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mama louj

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what to do if yaya get pregnant and still want to work?
« on: August 24, 2011, 12:56:22 am »


 Mga sissies I need your  opinion and ideas on what to do if yaya still want to work even she's pregnant?

I want her to stop working because she always make excuses and alibi pero ayaw niya mag stop kasi gusto daw niya matapos yung bahay nila...malapit lang kasi ang bahay nila sa bahay ko kaya she frequently asked to go home(stay in kasi sya) ...
Gusto ko rin naman makatulong kaya lang di niya na magawa ng maayos ang trabaho at palagi pa nagka cash advance. She's almost 1 month palang sa trabaho.



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Re: what to do if yaya get pregnant and still want to work?
« Reply #1 on: August 26, 2011, 09:51:56 pm »

hi mommy..been there done that. actually 2mos lang ata siya nag stay sa amin..then pina alis ko na. super bait, magaling at super ok siya sa baby ko. una, nililihim niya sa amin na preggy siya hanggat mapaamin ko. ayaw namin ng hubby ko na may preggy na helper/yaya sa house. kasi una..kapag may nangyari sa kanya sagutin pa namin yun. lalo na kasi nung ako ang nagbubuntis e ilang beses ako nag pre term labor. second, mahirap kasi dahil kelangan mo siya intindihan nga kung may masakit sa kanya o pagod na siya. i do know kung ano feeling ng buntis - madali mapagod, antukin at sometimes forgetful. e ang baby ko nasa 7mos lang siguro that time. so may possibility mahirapan siya magkaraga pa. i-asses mo mommy kung kaya pa niya. e baka naman kasi ikaw na din ang lugi. actually, super love ko yung yaya na yun dahil nakita kong love niya baby ko..but i ahev to let her go. sabi ko na lang sa kanya, syempre iniisip ko kalagayan niya. pero after niya manganak and if she decides na bumalik..welcome na welcome siya  :)
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Re: what to do if yaya get pregnant and still want to work?
« Reply #2 on: August 29, 2011, 01:57:09 pm »

we also had this case with our cook/helper.  we asked her until when she is willing to work or capable to work.  she can decide when to leave, but frankly told her that it's her husband's responsibility to support her with her pregnancy.  the most we can offer is to have her pre-natal check-up which is just an added bonus because of the convenience of having her as a cook.
 
but then probably because of hormonal changes, laging tinotopak, after 3 months nag-desisyong umalis.
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Re: what to do if yaya get pregnant and still want to work?
« Reply #3 on: August 29, 2011, 02:36:54 pm »

i wont allow it for so many reasons

1. because eventually, she'll need a long break .. hindi naman pwede magleave din sa work ang amo dahil nakaleave si maid.. mahirap din maghanap ng temporary yaya

2. if ever something bad happen to her while she's at my house, i'll be responsible for her

3. she can use her pregnancy as an excuse for a number of things.. ang hirap idecipher kung ano ang totoo sa hindi.. i wouldnt want to go through that much stress

4. she'll need money.. lots of it.. kanino pa ba yun babale kundi sa amo.. sa hirap ng buhay ngayon, kahit ikaw ang amo, may budget ka din na sinusunod. ang hrap tumaggi sa bae bale na yan

5.  kapag nagbleeding yan or spotting kailangan pumunta sa hospital, paano baby ko? kanino maiiwan. sana nandun ako, eh paano kung sana work? sana maiisip tawagan family ko.. eh paano kung nagkatarantahan na? eh di kawawa baby ko.. i wont risk a scenario like that

6. kumuha ako ng maid para may taga-alaga.. hindi para magkaroon ng alagaain

i may seem mean to many, ..  im the employer.. i have the option to choose what's in my best interest.. why would i bother keeping someone who wont be able to do her job eventually if i could just hire a replacement.
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Re: what to do if yaya get pregnant and still want to work?
« Reply #4 on: August 29, 2011, 02:47:20 pm »

agree sis rianne.  kaya lang with us we have yayas for the kids.  so she can leave anytime she wants.  we also never forgot to explain that whatever happens to her, it would be her husband who would be responsible for that.  hindi rin sya pressured mag-work kasi luto lang naman ginagawa niya and if she feel like not doing it, other maids can do it.  we also delegated the responsibilities that she is handling to the other helpers.  and we readied ourselves anytime she would leave. 
 
she's leaving anyway, so we're just trying to part ways smoothly.
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Re: what to do if yaya get pregnant and still want to work?
« Reply #5 on: August 29, 2011, 02:58:58 pm »

^its good that you have multiple yayas sis :) and nice to know that you have dealt with the issue already.. i just shared my thoughts for those people who only have 1 or 2 maids..  hope you can find a replacement for her soon

well i'll just add number 7 then.. based on your post ;D

7.. the money i'll be paying the preggy maid will not be worth it. because she wont be able to exert 100% effort doing her job
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Re: what to do if yaya get pregnant and still want to work?
« Reply #6 on: May 30, 2012, 10:45:42 pm »

Yaya Preggy: Guidelines on How to Deal
Mom, contributing writer and author of Smart Parenting’s Yaya Manual shares practical advice how to react and what to do if you discover that yaya’s pregnant.


http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/home-living/about-yaya/yaya-preggy-guidelines-on-how-to-deal



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Re: what to do if yaya get pregnant and still want to work?
« Reply #7 on: June 25, 2013, 11:43:40 pm »

How to Prevent Yaya’s Boyfriend From Interfering with Work
As an option, you may look at the practical side of things and guide your yaya with regard to the possibility of an unexpected pregnancy and resulting consequences.


http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/home-living/about-yaya/how-to-prevent-yaya-s-boyfriend-from-interfering-with-work
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