vhenggaman: my daughter used to go to daycare (government)... pero hindi din kami nagtagal.
We put her in daycare last year, she just turned three and we wanted to test the waters if she can do schooling na on a daily basis - ayun, nung first few days ok sya, happy to go to school naman. Habang tumatagal, nakikita kong umaayaw sya pumasok. Pag-uwi, nakasimangot sya. Umabot sa point na sasabihin niya masakit tummy niya or sleepy pa sya at ayaw niya pumasok. We thought it was very unlike her really, kasi when she did summer classes, that same year din, she was very enthusiastic to go to school, and she looked forward to it every day for the entire month that she went to summer school. Tapos nung nagday-care, biglang nawalan ng gana.
I'm thinking of three possible factors:
1. The classroom was malinis, maayos, and airconditioned --- but it was small. Children like space. Mine is used to having a lot of space to move around in dahil only child sya, and even dun sa summer class niya, they were only 10. So for her, space and maaliwalas na environment seemed very important.
2. There were more than 20 of them in that small classroom. It must have been very overwhelming to be in a cramped space with kids she didn't know. Plus the 'pressure' pa of doing school stuff, and she just turned three then. And I'm thinking hindi niya masyadong makasundo yung kids dun because they were a bit rowdy, and my daughter is tahimik and mild-mannered, to the point of being shy. She's more comfortable around kids na hindi masyado makulit or malikot.
3. The teacher. Though I know she's very much equipped and experienced to handle preschoolers, I'm not quite sure if she was well-adjusted to the fact that she now has three year-olds along with four year-olds in one class. Kahit kasi sabihin nating isang taon lang ang pagitan nila, ang laki ng difference ng behavior nila and learning pace. I think she was more used to handling 4-5 year olds (which was the usual age people sent kids to school just a few years ago).
So even if your son is a different age than mine when it happened, posible din na these three factors are affecting your child's behavior, especially the first two. Kasi sabi mo dun sa montessori setting, comfortable and well-adjusted naman sya kasi no complaints naman from the teacher. Pero you might also want to look at how you discipline your kid, pag pinagsasabihan ba, napaninindigan? Or there are times na you give in pag umiiyak na? You really have to be firm with kids nowadays, otherwise, hindi talga mag-sink in yung pagdisiplina. Masakit makita silang umiiyak, pero if they have to cry it out for them to understand the lesson you're teaching, then so be it - well at least that's my opinion.
Iba-iba nga din naman ang mga bata, pero I think the need to have a firm hand in disciplining really applies to all (even sa adults!
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