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Author Topic: How can I help my shy kid?  (Read 30607 times)

mamakat

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How can I help my shy kid?
« on: January 15, 2009, 02:04:14 pm »

hi mommies! nung maliit pa ang eldest ko (she's turning 7 on jan. 31) hindi marunong mahiya.  yung bang kahit isalang mo sa stage talagang magpe perform nung 3 years old siya. Kasi nag enoll siya ng Dance Lessons. Tapos nung Nursery 2 nakapag emcee siya sa Recognition Day nila. Bakit ngayon, natatakot na siya mag perform. Kahit sa classroom ayaw niya yung naka focus sa kanya ang spotlight. Ewan ko ba, di naman kami mahiyain ng dad niya. Phase lang ba ito?

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Re: bakit naging mahiyain ang anak ko?
« Reply #1 on: January 20, 2009, 04:18:43 pm »

Dami na po palang mga activities nasinalihan at active ang baby nyo... Nakakatuwa po... I think baka napahiya siya one time in front of the class and hindi lang niya nasabi sa inyo.Or inaasar... It could be one of the reasons why she doesnt want anymore to perform. Maybe it is good if you will talk to her. Yung tipong bonding moment nyong 2. Ask her how does she feel before nung nagpeperform pa siya and yung ngayon na ayaw na niya... Thanks po!
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shy boy
« Reply #2 on: April 14, 2009, 12:54:47 am »

masyado pong mahiyain yung 5yr old son ko.. Nag aaral na po sya & by this coming june kinder narin po. help me naman po, give me some advice..  Ano po kayang pwede kong ipagawa  or gawin esp. this summer para ma cope po niya yung pagkamahiyain niya. Nag-aalala po ako e, gusto ko lang namang mag enjoy sya. For example po kasi sa mga school programs & partys dpo sya masyadong nagpaparticipate...
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Re: shy boy
« Reply #3 on: April 14, 2009, 02:08:57 am »

hi mommyhen, try to observe muna your son what he likes. mahilig ba siya sa arts anong cartoons gusto niya if he likes cars then from there
make your move. try to buy toys muna that interests him or books or dvd then sit with him and play i read somewhere na kelangan mas
maraming time ang ibigay mo sa pakikipaginteract sa mga shy kids para malaman mo anong ayaw nila. then after you can enroll him sa
summer classes or workshops or sports clinic mga ganun or kapag may children's party try to attend as many as possible para makapaginteract
siya with the kids. hope it helps :)
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What to do with an anti-social babies and kids?
« Reply #4 on: October 05, 2009, 12:51:12 pm »

Ilang kid's party na ang inatenan namin at ganun sya palagi.

lagi syang natatakot maki-halubilo sa kapwa niya kids. lagi nasa tabi ni mommy pag may social events.

nung last birthday niya, binibigyan lang sya ng gift ng isang kid, tumakbo na sa kwarto, gusto niya sa loob ng kwarto namin open yung gift niya, na kaming 2 lang...

takot lagi pag maraming tao..

ano kayang pwedeng strategies to make him more sociable... talaga bang may ganitong stage...

help! mga mommies...
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Re: Mahiyain Masyado ang Kid ko - pano ko maiimprove ang social skills niya
« Reply #5 on: October 05, 2009, 01:19:02 pm »

sis,,ganyan din daughter ko dati...mahiyain pag may ibang tao lalo na,,sa first meeting.pero pag palagi na niya nakikita ok na.makulit na.at di lang basta makulit...super kulit!!!
what i did was,,every summer vacation,i always enrolled her in any summer class.like ballet class,piano lesson,singing and voice lesson.to improved her talents.di lang yun,,syempre kasama na dun yung matuto sya how to mingle..so far..ok naman..
tapos before kami magpunta sa isang party o bagong lugar..sinasabihan ko sya na ..dapat makipaglaro ka,makipag usap.and syempre mag behave din..kasi ang tendency naman kasi pag nakipaglaro na sya sumosobra naman hehe
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Re: Mahiyain Masyado ang Kid ko - pano ko maiimprove ang social skills niya
« Reply #6 on: October 05, 2009, 01:55:11 pm »

MmyJorayma, may i ask. How old is your kid? Si Jeshua kc ganyan at first... May work kasi kami both ni hubby, so parang wala time...na realize namin yan after 1 year niya... na he doesn't mingle with other kids.. he just cry and look for us... Then, what we did was every sunday we got to church and let him play sa gitna ng Landmark.. kasi maraming kids dun... tapos lahat kami sa bahay e as kinakausap cia.. and pinapalaro namin sya sa labas ng bahay... Now, super ok na sya... Last saturday, we went to a kid's party... and Yes he improve very well, he play along with other kids na as in no hesitant! He sings happy birthday and eat alone... He doesn't even cry when I carried my inaanak, he even hold her hands... So, I called hubby b'cus he was in UAE...and told him about Jeshua... Were so happy about him... Sis, I suggest you let him play with other kids and dont make him felt that he was always a baby... goodluck sis. :) :) :)

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Re: Mahiyain Masyado ang Kid ko - pano ko maiimprove ang social skills niya
« Reply #7 on: October 06, 2009, 11:56:42 am »

Karl is 4 years old. He's in school na rin. Sabi ng teacher, nakikimingle naman sya with other kids kasi nga kilala na niya, pero during first week of school, talgang lagi syang umiiyak... Tapos sa circle time nila, sa 2nd month na talga sya sumali...

Siguro rin kasi, 3 years syang nasanay na magisa. 1 year old na yung little bro niya. Tpos laging sa house din with the Yaya. Natatakot naman akong makihalubilo kasi sya sa mga bata sa labas namin dahil pag pinapayagan ko either nagkakasipon or may bagong sugat...

Haayyy.. siguro nga i need to let him mingle more...
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Re: Mahiyain Masyado ang Kid ko - pano ko maiimprove ang social skills niya
« Reply #8 on: October 06, 2009, 12:04:08 pm »

just like with other mommies, what i did with AK is exposure lang. bibo kase sya pag adults, pero pag kids na nakita, natatameme. pero ngayon ok na sya. almost 3mos na sya enrolled sa gymboree. once a week ang play class niya. tapos talaga every weekend pasyal kami sa maraming kids.
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Re: Mahiyain Masyado ang Kid ko - pano ko maiimprove ang social skills niya
« Reply #9 on: October 06, 2009, 12:08:05 pm »

share ko lang yung baby ko kase mahilig sa baby so pag nakakaita sya nilalapitan niya tlaga tas nakikipag play tlaga sya sa bata.. siguro kase yung yaya niya nagpupunta sa kapitbahay e dami bata dun tas nakikipaglaro sya... tas pag namamamasyal kame sa SM pag may bata na nakikipaglaro sa kanya play lang din sya.. siguro nga sanayan lang sa bata baka yung baby mo sis is nd nasanay na may kasma na iba kaukau lang :)
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Re: Mahiyain Masyado ang Kid ko - pano ko maiimprove ang social skills niya
« Reply #10 on: October 06, 2009, 12:37:06 pm »

^ i also agree. Ganyan din yung eldest ko nuon, nung wala pa syang baby brother, he is mahiyain, nagtatago sa likod mo, kasi nahihiya sa ibang tao, sanay lang sya sa taong madalas niya makita, eh ilan lang kami dito sa house, IL ko at kami ni hubby, kaya rin matagal bago sya nakapag-salita. Nung dumating na yung 2nd son namin, nagkaroon sya ng playmate kahit nasa loob ng bahay at paminsan nag-pupunta dito mga cousins niya, kaya eto super namam sa kulit.
Ayaw ko din sya makipag-laro sa labas kasi, baka mahawa sa kung ano man, nag-iingat lang  ;)
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Re: Mahiyain Masyado ang Kid ko - pano ko maiimprove ang social skills niya
« Reply #11 on: October 06, 2009, 01:01:09 pm »

ako dati ayoko na lumalabas sya kaso nung lagi syang lumalabas di na nagkakasakit haha kaya okay na din mas lumakas ang immune system haha..

I just ensure na sa hapon lang haha kumbaga nd naman all day andun sya noh tas pag weekend sa bahay lang kase andun naman kame na kalaro niya
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Re: Mahiyain Masyado ang Kid ko - pano ko maiimprove ang social skills niya
« Reply #12 on: December 23, 2009, 02:38:29 pm »

ito yun kinakatakot ko na maging attitude ni igme.
sa bahay lang kami maghapon kaming 2 lang ,punta rin dito sa bahay brother ko saka sister ko .

wala siyang kalarong bata.

(ayoko ilabas dito sa amin kasi yung mga bata dito yung tipong laging nasa kalsada tapos puro may mga sipon baka mahawa tatakot din ako baka yung ibang bata dito may pc eh mahawa si igme)

kaya every weekend pumupunta kami dito sa waltermart (ito lang kasi magandang puntahan na malapit sa amin).
kaya pag pasok namin sa waltermart sumisigaw talaga siya sobrang tuwa niya.

natatakot kasi ako baka maging sobrang mahiyain lalo na may tahi siya sa lip baka paglaki eh sobrang mahiyain tapos ibu bully siya nung ibang bata.

gayahin ko yung sinabi nyo, hayan ko siyang lumapit sa mga kids kapag lumalabas kami.
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Re: Mahiyain Masyado ang Kid ko - pano ko maiimprove ang social skills niya
« Reply #13 on: January 01, 2010, 09:23:58 am »

some kids are really born with a timid personality.
 
with my two girls, i set the example.  when we go to a party, i roam around and meet other people.  i also make sure that we arrive at the venue several minutes before that party starts.  that way, they can familiarize themselves and warm up with their surroundings.
 
i orient them with where we will be going, and what we will be doing there.  they should know what to expect. that gives them the security they need.
 
i also don't force them if they don't want to socialize.  if they want to stay in one corner, i just sit with them and point at somebody and say something about that person. (e.g. "that's tita mitch, she has a baby boy" or "that's angel, she is as young as you are.  she also has that doll you have.")
 
i guess, it also depends on how the parent motivates/encourages the child to socialize. but don't force them if they are born with melancholic/phlegmatic personalities.  it's really in their nature to be that way.
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Re: Mahiyain Masyado ang Kid ko - pano ko maiimprove ang social skills niya
« Reply #14 on: March 16, 2010, 03:34:38 pm »

naku yung baby ko naman, she's 2 years ola ever since hindi talaga siya mahiyain to the point na kahit strangers ang hilig niya magpacute, scary nga lang kc malaoit na siya makidnapp sa sobrang galing makipaghalubilo.. well ang ginawa ko lang naman since baby siya lagi talaga kami nasa mall kahit once a week ok na yun kaya naexpose talaga siya until now ganun kami dinadala ko siya sa playhouse every week para marunong siya makipaglaro with other kids, but hindi ko siya iniiwan magisa she's with her yaya.. yung niece ko kasi iniwan ng mommy niya sa playhouse eh inaway ng isang bata simula nun naging mahiyain na parang natrauma yung niece ko.. sorry mahaba story ko..
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