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momchronicles

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Re: parang people are looking down on me because i am a stay at home mom
« Reply #30 on: March 03, 2013, 09:13:01 pm »

Hi mga sis! I used to be a banker and later on decided to be a full time mom..yes, a lot of people don't understand my decision but I remain firm with being a full time mom..Here's my experiences and insights as a career woman turned full time mom. Please check these out:

http://momchronicles.com/on-the-other-side-of-the-pasture

http://momchronicles.com/how-i-became-a-jobless-working-mom
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Re: parang people are looking down on me because i am a stay at home mom
« Reply #31 on: March 05, 2013, 12:28:47 pm »

Hi, I have been to both worlds (SAHM & WM) but believe me I really prefer the first.
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Re: parang people are looking down on me because i am a stay at home mom
« Reply #32 on: March 05, 2013, 03:32:37 pm »

Hi mga sis for me mas mahirapan maging SAHM compare sa nagwork ka kasi kala ng mga Tao madali Lang na NASA Bahay ka nagaalaga ng kids and taking care sa mga  Gawain sa house well I appreciate my Mom more kasi ang Hirap din pala yung NASA Bahay Ka.. Well syempre and reward naman being beside your kids kaya Meryl na write-off ang Hirap  ;D
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Re: parang people are looking down on me because i am a stay at home mom
« Reply #33 on: March 10, 2013, 09:24:35 pm »

im so proud to be a SAHM, madami din ako nadidinig na comments na sayang pinag aralan ko etc etc, well i really dont mind them, i just reply minsan pag naiirita ako sa kausap ko na akala mo kung sino, i just reply na, hubby can provide well enough that i dont need to find a job..and besides mas mahirap maging SAHM no dayoff,24/7taking care of the kids ,hubby and the house diba... ;D
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Re: parang people are looking down on me because i am a stay at home mom
« Reply #34 on: March 30, 2013, 07:16:50 am »

good morning!

sobra ako nakakarelate, but i have a big Q, what if si hubby ang nagpaparamdam sayo na sobrang worthless ka because mas pinili mong maging SAHM ? mas masakit un buti nga ikaw mommy mo lang, di mo kasama araw-araw pag nagkita lang kayo, ako sobrang stress na at sobrang sad, di naman ako asa lang kahit pano may mga sideline naman, bakit ganito ang pakiramdam ko, ano gagawin ko ?
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Re: parang people are looking down on me because i am a stay at home mom
« Reply #35 on: March 30, 2013, 09:16:47 pm »

Aw... my mom is a SAHM uhm like forever.... And i chose to be  the opposite when i graduated and entered in a relationship.. and now that i have a baby, believe me, i envy those SAHM... why? Because i cant be like them... its not that i dont have a choice or i dont want to guide my daughter or something kaya lang siguro hindi ko kaya tumigil ng bahay... nangangati talaga paa ko... oh well, i just wish i can be like you mommies... doing all the household chores and guiding your kid is really a challenging role. Bigger than any position in a company. Well it is a huge challenge for me... haha... kaya saludo ako sa mga SAHM eh... for now di ko talaga kaya.... pag napapagalitan ako, kasi i dont want to stop working, i always telling them na darating din yung time but not now... tinitingnan ko pa lang yun nanay ko nahihirapan na ako eh... hehhe...
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Re: parang people are looking down on me because i am a stay at home mom
« Reply #36 on: May 02, 2013, 12:13:51 pm »

Nakakarelate tlaga ako...

Same situation here...Kaya I told myself aalagaan ko tlaga anak ko. (well, blessed kase napagbigyan ako ng opportunity ni God na maging full time mom)

Actually, sacrifice nga ang maging SAHM lalo na sa college graduate pero hindi lahat naappreciate ang SAHM.
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Re: parang people are looking down on me because i am a stay at home mom
« Reply #37 on: May 09, 2013, 04:02:08 pm »

Hi! Nakakarelate ako sa story  mo mommy.  I was a regular office employee two years ago.
Until  the time I decided to give up my long time work in favor of my son.  I feel so blessed to
have a very loving and supportive hubby. I think mas important yung time na kasama ko ngayon
ang anak ko & kahit anong activities merun sya sa school, I'm always there to support him. Unlike
ibang students, nakakaawa mga kids, kasi during family day affair or recognition sa school, mga
yaya lang ang kasama nila.

Kaya I don't have any regrets sa naging decision ko... Hindi ko man nabibili lahat ng gusto ko, unlike
nung may regular income pa ako... Okay lang, masaya naman ang anak ko na lagi akong kasama
sa bahay.

We also need a good foundation b/w sa parents & child/children. Kung lagi tayo nasa tabi nila to
guide them & let them feel na they are loved. Yung respect at love ng mga anak sa parents nabi-build din.

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Re: parang people are looking down on me because i am a stay at home mom
« Reply #38 on: May 10, 2013, 04:52:43 pm »

inspiring yung mga posts nyo dito mga fellow SAHMs. i have relatives na kapag nagkikita kami lagi na lang akong kinukumpara sa mga anak niya na may work, kumikita ng pera, pero walang mga BF. sayang naman daw bakit nag aalaga lang ako ng mga bata kung pwede naman kumuha ng yaya at makapagtrabaho ako. mas okay daw yung may sariling pera tulad ng mga anak niya, blah blah.

sinasabi ko na lang with pride: Kaya naman ni hubby, no need for me to work.

pero minsan nakakadown lang din talaga. yung feeling ko, i wish i could do more to grow as an individual and help na din hopefully sa finances ng family namin.
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Re: parang people are looking down on me because i am a stay at home mom
« Reply #39 on: May 15, 2013, 05:49:48 pm »

Had been SAHM for just about 3 months now and at some point, there were days na naramdaman ko parang nga pero I didnt let it affect me, instead I ignored. theres no sense letting them in my system when I know for a fact na I am doing my very best as a stay at home mudda.. Okay lang kung idegrade nila ako because I am just a SAHM but hey, being SAHM means being with your children 24/7 and i am fortunate of having that opportunity..
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Re: parang people are looking down on me because i am a stay at home mom
« Reply #40 on: May 29, 2013, 05:13:27 am »

good morning!

sobra ako nakakarelate, but i have a big Q, what if si hubby ang nagpaparamdam sayo na sobrang worthless ka because mas pinili mong maging SAHM ? mas masakit un buti nga ikaw mommy mo lang, di mo kasama araw-araw pag nagkita lang kayo, ako sobrang stress na at sobrang sad, di naman ako asa lang kahit pano may mga sideline naman, bakit ganito ang pakiramdam ko, ano gagawin ko ?

yes I guess lucky pa rin ako kasi whenever I ask my husband if he needs me to work, he always answer no kahit na obvious na hirap na hirap na rin siya minsan. and when sinusumpong ako minsan he gives me budget pang unwind while he takes care of the kids. you know what better ask him na lang talaga ng direchahan baka naman nag vevent out lang siya na nahihirapan siya to make ends meet pero he doesn't mean to belittle you or put pressure on you. minsan di ba need lang nila ng sounding board kasama sa role natin yun eh. wag na lang ganung sensitive (I really should take my own advice). kapag naman kinuwenta mo babayaran ninyo sa yaya, labandera, cook, tutot at etc baka sa kanila na lang mapunta suweldo mo plus di naman nakakabili ng tlc di ba. so cheer up, you're actually saving him money by doing the job of 10 people. ;)
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Re: parang people are looking down on me because i am a stay at home mom
« Reply #41 on: May 29, 2013, 11:40:45 am »

Hi mommies! Pa-vent lang. Opinions and suggestions are welcome :)

My son got sick last week and sinamahan ako ng 1 araw ng mil ko para mag-alaga kay baby.
Nung afternoon, she asked kelan daw ako magwowork uli (i resigned kasi nung di pa kami makabuo pero nabuntis naman ako the same month nung mag-resign ako)...2mos pa lang baby ko and i gave birth thru cs.
I told her "ma, ayaw po kasi ni hubby na mag-work ako. Gusto niya sa bahay na lang para maalagaan ko si liam"..
She said wag ko daw sundin si hubby at pilitin ko sya.
I told her wala din namang promising career ang nurses dito sa Pinas and she answered mag-abroad daw ako.
Eh alam naman nyang ayaw ng anak niya na mag-abroad ang isa sa amin kasi i left the country in 2008, tho nag-survive relationship namin, ayaw na daw ni hubby ma-experience uli un since his work here is paying well naman.
Mil kept talking na kesyo di kami yayaman dito, sayang pinag-aralan ko, etc..so i kept mum na lang.
That night kinwento ko kay hubby ang sinabi ng mom niya. He said wag ko na lang pansinin. Kaso ang hirap naman na everytime magkita kami ni mil nauungkat ang pagbabalik ko ng work. Nakakaloka! Si hubby kasi dati ang kasama niya sa bahay and nagbabayad ng bills but since we moved out, kami na ang priority tho we still give her money, di na tulad ng dati.

I want to work din naman kaya lang everytime i look at my son, dko maimagine na dko mawiwitness ang mga milestones niya tsaka masyado pa syang baby para iwan, ayt? Naiinis lang talaga ako pag naiisip ko un. I told hubby na lang na wag na niya ko patulungan sa nanay niya next time. Mas malapit kasi si mil sa amin tsaka mom ko nagwowork and wala kaming maid kaya sa kanya humihingi ng help si hubby.
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Re: parang people are looking down on me because i am a stay at home mom
« Reply #42 on: July 03, 2013, 06:38:00 pm »

Hi sis!  Don't mind other people.  Hindi naman nila naiintindihan ang situation nating mga mommies.  Ako din ganun ang dilemma ko.  I wanted to stay at home but hubby asked me to work to augment our income.  With a sad heart I went back to work but I asked my husband to wait until our baby was 1 year old.  Ngayon, one year na ko nagwowork and my baby just turned two years old.  Another good thing is, I was able to get the schedule that I have always wanted.  Early Morning shift na ko.  That means I will go home after lunch.  I'm so happy to spend time with my baby. ;D
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Re: parang people are looking down on me because i am a stay at home mom
« Reply #43 on: July 09, 2013, 05:43:32 pm »

Hey, dont feel bad :) NEVER let anyone make you feel inferior without your consent, do not be affected by what your mom said. Kanya-kanya yan eh. If you feel a sense of fulfillment being a full-time mom, then go! You dont have to care about what other people would say. As long as you are happy then dont let anyone rain on your parade :) ipag-pray mo nalang na lumawak ang isip at pang-unawa nila para maintindihan nilang may mga bagay na mas importante kesa sa pera. :)
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Re: parang people are looking down on me because i am a stay at home mom
« Reply #44 on: July 09, 2013, 05:48:58 pm »

Hi mommies! Pa-vent lang. Opinions and suggestions are welcome :)

My son got sick last week and sinamahan ako ng 1 araw ng mil ko para mag-alaga kay baby.
Nung afternoon, she asked kelan daw ako magwowork uli (i resigned kasi nung di pa kami makabuo pero nabuntis naman ako the same month nung mag-resign ako)...2mos pa lang baby ko and i gave birth thru cs.
I told her "ma, ayaw po kasi ni hubby na mag-work ako. Gusto niya sa bahay na lang para maalagaan ko si liam"..
She said wag ko daw sundin si hubby at pilitin ko sya.
I told her wala din namang promising career ang nurses dito sa Pinas and she answered mag-abroad daw ako.
Eh alam naman nyang ayaw ng anak niya na mag-abroad ang isa sa amin kasi i left the country in 2008, tho nag-survive relationship namin, ayaw na daw ni hubby ma-experience uli un since his work here is paying well naman.
Mil kept talking na kesyo di kami yayaman dito, sayang pinag-aralan ko, etc..so i kept mum na lang.
That night kinwento ko kay hubby ang sinabi ng mom niya. He said wag ko na lang pansinin. Kaso ang hirap naman na everytime magkita kami ni mil nauungkat ang pagbabalik ko ng work. Nakakaloka! Si hubby kasi dati ang kasama niya sa bahay and nagbabayad ng bills but since we moved out, kami na ang priority tho we still give her money, di na tulad ng dati.

I want to work din naman kaya lang everytime i look at my son, dko maimagine na dko mawiwitness ang mga milestones niya tsaka masyado pa syang baby para iwan, ayt? Naiinis lang talaga ako pag naiisip ko un. I told hubby na lang na wag na niya ko patulungan sa nanay niya next time. Mas malapit kasi si mil sa amin tsaka mom ko nagwowork and wala kaming maid kaya sa kanya humihingi ng help si hubby.

Aw... :( sorry ha pero pakialamera naman ni MIL mo... I'm sure she means well and siguro sobrang concerned lang siya but it doesnt have to be at a point na nangingialam siya. As long as you and your hubby are okay with you staying at home then go lang sis! :)
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