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Author Topic: Nagtatago ng money kay husband / away dahil sa pera  (Read 15499 times)

lopezjadee

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Re: Nagtatago ng money kay husband
« Reply #15 on: October 29, 2011, 11:36:25 pm »

Hi mommybong.. Sana makausap mo hubby mo ng maayos tungkol dito.. Ako diko sya naisip e, nung nabasa ko na may anak nadin kayo, ang naisip ko. Pano yung anak mo? Pag lumali laki na sya at nagkaisip syempre hahanapin ka niya. Di mo na nga sya kasama diba? Its not the material things e, pero naisip moba na baka pagdating ng panahon e icompare ng anak mo yung buhay niya sa buhay ng kapatid niya na kasama mo? Di ba? Baka magkaron ng epekto sa bata to. Yung isa kasama mo, natutustusan ng maayos.. E pano naman sya, yung bata ang kawawa.. You should fight for your child. Nung bata ako, di ako sang ayon sa ''magkaalaman na" kasi masakit yun e, may consequences..like in your situation Baka malaman mong di talaga niya tanggap na nagbibigay ka sa anak mo.. Pero ngayon alam kona na malaking bagay yun "magkaalaman na" kung dun at dun din naman pupunta..

Ako walang income, si hubby lang lahat.minsan si hubby nagtatabi pero pag tinatanong ko sya sinasabi naman niya yung totoo. Minsan kinukuha ko kasi alam ko sa pyesa lang ng kotse mapupunta yun (hehe) hindi naman sa nagdadamot yun e. Kung alam mong may mas makatuturan na pupuntahan ang pera katulad ng pagkain, o diretso sa banko why not.aba!ang hirap ng buhay ngayon ah!

Sana sis, dumating yung time na magiging ok din yung sitwasyon nyo at matanggap na talaga ni hubby ang pagbigay mo ng sustento sa first baby mo. :) God bless..
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Re: Nagtatago ng money kay husband
« Reply #16 on: October 31, 2011, 03:26:10 pm »

Yes, I have my own money.  I maintain my own bank accounts.

But yes, he knows about them.  AND, he deposits to my bank accounts too.

No, I don't get spending money from my bank accounts.

Yes, it is for those emergencies, just in case I get hospitalized what with me being a diabetic and not knowing what ailment will kill me eventually or just in case I die and arrangements must be made for my human remains, etc.

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Re: Nagtatago ng money kay husband
« Reply #17 on: October 31, 2011, 05:04:48 pm »

YES,Aside from my account kung saan yung salary ko I maintain my own accounts as well,Di sya pwedeng mag-withdraw dun to lend for his brother,sister and even kay MIL ko...That money is for us,me and my anak...
He has his account too,na alam ko....That account is strictly for emergencies, na ayokong mambulabog sa mga kamag-anak ko hanggat maari,pag may kailangan din ang sister at brother ko I don't get in that account ayokong hehe

it's not nagtatago ng money kay hubby it's just being wise and practical,pwede mo namang sabihin kay hubby na you ahve this account pero kailangan mong ma-explain the purpose of having such....magalit sya at isipin nyang nagtatago ka ng pera sa kanay..awayin mo hehe

paliwanagan mong mabuti mare....
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Re: Nagtatago ng money kay husband
« Reply #18 on: November 02, 2011, 06:30:07 am »

Hi mommy bong;

Well, ok lang po na mag keep k ng money Its for you daughter naman pala. You are not bad or anything else.

But then mommy, Its better po to talk to your hubby and tell him that you still have a responsibility to your  kid,
Mas Better nga po if your Older kid will stay with you, why?  kasi po hindi namin maiiwasan minsan na magtanim ng sama ng loob ang bata satin, lalo na po sa ganyang sitwasyon..
Its better na iwasan na ma question ni kid yung ginagawa mo, though it for his/her own sake..Lalo n pag nagkaisip n siya, he/she might ask you why you left me? why you chose them over me?why like this , why like that, Sometimes they want them to stay with us.Than material things that we giving to them.. :(

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Re: Nagtatago ng money kay husband
« Reply #19 on: November 02, 2011, 11:33:31 am »

Share ko lang..

Experience wise, nakita ko sa magulang ko na dapat meron kang sariling pera talaga.. hindi pwedeng ala.. sometimes kasi ending kapag iniwan ka ng asawa e dapat meron taung mga babaeng mahuhugot..

i agree with jealousygirl, no matter what masakit sa bata un...

talk it over with hubby...
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Re: Nagtatago ng money kay husband
« Reply #20 on: November 02, 2011, 10:47:34 pm »

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opinyon ko sis, tama  lang naman na mag tabi ka, para sa anak mo, kung ganun ang partner mo diba, di naman pwedi na di suporthan ang bata, e kahit papano anak mo parin yan, so ok lang mag tabi sis, kung ako nasa sitwASYON MO,  gagawin ko rin yang ginagawa mo.

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Re: Nagtatago ng money kay husband
« Reply #21 on: November 03, 2011, 09:13:41 am »

nothing wrong with that. responsibility mo rin si 1st baby. kung nagtatago ka man eh dahil narin sa hindi supportive si partner mo. if you're bothered na may tinatago ka, tell him about it. it's not that you're asking his permission, it's just letting him know for your peace of mind, if wala ka ngang peace of mind on this matter  ;)
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Re: Nagtatago ng money kay husband
« Reply #22 on: November 04, 2011, 07:33:08 am »

agree with mommy ysLim..

ipaintindi mo nalang ke hubby mo na anak mo din un at kelangan suportahan..

 :) :) :)
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Re: Nagtatago ng money kay husband
« Reply #23 on: November 05, 2011, 05:55:41 pm »

I don't see a problem with keeping your own bank account and savings.
I mean, you earned it too and I think you should have your own money for yourself for the future.
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Re: Nagtatago ng money kay husband
« Reply #24 on: November 06, 2011, 05:02:46 pm »

hi sis  na sad talaga ako sis sa sinabi ng husband/partner mo...

kawawa ang baby mo yan. On the first place nung dumating sya sa buhay mo una kaya yon ...kahit anong sabihin ni husband mo sis kadugo mo yon. hindi naman kasalanan ng anak mo ang nangyari sa relasyon nyo ng ama niya. and besides if mahal na mahal ka niya sis, tatanggapin niya kung ano ang meron ka.

sorry if merong masaktan. so nung alam nyang you are a mom, dapat natuwa pa sya...meron na syang added bonus...diba, its a blessing in disguise for sis na nakita mo ang response niya towards the one you love.

to answer if tama or not ....yes and no ang sagot ko.  YES tama magtabi ka ng pera for your first born child, and NO dahil nagiging malihim ka sa kanya about your finances. dapat open and honest kayu dapat sa isat isa and dahil sya mismo ang nag.udyok sayo ....bagay lang na mag.lihim ka for your child.   

partner mo palng naman sya sis, hindi mo pa asawa legal. IF he cant love the whole you with your first born child then is the relationship really worth it??? ang question ko is CAN YOU LIVE ALONE???

if meron kang anak sa kanya, you give that child a complete family pero meron ka din isang anak na almost empty...wala na ngang tatay...hindi pa nakikita ang nanay...do you think ano ang feelings niya????

kaya im asking you...is that set up WORTH IT???? or ARE YOU AFRAID TO BE ALONE????
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Re: Nagtatago ng money kay husband
« Reply #25 on: November 06, 2011, 11:13:34 pm »

people can be selfish.. your "kwento" happens all the time.. everywhere i dare say.. i just hope youre one of the UNSELFISH ones who'll choose the HIGH ROAD and take a STAND for your first born ;)
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Re: Nagtatago ng money kay husband
« Reply #26 on: May 29, 2012, 08:25:35 am »

Not all couples are blessed with sufficient resources, and making ends meet can create an extraordinary amount of tension between you and your partner.
The Top 3 Sources of Stress in Marriage


http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/mom-dad/relationships/the-top-3-sources-of-stress-in-marriage
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Re: Nagtatago ng money kay husband
« Reply #27 on: May 31, 2012, 04:29:22 pm »

some guys talaga masyadong selfish. di lang naman siguro tayo yung nagtatago sakanila e.
actually yung live-in partner ko di ko na tinatanong kung magkano sinahod niya basta magbigay sya para sa needs ng baby namin, kasi pag tatanungin mo laging wlang pera. kaya nakakainis! ayaw pa sabihin laman ng accnt niya. kaya ako todo tago din ako, di ko sinasabi sakanya yung exact amount ng sweldo ko. patas lang. lagi ko sinasabi wala ako pera, kaya napipilitan sya maglabas. haha.   :P
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Re: Nagtatago ng money kay husband
« Reply #28 on: June 11, 2012, 09:43:10 pm »

ok lang na mag-keep ng sariling money. it's for your own good. you need it, just in case the unexpected happens. do not feel guilty about it.
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Re: Nagtatago ng money kay husband
« Reply #29 on: June 19, 2012, 09:08:08 pm »

I keep my own money too and I can spend it on any way I want.  Pero alam yun ni hubby. Di siya nakikialam. Same na di ko pinakikialaman yung personal allowance niya.  Financial issues are something na dapat talaga isettle. Bago pa kami magpakasal pinagusapan namin kung pano namin hahatiin yung mga gastusin sa bahay. Pero I ask more from him hehe
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