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Re: will u let ur child know their dad?
« Reply #30 on: September 10, 2009, 10:40:00 am »

yes, kung gusto din sya makilala ng tatay. karapatan nila pareho yon ( SD and my son). I think kc di complete pagkatao ng anak ko kung di niya alam san sya galing..

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Re: will u let ur child know their dad?
« Reply #31 on: September 10, 2009, 11:52:27 am »

If ever this will happen to me, I'll let the guy know na sya ang dad but I will never push my child sa kanya. Eh kung ayaw eh di wag. My world will not stop just because he doesn't have balls to acknowledge his kid. Mas nakakahiya sa part niya kasi lalaki sya and yet he is scared facing the consequences of his actions and accepting the responsibilities attached to it... :)\

So smile ka na lang, you did your part. :)
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Re: will u let ur child know their dad?
« Reply #32 on: September 10, 2009, 07:45:01 pm »

my asawa ako pero pwede b mgcomment?

4 me, in case nngyari skin un. d ko talaga ipapakilala as in never ever! kahit mghnp p yung anak ko, kung hnpin mn niya at d naman siya kilalanin, so ano lang ginwa ko?, sasaktn ko lang siya. hyaan ko n lang n mgkrus lndas nila. pero kung ako tatanungin,.....

"kung tinalikuran k ng nkbagsak k at tumayo k mgisa ng wlng lingon niya, bumngon at tumtg kng wala siya. ano p ang saysay n lumingon xang mlks at nktyo k ng magisa? " diba?

 
sa mga tatay ng mga btng tinlikuran nio...eto lang msasabi ko...

mgsaya k mn ngayon,bukas gang pagtanda,
ang pagtlikod mo sa responcblidad kelanman hindi mgigng tma.
mgsya k mng kinklimutn ang bata,
pag naghihingalo k n ay wag kng hihingi ng awa.
ang pagpapatwd ay xang nkakaluwag ng dibdib,
pero ang ginwa mo ay hbngbuhay ng pampckip ng dibdib,
lumya k at wlng pipigil
pero sa paglingon mo, wala n ring nktigil.
Sis, this is soo true!! I am a single mom also but in this case I won't ever allow my daughter to see or even glanced his SD.. He made me miserable he even insisted na i-abort ko yung baby then nung pinanganak ko an baby ko sabi niya magsama kami at iwan ko ang baby sa parents ko. No way! Then nawala ng parang bula. I didn't try to communicate tapos pag kita ulit sa frndster eh aba ang ga** my iabng anak pa at older pa sa anak ko! There is no way talaga na mkilala niya SD niya I know in God's time he'll give my baby a dad yung father image talaga dadating din yung right time na God will give me a family at mamahalin and tatanggapin kami ng daughter ko.

my ibng single mom, ang sv wlng kasi ang ama sa ank nila pero sa knila meron. hello? bkit b mskit sa mga single moms yung ginwa ng nkaanak s knila?db dhil ang cnsktn nila ay ang ank nio n wlng kmlymly..dhil ang bunga ng ginwa niya ay tinlikurn niya. lahat taung mga mommies, once msktn ank ntin ms nsasaktn tau dhil tau ang ina.and God! di naman tuta un pag iniwan nila eh prng wala lang. like u, in ur situation, grbe! he insisted n ipaabort ank nio. o db mlking kasi n niya un, patyin ang srili niang flesh and blood. he doesnt even bother kung anak niya un,n siya my gwa kung bkit nbubuhy ang bta n un. on my opinion: ang mga amang wlng kwenta dpt 4ever niang pagdushn yung ginwa niang pagtlikod. we know mskit pra sa bta but then, kaya mo bng ihrp ang bta sa amang d siya kinilala? or sa amang ang gusto lang eh mwla siya sa mundo? diba?
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Re: will u let ur child know their dad?
« Reply #33 on: September 10, 2009, 08:50:41 pm »

my asawa ako pero pwede b mgcomment?

4 me, in case nngyari skin un. d ko talaga ipapakilala as in never ever! kahit mghnp p yung anak ko, kung hnpin mn niya at d naman siya kilalanin, so ano lang ginwa ko?, sasaktn ko lang siya. hyaan ko n lang n mgkrus lndas nila. pero kung ako tatanungin,.....

"kung tinalikuran k ng nkbagsak k at tumayo k mgisa ng wlng lingon niya, bumngon at tumtg kng wala siya. ano p ang saysay n lumingon xang mlks at nktyo k ng magisa? " diba?

 
sa mga tatay ng mga btng tinlikuran nio...eto lang msasabi ko...

mgsaya k mn ngayon,bukas gang pagtanda,
ang pagtlikod mo sa responcblidad kelanman hindi mgigng tma.
mgsya k mng kinklimutn ang bata,
pag naghihingalo k n ay wag kng hihingi ng awa.
ang pagpapatwd ay xang nkakaluwag ng dibdib,
pero ang ginwa mo ay hbngbuhay ng pampckip ng dibdib,
lumya k at wlng pipigil
pero sa paglingon mo, wala n ring nktigil.


this is so true. If I can be that selfish I will do this. But then there's this thought na baka when the time comes ako yung magiging masama sa mata ng anak ko. Mali sya na iniwan niya kami, pero mali din na ipagkait ko sa anak ko ang gusto nyang makilala ang tatay niya. Hindi ako magiging kagaya niya, I will not stoop down to his level by doing the monstrosities that he did to me and my son.
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Re: will u let ur child know their dad?
« Reply #34 on: September 10, 2009, 09:31:18 pm »

Mommies, I think this situation is a case to case basis rin.. Minsan kc kahit anong pilit natin gawin na maayos at mabuo family kung talagang mahirap ayusin yung relation ng mag-asawa no choice but to separate, ryt? Kesa ipilit dahil lang sa baby I dont believe that! You can still make the baby feel na love niyo sha bsta dalaw dalawin pa rin sha ng dad niya since you both did ur best to make your relationship work. I mean, kung maayos pag hihiwalay nio it's really okay na ipakilala nio si baby sa dad.

But mine is different kc, He wanted us to have a baby then nung nag PT ako at positive bigla sha namutla at nawala for a month! lahat ng check up ko best friend ko kasama ko she even paid my 1st-3rd month doctor's fee kc nga I can't ask money from my parents dahil mgtataka sila. Whole pregnancy ko wala SD ko sa tabi ko. Yes we meet and we still "do" pero yun lang! Hoping pa kasi ako nun maayos. But when I gave birth dun ko na-realize how stupid I am for sticking with him.
Kaya ngayon no way talaga kung ipapakikilala ko SD sa baby ko lalo ngayon nalaman ko may older baby pa pal sha. I'm super okay now and I bet mas masaya ako sakanya. :)
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Re: will u let ur child know their dad?
« Reply #35 on: September 12, 2009, 12:27:32 am »

ako at first, never kong inisip na ipakilala siya sa dad niya, kasi what for?On the other hand, hindi rin kasi maganda yung paghiwalay namin, and i was the one nag refuse sa offer na pakasal kami, kasi alam ko na, kaya niya ako pakakasalan because nabuntis ako.May mga issues pa,kaya when I texted him na naganak na ako just i case gusto niya makita, di naman pumunta so i decided, na erase siya sa life namin.nug nag 1yr and 3 months baby ko, I realized na, after her dad texted, asking to see her, i realize na baka naging unfair ako sa anak ko, kasi it has nothing to do with her eh. di siya kasali sa issue namin ng tatay niya.

i allowed them to meet, and 2 years old na baby ko next month, regular na pagkikita nila, i made a promise to him, na di ko siya sisirain sa anak niya, and I made it clear to him, na this all for the baby, I am not allowing this win him back, because I have honestly moved on. medyo kay naman, and masaya anak ko eh. Im glad na, pumayag ako na magkita sila. Whatever happens, alam ng anak ko na I tried my best, its up to her to decide later. if worth it ba talaga yung ama niyang pag aksayahan ng panahon ;)
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Re: will u let ur child know their dad?
« Reply #36 on: September 12, 2009, 02:18:46 pm »

^ same tayo mommy  :) Ill let my son decide. Hindi ko din sisiraan si SD but I will always tell my son what happened, I will be honest with him. And I will ask him na sana wag niya gawin sa ibang babae ang ginawa samin ni SD kasi si mommy ang magagalit sa kanya ;) hindi ko sya sisiraan but Ill always tell the truth. I will not make him look like he's to be idolized also, lalake ang anak ko mahirap na if he will look up to the wrong person  ;D
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Re: will u let ur child know their dad?
« Reply #37 on: September 13, 2009, 05:45:27 am »

nkakalungkot lang tlaga isipin n may mga lalaki n walang pakialam s anak nila. Dati kala ko d nila kaya tiisin ang bata e. Mali pala ko.
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Re: will u let ur child know their dad?
« Reply #38 on: September 13, 2009, 09:37:03 am »

^ ako din sis, I always believe na mas malaki yung part na good ang tao, sad to say meron palang halang ang kaluluwa  ;D Anyways, meron pa rin naman mababait e  :)
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Re: will u let ur child know their dad?
« Reply #39 on: September 13, 2009, 10:11:46 am »


I dunno...
Sd will be coming home on the *** (wag na exact date, kasi nababasa nila-- baka magka ideal ang.... who am i referring to..)

basta he left a message sa ym ko kung papakita ko ba daw ang bata...

Honestly, i dunno so.. sabi ko COMe WHAT MAY?!!!!

may naisip pko na plan a
plan b

ewan ko kung mag worork...

Plan A: since yung bata lang naman ang gusto niya.. e di ipapalabas ko yung bata..

Plan B .. Hindi ako magpapakita saknya.. bata lang papakita ko if ever mag punta siya sa bahay..

wahahahha

pero what if kung hiramin ang bata?

di ba dapat kasama ako?!!!!

hindi pko ready!!!!

makakita ng impakto!!!
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Re: will u let ur child know their dad?
« Reply #40 on: September 13, 2009, 10:34:59 am »

chastee and basti, DO NOT post in text-speak. please be considerate to other SP members who want to comment on your posts but are unable to do so because your posts are incorrigible. please be considerate enough to post properly.
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Re: will u let ur child know their dad?
« Reply #41 on: September 14, 2009, 08:50:37 am »

my asawa ako pero pwede b mgcomment?

4 me, in case nngyari skin un. d ko talaga ipapakilala as in never ever! kahit mghnp p yung anak ko, kung hnpin mn niya at d naman siya kilalanin, so ano lang ginwa ko?, sasaktn ko lang siya. hyaan ko n lang n mgkrus lndas nila. pero kung ako tatanungin,.....

"kung tinalikuran k ng nkbagsak k at tumayo k mgisa ng wlng lingon niya, bumngon at tumtg kng wala siya. ano p ang saysay n lumingon xang mlks at nktyo k ng magisa? " diba?

 
sa mga tatay ng mga btng tinlikuran nio...eto lang msasabi ko...

mgsaya k mn ngayon,bukas gang pagtanda,
ang pagtlikod mo sa responcblidad kelanman hindi mgigng tma.
mgsya k mng kinklimutn ang bata,
pag naghihingalo k n ay wag kng hihingi ng awa.
ang pagpapatwd ay xang nkakaluwag ng dibdib,
pero ang ginwa mo ay hbngbuhay ng pampckip ng dibdib,
lumya k at wlng pipigil
pero sa paglingon mo, wala n ring nktigil.


this is so true. If I can be that selfish I will do this. But then there's this thought na baka when the time comes ako yung magiging masama sa mata ng anak ko. Mali sya na iniwan niya kami, pero mali din na ipagkait ko sa anak ko ang gusto nyang makilala ang tatay niya. Hindi ako magiging kagaya niya, I will not stoop down to his level by doing the monstrosities that he did to me and my son.

ang sv ko po, hahayaan ko n lang mgkrus lndas nila. pag naman ngkaicp anak ko at hnpin siya, siya mismo gagawa ng way pra mhnp niya daddy niya. same din sa daddy niya. pero ako, wala... d ako gagawa ng way. i'll just let the destiny do it for me. on my opinion lang naman un.
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Re: will u let ur child know their dad?
« Reply #42 on: September 14, 2009, 11:04:21 am »


I dunno...
Sd will be coming home on the *** (wag na exact date, kasi nababasa nila-- baka magka ideal ang.... who am i referring to..)


momy basti.. baket my mumu si SD  :o  dito? Question lang
« Last Edit: September 14, 2009, 11:45:51 am by frankie »
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Re: will u let ur child know their dad?
« Reply #43 on: September 14, 2009, 02:41:48 pm »

chastee and basti, DO NOT post in text-speak. please be considerate to other SP members who want to comment on your posts but are unable to do so because your posts are incorrigible. please be considerate enough to post properly.

okay, i didn't know it. thanks for posting  about it.
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Re: will u let ur child know their dad?
« Reply #44 on: September 16, 2009, 03:23:07 pm »

my asawa ako pero pwede b mgcomment?

4 me, in case nngyari skin un. d ko talaga ipapakilala as in never ever! kahit mghnp p yung anak ko, kung hnpin mn niya at d naman siya kilalanin, so ano lang ginwa ko?, sasaktn ko lang siya. hyaan ko n lang n mgkrus lndas nila. pero kung ako tatanungin,.....

"kung tinalikuran k ng nkbagsak k at tumayo k mgisa ng wlng lingon niya, bumngon at tumtg kng wala siya. ano p ang saysay n lumingon xang mlks at nktyo k ng magisa? " diba?

 
sa mga tatay ng mga btng tinlikuran nio...eto lang msasabi ko...

mgsaya k mn ngayon,bukas gang pagtanda,
ang pagtlikod mo sa responcblidad kelanman hindi mgigng tma.
mgsya k mng kinklimutn ang bata,
pag naghihingalo k n ay wag kng hihingi ng awa.
ang pagpapatwd ay xang nkakaluwag ng dibdib,
pero ang ginwa mo ay hbngbuhay ng pampckip ng dibdib,
lumya k at wlng pipigil
pero sa paglingon mo, wala n ring nktigil.

sis nahirapan ako basahin because of the text typing.
pacensya mga sis.. Hindi ako talented sa pag basa ng text typing e..
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