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Re: child who hits others
« Reply #30 on: June 23, 2012, 05:29:04 pm »

ganyan din yung pamangkin ko noon nung mga 2 years old pa lang sya, pag d niya feel yung bata na kaharap niya sinasaktan niya talaga may instances pa noon yung inaanak ni kuya na babae kasing edad niya rin yata or 1 year ahead sa kanya naglalakad lang tapos bigla niya kinalabit pagharap nung bata sinuntok niya sa mukha then 1 time naman nilamutak niya yung bibig. sinasabihan lang ni kuya ng maayos na masama yung ganun then nung nag 3 na sya nagstart na sya pumasok sa school akala namin magiging prob sya sa class kasi baka maging bayolente, so far hindi naman, natapos niya ang nursery ng wala syang sinaktan na classmate niya. lumilipas din sa mga bata yung ganyan as long as hindi niya nakikita sa mga parents niya ang pagiging bayolente habang lumalaki sya.

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Pre schoolers behaviorial problem
« Reply #31 on: July 13, 2013, 02:40:48 pm »

Dear Mommies,
I am so in distress right now dealing with my 4.8-year old son. I enrolled him on Day Care Center. The first two and a half weeks was kinda ok. But this week (from monday to friday), I found him very difficult to manage. Worse part is, he was hurting his classmates without any reason, everyday with different classmates. I was called by teacher everyday, and there was particular day that I was being called for four times.

I talked to parents of the children to apologize, and though I know I was forgiven, still their anger is there against my son and I. I can not blame them, and I know I can not be able to always justify "bata lang yan eh". I am feeling my and my son's world at day care is getting smaller. And I ask myself 'til when my son be like this? I asked the teacher if I can go around the room so I can be able to monitor my son. But she said, "Bawal po". Then she said, she will going to call me in case he hurt someone again. Then a follow-up warning that states "Ipatatawag ko nalang kayo kapag may nagreklamong mga magulang."... Knowing this statement like a threat, and I feel like discriminated.

Last summer I enrolled him in summer class for five weeks in montessori. And during his stay on that school, I never heard any news of quarrel from the teachers. Til he entered the day care center with less than a month of getting into trouble.

He was starting to say "ma, ayoko kay teacher (name of day care teacher), gusto ko kay teacher (name of montessori teacher)!" And I asked why, sabi niya "kasi pangit ang bahay (meant for school).

Inside the house, he's ok naman, makulit at malikot. When he's too much, we discipline him by words or by palo sometimes when words are not enough.

Of course, last escape is the word "ADHD", but I am widely open to the idea.

Please advice me mommies! Thank you!
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Mommy Jazz

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Re: child who hits others
« Reply #32 on: July 13, 2013, 02:52:43 pm »

Topic "Pre-schoolers Behavioral Problems" merged with this topic.

Related topics:

problem child. (long post)
http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/parentchat/index.php/topic,53889

how to handle "super kulit" kid??
http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/parentchat/index.php/topic,54404

help! My toddler is misbehaving in school :(
http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/parentchat/index.php/topic,49371
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Re: child who hits others
« Reply #33 on: July 15, 2013, 09:32:36 am »

baby ko din 14 months old may pagkamaldita.. pag binawalan mo papagalitan ka pa.. minsan maggoodnight lang lola niya hahampasin na agad.. sinasabihan ko nalang siya na bad yun and magagalit si papa jesus.. kagabi malayo lola niya nag goodnight sa kanya hindi niya mapalo kaya ako pinalo niya saka kinurot grabe talaga.. sana mawala na tong bisyo niya at bumait na siya..
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Re: child who hits others
« Reply #34 on: July 15, 2013, 10:49:08 am »

ganyan din ang baby boy ko 18 months old na siya.. pag sinusuway siya ng  dad niya kunwari pagagalitan siya, pinapalo niya ako tapos tapos pag di ko siya pinapansin papaluin niya lang ako ng papaluin tapos iiyak siya.. hehe.. minsan yung yaya niya cnasampal niya din... ganyan yata talaga sis? minsan niloloko ko c baby kunwari iiyak ako, tapos titigil siya ihuhug niya ako..
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Re: child who hits others
« Reply #35 on: July 15, 2013, 02:43:48 pm »

@vhenggaman
Yung story po ninyo hindi naman masyadong naiiba sa stories ng ibang mommies dito. I read the other thread about ADHD and seems na pati sa bahay uncontollable ang behavior ng anak nila. Pero sabi niyo OK naman siya sa house pati sa dating school niya. Is your child misbehaving to get attention? Hyperactive ba siya, like "over" ang reaction at likot na parang hindi napapagod and would even respond in violent ways? If both answer is yes, then read other moms' share on their kids with ADHD here:
http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/parentchat/index.php/topic,52747.0.html
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Re: child who hits others
« Reply #36 on: August 01, 2013, 05:51:36 pm »

vhenggaman: my daughter used to go to daycare (government)... pero hindi din kami nagtagal. :( We put her in daycare last year, she just turned three and we wanted to test the waters if she can do schooling na on a daily basis - ayun, nung first few days ok sya, happy to go to school naman. Habang tumatagal, nakikita kong umaayaw sya pumasok. Pag-uwi, nakasimangot sya. Umabot sa point na sasabihin niya masakit tummy niya or sleepy pa sya at ayaw niya pumasok. We thought it was very unlike her really, kasi when she did summer classes, that same year din, she was very enthusiastic to go to school, and she looked forward to it every day for the entire month that she went to summer school. Tapos nung nagday-care, biglang nawalan ng gana.

I'm thinking of three possible factors:
1. The classroom was malinis, maayos, and airconditioned --- but it was small. Children like space. Mine is used to having a lot of space to move around in dahil only child sya, and even dun sa summer class niya, they were only 10. So for her, space and maaliwalas na environment seemed very important.

2. There were more than 20 of them in that small classroom. It must have been very overwhelming to be in a cramped space with kids she didn't know. Plus the 'pressure' pa of doing school stuff, and she just turned three then. And I'm thinking hindi niya masyadong makasundo yung kids dun because they were a bit rowdy, and my daughter is tahimik and mild-mannered, to the point of being shy. She's more comfortable around kids na hindi masyado makulit or malikot.

3. The teacher. Though I know she's very much equipped and experienced to handle preschoolers, I'm not quite sure if she was well-adjusted to the fact that she now has three year-olds along with four year-olds in one class. Kahit kasi sabihin nating isang taon lang ang pagitan nila, ang laki ng difference ng behavior nila and learning pace. I think she was more used to handling 4-5 year olds (which was the usual age people sent kids to school just a few years ago).

So even if your son is a different age than mine when it happened, posible din na these three factors are affecting your child's behavior, especially the first two. Kasi sabi mo dun sa montessori setting, comfortable and well-adjusted naman sya kasi no complaints naman from the teacher. Pero you might also want to look at how you discipline your kid, pag pinagsasabihan ba, napaninindigan? Or there are times na you give in pag umiiyak na? You really have to be firm with kids nowadays, otherwise, hindi talga mag-sink in yung pagdisiplina. Masakit makita silang umiiyak, pero if they have to cry it out for them to understand the lesson you're teaching, then so be it - well at least that's my opinion. :) Iba-iba nga din naman ang mga bata, pero I think the need to have a firm hand in disciplining really applies to all (even sa adults! :D)

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Re: child who hits others
« Reply #37 on: September 07, 2013, 01:55:37 am »

Dads Working Overtime More Likely to Have Aggressive Sons, says Study
fathers who work over 55 hours a week are more inclined to have sons exhibiting aggressive and delinquent behavior.

http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/community/news/dads-working-overtime-more-likely-to-have-aggressive-sons-says-study
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Re: child who hits others
« Reply #38 on: April 03, 2014, 02:56:22 pm »

vhenggaman: my daughter used to go to daycare (government)... pero hindi din kami nagtagal. :( We put her in daycare last year, she just turned three and we wanted to test the waters if she can do schooling na on a daily basis - ayun, nung first few days ok sya, happy to go to school naman. Habang tumatagal, nakikita kong umaayaw sya pumasok. Pag-uwi, nakasimangot sya. Umabot sa point na sasabihin niya masakit tummy niya or sleepy pa sya at ayaw niya pumasok. We thought it was very unlike her really, kasi when she did summer classes, that same year din, she was very enthusiastic to go to school, and she looked forward to it every day for the entire month that she went to summer school. Tapos nung nagday-care, biglang nawalan ng gana.

I'm thinking of three possible factors:
1. The classroom was malinis, maayos, and airconditioned --- but it was small. Children like space. Mine is used to having a lot of space to move around in dahil only child sya, and even dun sa summer class niya, they were only 10. So for her, space and maaliwalas na environment seemed very important.

2. There were more than 20 of them in that small classroom. It must have been very overwhelming to be in a cramped space with kids she didn't know. Plus the 'pressure' pa of doing school stuff, and she just turned three then. And I'm thinking hindi niya masyadong makasundo yung kids dun because they were a bit rowdy, and my daughter is tahimik and mild-mannered, to the point of being shy. She's more comfortable around kids na hindi masyado makulit or malikot.

3. The teacher. Though I know she's very much equipped and experienced to handle preschoolers, I'm not quite sure if she was well-adjusted to the fact that she now has three year-olds along with four year-olds in one class. Kahit kasi sabihin nating isang taon lang ang pagitan nila, ang laki ng difference ng behavior nila and learning pace. I think she was more used to handling 4-5 year olds (which was the usual age people sent kids to school just a few years ago).

So even if your son is a different age than mine when it happened, posible din na these three factors are affecting your child's behavior, especially the first two. Kasi sabi mo dun sa montessori setting, comfortable and well-adjusted naman sya kasi no complaints naman from the teacher. Pero you might also want to look at how you discipline your kid, pag pinagsasabihan ba, napaninindigan? Or there are times na you give in pag umiiyak na? You really have to be firm with kids nowadays, otherwise, hindi talga mag-sink in yung pagdisiplina. Masakit makita silang umiiyak, pero if they have to cry it out for them to understand the lesson you're teaching, then so be it - well at least that's my opinion. :) Iba-iba nga din naman ang mga bata, pero I think the need to have a firm hand in disciplining really applies to all (even sa adults! :D)

Yes, tama ka sis! It was the environment. That's why I transferred him in remoted school. He was late enrollee, and they were just 13 students only in the class. He was fine there. So I finally concluded it was the environment that he didn't like in day car. Too far if I will compare it to the montessori he went during summer class last year.
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Re: child who hits others
« Reply #39 on: May 05, 2014, 10:17:08 pm »

Topic "toddler who hit Mom,yaya & lola.." merged with this topic.
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Re: child who hits others
« Reply #40 on: September 19, 2017, 04:25:55 pm »

How to Get Your Toddler to Stop Hitting You When He Has a Tantrum


Read about it on Smart Parenting. Click this link
http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/parenting/toddler/what-to-do-and-say-when-your-tot-hits-you-a1162-20170915
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