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Re: parang people are looking down on me because i am a stay at home mom
« Reply #15 on: November 10, 2011, 10:47:37 pm »

^^sis baliktad naman tayo.. Ako nun sabi ko sa sarili ko pag nagkababy ako gusto ko magwork pa din.. And here i am, wala ng planong magwork.. I am trying to llook for a nice business na lang or any stay at home job para makasama lang si baby. I want to see her and be with her sa lahat ng oras. :)
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Re: parang people are looking down on me because i am a stay at home mom
« Reply #16 on: November 11, 2011, 04:24:30 pm »

The key word there sis is serenity.

I have read also what sis rianne_mallows have read. And I found there what I was lacking everytime I felt like when people also are looking down on me when I tell them Im a SAHM. I remember a pedia na pinuntahan ko dati dahil wala yung doctor ng anak ko. And I couldnt shake the smirk she has on her face nung tinanong niya ako kung nag work ako. She said like "Ohhhh..."  when I told her na sa bahay lang ako. That got me really depressed for days and got me thinking kung bakit nga ba housewife lang ako at hindi career woman tulad ng iba.

After reading the book in fairness pag may nagtatanong na sa akin kung ano ginagawa ko. Sinasagot ko ng isang mala Ms. Universe na sagot . Im a housewife. Nag-aalaga ng baby ko.  :D at hindi na ako nakakaranas na tignan na parang wala namang kwenta ang ginagawa ko.

I learn to be proud of what I am. Of what I choose to do in this Life. Tulad lang din ng ibang career, I have chosen the most noble one. To be a homemaker. And I am happy. And nobody could make feel guilty about it. Being happy. Sabi nga walang basagan ng trip  ;D Masaya ako eh. Kaya pag naaalala ko pa rin yung doktora na yun naiisip ko siguro kaya ganun reaction niya sa akin kasi siguro hindi sya masaya sa buhay niya. Kaya ngayon everytime na nakikita ko yung mga former classmate ko saka mga dati ko katrabaho naiinggit pag sinasabi kong SAHM ako. They could be managers now, and naiinggit ako minsan. But ganun din naman sila sa akin and feeling ko mas successful ako on the field that really matters. Dahil sila nanghihinayang sa akin pero ako hindi nanghihinayang sa kanila. Feeling ko walang katumbas pa rin na halaga yung bahay ko na masaya sa ipapalit ko kung sakali na magwo-work ako. So hanggat kaya pa ni hubby na indulge ako susulitin ko talaga  :D

Cheer-up sis  ;D  Feeling mo man hindi ka na-appreciate ng mga tao that matters na-appreciate ka naman ng mga taong katulad mo. Im so proud of you and Thank you dahil iilan lang ba yung mga babaeng handa talagang isakripisyo ang lahat-lahat sa buhay nila sa ngalan ng pamilya  :)

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Re: parang people are looking down on me because i am a stay at home mom
« Reply #17 on: November 11, 2011, 04:40:17 pm »

just like what most mommies told here, don't be sad or madepressed if you're a SAHM. saludo at taas kamay ako sa mga SAHM. naging SAHM ako ng 1 1/2 year at di ko pinagsisihan yon though nakakarindi yung paulit ulit na tanong na "Di ka na pumapasok?" Bakit?nag ssmile lang ako.di ko naman obligasyong sagutin silang lahat..

@sisCIB - swerte ko pala kasi yung pedia ng mga anak ko, tuwang tuwa naman pag nagaabsent ako pra sa check up nila or sa injection nila.

Basta for me, being a SAHM is the best job ever!

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Re: parang people are looking down on me because i am a stay at home mom
« Reply #18 on: November 11, 2011, 04:46:12 pm »

^ Ganyan din ako nung nagresign ako dito sa office even my own family wala rin akong ligtas grabe ang sasama ng reaction nila parang it's a big crime.
Tama ka sis sabihin na lang natin na kaya siguro ganun ang reaction nila eh kasi andun yong envy this is no offense meant for those working moms this are my point of view because not all wives are given the privilege to be a sahm mom.
Like sa akin nung nagwowork ako tapos wala akong choice but to work kasi hindi pa stable si hubby naiingit talaga ako dun sa nagresign tapos nagagawa nila yong gusto nila like taking care of your very own family nakikita mo lahat ng milestone instead of entrusting it someone else if my choice na ako na yon why not.
Iba iba na kasi klase ng tao/ moms meron naman na mas preferred mag-work talaga kahit my choice kasi na puwede naman hindi kasi they feel more secured as you said sis CIB kanya kanya nga lang yan walang basagan ng trip  ;D
Respect each others point of view at kung ayaw naman respect prayer na lang sis para hindi maging polluted ang heart ang mind mo as long as your happy and you feel fulfilled on your chosen path.
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« Reply #19 on: November 11, 2011, 04:54:14 pm »

I honestly envied SAHMmies here, the joy of motherhood is to be with their sons/daughters 24/7 a day!
kung stable lang sana kami ni hubby, i will be forever stay-at-home-MOmma :)

Weno kung SAHM ka? Your doing a great job sis by being with your child eye-to-eye, hindi nagaga ng mga tulad kong WAHMmies yan.. so smile, dedma na sila!

Sis CIB ano po yun title nun book?
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« Reply #20 on: November 11, 2011, 05:01:21 pm »

 :D

Nakakarindi talaga. Tsaka yung paulit ulit na sinasabihan ka ng "Sayang naman." Na parang ang t*anga mo na give-up yung work mo. Or yung mga chances mo. At lahat na lang ng tao eh hinayang na hinayang sa trabaho o "buhay" na pinakawalan mo. Isa yung sa mga issues ko ng post partum depression before. Nakakapagod magpaliwanag lalo na sa mga taong malapit sa iyo.

Pero at least ngayon nakikita naman nila na lumalaki ng maayos yung anak ko. Nakakatanggap na rin ako ng "award"  at "certificate of recognition" kahit paano. Kahit maliit na papuri sa anak ko lumulobo na yung puso ko.

Hahaha  ;D Ang babaw

@kissablesam- it's an ebook sis Secrets of Fascinating Womanhood. If your interested you can pm me your email I'll give you a copy  :)
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Re: parang people are looking down on me because i am a stay at home mom
« Reply #21 on: November 11, 2011, 05:48:19 pm »

I salute all the Stay at home mom:)! When I was still in my specialty training, ang dami kong namiss sa milestone ng anak ko, I wasn't there to triumph over his first step, and up to now nanghihinayang pa din ako..there were school activities I missed because I was in 24hour duty, there were times he was confined in the hospital and I can't be there because I have obligations to other sick kids, napaka ironic di ba? When you are taking good care of other sick kids tapos wala ka sa tabi ng anak mo who also needs your attention..those were the times I'm questioning myself if I'm really on the right track? That was 3 years ago..I didn't give up my career though, but I chose to have my private practice para manageable yung time,I have to give up my dreams to go into subspecialty training so us for me to spend more time with my kids..
I gave up my other clinics just to clear my morning schedule, my mornings and weekends is happily spent with my now 2 kids..afternoons is for clinics..
Does it make me any less as a person? Not at all!" Even if others would say sayang naman hindi ka na nagsubspecialize". I would just smile:) 3 years on specialty training is enough..everytime I'm hugging my kids I know I'm doing the right thing!
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Re: parang people are looking down on me because i am a stay at home mom
« Reply #22 on: November 11, 2011, 07:28:25 pm »

sa totoo lang inggit ako sa mga SAHM! im in retail kasi and long ang working hours namin, at ganito na lang ang inggit ko. ;D

hindi ko gets ang sinasabi ng ibang tao na sayang pag naging SAHM ka. next time na may nagtanong na lang sayo sagutin mo, sayang ang ano? wala naman makaktumbas sa panahon at effort mo sa pagpapalaki mo sa anak mo na tutok talaga.

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Re: parang people are looking down on me because i am a stay at home mom
« Reply #23 on: November 17, 2011, 11:05:42 pm »

hi sis, working mom din ako before pero got tired of working na so eto enjoy na enjoy maging SAHM, naku sis kung hindi naman problema finances kahit hindi ka nagwowork, pag may naglook down ulit sayo dahil sinabi mong SAHM ka, sabihin mo na lang no need ka ng magwork kasi kayang kaya na kayo buhayin ni mister, that'll shut them up ;)
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« Reply #24 on: November 18, 2011, 01:32:16 am »

agree! may nagsabi na sakin nyan sabi sakin TAPOS KA NGA WALA KA NAMAN TRABAHO. kasi mga hindi nag iisip hindi naman porke hindi ka pumapasok ng otso oras eh wala ka ng trabaho at pera.

hay naku!!! nakakakulot ng bangs!! (ay wala pala ako bangs)
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« Reply #25 on: November 18, 2011, 10:05:18 am »

sis, naiintindihan kita, ako nga wal ako plan na maging stay at home mom kasi alam ko na mahirap pag isa lang ang magwowork sa min, pero nung nanganak na ko, hindi ko na maiwan yung anak ko, sabi ko pa nga pag nag 1yr old na siya siguro pwede na ulit ako magwork pero 3yrs old na son ko, stay at home mom pa rin ako.

may time na gusto ko talaga magwork pero isipin ko lang na iwan anak ko sa yaya, hindi ko na makaya, hindi rin kasi ko lumaki na kasama parents ko so alam ko yung feeling na lumaki na walang parents so ayaw ko maranasan ng anak ko yun. so mag full time mom ako as long as need niya ko. mahirap talaga lalo na pag nakikita mo na yung mga friends mo and classmate dati mga professionals na at ok ang career pero kung iisipin mo din, maraming working mom ang gusto rin maging stay at home mom pero wala sila choice kasi need nila magwork.

may friend nga ko na kapag nakakausap ko, lagi na lang may inooffer na opening sa ganito sa ganyan baka gusto mo mag-apply, parang feeling ko nanghihinayang siya sa kin pero lagi ko sinasabi saka na ako magwork.
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Re: parang people are looking down on me because i am a stay at home mom
« Reply #26 on: November 21, 2011, 07:56:36 pm »

Aww.. sometimes parents are hard on you talaga. But try not to feel bad because if you know you are doing the right thing (staying home to raise your children) and you aren't hurting anyone, then what other's say shouldn't matter. Everyone thinks and feels differently about certain topics. They have their own views, you have yours.

Besides, a full-time mom's job isn't easy! I find it easier controlling problems at work than dealing with my 4 year old at times :P
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Re: parang people are looking down on me because i am a stay at home mom
« Reply #27 on: November 26, 2011, 03:55:21 am »

Hi sis dont be sad ok lang yan SAHM din ako and im proud of if. Kahit mom ko din pinipilit akong mag trabaho. Pero my MIL ok lang sa kanya infact proud pa siya kasi nakatutuk ako sa apo niya. Syempre mas importante ngayon ang anak mo na sis. Cheer up
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Re: parang people are looking down on me because i am a stay at home mom
« Reply #28 on: January 12, 2013, 09:57:17 pm »

I am of the opinion that my life belongs to the whole community and as long as I live it is my privilege to do for it whatever I can.  I want to be thoroughly used up when I die, for the harder I work the more I live. 
The 7 Habits of Highly Efficient Homemakers

http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/home-living/homebase/-the-7-habits-of-highly-efficient-homemakers/page/4
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Re: parang people are looking down on me because i am a stay at home mom
« Reply #29 on: January 12, 2013, 10:15:20 pm »

sis, we have a same situation, mom ko ganyan din buti pa mga klasmate ko na sa ibang bansa na,p ero i stay firm to my choise to stay at home and give my full time to my daughter, i feel so happy kahit pagod, iba parin talaga pag hands on ka sa baby mo, ang mom ko kasi hindi naka full time sa min nang brod ko dahil nag work siya, kaya hindi niya na understand yung side, i grow-up na malayo yung emotional feeling ko sa mom ko, at ayaw ko na mangyari din sa anak ko yun, i told my mom whats the use of having such dollars in my pocket while my child suffering from emotional stress, yun hindi na sumagot mom ko, minsan kasi nakaka pikon na mom ko, but ngayon medyo na accept na din niya ag reason ko. goodluck to you sis, pray lang lagi para ma enlighten din ang mom mo.
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