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sexylab

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will you let your child know her dad?
« on: February 14, 2009, 12:36:08 pm »

i was wonderin somehow,kung tama pa bang pakilala ang baby ko sa dad niya when she grows up? I was thinking kasi how will she react at baka pag nakilala na niya, magtanong pa sia kung bakit hindi namin sia nakkasama or kung makasama man niya once in a while eh baka mag-expect lang lagi na nanjan yung dad niya if ever she needs him, then madisappoint kung sakaling wala.

Kayo mga momsie, what will you do?
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Re: will u let ur child know their dad?
« Reply #1 on: February 14, 2009, 02:43:13 pm »

ako never kong papakilala baby ko. alm naman ng dad niya kung asan siya.. kung my puso talaga yung ama niya! siya mgpakilala sa sarili niya sa daughter ko as her father pero kung di niya gnawa yun never kaming lalapit sa kanya :-[
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Re: will u let ur child know their dad?
« Reply #2 on: February 14, 2009, 11:37:36 pm »

ako oo papakilala ko in the right time pro hindi rin naman sakin manggaling yung effort.
either he exerts REAL effort or pag laki ni baby maghanap sya.
I'll do it for my daughter and not for anyone else. I believe she has the right to know her birth father, kahit ano pa history namin.
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« Reply #3 on: February 14, 2009, 11:45:28 pm »

I think it's important that your child knows who his/her father is regardless of your past history with the guy. It's your children's right to know that and wag nyo pong ipag kait yun sa kanila. Have and open communication, be honest and tell the truth to you kid kc mas sasama ang loob nila if they will found out from other people or once it became to late already.
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Re: will u let ur child know their dad?
« Reply #4 on: February 16, 2009, 05:22:50 am »

i will not deprive my children into knowing their father.. aba if they are willing to know their children why not? wag lang nila agawin saakin at war na ito hehe... seriously, if the father naman wants to let himself known to my child then go! its my child's right and his as well.
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« Reply #5 on: February 17, 2009, 06:12:05 am »

on my case dati parang gusto ko pang ipakilala c baby sa tatay niya,ako pa yung ngsasabing bisitahin yung baby sa haws, nong maospital i also ask him if he can drop by, siya etong ayaw,so ngayon parang naiinis na ako... his been too much , talagang wala xang paki
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« Reply #6 on: February 19, 2009, 01:32:28 am »

ako siguro di ko papakilala dad nila..in my case iba kasi dad ng eldest ko..and sa kinalakihan nyang dad..since iniwan kami ng hubby ko, siguro much better na di nila makilala..ieexplain ko kung bakit ganon sa mga kids ko and sana maintindihan nila..although kung un dad naman e gagawa ng effort,why not..AS IN MAJOR MEGA EFFORT AND ALL..
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« Reply #7 on: February 19, 2009, 03:48:22 am »

i was wonderin somehow,kung tama pa bang pakilala ang baby ko sa dad niya when she grows up? I was thinking kasi how will she react at baka pag nakilala na niya, magtanong pa sia kung bakit hindi namin sia nakkasama or kung makasama man niya once in a while eh baka mag-expect lang lagi na nanjan yung dad niya if ever she needs him, then madisappoint kung sakaling wala.

Kayo mga momsie, what will you do?

YES sis.. pakilala mo.. there is no harm on that and let me tell you na talagang kasama na ang madaming tanong once na magkaisip ang bata...

Follow your heart sis... for me lang... Y not naman pakilala... then just be HONEST lang on what really happened.. walang masama kung magiging mas totoo ka sa sarili mo...

Nun time na pinagdadamot ko kay SD  si baby... HINDI NAMAN AKO MASAYA... naisip ko lang na MEGA effort naman si SD and the parents e.. nun time na yun.. nagmamatigas ako.. pero HONESTLY HINDI NAMAN AKO MASAYA...

Now masasabi ko na.... I need to be happy and ITS NOT ABOUT US (SD & ME) ANYMORE... ITS ABOUT OUR BABY....

Tinigilan ko na ang mga pains sa heart ko... mas magandang iaccept na lang na kung hindi talaga kayo.. e di hindi.... pero wag nyo ipagdamot ang bata..

Just my 2 cents mga sis... nasa sanyo pa din decisyon...
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Re: will u let ur child know their dad?
« Reply #8 on: February 19, 2009, 09:26:10 pm »

Yeah, they must know their roots, kaya pakilala mo na girl, it's up for them kung kikilalanin nila DAD hehe!!!!
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Re: will u let ur child know their dad?
« Reply #9 on: February 22, 2009, 03:46:18 pm »

gusto ko naman ding makilala ng baby ko ang dad niya, beside gusto naman din ng dad niya na makasama sia kahit minsan. Siguro ang worry ko lang is yung mag-expect ang anak ko na baka akala niya lagi na niya to makikita or makkasama, takot lang din kasi ako madisappoint ang anak ko or magalit sia sa dad niya kung skaling hindi naman ito mapagbigyan in the near future. Ayokong magtanim din sia kahit paano ng sama ng loob sa dad niya or even s kin
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Re: will u let ur child know their dad?
« Reply #10 on: February 23, 2009, 09:54:03 am »

on my end, nagkakilala naman na sila and nagkasama actually.  Pero now that we're not living under one roof anymore and he has his gf na, hindi na ako yung lalapit sa kanya para sabihin bigyan naman niya ng attention si baby.  Siya na lang gumawa ng effort kung gusto niya makita ang baby.  Kung hindi siya gagawa ng effort, no way na magkikita sila.  I'm tired.  Nung na-hospital si baby recently, andun sha nagbabantay, pero parang wala rin sha doon in a sense na hindi nagsasalita, wala kumakausap sa kanya except kung aayain na siya kumain, at hindi sumasama sa kanya si baby.  medyo mailap na rin si baby kay SD. 
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« Reply #11 on: February 24, 2009, 01:20:25 am »

If he is to exert an effort to know/see his kids then maybe I will.
 
Sa case ko kase hindi pa pinapanganak yung pangalawa ko, sabi na niya hndi daw sa kanya eh. So whats the use?
 
Hindi rin naman nila nakasama yung dad nila. I just hope that whatever circumstance that didnt let my children know their father will not be a hindrance to their being responsible persons someday. Sana nga sa movies lang yung, meron kang something na hinahanap, like kalinga ng ama, etc. Basta, ang prayer ko lang palagi is kung meron man akong hindi ma provide for now for them, si God na ang bahala. Coz he knows naman I am doing my best.
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Re: will u let ur child know their dad?
« Reply #12 on: March 01, 2009, 09:27:49 pm »

i agree with katie, if makita mo naman na ang Dad nila ay gusto talaga silang makita so let them see our children, pero if di naman interesado and DAD nila na makita, so why should we let them see our children???
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« Reply #13 on: April 30, 2009, 03:55:08 pm »

Ako yes…
Kasi kahit naman hindi ko ipakilala sa baby ko yung father niya, for sure paglaki niya, hahanapin at hahanapin niya tatay niya,,, syempre aalamin niya for sure ang pinag mulan niya…

So far ngayon nagkikita yung mag-ama ko,, kaya lang 1 yr old pa lang yung son ko,, for sure pag laki niya limot niya na itsure ng hudas nyang ama. Kaya I know someday hahanapin niya pa rin un….

At d ko rin naman pinagdadamot son ko sa tatay niya, basta Makita ko lang na may effort yung tatay niya para Makita niya yung anak ko,,, hindi yung ako pa yung magdadala sa kanya sa bata,, ano sya hilo…
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Re: will u let ur child know their dad?
« Reply #14 on: April 30, 2009, 06:17:58 pm »

Ako din yes.
Kasi ayoko sisihin ako ng anak ko pagdating ng panahon na ako pa yung may dahilan bat hindi niya nakilala yung daddy niya. But i will tell him that hindi magandang example yung biological father niya, kaya wag niya gagayahin  ;)
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