, kasal pa kaya? we've been together for almost 3 years na and we already have a 2 month old baby, pero wala pa ding commitment. Minsan napapaisip na ko kung mahal ba talaga ko ng partner ko.  :'(
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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #103 on: November 12, 2013, 09:53:15 pm »

AWW! :( Sapul ako dito sa topic na toh mga sis.. huhuhu.. magdadalawa na anak namen ngaun ng partner ko. Sya yung 1st BF ko at 1st GF niya din ako.. pero dahil sa bata pa kame nung time na naging kame (im only 14, 16 lang sya) kaya nag break din kame.. nagkabalikan lang kame noong 2010 mga sis at nag live in na kame agad.. Ngayon nasa right age na kame.

Never nameng napag usapan at pinag uusapan ang kasal na yan. :( Madame din kame problema sa relasyon namen kaya siguro baka ayaw naman nyang ikasal kame kahit pa mag dadalawa na ang anak namen ngayon. Ayoko din naman magtanong na, "Gusto mo ba ikasal tayo or Gusto mo ba kong pakasalan?". Kase alam ko naman ang sagot na hindi. Pero natatandaan ko may nabanggit naman sya na may balak naman daw sya kaso syempre financial problem daw madame kelangan unahin etchetera! Hindi ko naman masyado pinansin yung sinabe niya na yun kaya hindi ako sumagot. May mga kaibigan kameng nagtatanung na sakanya ng harapan kaharap din ako kung may balak daw ba syang maikasal kame, Meron naman daw pero halata naman sa mukha niya at sa tono niya na malabo yun.. :( hayy..

Ang saket sakit kaya mga sis! :( habang tina-type ko tong post na toh naiiyak iyak pa ko.. hehe! Sino ba naman ang hindi gustong ikasal sa taong mahal mo at ama ng mga anak mo?! Kahit naman simpleng civil wedding lang ok na saken..
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Re: For unmarried couples: what is the reason to not marry yet?
« Reply #104 on: November 13, 2013, 11:09:30 am »

hi mga mommies...
 
kami po 5 years ng nagsasama ng partner ko and we have 2 boys na...dati gustong gusto ko na ikasal kami, but now, parang ayoko na hehe...dati kasi dami nirereason ng partner ko, kesyo wala daw budget and gusto niya mgpakasal when he reach 30 yrs old...may ganun ganun pa syang nalalaman kalalaking hehe....30 yrs old na sya dis coming 2014 pero di ko na inoopen yung tungkol sa kasal...hintayin ko na lang sya na magopen bout dun, parang nakakahiya na lang kasi na ako pa magopen ng about sa kasal tapos mgrereason out na naman sya nung kung ano ano...:)
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