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momskie Jane

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Your ideal family before versus your real family now.
« on: May 27, 2011, 01:43:19 pm »

Mga sis, just for a topic.

 How different is your ideal family from the existing family that you have now? Siguro naman minsan sa buhay niyo eh pinangarap niyong magkaroon ng super duper happy perfect family.

Is it really possible to actualized your ideal family? O hanggang once upon a time lang talaga yan?

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Re: Your ideal family before versus your real family now.
« Reply #1 on: May 27, 2011, 01:59:52 pm »

well i guess my childhood dreams always showed na i would be rich and my family would always be together... pero the reality is my husband is far away dahil nasa ibang lugar ang work niya, and medyo struggling to make ends meet ako...

dont get me wrong, we have a happy family naman kahit minsan lang namin makita ang asawa ko,but i guess iba pa rin siguro ang everyday kayo nagkikita... plus our money problem is more my problem dahil di talaga ako magaling humawak ng pera... im always over the budget kahit na our combined salaries would have been more than enough sana in the hands of a better budget-person, hehe....
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Re: Your ideal family before versus your real family now.
« Reply #2 on: May 27, 2011, 03:27:29 pm »

My ideal family before was like my oldest brothers family now. My hubby on a 6 digit salary. Me a stay at home mom (a choice) with a business. Have 6 kids and would adopt a child or two. A dream house. A dream car or two. Sending my kids on best schools. And summer vacations abroad.

In reality, Me being A SAHM lang ang totoo. Sapat lang sa aming tatlo and then some ang sahod ni hubby. 1 lang baby namin sa ngayon dahil mahirap pa sundan si Lila. We live in an apartment compound own by my mom. Hubby drives her ate's car. Hindi pa nag-aaral anak namin. Hindi pa rin sya nagbabakasyon abroad dahil maliit pa sya  ;D

Though I know it in my heart we could also have that kind of life hindi naman kami nagmamadali ni hubby talaga. Before talagang puro kami pangarap and worked really hard. Pero nung dumating si lila sa amin pareho kaming na lie-low. Lalo na si hubby na talagang dati parang laging may hinahabol para may mapatunayan. Simple lang ang buhay namin compared nung dalawa pa lang kami pero ngayon parang were just more happy. Simply happier kasi magkakasama kaming tatlo. Ang layo dun sa talagang pangarap namin pero alam naming kaya namin abutin pero I guess pareho kami na ayaw ipagsapalaran talaga pag yung anak na namin or simply yung family yung malalagay sa alanganin. It may not be my ideal family but Im loving everything about the family I have now. I may not have everything I want but I have everything I need. And I wont trade it on anything in this world.
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Re: Your ideal family before versus your real family now.
« Reply #3 on: July 06, 2011, 10:40:01 pm »

When I was a child my ideal family consist of..

a happily married couple with kids (2-3)
doesn't have to be rich but happy
goes to church on Sundays
goes to picnics =)

I have now realized I have the family I wanted.


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Re: Your ideal family before versus your real family now.
« Reply #4 on: July 07, 2011, 08:14:39 pm »


ideal family ko.... yung happily and so much in love married couple, may 2 to 3 cutie kids. yung may kaya pero di naman sobrang yaman,  ;D, yung sama sama lagi, lalo na sa paglilingkod sa Mahal na Panginoon. yung parang family sa 7th heaven.

my real family now...

i'm living it...  :)
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Re: Your ideal family before versus your real family now.
« Reply #5 on: July 08, 2011, 07:47:54 am »

ideal family ko yung magkakasama kumain, mamasyal, magsimba at iba pa. kaya ayaw ko na mag-ofw si hubby kasi gusto ko sama-sama kami. pero hindi nga siya ofw, madalas naman out of town or out of the country, pag nasa pinas naman, late pa rin uwi, so madalas kami lang ng anak ko magkasabay kumain.
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Re: Your ideal family before versus your real family now.
« Reply #6 on: July 08, 2011, 07:53:27 am »

i always want ed to be a single supeerrr rich, hot, mom, with 2-3 kids and a supporting (EX SD - financially for kids)
sa ngayon i have a baby and very irresponsible SD who never gives any support.. but atleaast i have the 1st part  come true being single mom  :)
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Re: Your ideal family before versus your real family now.
« Reply #7 on: July 08, 2011, 08:08:27 am »

my ideal family:

-Both hubby and I working sa magandang company with a high/well paid position, both in Philippines (ayaw ko kasi ng magkalayo kami ni hubby) mas ok kasi sabay namin palalakihin mga anak namin.
-Having 1-2 child na kamukha namin mgasawa, healthy at matalino/bibo  ;D
-Strong faith kay God.
-Like ng family ko when I was single, always magkakasama sa mga lakad

my family now:
-happy kasi magkasama kami until now dito sa Philippines kahit di regular c hubby sa work at least we are helping together to all expenses. Ako ok naman sa work kahit hindi sobrang laki ng salary, well compensated naman.
- Magiging 2 na child namin.
-Happy kasi we're all together going sa church and sa mga lakad, kasama buong pamilya pati family ng sister ko.

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Re: Your ideal family before versus your real family now.
« Reply #8 on: July 15, 2011, 04:39:44 am »

I never had an ideal family because my parents were separated in a bad way.  My mom left, but my dad was a good provider even if that meant so much time away from home.  He'd try to make it a point to have family lunches, and did take us out when he had the time.  Suffice to say, I never really had a family and that's nothing to get sympathy out of.  My Dad was very kind, but never had the time to watch my sport events or plays at school.  I never wanted to settle down.  I thought all families were dysfunctional to a degree.

I've been very happily married for five years, and through the grace of Christ (I am a Christian), we are raising our son hands-on, and despite a hectic work load, really cut out chunks of my schedule for my son.  My wife and I talk through situations and work things out together.  We're a great balance.  I'm the crazy one, and she's the practical one. 

We're usually out together, I'm blessed to have married someone like her, and to have a wonderful kid.  : )  No matter how your family is, or what your family is, be you a single mom, a gay couple or the like, put love in the center of it all, and you'll never go wrong! 
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Re: Your ideal family before versus your real family now.
« Reply #9 on: July 15, 2011, 07:27:31 am »

Mga sis, just for a topic.

 How different is your ideal family from the existing family that you have now? Siguro naman minsan sa buhay niyo eh pinangarap niyong magkaroon ng super duper happy perfect family.

Is it really possible to actualized your ideal family? O hanggang once upon a time lang talaga yan?

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a family that's closely knitted and celebrates together special occasions and even the little ones.
so far, 70% yung pagka-pareho ng reality ko sa ideal.

will go back to this thread again, pag labas na ng baby ko. para ma-share ko naman ang lfamily ife with my child as compared to my ideal one.
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Re: Your ideal family before versus your real family now.
« Reply #10 on: July 16, 2011, 11:41:16 pm »

my ideal family was complete, yung tipong father, mother and kids (2-3) - super loving and caring environment...

reality of my present situation? - the father! :P i may be raising my kids alone but they do have the loving & caring environment that I wanted!  :) mas mabuti na ganito kesa naman lumaki sila kasama ang isang taong iresponsable...  :-X
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Re: Your ideal family before versus your real family now.
« Reply #11 on: July 21, 2011, 12:00:20 am »

nong bata ako gusto ko kumpleto may nanay may tatay.. tapos nung high school nag-iba isip ko gusto ko anak na lang.. natakot ako mag-asawa naghiwalay kasi sila parents ko.. ayun.. ngayon.. single mom ako pero nagdadasal kay LORD na baguhin yung mind set ko.. :)
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« Reply #12 on: July 21, 2011, 08:57:26 pm »

I came from a broken family so simple lang ang ideal family ko: My hubby and I will be together as long as we both shall live(ala Edward and Bella..hehe), We'll be both working but we still have time for family specially during weekends. We will spend offdays with the family, go to church on Sunday morning, have lunch together in a restaurant, mamamasyal, go out of town. Yung simple things in life, yun ang gusto ko. Added bonus na yung magkaron ako ng husband na umiinom pero hindi manginginom, at of course, will devote his time to providing for the family and being a good husband and dad.

And now, all I can say is, I am very blessed to have found a man who gave me all these.. and more.. :) There's nothing more to ask for. Lagi ko na lang prayer is maging healthy lang lagi ang family ko and that our little boy will grow up to be like his dad, responsible, God fearing and loves us so much.

Siguro kasi hindi ito yung naging life ko with my papa before. Siguro part of praying for an ideal family is praying for a good husband. When I saw that he is very different from my father, hindi ko na siya hehe...)

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Re: Your ideal family before versus your real family now.
« Reply #13 on: April 21, 2012, 04:44:52 pm »

ang ideal family set-up ko is nakabukod malayo sa in-laws and sa parents ko. close kami ng parents ko pero sila na rin nag advise sakin na mas mainam if malayo nang sa ganun walang makikialam on how i would like my family to be.

pero now, i'm living with my IL's. but i'm positive na we can move out and have our own place.  :)
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Re: Your ideal family before versus your real family now.
« Reply #14 on: April 21, 2012, 05:47:24 pm »

My ideal family:
> an outgoing family of 5, living in our own dreamhouse, with enough income to spend for the basic needs and a few for luxuries

My family right now:
> a family of 4 (two daughters) who loves to travel, explore, and do extreme adventures
> we live on our own, but our abode is situated above my MIL's residence
> hubby and i are both working. Him as a practicing lawyer with a few businesses on the sides to augment our income, and me as a banker. So far, we can provide the basic needs of our kids and a few wants.
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