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[mamalev]

hi moms out there!!! i'm a new member and been reading other posts and i must say people here are so helpful. so i'm wondering if any1 can help me with my little boy. he hits his cousins basta lumapit lang or even yung magkalayo sila lalapit pa sya para lang hampasin ang mga pinsan niya. wala syang pakialam kahit mas matanda sa kanya or mas bata. akala ko he's just like that to his cousins kc jealous but no kahit sa ibang bata ganun din siya. alam ko kung kanino niya nakuha ang ganung style sa isa nyang pinsan but how do i teach him not to hit others now that he's into that habit na. nalolokah ako sa kanya i've told him gazillion times na it's bad. tried keeping him away from the others once he hits one of them. tried locking ourselves up in our room na kami lang para madala at ako lang ang kalaro niya when he hears the others na happily naglalaro outside. wa epek pa rin, he'll promise not to hit anybody again but once he's out ayun parang nakawala sa koral. please help...
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[mommy_angel]

hi momskie, may pinsan ako ganyan din yung prob. nananakit siya, kahit father niya lumalaban siya. and bugbog sarado yung yaya niya. nung pina check nila, may problem ata sa bata. hindi ko lang alam kung ano yun. tapos may nireseta na gamot. hindi siya yung sakit na "Hyper" ha, iba yun... pero hanggang ngayun ganon parin siya, kinakagat niya mga classmate niya..

Siguro maganda ipa check mo narin siya, baka may something na attention siyang hinahanap kaya ganon...

[kalix]

hi moms out there!!! i'm a new member and been reading other posts and i must say people here are so helpful. so i'm wondering if any1 can help me with my little boy. he hits his cousins basta lumapit lang or even yung magkalayo sila lalapit pa sya para lang hampasin ang mga pinsan niya. wala syang pakialam kahit mas matanda sa kanya or mas bata. akala ko he's just like that to his cousins kc jealous but no kahit sa ibang bata ganun din siya. alam ko kung kanino niya nakuha ang ganung style sa isa nyang pinsan but how do i teach him not to hit others now that he's into that habit na. nalolokah ako sa kanya i've told him gazillion times na it's bad. tried keeping him away from the others once he hits one of them. tried locking ourselves up in our room na kami lang para madala at ako lang ang kalaro niya when he hears the others na happily naglalaro outside. wa epek pa rin, he'll promise not to hit anybody again but once he's out ayun parang nakawala sa koral. please help...

how old is your son mamalev?

[mamalev]

hi d ko pnapacheck sa devt pedia ang river ko kc isipin na naman ni hubby oa na naman ako pagdating sa only child ko. btw he's 2.6 y/o and most of my friends who have kids say na it's because of his age talaga but i don't know how to handle it kc parang masaya sya gnagawa niya kc paulit ulit kahit na pinagpromise ko na siya na wag uulitin kc bad yun.

[doreenpfft]

i think magiging dilemma ko din ito sa baby ko... she's barely 1 year old, pero ang kamay sobrang bigat, nanapak, nangungurot! Even us her parents, gingawa niya yun.. Kaya nga minsan whens shes outside playing with other kids sinasabihan na namin yung yaya na huwag masyadong ipalapit sa daughter ko baka masapak... dapat na ba akong ma-alarm?

[kalix]

one trick is to divert his attention. then explain kung anong gamit ng kamay. at hindi ginagamit ang hands to hurt other people.  effective sa son ko pero he rarely do it naman before. that's what we do sa nephew ko ngayon. ipapakita ko yung hands ko at kung anong magagawa o gamit ng hands. nagpi play din kami ng parang puppet, "talking hands" kunwari. he is amazed actually. & everytime na mananakit sya. hold namin yung hand niya tapos sasabihin namin "apir" or "high five". then tatawa na sya. wala na yung urge na manakit sya. yes it's normal for them to hit kasi they can't express their feelings yet. just be consistent sa pagreremind & diverting his attention.

[mamalev]

promise sis i'll try that any suggestion is sooo welcome to me kasi ang bata ganyan eh iba-ibang style nyan sa pagdidiscipline what i thought worked for us when we were kids obviously didn't work with my bebe. iba na ang generation ngaun my mom would say isang sutsut lang daw niya behave na kami sa mga apo niya ngaun sumutsut siya kundi siya pinagtawanan ng mga yun hahaha. my mom and dad were here a few months back nagvacation sila they got a taste of what we were experiencing with our kids napapailing na lang sila.

[yummymommy]

one trick is to divert his attention. then explain kung anong gamit ng kamay. at hindi ginagamit ang hands to hurt other people.  effective sa son ko pero he rarely do it naman before. that's what we do sa nephew ko ngayon. ipapakita ko yung hands ko at kung anong magagawa o gamit ng hands. nagpi play din kami ng parang puppet, "talking hands" kunwari. he is amazed actually. & everytime na mananakit sya. hold namin yung hand niya tapos sasabihin namin "apir" or "high five". then tatawa na sya. wala na yung urge na manakit sya. yes it's normal for them to hit kasi they can't express their feelings yet. just be consistent sa pagreremind & diverting his attention.

sis kalix, i'm gonna try this too, buti na bring up ito ng isang mommy, problema ko din to kay zoe eh..

[andrew610]

nakarelate ako bigla sa topic na to ha! hehe.. ganyan din anak ko pag may ibang bata.. nangungurot sya o kaya nananabunot. kaya pag may ibang kids around.. lagi ko sinasabi sa yaya bantayan kasi baka pati ko mapaaway. hehe.. 

[kalix]

true. every child is unique. there are diff'rent ways of disciplining our child. it may work to others but to some they do not. that's why it's important to be observant when it comes to our child/children's behaviour and interests. like for example, my nephews & one niece. my nephew 1 likes sounds. so ginagamit namin yan sa kanya  to distract or divert his attention. binibigyan namin sya ng bote ng mineral water para pisil pisilin niya para mag create ng sound. my nephew 2 naman loves cars. so yun din pang distract namin(aside don sa nabanggit kong trick "talking hand"). sa niece ko naman she likes music. so pag nakarinig sya ng music nada divert attention din niya. namemelow yung temper niya. sa son ko naman he loves books, pictures & animals. we can be creative at samantalahin yung mga gusto nila para ma tame natin ang behaviour nila. & also dapat ina acknowledge din natin yung mga good behaviours nila. may hug or kiss pag good boy/girl sila.

[julianciv]

hi mommies!
 my 16 months old baby , nananampal at nangungurot din, lalo na pag hindi nasunod yung gusto niya. pagsinasabihan ko siya na "bad yan baby", iki-kiss na niya ako, yun ang panlaban niya kaya yun, matatawa na lang ako... 

[yummymommy]

true. every child is unique. there are diff'rent ways of disciplining our child. it may work to others but to some they do not. that's why it's important to be observant when it comes to our child/children's behaviour and interests. like for example, my nephews & one niece. my nephew 1 likes sounds. so ginagamit namin yan sa kanya  to distract or divert his attention. binibigyan namin sya ng bote ng mineral water para pisil pisilin niya para mag create ng sound. my nephew 2 naman loves cars. so yun din pang distract namin(aside don sa nabanggit kong trick "talking hand"). sa niece ko naman she likes music. so pag nakarinig sya ng music nada divert attention din niya. namemelow yung temper niya. sa son ko naman he loves books, pictures & animals. we can be creative at samantalahin yung mga gusto nila para ma tame natin ang behaviour nila. & also dapat ina acknowledge din natin yung mga good behaviours nila. may hug or kiss pag good boy/girl sila.

hay nako sis kalix thanks so much for these ideas, siguro kaya ganun ka sweetie si yuan mo

[kalix]

true. every child is unique. there are diff'rent ways of disciplining our child. it may work to others but to some they do not. that's why it's important to be observant when it comes to our child/children's behaviour and interests. like for example, my nephews & one niece. my nephew 1 likes sounds. so ginagamit namin yan sa kanya  to distract or divert his attention. binibigyan namin sya ng bote ng mineral water para pisil pisilin niya para mag create ng sound. my nephew 2 naman loves cars. so yun din pang distract namin(aside don sa nabanggit kong trick "talking hand"). sa niece ko naman she likes music. so pag nakarinig sya ng music nada divert attention din niya. namemelow yung temper niya. sa son ko naman he loves books, pictures & animals. we can be creative at samantalahin yung mga gusto nila para ma tame natin ang behaviour nila. & also dapat ina acknowledge din natin yung mga good behaviours nila. may hug or kiss pag good boy/girl sila.

hay nako sis kalix thanks so much for these ideas, siguro kaya ganun ka sweetie si yuan mo

welcome sis sana hanggang paglaki nila sweet pa rin sila.hehe!

[grancky]

hi! newbie here...im the step mom of a little boy (2yrs and 4mos old), we dont live together yet but we see each other often. problem lang ng husband ko lately kasi natututo sya manuntok or manakit ng iba. before lumalaban lang sya sa daddy niya pero yesterday nagreresign yung yaya kasi bukod sa sobrang makulit, sinasaktan na rin sya. we're thinking of putting him sa mga playschool but will it help? fear ko lang baka sa school naman sya manakit. we're also trying our best to be patient in explaining and bonding with him mas frequent na pero it seems walang changes sa ugali niya instead lumalala. saan din sya pwede pa-check? pls help, thanks!

[mommy lana]

yung son ko naman 3yrs old, hindi sya marunong manakit. e mtaba sya so yun tummy niya lagi pinapalo ng ibang bata, or kinukurot sya, hindi sya nagrereact, sasabihin lang niya "mommy im hurt". kinuwento ko nga sa daddy niya, sabi turuan na daw namin gumanti tinuruan ng mom ko, pero shes telling him na pag lang may umway sa kanya saka lang sya gaganti, (katwiran  ng daddy niya ok lang kasi defense lang daw at boy ang anak niya ) kaya lang nung natutuo na, bigla-bigla na lang manununtok at mamamalo. pero sa min lang, sa ibang bata deadma pa rin sya