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Re: How to deal with batang makulit?
« Reply #15 on: August 23, 2011, 11:55:48 am »

tama si mommy inker, you should already be practising your patience with your pamangkins para maapply mo sa anak mo. syempre iba yung magiging treatment mo sa baby mo pero you never know na baka dumating sa point na maubos na talaga pasensya mo sa kanya.

you can try talking with them, see if madadaan mo pala sa usapan yung pagka-kulit/ingay nila. some children kasi, alam nila na they have free reign lalo na pag nasa ibang bahay, kaya baka ganun yung mga pamangkin mo. bakit naman hindi mo sila pwede pagsabihan, e kayo naman ang nakatira dun sa bahay. and it shows din na you have concern over the well-being ng mga pamangkin mo, not that pakialamera ka.

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Re: How to deal with batang makulit?
« Reply #16 on: October 27, 2011, 03:57:04 pm »

mga sis share ko lang. nakikitira kami sa bahay ng partner ko and sa bahay na yon may tatlong batang lalaki na makukulit. their 9, 5, and 5. when i was almost 9mos pregnant, lumipat na kami sa kanila and super irritated ako kasi ang ingay at nanggigising pa talaga. when i gave birth, ganun pa rin. si baby nasanay na lang sa ingay pero it was so stressful for me kasi walang quiet time and i wasn't comfortable breastfeeding w/ all the noise and the racket and the people whom i wasn't close to. if i go to our room. kakatukin ka. hayst. and everytime we buy something for our baby, the 5yr old gets jealous and would ask his mom to buy him those things gaya nung crib. nang hindi sya binili, alam nyo ano ginawa niya? ginunting niya ang crib ng baby ko. i was so mad. at yung isang 5 yr old, when he thought everyone was already asleep, he reached for my baby's formula, and ginawa nyang snack just using his dirty hands. buti nahuli namin. at one time habang pinapakain ko si baby, at pinupunasan ko mukha ni baby ko, he dipped his hands on my baby's food when he thought i wasn't looking.yung nine yr old, maingay lang talaga sya.hehe. before i could not bring myself to correct them kasi i let my partner/the lola/the mother do it. pero minsan napagsasabihan ko na rin. the other 5yr old is the one who is difficult to handle(yung may issue sa food). kahit partner ko nahihirapan dumisiplina sa kanya. and no matter what i do i just can't bring myself to like him.
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Re: How to deal with batang makulit?
« Reply #17 on: October 27, 2011, 06:41:03 pm »

Hi moomy YsLim, hindi ba nakikita ng mother yung mga kids para mapagsabihan. Maybe you can talk to the kids directly in such a way na kayang maintindihan ng isang 5 year old. Medyo mahabang patience ang need mo. Suggestion lang sis, kapag maingay sila, maybe you can talk to them na wag sila maingay kasi may natutulog. Kapag nakikialam ng food, tell them to ask permission first, wash their hands, etc., etc. Hindi naman siguro masama kung maayos mo naman didisiplinahin sila sis, nakakaawa din yung mga kids baka sobrang busy ng parents nila at hindi sila maasikaso.
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Re: How to deal with batang makulit?
« Reply #18 on: October 27, 2011, 06:55:22 pm »

lam nyo mga moms ganyan din ako dati...nung baby pa eldest ko asar ako sa mga batang ang kukulit at iingay...pero nung lumaki si eldest ko at may ADHD...grabe pala talaga kapag sinumpong nag kulit mga bata..naintindihan ko na ganun sila ka curious..although hindi humihingi ng pera anak ko...merun akong pamangkin sa pinsan ganyan nasanay kase twing magwawala ayun bili agad sa tindhan para tumahimik lang . so sinanay nila yung bata...ako sa loob loob ko hindi maganda yung ganun...

pero kung kapitbahay ,kalaro ,pinsan  na sa bahay namin at magulo or nakikipag away sinasaway ko talaga...sasabihin ko na masama un hindi maganda,kung maingay sinasabi ko may natutulog ahahaha...
tsaka sabi ko kapag nag aaway hindi na pwedeng maglaro ulit dun sa bahay kase hindi na masaya...
about sa food so far wala pa naman ako na encounter na nangingialam sa ref namin ,kase pag meryenda time pati friends ng anak ko binibigyan ko din naman...pero if ever may ganun,pag sasabihan ko na dapat nag papalam.

kaya talaga moms on hands tyo...kase naiisip ko din ano kung ano din sinasabi ng ibang tao about sa anak ko...makulit talaga si panganay ko maingay yun panay kanta kase nun..kaya iniisip ko nalang ganun talaga ang mga bata may kanya kanyang ugali intindihin nalang tutal tayo naman nkakatanda...
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Re: How to deal with batang makulit?
« Reply #19 on: October 28, 2011, 07:26:45 am »

@rainebow mom: single parent yung mom ng isang 5yr old. busy lage ang mom. this kid i can talk to and he understands. and yung isang 5yr old na may issue sa food eh hiwalay parents and wala parents niya sa bahay. it's a long story. i feel bad for him pero ilang beses na sya kinakausap ng matino ng partner ko (he knows how to handle kids kasi) pero the 5yr old acts like he never heard a thing. each time you talk to him, he would stare into space. when you ask him what made him do those things, he would just zip his mouth,cry for a while, but would never utter a single word, even if you ask him nicely. hindi talaga sya sa bahay nakatira kasi he lives with his mom. pero occasionally iniiwan sya for a month or two sa amin, but this time he's been with us for almost 6months na. he says he likes staying w/ us kasi ang dami nyang kalaro and sagana sya sa food. but i think he needs his mom. eh ang problema busy ang mom kasi bumubuo na naman ng ibang pamilya.  ::)
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Re: How to deal with batang makulit?
« Reply #20 on: October 28, 2011, 10:36:52 am »

Hi sis, same pala tayo ng concern. Kaya lang yung mga makukulit na pamangkin ni hobby, hindi naman nangingialam ng gamit. Maingay at makukulit lang talaga. Well until now medyo irita pa rin ako kasi ayoko talaga ng maingay and until now ganun padin ang atmosphere sa bahay pag nandun sila. Sawayan dito, sawayan don, iyakan dito, iyakan don. Tama siguro si sismomofrainchira, pag lumaki na ang baby ko at makulit na din, maiintindihan at matatanggap ko na ang kakulitan ng mga bata.

Ang nafifeel ko naman ngayon, naiinis ako sa parents ng mga bata kasi yung pamangkin ni hubby 8yrs old, parang sa bahay na nakatira, his parents are both working so I understand if he stay in our house during weekdays kaya lang even if its weekend na wala namang pasok ang magulang niya nasa bahay pa din all day. One time I asked him kung bakit nandito ka pag weekend, dapat kasama mo ang mama at papa mo kasi pag weekdays hindi kayo nagkakasama sama kasi may pasok sila, magbonding kayo. Sabi niya e kasi nagkakantahan sila eh. See, it means na yung parents ang walang ginagawang way para makabonding ang mga anak nila. Kung ayaw ng anak nila magvideooke, dapat kung ano yung interes ng anak, yun din ang gawin nila.  Feeling magboyfriend-girlfriend. I canít imagine myself doing that to my child. Kaya ang anak kulang sa atensyon ng magulang. Yung isa naman 4yrs old, ang parents niya super young pa at 3 agad na sunod sunod ang anak kaya di na siya natutukan. 
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disciplining other people's kids
« Reply #21 on: May 30, 2012, 09:23:27 am »

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