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Re: how to discipline a toddler (1-3yo) Bawal nang mamalo?
« Reply #255 on: March 26, 2011, 12:09:09 pm »

agree ako sa naughty chair and to mami honey-ecclaire
.. effective sa 3yr old son ko plus hanger  :( kpag di na talaga macontrol
napapalo ko talaga but not to extent na masakit panakot lang po ..
kpag di sya magbehave ex.church or anywhere na puntahan namin i tell him na may hanger sya paguwi and my son's will say 'kakyle is behave..i sit beside you and no running' ..
but i know this is bad, but this my way aside talking to him sa sobrang naughty at tigas ng uniko iho ko.   
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Re: how to discipline a toddler (1-3yo) Bawal nang mamalo?
« Reply #256 on: March 28, 2011, 12:02:30 pm »

guilty tuloy ako sa topic na ito..kc yung 3 year old daughter ko tigas rin ng ulo...minsan face the wall siya hala hindi naman sumunod..iyak lang siya ng iyak...nakahawak lang siya sa wall pero sken nakatingin parang nagmamakaawa then kinausap ko siya alagi lang sabi ng opo pero gagawin niya ulit.... hays i dont know na rin kung paano siya discipline tapos minsan eh nasisigawan ko pa ikli kasi ng patience ko pagdating sa bata :(
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Re: how to discipline a toddler (1-3yo) Bawal nang mamalo?
« Reply #257 on: March 31, 2011, 02:44:38 pm »

This is very challeging. You have to be consistent and you have to model godo behavior always.

Our toddlers should know who is boss.

First, give warning, Expalin why he should not do a certain bad act.

If he repeats, give another warning then explain the consequence.

If he still tries at 3rd attempt then you should punish (either time out or spank)

But you have to explain why this should be done.

Discipline with love and you will not regret how you raise your son as long as you were firm as a parent yet loving.

Just avoid confusing the kid by being too hard and not allowing him to understand why you were harsh to him.  You would not want your son to distance himself to you because of this.

Always end this process by embracing him and telling him you are doing this because you love him and you do not want him to grow up without disciple and not knowing right from wrong.
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Re: how to discipline a toddler (1-3yo) Bawal nang mamalo?
« Reply #259 on: April 07, 2011, 01:17:51 pm »

Hello mga Mommies!

Its a relief to know that there are also mommies like me who experience the daily bouts of our child's tantrums and finding an effective way to deal with it. I am a single and 1st time mom to a 2 yr old boy. As much as possible I do not want to resort to spanking my child whenever he misbehaves pero minsan talaga in my effort to discipline him para di naman maspoil I ended up doing it. I felt really guilty and it leaves me crying afterwards. Pero siempre I could not show it to my son. After reading most of your experiences and advices, I am planning to try the TIME OUT technique and the naughty chair technique. Hopefully it will work with my son. I know iba iba din ang mga bata so how to discipline our kids also depends on it. Well, if things work out positively, will keep you all mommies posted. Thanks again for all the wonderful advices. I'm learning a lot from all of you.
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Re: how to discipline a toddler (1-3yo) Bawal nang mamalo?
« Reply #260 on: May 24, 2011, 11:36:48 am »

Hi! I need advice or please share your experiences on how to discipline a toddler.  I am having problems with my twins almost 2 years old na sila.  Madalas magtulakan yun dalawa at mag-away. Minsan nagkakakagatan at. nagpapaluan .... Tinutulak din yun pinsan nila na almost same age.  madalas mag-agawan ng toys.. pati yun sa pinsan nila inaagaw din.... wala naman silang napapanood na palabas na violent... as far as i know.... most of the times barney, disney channel, nickoledeon ang pinapanood sa bahay.. kapag tulog na sila that's the time that we could watch other shows. tahimik naman sa lugar namin walang nakikitang nag-aaway... haay i don't know what to do... please help me
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Re: how to discipline a toddler (1-3yo) Bawal nang mamalo?
« Reply #261 on: July 18, 2011, 01:12:29 am »

5 Ways to Break Your Child’s Nasty Habits

A potentially bad habit like nailbiting or thumbsucking may be easier to nip at the bud. Here are some tips to break your child’s nasty habits.
http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/home-living/homebase/5-ways-to-break-your-child-s-nasty-habits

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Re: how to discipline a toddler (1-3yo) Bawal nang mamalo?
« Reply #262 on: July 29, 2011, 12:07:29 pm »

hi mga mommies! i have a 1 year and 3 mos old boy at sobrang active. actually, medyo naninibago ako kasi i have two two daughter aged 15 and 6. kaya medyo nangangapa ako at di naman ganon kakulit un dalawa ko  girl. sabi naman ng hipag ko na me 3 boys eh ganyan daw kasi lalaki nga. haiist! sya na halos ang nakasira ng mga gamit namin from remote to dvd player, vacuum, celfones. as in ang magustuhan talagang gumagawa ng paraan. at ang pinaka-worry ko eh sobra din ang tantrums kapag di nakuha ang gusto, nandyan umiyak, iuntog ang ulo at minsan nga tatawagin mo pa lang name niya at me gagawin sya naku eh nakalupasay na agad, eh ayw naman naming makalakihan niya un.

pero nun minsan me naalala ako na ginawa ko sa middle child ko, habang kasi pinipigilan eh lalong nanggigigil, ang ginawa ko especially when i am drinking my coffee, naku talgang aagawin. ang ginawa ko nga pinahawakan ko kahit mainit. ayun from then on, dedma na sya pag nakikita niya ako nainom. kaso dito sa bunso, its a different story...ginawa ko rin un kaso eto na ang ginagawa naman eh kinukutsara na,,,,haha! natawa talga ako dun. nakakatawang nakakainis!

eto pa isa, nagsusulat ako naku talgang gustong kunin kahit ano gawa ko tago talgang hinahanap. lahat ng toys binigay ko kaso talgang un ang gusto...ang ending, kinuha un eyeglasses ko ( 2nd eyeglasses ko na un at nasira na niya un 1st) at  pinakita sa akin tapos me tinuturo sya, ang ginawa ko pinakita ko yun ballpen at binigay sa kanya tsaka lang binigay un eyeglasses ko.

i want him to explore things kasi pano naman sya matuto kung di ko hahayaan kaso minsan ayaw ko naman masasaktan sya. especially kapg inuuntog na niya ulo niya.
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Re: how to discipline a toddler (1-3yo) Bawal nang mamalo?
« Reply #263 on: July 29, 2011, 03:03:12 pm »

Same topics merged.
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Re: how to discipline a toddler (1-3yo) Bawal nang mamalo?
« Reply #264 on: July 30, 2011, 06:07:35 am »

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i have three daughters na and one boy...teens na lahat ng daughters ko, same with other moms dumadaan talaga sa stage ng kakulitan ng mga bata but as i've said i have three girls so same lang ang discipline ko sa kanila 2 yrs lang ang gap kasi nila...but now, with my youngest and only boy, iba talaga...he's now 3 years old. At first wala akong masyadong inaalala malikot lang talaga at kailangan laging nakasunod ako sa kanya kasi mahilig umakyat kung saan saan....but may ugali sya na pag di niya nakukuha or di niya magawa eh bigla  na lang ibabato at sisigaw....hay naku napapagalitan ko kaso lang di pa sya masyadong nakakaintindi talaga kaya puro pasensya....pero may times na pag sobrang sumisigaw na sya at umiiyak di ko talaga pinapansin hinayaan ko talaga sya umiyak kaso parang di napapagod kayo ayun mga sisters naman niya naaawa sa kanya pero sabi ko wag aamuhin para malaman niya na di tama na palaging nakukuha lahat ng magustuhan....pag may binabato syang gamit at recently yung laptop ng sister niya, pinalo ko talaga yung kamay niya pero di naman malakas pero alam niya na galit ako dahil di naman tama talaga yun...mukha naman nalaman niya na mali yun kaya tumigil sya sa pagtapon ng gamit that day....so many challenging days pa kong pagdadaanan for my little boy....
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Re: how to discipline a toddler (1-3yo) Bawal nang mamalo?
« Reply #265 on: July 30, 2011, 06:25:15 am »

I have a 3year old daughter and 10year old son.  Isang kumukulit at isang nagpapasawag pero they are both controllable....takot sa akin.

Communication is important........try to avoid spanking or tinatakot si baby kasi they are emotionally stressed and mentally confused.  I always tell my daughter, "That is not nice"; "Mama is not happy with what you're doing" at tsaka hindi ko inaamo pag nagwawala at nagiiiyak just to get what she wants....its a no! no!

At age 1, may isip na si baby.  They will test you, kung hangang san mo siyang pwedeng pagbigyan kaya I don't tolerate........I do believe in spanking but in certain areas (hands pag makulit na talaga sa thigh, ito yun pinakamasakit na area pero mahina lang.....wawa din baby) and certain situations para paglaki niya hindi ka na mahihirapan kasi your baby knows already what is right and wrong, kung ano ang pwede at hindi pwede.

Believe me sis.....ako magisa lang ako nagalaga sa mga anak ko...as in no yaya, no maid, no driver.....as in me and my husband and my kids.
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Re: how to discipline a toddler (1-3yo) Bawal nang mamalo?
« Reply #266 on: August 06, 2011, 01:22:30 pm »

This is the latest issue in disciplining kids at home and school. I think it's long overdue. What's your say on this?
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Re: how to discipline a toddler (1-3yo) Bawal nang mamalo?
« Reply #267 on: August 06, 2011, 04:18:52 pm »

Medyo sensitive topic kasi rearing style ang pinag-uusapan.

There are instances na di ko nato-tolerate si Miggy and napalo ko. Emotions lang talaga. Tipong hindi pinag-isipan kung dapat ba talagang paluin. Immediately after, I'd feel like I'm the worst person, the worst mother. I hug him and I tell him Im sorry kasi nabigla ako.

Kung bawal ng mamalo, how would we know kung ang isang bata ay pinapalo abusively or may instance lang na napalo katulad nung sa akin. Sino ang magsusumbong. Most kasi ng pamamalo eh nangyayari sa loob ng bahay at hindi na nakakalabas ng bahay yung topic.

Also, may mga magulang din naman na hindi namamalo pero grabe naman yung pyschological and verbal abuse sa bata.

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Re: how to discipline a toddler (1-3yo) Bawal nang mamalo?
« Reply #268 on: August 07, 2011, 11:21:19 am »

Sa US matagal nang bawal. When a neighbor hears that domestic violence is going on, they can report. Pero as we know, maraming lumalaki na mean&bullies and it could be linked2their style of discipline. It's debatable. Sakop pa nang bagong law natin yung bawal nang mamingot at paluhurin sa asin/munggo, kurot, sabunot,etc. When a parent is proven to have violated this, what do they get other than counselling? Can it work kaya sa atin dito sa PH? 
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« Reply #269 on: August 07, 2011, 09:18:36 pm »

Narinig ko nga na pasado na to sa congress.
Sa US kasi, the government can take your kids away. Dito, I don't think DSWD has enough resources to take care of the abused kids. Plus may ugali tayong mga pilipino na hanggat di tayo affected, hindi tayo makikialam. Pag-uusapan pero yung darating sa point na isusumbong mo sa pulis or sa social welfare, ayaw natin ng hassle.

Siguro magiging effective to para sa mga teachers and other people sa buhay ng mga bata. For example sa mga yaya na nananakit ng mga bata.

Mas maganda nga din kung may couselling for parents. Sana i-include din nila to sa mga kumukha ng lisensya para ikasal. I remember nung kami yung nag-seminar mostly eh sa family planning. Not how to deal with kids and the best way to discipline them.
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Bad things may happen to me, but I will always come out of it with my head up high. Why? Because I know that I did the things I can control the right way. And the things I can't control, I leave it up to God's will.
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