Meron palang topic na ganito...E di sana last year nakipost na agad ako. :-)
My/Our reasons for remaining technically single:
1. We have so many issues to settle among ourselves.
When we got pregnant, everybody was very much against it. People did not understand that we are old enough to decide for ourselves, that whatever choice we made, we gladly accept the consequence/challenge that comes with it. Naapektuhan na kami ng kaliwa't kanang batuhan ng issue--- sumbat from each party, judgmental people (surprisingly friends and family members pa sila), isama na rin natin ang financial issues.
2. We need more time for adjustment.
We are both freedom-loving individuals. I don't know if we can attribute it to the fact that we are both Sagittarians (you know, zodiac stuff), but we really need to adapt to our situation, and learn that as parents, our individual hobbies and interests take a backseat sometimes. Hindi pwede na palaging parang buhay-binata. Mas applicable ito sa kanya kasi mas mataas yung desire niya to still pursue the same things he does when he was still very much single. Pati sa pag-uugali, ideals in life, nakita namin na magkaiba kami sa maraming aspeto. I can say that though we've been living with each other for 4 years now, it is only now that we are moving towards understanding each other for what we are, what we want, and what we need.
3. Budget
At first , we thought that this is our only probloem. Later on, as the days passed by na magkasama kami sa bahay, hindi lang pala ito ang tunay na problema namin. May #1 and #2 pa (abovestated).
Actually, the trick to facing questions on our being single is choosing smart answers. With smart, hindi ko naman sinasabing dapat intellectual reply, but more of a reply that would make them back off, without us being mean. Example, pag tinatanong ako bakit hindi pa kasal, una kong sinasabi: "Bakit?" or "Why do you wanna know?" Eh di mag-iisip na sila agad kung anong isasagot nila. Pag sinabi na dapat magpakasal na kayo para sa bata, ang sinasabi ko naman, ang kasal formality lang yan. Hindi nga yan para sa bata eh, para yan gawing lehitimo ang pagsasama ng dalawang indibidwal, pero hindi kailangan minamadali, may anak ka man o wala. Pero gusto ko yung sagot na napagkasunduan namin ng partner ko: Darating din tayo dyan. :-)