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fennylane

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Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
« Reply #30 on: June 26, 2012, 09:57:18 pm »

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hahaha..thats good!atleast sumexy ka...lol.super feeling naman c xhubby mo..kakatuwa sarap sakalin...hehhehe..go sa new lovelife sis!!Goodluck!!(but be sure all is legally on its place para walang bulilyaso..alm mo na ;) )
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fennylane

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Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
« Reply #31 on: June 26, 2012, 10:07:28 pm »

im a single mom with no choice hehe..kw ba naman umbagin ng kaliwat kanan!kahit gusto mong ikeep yung family db?kung isa lang ang nagawa ng paraan para mbuo yung pamilya wala ding mangyayari.and so i ended up a 15yr old marriage.by the way,we were seperated for more than 7yrs now.lst yr i gave birth to a cute baby boy courtesy of my bf..pero sad to say di na kami..mahirap mgtaguyod ng 3bata..tpos magisa ka lang...dumarating yung time na lonely pero andyan naman c Lord na ngreremind that im not alone...malungkot db mga single moms?pero nkakaalis ng pagod at lungkot yung mga babies ntin...
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kiko18

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Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
« Reply #32 on: June 27, 2012, 01:07:05 pm »

dumarating yung time na lonely pero andyan naman c Lord na ngreremind that im not alone...malungkot db mga single moms?pero nkakaalis ng pagod at lungkot yung mga babies ntin...

haay oo nga eh. pero pag tween na yung kids ang sakit sa bangs!!! akala ata tropa lang kami hehe
oh well buti na lang me ganitong forums..addict ako sa forums..lol

hoping parin na me makilala ako for a new lovelife  :)
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Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
« Reply #33 on: June 27, 2012, 01:58:01 pm »

sakit no? ako  nasa stage pa lang ng pagddecide kung magiging single parent ba ako o tatanggapin ko ng paulit ulit ang babaero kong bf. nasa tan** tangahan stage pa rin ako.
i swear, i know the right thing to do pero ang hirap gawin.
di ko alam kung love talaga ang reasong ng bf ko kaya di niya ako mapakawalan or revenge.
wala na kasi kaming trust sa isat isa. will that still work for us?
im the happiest pag magkasama kaming tatlo, without care in the world, just happy.
di ko alam kung ano na next step.
sa ngayon nagooffer syang alagaan anak namin. ssama daw sya sa amin. sakto kasi naghhanap talaga ako ng yaya para makahanap na ako ng work. eto ang punch line, ako pa magbibigay ng pamasahe niya papunta dito. saklap. ang effort.


kinig kayo kay papa jack sometime ha. :)) kkarelate minsan.
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Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
« Reply #34 on: June 27, 2012, 03:11:10 pm »

kung walang trust..what's the use of living together.
eh di lagi kang in doubt during your time together..tapos worry ka pa lagi kung totoo ba sinasabi niya.
maybe you're just happy pag magkasama kayo kaso superficial lang yun eh.
you need a foundation sa relationship niyo kung ano ba talaga balak niya.
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Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
« Reply #35 on: June 27, 2012, 04:02:50 pm »

i heard of other couples who regained their trust to each other. siguro that'll take Time. Mahirap na process yun, But im going to give myself another chance. my mga mistakes din kasi ako, i mean, may part din ako sa pagkasira ng relationship at trust namin. kaya ganito. so basically, if i change,  he will change also. it's just that hindi pa kami masyadong mature siguro. kahit ako, i always let my anger consume me to the point na nasasaktan ko sya physically. sometime in the past dahil sa sobrang hurt, frustration, at bitterness i let myself Hurt and ruin myself just to get revenge. parang ganun nangyari.
im building my life again kasi. with my kid. we're just young. and stupid. kailangan lang talga ng initiative.
at plano na rin. medyo strong na din kasi ako, so siguro not bad to give us another chance.
malay natin magwork na this time. if not, then, again, move on, at least i tried to change and do good sa relationship namin.
so sa ngayon kasi, iniisip na din namin anak namin.
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Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
« Reply #36 on: July 09, 2012, 09:31:53 pm »

hi mommies :)  newbie here first time ko lang din magpost.. hmm single momy with no choice din ako like mommy tharti_moan he has 3kids and they're still together ng kanyang wife they were married for 3years kasi lately lang sila nagpakasal sa huwes dahil na rin sa eagerness ni wife niya since matagal na silang live in  my family knows him dahil he's my superior from my previous work pero they've decided na putulin lahat ng communication na meron kami dahil sa sobrang galit nila kay SD kahit willing pa si SD na magbigay ng support kay baby. nung may communication pa kami before he gave me his other atm at dun siya nagiipon para sana sa panganganak ko at sa baby namin but never ko pa ginalaw. walang alam family ko dito dahil ayaw na talaga nila humingi ng anything kay SD since sabi nila kaya naman nila kami buhayin. kaya ayun.. we love each other but since he's married.. single mom with no choice.. waiting for me na lang na mawala na sana yung love ko sa kanya para tuluyan ding makamove on sa sitwasyon..
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Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
« Reply #37 on: July 10, 2012, 09:59:52 am »

Hi mommynimaicon!  :)

It's good to know that there's someone like you na almost same ng situation ko.  My S.D. is also my superior at work but prior to that, we're from the same circle of friends.  Ang difference lang natin, my family and my ex-husband have no idea what I'm going through.  By the way, I'm currently 6 months pregnant now courtesy of my S.D.  ;)

Same din S.D. natin na willing mag support financially kay baby.  Plano rin niyang mag deposit ng financial support through ATM, but currently, nagbibigay na siya ng cash pero pareho din tayo, never ko rin ginalaw in a sense na hindi ko nababawasan pero whenever na gipit ako, kumukuha ako dun then binabalik ko din agad yung nakuha ko kapag pay day.  hehe...

Same din tayo na S.D. and I love each other talaga but since he's married, and his wife is a good friend of mine... single Mom with no choice.  :(

Lastly, same din tayo na waiting lang din ako na mawala na sana yung love kay SD para maka-move on na sa sitwasyon.

Sis, you can PM me anytime.   :)

Nice meeting you in SP.
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Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
« Reply #38 on: May 07, 2013, 03:18:20 pm »

My husband and I separated three (3) years ago. He is five (5) years younger than me.  I was 26 years old and he was turning 21 years old when we got married.  I thought even he is still young he is matured enough to stand for our relationship. After the birth of our son, he suddenly changed. Super gulo. We do not talk to each other. He always come home late.  There was a time na nakasabay ko sya pag-uwi with his office mate hindi niya ako pinakilala na asawa niya.  I feel like ikinahihiya niya ako.  May mga babaeng tumatawag sa phone niya and saying that my husband and I had something which truly hurts me. These girls were telling me na matanda na daw ako. huhuhuhu Hindi na ako mahal ng asawa ko. Pinili niya yung babae na anak over us.  I was so stressed then. Pakiramdam ko hindi niya kayang magpakatatay sa anak ko pero dun sa ibang tao kaya niya.  I know na time would come magkakahiwalay kami.  I thought i would be ready pag nangyari yun pero hindi.  Nasaktan pa din ako ng todo-todo. Nadepress pa din ako.

Hindi ko pa din sya napapatawad but for my son i need to re-open our communication. Recently, my son met his father and my son was so happy.  That was the time i realized na I need to forget myself. Am not doing this for reconciliation but just for my son.  Ayokong maging selfish and unfair sa kanya.

Forgiveness is not easy to do.  It would take time. We will never be friends again but we need to be parents for our son.

Now, i am continuously praying for guidance and strength for my son.
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Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
« Reply #39 on: July 09, 2013, 09:19:42 am »

Hi mommies! Im currently starting to embrace single mommyhood at the moment. Im 3mos preggy and the SD denied the baby kesyo baog daw sya and that I dated someone else bago maging kami which I personally think is a desperate move para lang matalikuran yung responsibility niya. Irresponsible guys could say anything and everything para lang makatakas sa responsibilidad. Sobrang mama's boy at takot maghirap. Wala na ako contact sa guy and his family kasi i dont think may mangyayari pa dahil walang kwentang lalaki naman sya. My family decided to not include him in my baby's life at hindi kami desperado para ipilit yung bata sa taong walang bayag at takot sa nanay niya. Para saan pa sa sustento? Il just work double time kaysa naman humingi ako sa pamilya niya. Baka isumbat pa nila sakin kada pisong ibibigay nila sa anak ko. Wag na lang noh!

Sa una lang masakit ang abandonment mommies. When you come to realize that you and your baby would be better off na kayong dalawa lang mas matatanggap nyo yung nangyari. Advise ko lang sa mga iniwanan din ng mga SD nilang walang kwenta, wag na wag kayo maghahabol no matter what. Pinakamasakit sa kanila makita na kinaya natin magpalaki ng healthy, smart at cute na mga bata without a single cent from them. Out of sight out of mind. That was the greatest advise na binigay sakin. Time heal all wounds so lilipas din lahat ng ginawa nila satin. Dadating din yung time na makakarecover tayo at mawawalan na tayo ng pakialam sa kanila kahit pa mag syota sila ng sampu sampu after nila tayo iwanan. May karma naman mga sis. They will have their turn soon :)
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Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
« Reply #40 on: July 19, 2013, 11:11:41 am »

hello mommies :) i'm a newbee here and im really glad i had found out this page because it really helps me a lot. :) anyways, im sharing my story, 6 years ago, I was the so-called considered by my friends and family as a model college student, not because i'm beautiful or pretty, but because i had an outstanding scholastic record at school, and then I've met SD, we easily been attach to each other because we have a lot of similarities, most especially in music in which he is the bridge on how I was become a part of our School marching band. We had a year of being together, until I found out that I was pregnant, I feel like I'm the worst people in the world, and the SD also wants me to abort my unborn baby, but due to the values that my parents had establish on me, i disaggree, and then eventually, he became cold, I had to stop studying because being pregnant is not allowed in our school since its a strict catholic school, so i had to bare all the pain of carrying the sadness, depression, and anger from my parents, my friends didn't know that i was pregnant and i didn't tell them either because i was so afraid of critism, I was on my 6month of pergnancy when i found out from a friend, that SD got his girl best friend pregnant, and the girl had a miscarriage and SD didn't support her all along, it was that time i really decided to become a single mom, and few months had passed and my own bundle of joy was born :) after giving birth I decided to just work for the future of my baby, but then, my parents said, most especially my mom told me to continue my study in the same school where SD is on his terminal year in college. since our school is  not that big compare to other schools, most of the time, our path had crossed and he ignores me, and i was found out that he spread a news to our school that I had an affair with other guy and got pregnant that is why he leave me. I just laugh upon hearing this because he tried to defend himself on something that is not really know. But I had to continue, I just look at him and looking him in the eye like i was telling him that THIS IS THE GIRL YOU LEFT. and then i walked away. With God's grace, I graduated from college with a bachelor's degree and im now currently working for the future of my child.


I was really a blessing in disguise to become a SINGLE MOM :)
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Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
« Reply #41 on: July 19, 2013, 11:28:43 pm »

Hello mommies,

I admit while I'm reading all your stories I felt so down and heart-broken. I was raised and loved by a single mother and I can feel all your emotions. Everytime I hear stories about girls na iniiwan ng mga lalake dahil nabuntis nila at ayaw umako ng responsibilidad, nanggagalaiti na ako sa galit. What more yung mga kung ano-anong rason at kasinungalingan pa ang sasabihin para siraan ang mga babaeng nabuntis nila at para magmalinis sila ng ganon. Minsan ako pa ang mas galit kesa dun sa nagkwento. Ang hirap kasi sa mga t@r@nt@d*ng mga lalake yan eh magaling lang sila sa sex tapos pag nagbunga na yung kalibug@n nila eh atras mga itlog nila. (I'm very sorry for my words, can't help it). Hindi naman sa sinasabi kong perpekto ako pero alam ko kasi yung hirap ng mother ko sakin. At tinaga ko sa bungo ko na hinding hindi ito mangyayari sa magiging anak ko. Hinding hindi ko ipaparanas yung dinanas ko noon na lumaking walang ama. Gusto ko maging example sa anak ko kung pano maging responsable. Pero sobrang saludo naman ako sa mga single moms. Iba kasi yung mapalaki mo yung anak mo ng hindi na kelangan maghanap pa ng kalinga ng ama. OO, andyang minsan naghanap ako ng father figure kasi sa school halos lahat ng mga classmates ko kumpleto family nila pero ni minsan hindi ko sinumbat sa nanay ko na bakit wala akong ama kasi ang alaga niya daig ko pa ang kumpletong pamilya. Fulfilling kasi sa pakiramdam ng ina yung kahit sayo lang masaya at kuntento na ang anak.

Mga mommies, based on my experience di hamak na mas malalakas at matatapang pa kayo kesa sa mga ama ng anak nyo. Walang duda na mas may itlog pa kayo sa kanila (nasa loob nga lang at hindi nakalaylay) kasi kinaya nyong akuin yung responsibilidad na tinalikuran nila. Be strong and focus sa anak ang susi sa matagumpay na pagpapalaki sa anak. Ilapit nyo sila kay God kasi Siya ang tatayong tatay nila. Sa tuwing kailangan nila ng support, patawagin mo sila sa Kanya. I guarantee it's 100% effective. Sabihin nyo "Sumalangit na ang iyong ama, at parehas pa kayo ng ama ni Jesus" =)

Sa ganitong sitwasyon lagi namang talo ang mga babae, pero mas panalo kayo sa laban kasi kasama nyo yung batang bunga ng inyong pagmamahal at sa paglaki ng bata hinding hindi kailanman makakamit ng buo at totoo ng mga ama nila yung feeling ng tunay na pagmamahal mula sa anak. Hinding hindi madadaan ng ama sa pagbili ng mga laruan o sustenong pinansyal na mahalin sila ng anak nila gaya ng pagmamahal ng anak sa ina. Yan ang karma nila sa pagtalikod sa mga anak nila. Kayang kaya niyo yan mommies! Always look at the positive side of the story at sa mga nabasa ko naman eh alam kong nakita nyo na. God bless single moms! Bilib na bilib ako sa inyo.
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Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
« Reply #42 on: July 26, 2013, 08:29:30 am »

Hi. I never thought na magbabasa ako ng stories about single moms. pero ito na. nangyari na sakin.
iniwan din ako ng bf ko for 3 years. umalis lang ako ng 1month bakasyon pagbalik ko, sabi niya baka daw hindi kami para sa isat isa kasi lagi kami nagtatalo. normal lang naman ang away diba lalo samin kasi 23 at 24 palang kami. hindi na niya ko kinakausap kapag nagdadrama ako sakanya. at ito nagpapakatatag ako palagi. naiiyak ako minsan natatawa na ewan. pero nung sya yung mali hindi ko sya iniwan. kahit di sya nagsusupport samin financially since mabuhay ang anak niya, sinama pa namin sya sa SG at KL nung nagbakasyon kami tapos ngayon ang dinadahilan niya baka daw pag pumunta sya ng canada may mameet sya.
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« Reply #43 on: August 09, 2013, 12:36:02 am »

hi everyone.  I'm a new single mom.  My husband passed away just 2 weeks ago in the Cagayan de Oro blast.

I have no idea what to do, or where to begin.  I have two boys ( a 3 year old and an 8 month old).  I have been very dependent on my husband , who was a very devoted husband and father.  I am devasted, I am grieving, yet people tell me i need to be strong for my boys.  How?  When my strength was my husband.

I don't know what prompted me to join this thread.  I guess, I'm reaching out to other single moms, hoping you can guide me on how to do it... how to be both a mom and a dad.  I don't know how you do it, and i sure admire you all for your strength.

Thanks and hope i can meet new friends and mentors here.
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Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
« Reply #44 on: September 15, 2013, 09:29:13 pm »

Hi mommies, my story is quite different from all of you...

Ive always been a lesbian, had 7 lesbian relationships before i met SD, He's already married and already had 3kids, when we became lovers I know what im getting myself into, maybe out of curiousity or i just cant resist his charms. our relationship lasted for 3years. When i told him I was pregnant he was happy and sad, alam niya kasi yun na ang start ng downfall ng relationship namin.

When my family found out about my pregnancy bantay sarado na ako, my parents were scared that his wife would find out and sugudin kami, i dont think my parents are ready for that. my parents are conservative and catholics, abortion is out of the question, my parents and siblings supported me all the way, with only one request, for me to stop communicating with SD. I stopped seeing SD and told him id rather break his heart than break my parents heart again. I told him when i give birth he cant come to the hospital, that he would not have any  part/role in my baby's life, that theres noneed to give any financial support. He has no choice so pumayag na sya.

I gave birth last may to a baby boy who looks exactly like me, everynow and then SD texts and ask how we are. Smetimes i reply and sometimes i dont. I told SD we can be friends but not lovers anymore and that he cant see the baby for now.

Right now some of my exes are asking if im still interested in lesbian rels. I know i am, but im not alone anymore, i have a baby to think of so relaionships are a no no for now...


Thats my story mommies :-))
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