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my eldest is 2yrs and 8 months. i know this is the stage of kakulitan and extreme tantrums. but i don't know what to do with my kid anymore. ang hirap sawayin, and he hits his yaya kapag hindi nasunod gusto niya. madalas ko tuloy napapalo. i try to avoid spanking and yelling at him kasi feeling ko kaya sya ganon sa iba kasi ginagawa ko sa kanya. i tried the diplomatic approach pero wala pa din. proper ba na paluin na ang bata at this age? he understands na kaya all the explaining na ginagawa ko? (i dont think my son does) how do you really deal with a toddler when it comes to discipline?

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[Mommy Jazz]

Time outs. if I have to resort to spanking, I have to warn her first. After that, I always explain why I have to spank her. As much as possible, hanggang time out lang. Leave a boring corner for that and always warn her by pointing at that corner.

[Mommy Bonita]

I have a 4 year old son he's so makulet and really will test your patience.

Me and my hubby are both trying not to spank our children...We keep on talking to him, reminding him always that what hes doin is not right.

TIME OUT...this I think the effective tool to disipline our toddlers...through this way they will be able to take control of their temper...

just sharing my thoughts....

[MommyPhie]

Thats my problem too mga mommies, my girl is turning 3 this Aug. and she very makulit talaga. Hirap ako magdicipline sa kanya coz almost 2 years siya alaga ng lola at hindi ako tutok sa kanya coz working pa ako that time. Now that I have my 2nd child (8 months baby boy) I would like to stop spanking and shouting na kasi it doesn't help naman. My daughter also shouts and pinapalo yung baby brother niya.

I found this book (Dicipline w/o shouting or spanking) kahapon and i just started reading it.


Promise i will post the content next time gcing na mga kiddos e

[maphine]

Me naman problem ko sa kakulitan ng anak ko is his tendency sometimes to spank me,though me and his dad is not doing that to him naman.I don't know how to stop him kasi he'll be spanking his self naman.Kulang ng patience anak ko,if he wants something and don't get it he will slap his own face or throw something that's near to him.Madaling magalit and OMG he is just 1 year and 1 month old.

Are you're children like mine also???

[youngmom]

toddlers are really prone to tantrums.pero try to avoid spanking kc dun din siya natututo manakit at mamalo sa iba o sa sarili niya.yung SP january-feb 2008 issue may article about it and it's very informative. TIME OUT nga ang sikreto.if u must spank,do it with a warning first para alam niya na papaluin na siya pag ginawa pa niya yon at hindi nakinig sa warning,at the second time he did it,spank him with two slaps on the buttocks and in private para di siya mapahiya sa iba,do it after the misdeed para alam niya na dahil yon sa ginawa niya,then after that ask him why mo siya pinalo,then later u can make lambing na ulit and explain why u did it..pag sinipag ako type ko dito hehe.maganda siya promise.

[leda]

natutunan ko sa oprah yung 'naughty chair'. around 2 yung kid ko nun, kulit at hirap nga i-discipline. one time he misbehaved, i got him a chair, inupo ko sya dun for two minutes. iyak sya ng iyak, though hawak ko sya at nakayakap sya sakin, di ko sya inalis dun. then afterwards i told him why i made him sit sa 'naughty chair'. since then, pag makulit at nag misbehave, i tell him lang na iuupo ko sya sa 'naughty chair' niya, titigil na yun. so far that was the 1st and the last time na naupo sya dun. he's turning 5 na this sept. it can be a naughty corner or a mat, basta kung ilang taon sya, say 3 yrs old, 3 mins din yung time niya sa naughty chair or mat niya.

[maphine]

Thanks mommies for your advises.It's difficult kasi for me to discipline my child.As a young mom and a kiddie lover,I don't have that heart to hurt my kid.But now I know how to do it in a way and with limitations. Takot talaga ako na the things that I'm doing right now would affect my child as he grow up.If possible I want everything to work for him well.I know naman all of us are aiming for a good future ahead of our children,kaya nga we want every step they take would be perfect.

Thanks talaga!You've been a great help to me.Seldom lang kasi ako makabili dito sa city naman na SP.If ever my tips pa kayo ha,pls post it for me. Thanks talaga!!!!!!

BDY:I misspelled YOU'RE children.heehhe.It's YOUR children dapat!pasensya na I was lost with my grammar.Hehe.Baby ko lang lagi nasa isip ko...

[Mommy Jazz]

I found this book Dicipline w/o shouting or spanking kahapon and i just started reading it.

I've read this na. What I like about it is you can refer to it easily by checking at the table of contents what page you should turn for your problem. Example: doesn't want to tidy up his room...page 50. Parang ganon.
Comment ko lang, although it introduces varieties of techniques, parang hindi lahat applicable sa Filipino setting.

[maphine]

Momies kanina lang my baby spanked me na naman and I tried to warn him first.like pa rang ngaattempt pa lang akong mgspank and then the 2nd time he did it I spanked him na talaga and told him it was bad.But I don't know whats kulang,eh ganon pa din,he still spanks me kung nagagalit sya ng sobra.
Ganon kasi baby ko kung nagagalit sya,if walang tao infront him na pwede nyang maspank,eh hinihit niya sarili niya o kung ano mang bagay na malapit sa kanya yon yong inispank niya.Before kasi di ko talaga magawang ispank sya,takot ako,After your advises ginawa ko na,pero bakit ganon?Am I doing it wrong?Or through the process maiintindihan din ni baby?

[Mommy Jazz]

This is actually how I started spanking my daughter. Call me guilty but I think spanking is an unending debate you can't argue about like religion and politics.
I spanked her to show her spanking hurts and to show her who's boss. I've read a lot about spanking and even resorted to it. Since she turned 4, lessened na ang spanking and I feel good every passing day we don't have any bouts.
Of course, hangga't maaari, I don't.

[youngmom]

pag yung bata daw ganyan,nananakit or sinasaktan sarili niya, nagahahanap siya ng attention.tama si mommyjazz,u have to show who's the boss,and that u are his mother and he can't spank u. kung labag talaga sa loob mo mamalo,i've read somewhere nga na naghahanap lang siya ng attensyon,so hug mo siya,while stroking his back ask,baby,what's wrong?ilove you.para lang kumalma. kung hindi nadaan jan,saka ka mag resort to spanking, have u tried the time out?

[momi rmi]

momi maphine medyo alarming nga po kc he's also hurting himself, you may want to raised this issue with your pedia... ok lang po sana kung ikaw lang pinapalo kc minsan ganyan din c jared sa kin bigla na lang mamamalo and may mga times na pinapalo ko din siya para alam niya na masakit yun and as what mommyjazz said para alam niya who's the boss... pero never niya sinaktan sarili niya... question po bakit ba siya nagagalit, you might also want to take note bakit and kelan siya nagagalit ng ganyan and evaluate...

ako kc i pinapalo ko lang son ko pagnamalo din lang siya and explain ko din bakit ko siya pinalo otherwise kinakausap ko lang siya ng masinsinan, minsan naman i hold him tight sa arms habang pinapagalitan ko siya ng impit (ayoko kc sumisigaw eh)... case to case basis din kc ang pag discipline...

share ko lang po... just last week i told him to fixed his toys before going to sleep and ang daming kesyo di kaya, c ate na lang.... so sabi ko pag di niya inayos gamit niya di na siya bibilhan ng toys ulit and d niya dapat iasa sa iba pagorganize ng things niya kc kanya yun and paginayos niya un toys niya bibilhan ko pa siya kaya ayun dali-daling bumaba ng bed at inayos un toys niya kaya naman last saturday i bought him the piano with mic as his reward for being obedient...

[youngmom]

i havent heard nor read any article about this so wala ako psychological basis,but hindi ko binibilhan si macky ng toys like xylophone although lam komaeenjoy niya tunog non,or any toy na may hammer at papaluin mo yung isang toy to make sound,o yung drum set,or bonngo set, kc auko siya matuto mamalo using his hands or any object.last time bibilhan siya dapat ng tita ko ng xylophone pero humindi ako kc sabi ko ayoko madiscover niya yung joy na mamalo or hit anything just to mek sounds or see reactions.i also avoid yung tatakutin ko siya ng palo at an early age.pag nakikita ko siya nag tatap ng hands niya sa mesa,i see to it to stop it at once,pag nag ppiano siya ang bangs his hands sa piano,kinokorek ko din na soft ang hands sa piano.wala pa ko nababasa theory to prove this pero ayoko lang talaga masanay siya magbuhat ng kamay at an early age.

[maphine]

momi rmi nagagalit sya if he wants something that he doesn't get.Like if he wants to play with a pen and we don't give it to him,umiiyak at nagagalit na sya sabay palo sa kahit na ano o sinong katabi niya.He spanks his self pero yung slight lang naman di malakas.

youngmom my son loves to play drums.As in he enjoys watching videos ng mga drumer.He also has xylophone na ginagawa din nyang drums.Pati nga mga lalagyan namin dito sa kitchen like sa mga tupperware ginagawa din nyang drums.

Thanks sa mga payo ninyo ha.I'm sure it would help me a lot.