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mariann

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Re: Misunderstanding with Hubby
« Reply #45 on: October 21, 2009, 10:40:55 am »

before, whenever we have misunderstandings, i tend to nag him to patch things up.

now, i give time and space for both of us to cool down.  mahirap pilitin ang taong ayaw makipagbati.
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Re: Misunderstanding with Hubby
« Reply #46 on: October 21, 2009, 11:08:00 am »

^agree ako syo sis dati ako ganyan kinukulet ko pa sya para mki pag usap kaso mas lalo pala sya nagaglit ng hehe

kaya ngayon pag sinabi ni BF, pag nakikta ko ng na de-deform yung face niya..lumalayo na ako

pag ok na sya si BF na mismo lalapit sa akin para mag usap kame...
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Re: Misunderstanding with Hubby
« Reply #47 on: November 06, 2009, 11:37:46 pm »

pag sya ang may kasalanan -

siguro nga tikis muna sis. make him realize yun kasalanan niya. kasi pag ikaw agad nakipagbati, baka palagi niya na yun gagawin kasi iisipin niya ok lang pala kasi babatiin mo din sya..

pero may factor din na dapat pag nagmamahalan, di nagtitikisan..

depende siguro sis.. hehe. pasensya na gulo ko :)
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Re: paano ba kayo mg away ni hubby?
« Reply #48 on: December 24, 2009, 10:18:14 pm »

topics "paano kayo magaway ni Hubby " and Misunderstanding with Hubby" - merged
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Re: paano ba kayo mg away ni hubby?
« Reply #49 on: January 09, 2010, 11:27:57 am »

SILENT WAR ang drama namin parati...

after nun luhaan na, mala open forum then ok na... yun nah! ;D ;D
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Re: paano ba kayo mg away ni hubby?
« Reply #50 on: January 11, 2010, 04:34:09 pm »

Meron din pala akong ka-ugali sa mga nag post!  I thought nag-iisa lang ako.

Kapag nag-aaway kami ni Hubby, usually silent lang ako, kung galit ako silent din ako, hindi kasi ako verbal, hindi ako sanay mag open up (siguro kasi 1st born ako, i've learned to control my emotions, to be strong).  He will nag me until I speak, and if i finally speak, iyak naman ako.  Mahirap sa akin ang mag express ng emotions.  Hindi ako sanay mag-nag.  Bahala ka manigas dyan, wala kang maririning sa akin. 

My husband, on the other hand, madaldal (palibhasa, salesman), ang gusto niya kapag may away kami, we talk about it, pero mahirap sa akin mag salita because I almost always get into tears kapag I speak of what I feel.  Ang dami-dami kong gustong sabihin pero nahihirpan akong i-express ng tama ang mga ito, kaya usually i end us mis-intepreted  :(  Well maybe, may pride din siguro ako being first born and a year older then him.  Siya naman, youngest of his siblings.

Usually siya rin ang unang nag-so-sorry, kahit alam niyang mali ako.  He usually gives in.  It is also hard sa akin na mag-sorry sa kanya.  Ewan ko ba etong pride ko.  Mabait ang Hubby ko, kaya na-aawa ako sa kanya sa ginagawa ko sa kanya.  Anyway, we're married for 10 years now and with 3 kids.  I really need to finally learn to let down my pride and give in na.  :-\

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Re: paano ba kayo mg away ni hubby?
« Reply #51 on: January 11, 2010, 07:32:50 pm »

hahaha natawa talaga ako sa mga post niyo mga mommies....
sabagay hindi naman daw talaga nawawala sa mag-aswa yung away...sabi nga nila may 3 rings...engagement ring...wedding ring...sufferring... ;D
hindi p naman kami umaabot sa tipong batuhan ng gamit or sakitan..at sana huwag mangyari iyon kailanman.. :D
kami ni hubby kung sino man ang may kasalanan hindi kami nag-iimikan ng husto..lalabas siya ng bahay yung tipong papalamig lang..ayaw marinig kung may sabihin ako..sa pagtulog magkatalikod talaga kami..pero yung last namin na tampuhan, ako may kasalanan hindi ko kasi siya pinansin kaagad sa sinasabi niya kasi may pinapanood lang ako sandali, aba nagalit lumabas? (sabagay kahit ako gawin saken yung ginawa ko aalis din ako ;D) after a few minutes aba bumalik na sabay sabi "maghain kana kain tayo" siya p nag-low sa aming hehe then minsan sa pagtulog magkatalikod kami,..pero kapag yung face niya iba pa ang look yung galit p hindi ko muna kinakausap..mainit p ulo eh... ;D 6 years tanda niya saken mature na siya siguro talaga..ako??ewan saken... ::) sana matutunan ko din kainin minsan yung pride ko..;D para hindi na kami mag-away...
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Re: paano ba kayo mg away ni hubby?
« Reply #52 on: January 13, 2010, 10:11:17 pm »


Kapag nag-aaway kami ni Hubby, usually silent lang ako, kung galit ako silent din ako, hindi kasi ako verbal, hindi ako sanay mag open up (siguro kasi 1st born ako, i've learned to control my emotions, to be strong).  He will nag me until I speak, and if i finally speak, iyak naman ako.  Mahirap sa akin ang mag express ng emotions.  Hindi ako sanay mag-nag.  Bahala ka manigas dyan, wala kang maririning sa akin. 

My husband, on the other hand, madaldal (palibhasa, salesman), ang gusto niya kapag may away kami, we talk about it, pero mahirap sa akin mag salita because I almost always get into tears kapag I speak of what I feel.  Ang dami-dami kong gustong sabihin pero nahihirpan akong i-express ng tama ang mga ito, kaya usually i end us mis-intepreted.

My Goodness were almost perfectly the same  ;D But Im a middle child. For me naman siguro is I grew-up practically alone. Laki ako sa lolo at lola so basically parang only child. Kaya ewan....sabi nga ng mga sibling ko autistic ako kasi wala ako laging reaction  ;D Pero hindi naman nega yung dating nun sa akin. Kaya na apply ko rin kay hubby. Sabi nga niya nakakainis akong awayin. But we do have fights. Petty nga lang talaga pa so far. Pasensyosa kasi kami pareho. Pero sya yung mas verbal. Sya yung mas makulit magtanong na makipag bati kahit wala pa ako sa mood. Madalas wala lang kibuan pareho ng mga ilang oras. Tapos we dont sleep talaga ng may samaan ng loob. Kasi sa gabi we pray together so wala kaming choice rin kundi harapin isat-isa talaga pag matutulog na.
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Re: paano ba kayo mg away ni hubby?
« Reply #53 on: March 30, 2010, 01:49:38 am »

Nakakatuwa naman itong topic na 'to.

Kwento ko yung funny moment namin ni hubby. Kami kasi ni hubby pagnag away wordwar talaga. Nitong huli ewan siguro sa sobrang inis niya sa akin sinigawan na ako. Kaya sigaw to the max din ang drama ko. Pagkatapos nun silent treatment sabay talikod,  higa ng kama at cover ng kumot. Di naman ako makatulog sa sobrang inis kaya lumabas ako ng flat. Nagsisi naman akong nung makalabas ako dahil sa sobrang lamig. Winter kasi nun sa HK at 11degrees nung gabi na yun. Ang br*ho ko kasing asawa sabi wag na daw ako magdala ng makapal na jacket dahil papasummer na daw kaya di na malamig. So, ala na ako magawa dahil pagbumalik ako agad pagtatawanan ako ni hubby. Binilisan ko nalang paglalakad ko para mawala yug lamig na napi-feel ko. Tagumpay naman pagkatapos ko maikot ng 3times yung isang block umuwi na rin ako diretso ng comforter. hahaha. Di na galit si hubby at sinusuyo na ako. :-D 
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Re: paano ba kayo mg away ni hubby?
« Reply #54 on: March 30, 2010, 07:55:02 am »

pag nag-away kami ni hubby, tahimik lang ako. hindi ko talaga cia sinasabayan. Ganun lang talaga ako as a person. Lahat ng mga sagot ko sa kanya sa utak ko lang sinasabi. Pag kailangan na niya ng sagot eh di sasabihin ko sa kanya.

Ayoko kasi talaga ng mga awayan. Di ako confrontational.
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Re: paano ba kayo mg away ni hubby?
« Reply #55 on: March 30, 2010, 08:28:28 am »

ako, i talk a lot while hubby just listens. tapos pag-alam na niyang pagod na ako kakadaldal, turn naman niya. at least we practice give and take. after noon kahit malaki un issue, bati na kami. mahirap kasi gumising nang nakasimangot. lalo na si baby sa gitna namin natutulog. tawa pa naman nang tawa un tuwing gumigising.
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Re: paano ba kayo mg away ni hubby?
« Reply #56 on: March 30, 2010, 02:53:02 pm »

kame naman ng hubby ko pag nag-away eh tahimik lang dedmahan to the max lang, talikuran matulog at bonggang irap ang nararanasan niya mula saken tapos pag tinanong niya ko sagot ako with a cold and emotionless voice hehe ,. kung sino una manuyo yun na hehe bati na kame ,.
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Re: paano ba kayo mg away ni hubby?
« Reply #57 on: March 30, 2010, 06:35:04 pm »

actually ako lagi nangaaway...deadma ang  drama ko pro pag inaamo niya na ko at bigla na kong natawa..matitinding kurot ang natitikman niya......d kc pwedeng maingay kc baka marinig ng anak namin...ayoko kc makita nyang nagaaway kami ni hubby
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Re: paano ba kayo mg away ni hubby?
« Reply #58 on: March 31, 2010, 08:33:22 am »

Rewind tayo several decades ago.  Eto ang scene:
Spouse 1 - That is not true!  You are not telling the truth!
Spouse 2 - You can say what you like.  This is my truth.  Your truth is different.
Spouse 1 - What are you talking about?!? There is only one truth.  And I tell you again, what you said is not true!
Spouse 2 -  Well, I am telling you - this is MY truth.  You don't have any idea at all what truth is all about.
Spouse 1 - I don't know what truth is?  You want me to define it?  You want me to define it even in the meta-physical sense?
Spouse 2 - Oh don't bother, I know you won't know how to define it.  You are not intelligent enough.
Above is an example of how we used to argue - very cerebral, contest of intellectual prowess, "put down" of one by the other.  The "put down" is very hurting, and causes Spouse 1 to burst in tears.  Spouse 2 sees the tears, thinks to himself that Spouse 1 is crying just to show him that he is such a bad person.  Spouse 2 says - Yes, I am a bad person - then he leaves the room, banging the door behind him.  Spouse 1 cries all the more.  Similar arguments on other disagreements - trivial or big - also occurred, and the same scene of tears, "bad person" talk and room-leaving occurred.  The hurt and the anger built up.  The spouses spiraled downwards from the romance stage of their marriage, to disillusionment and then to misery.

Forward to now:
Spouse 1 - (In a letter)  When you said that, and with me knowing that it is not true, I was hurt.  My hurt feeling is like the pain on my knee that got wounded when I fell down from the bike when I was still learning to ride the bike - that wound took a long time to heal and my knee up to now bears a scar from that wound.  My feeling is an intensity of 8 out of a maximum 10.  My hurt feeling is making me take short gasps of breath, my throat start to constrict, and, I think I am going to cry already with copious tears.  It is the same hurt feeling we shared when we saw our car damaged by a large branch of a sampaloc tree that time that there was a storm - we felt hurt all the more because it was a damage that we both knew we could not afford to have repaired.
Spouse 2 - (Reads the letter, etc. etc.)

This is one mode of communication that we learned from the RETROUVAILLE PROGRAM, where both my husband and I - and our children (who are now adults) as well - found hope and re-discovered our commitment to our marriage, and to the continued healing of our marriage and our family.  In sincere gratitude for the benefits to our married relationship that we continue to receive as we continue to participate in the sustaining activities, we have volunteered to help promote information on the healing ministry of Retrouvaille, so that other hurting marriages and troubled families are offered the same opportunity to be healed that we (and our children) have received, and their marriages can thrive as a covenant of life and love.  That is why I am writing you.  I am positive the Retrouvaile Program can help you and your spouse too.  The Retrouvaile Program begins with a weekend, and are scheduled April, June, July, August, October and November this year.  The April 2010 Program will start with a  Weekend at 7pm April 23, 2010 at a venue in Antipolo City.  For information on the April schedule, you can call up Mar & Armi 825-2605, husband Mar , wife Armi 0918-383-3247, or Fr. Dave Clay 0918-902-0511, email  retrouvaille.antipolo2010@gmail.com, or visit www.retrouvaille.org

God bless to one and all.............

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Re: paano ba kayo mg away ni hubby?
« Reply #59 on: March 31, 2010, 01:24:34 pm »

kami, silent treatment.. minsan walang pansinan.. cold treatment.. pero ako man or sya may kasalanan, ako pa rin nauuna bumati.. hirap eh!
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