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Re: how to discipline a toddler (1-3yo) Bawal nang mamalo?
« Reply #120 on: June 13, 2009, 08:12:38 am »

This is another instance na need ng use ng "tough love" from the parents.

Kids nowadays know how to control their parents.  Maaga nilang nalaman yata ang mga paraan kung paano nila makukuha ang mga gusto nila.  And super common nga din sa mga frends ko na dinadaan sa tantrums ng bata yung pagkuha ng attention ng magulang o para makuha yung gusto nilang bagay.

May nakapagturo din sa amin before na in these instances, we really have to ignore the crying / shouting of the kids.  Kasi nga they think that only by doing that, we would give in to what they are asking.  Better is to ignore the tantrum, maglumpasay man sa sahig yung bata (basta alisin nyo lang yung mga bagay na baka makasakit sa kanya kung maglumpasay man nga) don't even look at the child para talagang alam nyang hindi nyo talaga sila bibigyan ng attention kasi mali yung kinikilos nila .  After the tantrums, that's when you talk to the kid, give them your attention, teach them how to ask properly for the things they need, or explain why you can't give it to them and praise them for not anymore crying / shouting.  "I like it when you are not crying"  or "Very good ka pag hindi ka umiiyak, ask for your toy properly and I'll give it to you".

Minsan talaga kahit kakahiya na sa ibang tao, need nating tiisin kung alam nating mas makakabuti naman sa anak natin. Mas problema pag lumaking spoiled yung mga bata pag tanda nila.  It's also one way of teaching them the value of waiting and working hard first for what they want di ba?
   

hi there im a new member,about sa descipline,grabe i have this thing na nagawa ko sa anak ko sa sobrang tigas ng ulo niya na sobrang pinagsisisihan ko.i hit him sa face because of shouting at me in a way na nilalabanan niya ako nag init ang ulo ko at bigla ko siya na hit sa face with a tabo after that napaiyak ako sa ginawa ko,i know how to descipline my son but then the hardest thing in doing that is im living with my in laws at pag sinasaway ko and everything my mother in law shouted at my son because of what he did and telling na ang tigas xe ng ulo mo kaya ka lagi napapagalitan...sobrang exhausted na ako mga momsies when they arenot around nakakausap ko ng maayos anak ko...im a working mom kaya mas madalas sila kasama my mother in law's way of descipline is far from mine thats why yung mga kids ko when im around at home d malaman kung sino sususndin because when i talk my in law talks also...d ko na talaga alam ang gagawin ko...my mother in law is the type na lagi nakasigaw mataas ang boses at pag yung bunso ko nag tantrums na bigay agad xe like other kids my son use to shout and cry as if pinapalo siya kahit hindi kaya my mother in laws choice is to give what he wants...ako naman hindi ganun when he shout and cry out loud im just ignoring him at kakausapin ko lang siya pag tapos na siya umiyak then after the usap pupunta siya sa biyenan ko at dun niya gagawin yung tantrums niya in the end nakuha niya gus2 niya through my biyenan..ang hirap ng situation ko...
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Re: how to discipline a toddler (1-3yo) Bawal nang mamalo?
« Reply #121 on: June 13, 2009, 10:16:18 am »

This is another instance na need ng use ng "tough love" from the parents.

Kids nowadays know how to control their parents.  Maaga nilang nalaman yata ang mga paraan kung paano nila makukuha ang mga gusto nila.  And super common nga din sa mga frends ko na dinadaan sa tantrums ng bata yung pagkuha ng attention ng magulang o para makuha yung gusto nilang bagay.

May nakapagturo din sa amin before na in these instances, we really have to ignore the crying / shouting of the kids.  Kasi nga they think that only by doing that, we would give in to what they are asking.  Better is to ignore the tantrum, maglumpasay man sa sahig yung bata (basta alisin nyo lang yung mga bagay na baka makasakit sa kanya kung maglumpasay man nga) don't even look at the child para talagang alam nyang hindi nyo talaga sila bibigyan ng attention kasi mali yung kinikilos nila .  After the tantrums, that's when you talk to the kid, give them your attention, teach them how to ask properly for the things they need, or explain why you can't give it to them and praise them for not anymore crying / shouting.  "I like it when you are not crying"  or "Very good ka pag hindi ka umiiyak, ask for your toy properly and I'll give it to you".

Minsan talaga kahit kakahiya na sa ibang tao, need nating tiisin kung alam nating mas makakabuti naman sa anak natin. Mas problema pag lumaking spoiled yung mga bata pag tanda nila.  It's also one way of teaching them the value of waiting and working hard first for what they want di ba?
   

hi there im a new member,about sa descipline,grabe i have this thing na nagawa ko sa anak ko sa sobrang tigas ng ulo niya na sobrang pinagsisisihan ko.i hit him sa face because of shouting at me in a way na nilalabanan niya ako nag init ang ulo ko at bigla ko siya na hit sa face with a tabo after that napaiyak ako sa ginawa ko,i know how to descipline my son but then the hardest thing in doing that is im living with my in laws at pag sinasaway ko and everything my mother in law shouted at my son because of what he did and telling na ang tigas xe ng ulo mo kaya ka lagi napapagalitan...sobrang exhausted na ako mga momsies when they arenot around nakakausap ko ng maayos anak ko...im a working mom kaya mas madalas sila kasama my mother in law's way of descipline is far from mine thats why yung mga kids ko when im around at home d malaman kung sino sususndin because when i talk my in law talks also...d ko na talaga alam ang gagawin ko...my mother in law is the type na lagi nakasigaw mataas ang boses at pag yung bunso ko nag tantrums na bigay agad xe like other kids my son use to shout and cry as if pinapalo siya kahit hindi kaya my mother in laws choice is to give what he wants...ako naman hindi ganun when he shout and cry out loud im just ignoring him at kakausapin ko lang siya pag tapos na siya umiyak then after the usap pupunta siya sa biyenan ko at dun niya gagawin yung tantrums niya in the end nakuha niya gus2 niya through my biyenan..ang hirap ng situation ko...

Mommy, is your husband around? if he is talk to him and tell him to talk to your MIL and tell them how you want to discipline your kids. Instead of shouting , try nyo po gumawa ng mga stars from used cartons or colored paper. For every good behavior, give it to the kid and praise him. Make sure that you give the reward right after the good behavior, in other words immediately after nung good behavior. 
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Re: how to discipline a toddler (1-3yo) Bawal nang mamalo?
« Reply #122 on: July 12, 2009, 04:57:33 pm »

It's really hard to raise kids. I have a 4 yr old daughter, at lahat ng style of disciple na try ko. I feel guilty sometimes kasi di ko miwasa mamalo.  She is sweet kaya lang strong willed. Pag may gusto, ang hrap pigilin. Ganon daw ata talga mga bata ngayon. Sabi nila baka daw sa milk nila na iniinom.  I dunno kung may effect nga yon.  Nakakafrustrate talaga pag nagmimisbehave  mga bata.

 
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Re: how to discipline a toddler (1-3yo) Bawal nang mamalo?
« Reply #123 on: July 27, 2009, 03:15:53 pm »

Hi momies,

I'm a first time mom and I need help on how to discipline my son. kasi everytime he he wants something, kapag narinig niya yung word na "NO" (no matter how hard you explain he doesn't stop crying. and minsan humihiga siya sa floor or lumalapit sa iba na parang nagsusumbong.. napapalo ko na nga siya minsan eh!

Mas lalo na kapag dada niya ang nag-sasabi ng "NO" kasi as in hindi siya lumalapit at sumasama sa dada niya kapag nasabihan siya ng "NO" nito. I'm scared na baka lumayo ang loob niya sa dada niya..
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Re: how to discipline a toddler (1-3yo) Bawal nang mamalo?
« Reply #124 on: August 28, 2009, 04:17:53 pm »

naku, sis. may ganyan na stage talaga babies natin. Mine is 1yr & 10 mos. naku pgdi nakuha gusti ayun nkdapa sa floor at sumisigaw. gngawa ko divert ko attention niya. Bigyan ko siya ibang toys or puwede gawin. Minsan gingaya ko siya tumutigil naman siya. Kita niya siguro kung gano kapangit and nkakatawa gingawa niya. ;D
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« Reply #125 on: August 28, 2009, 06:11:55 pm »

terrible two's mga sis. sabi ng pedia ko it starts at about 18 months. ganun sila ginagamit yung pag-iyak para makuha gusto nila. ang advice ng pedia ko is kung hindi talaga pwede yung gusto nila or kung makakasama try to divert their attention, if that doesn't work hayaan lang daw na umiyak. kapag calm na si baby saka sya kargahin/icomfort at explain bakit hindi pwede yung gusto niya. kasi kapag palagi tayong (parents) nakukuha sa pag-iyak nila makakasanayan nila magtantrums kapag may gusto sila.
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« Reply #126 on: August 31, 2009, 04:24:56 pm »

I have the same situation my 2nd son, who is 1 yr and 9 mos, ganyan din sya, we also try to divert his attention, minsan nakukuha minsan hindi. Lilipas din yang stage na yan. Kung minsan pa nga eh inuuntog ulo niya sa pader, grabeh tong baby ko eh  ;D ;D ;D
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Re: how to discipline a toddler (1-3yo) Bawal nang mamalo?
« Reply #127 on: August 31, 2009, 04:38:19 pm »

my son is like that. 17months na siya ngayon. akala mo kinakatay!!! talagang he throws a fit specially when he gets so frustrated and the more you say "no" --- patay! put a helmet on him and bring out all the safety foam pads around!

wala akong magawa but to hug him during his episodes or pinaka-effective sa kanya is a water bottle.
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« Reply #128 on: August 31, 2009, 04:46:00 pm »

my dauther has a different tactic...kapag may gusto sya at hindi na sunod bukod sa super lakas na iyak...pagkatpos nun susuka naman sya..as in lahat ng kinain at dinede niya isusuka niya in the end panalo sya...hayyyyy..i dont how can i control her...grabe talga...super problemado na nga ako sa batang yun..imagine 17months pa lang sya ha..
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« Reply #129 on: September 01, 2009, 04:21:13 pm »

My son is 2 yrs.old. What I do is,  I divert his attention.  I offer alternatives such as toys, books, or something that would interest him.  Instead of saying no, I would say what he is supposed to do. Although, he still doesn't fully understand what I mean, at least it sometimes it works. :D 
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« Reply #130 on: September 02, 2009, 03:10:06 pm »

My daughter is also 17months, and just like your babies ganun din sya tantrum to the max pag di nakuha ang gusto niya. Ako i just let her cry, hihinto rin naman sya and parang exercise din sa lungs niya. Or iaalis ko sya kung saan sya nagwawala para ma divert..Minsan storytelling ang ginagawa namin o kaya ilalabas ko ipapaplay ko sa ibang kids.  Minsan din yung mga tactics namin di rin umuubra especially pag anjan kami pareho ni hubby sa house lalo syang nagwawala. Naiinis nga ako minsan kay hubby, sa kanya binibigay niya ang gusto kaya minsan tuloy parang ako yung kontrabida sa kanila.. :(
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Re: how to discipline a toddler (1-3yo) Bawal nang mamalo?
« Reply #131 on: September 04, 2009, 12:54:22 pm »

Ganyan din son ko who is almost 18 months. nag iiba ang ugali, like nung isang araw, gusto niya uminon ng tubig, so kinuha ko ang sippy cup sa refrigerator, inagaw niya agad ang sippy cup eh ayoko pa nga ibigay kasi cold water laman eh umaga pa lang nun baka sumakit ang tiyan niya, so kinuha ko uli para palitan ko ng hindi malamig, Aba, biglang nag dabog at nagwala sa sahig until nauntog ang bibig niya, pag kita ko ang dami ng dugo sa bibig. sobrang panic ako kasi parang nag mumog ng dugo. buti na lang nung binuhus-buhusan ko ng cold water, tumigil din. kaya ngayon, pag parang type niya mag-wala,lalagay ko na lang sa crib at iiwan ko muna , at least safe sya dun.
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Re: how to discipline a toddler (1-3yo) Bawal nang mamalo?
« Reply #132 on: September 04, 2009, 01:24:07 pm »

my dauther has a different tactic...kapag may gusto sya at hindi na sunod bukod sa super lakas na iyak...pagkatpos nun susuka naman sya..as in lahat ng kinain at dinede niya isusuka niya in the end panalo sya...hayyyyy..i dont how can i control her...grabe talga...super problemado na nga ako sa batang yun..imagine 17months pa lang sya ha..

same tayo sis ang masama pa sa gabi sya nagsusuka after niya magmilk at papatayin ko na yung ilaw. sa kakaiyak niya magsusuka at minsan pa nga kakapalit ko pa lang ng bedsheet sinukahan na niya. And before inuuntog din niya ulo sasahig buti ngayon hindi na she's turning 2 na this october pero madalas pa rin magtantrums. pati ako pinapalo at sinasabihang "Bad mommy" kahit la naman ako ginagawa..hayy..sana mabawasan naman na kasi napapalo ko minsan.  :(
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« Reply #133 on: September 04, 2009, 01:32:12 pm »

my dauther has a different tactic...kapag may gusto sya at hindi na sunod bukod sa super lakas na iyak...pagkatpos nun susuka naman sya..as in lahat ng kinain at dinede niya isusuka niya in the end panalo sya...hayyyyy..i dont how can i control her...grabe talga...super problemado na nga ako sa batang yun..imagine 17months pa lang sya ha..

same tayo sis ang masama pa sa gabi sya nagsusuka after niya magmilk at papatayin ko na yung ilaw. sa kakaiyak niya magsusuka at minsan pa nga kakapalit ko pa lang ng bedsheet sinukahan na niya. And before inuuntog din niya ulo sasahig buti ngayon hindi na she's turning 2 na this october pero madalas pa rin magtantrums. pati ako pinapalo at sinasabihang "Bad mommy" kahit la naman ako ginagawa..hayy..sana mabawasan naman na kasi napapalo ko minsan.  :(

sis vangie,,ganyan din yung ugali ng baby nung ganyan ang age niya,,,namamalo or i untog niya ulo niya,,at minsan nakakainins dahil,,sa kakaiyak,,susuka pagkatapos,,ilang bisis na nangyari sa akin na kapapalit lang ng bedsheet,,palit na naman,,minsan ang ginagawa ko,,may handa akong pan sapin,,if incase sumuka,,dun sa sapin at hindi sa bedsheet,,pero ngayon 2.6 yrs old na siya,,ng bago na siya,,medyo nakaintindi na,,kung anong bawal at hindi,,
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Re: how to discipline a toddler (1-3yo) Bawal nang mamalo?
« Reply #134 on: September 16, 2009, 12:23:29 pm »

my dauther has a different tactic...kapag may gusto sya at hindi na sunod bukod sa super lakas na iyak...pagkatpos nun susuka naman sya..as in lahat ng kinain at dinede niya isusuka niya in the end panalo sya...hayyyyy..i dont how can i control her...grabe talga...super problemado na nga ako sa batang yun..imagine 17months pa lang sya ha..

naku sis, ganyan n ganyan tactic ng 18 months ko.. ganyan n talaga siya even nung mga 9 monthz old n siya kaloka.. yucky p naman amoy ng suka nla!
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