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two_angels'_mom

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Re: working moms how do you keep a close realtionship with your babies
« Reply #15 on: November 28, 2011, 07:21:20 pm »

^konting tiis lang sis..isa yan sa mga sacrifice sabi mo nga pag makapagloan kayo puwede nyo na makasama baby nyo sa bahay..so marami ka ng time bumawi ;)..

marami talagang sacrifice pag working mom..kagaya mo me mga times din na me sakit si baby pero kailangang iwan kasi hindi pwede basta basta emergency leave..pray na lang ginagawa ko..

tungkol naman sa keeping a close relationship with ur kids kagaya din sabi nila quality time kelangan..lalo na ako single mom so double ang kelangang pagmamahal iparamdam ko sa kanila..sundays lang rin ang talagang off ko kasi some other weekdays and saturdays sleeping off lang..tapos need pa maglaba and maglinis bahay pero i make it appoint na half day ko lang gagawin lahat ng yun para the rest of the day bonding na kami ng mga anak ko..and one of the bonding time that i want them to grow up with is yung pagsisimba namin sa church..kasi i still believe pag malapit ang bata kay lord hindi din yan malalayo sa magulang kahit pa lumaki sila ;) kaya yung panganay ko kahit 12 years old na sya she still looks forward to going to church with us her baby sister and me every sundays :)..
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Re: working moms how do you keep a close realtionship with your babies
« Reply #16 on: November 28, 2011, 09:36:57 pm »

how can we keep close relationships to our kids? as a working mom na may shifting schedule, sobrang lahat ng time ko pag nasa bahay ako para sa knila, i have 2 boys, 1 is 5yo and 7months old.  kapag nasa house ako, ako magpapaligo, magpapakain, then sa gabi kahit puyat ako or need matulog ng maaga for work, katabi ko sila pareho.  And kapag weekends, pag nagmamall or may pupuntahang parties, hindi ko sinasama ang yayas, gusto ko ako magaalaga sa kanila the whole day ng off ko. masaya na ko sa work ko ngayon na 8hrs lang, mas prioity ko kasi mga anak ko kaya kahit hindi na ko ipromote kasi i don't extra hours sa work ko, oks lang, at least mas less responsibilities sa work, mas madami pa din sa family  :)
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Re: working moms how do you keep a close realtionship with your babies
« Reply #17 on: November 29, 2011, 09:46:59 am »

joining :)

as soon as i come home, will dress up and will attend to her & her needs hanggang makatulog sya, pag weekend hindi ako basta basta umaalis kase weekend nalang kami nagkakasama ng matagal eh.. ayun, i treasure all the time i spent with her.. kahit working mom ako, i get to witness naman her development & milestone.
malungkot man kase pag me sakit sya, i need to leave her with her lola and will only see her at night pero, iniisip ko nalang na i am doing all of these for her and for her future..
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Re: working moms how do you keep a close realtionship with your babies
« Reply #18 on: November 29, 2011, 04:16:24 pm »

oo nga mga sis eh.  kahit pano swerte ako sa MIL ko. kasi pag umuuwi ako, wala akong ginagawa sa bahay. sila lahat gumagawa. pinababayaan nila na ako mag alaga sa baby ko.  at kung kakain na eh kinukuha nila si baby para makakain or makaligo ako. Thanks to my MIL.
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Re: working moms how do you keep a close realtionship with your babies
« Reply #19 on: November 29, 2011, 04:56:26 pm »

i've been in this situation, 2x na. pero still yung 2 anak ko, mawala lang ako sa paningin nila eh hinahanap na ako.uwi din ako 8pm then pasok ng 7:30am. gising na sila pareho coz pumapasok yung eldest ko, ako naghahatid.paguwi ko naman, katabi ko sila matulog (namin ni husband), pag weekend, di ako umaalis, bihira na di sila kasama.haggardness at pagod pero un lang kasi bonding time.

somga sisses, siguro no need to worry hanggat magkasama kayo ni bebe nyo sa house at katabi nyo sila sa pagtulog.alam na alam nila amoy nating mga mommies... ;)
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Re: working moms how do you keep a close realtionship with your babies
« Reply #20 on: November 29, 2011, 05:37:51 pm »

Sa first child namin pinagisipan na namin mabuti magkaroon ng quality time with our son. Kasi ayoko naman magresign at nandyan naman mother ko para may magalaga sa kanya. Nagpahanap na lang ako ng maid para gumawa ng household chores. Paguwi pa lang sa bahay focus na kami kay baby.Katabi din namin sya matulog. Pagkagaling sa office uwi agad, unlike before na magmalling pa kami or eat sa labas bago umuwi. At nagusap na kami na walang magtatrabaho ng weekends kasi family day yun. Pagkailangan lumabas kasama namin sya. Ok naman close naman sya sa amin. Madalas ko din sya kumustahin at tinatawagan ko para marinig niya voice ko. We're doing things together.
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Re: working moms how do you keep a close realtionship with your babies
« Reply #21 on: December 01, 2011, 12:13:41 am »

im so thankful sa job ko kasi flexi time ako..if i report at 10 am i go home at 7 or 8 pm..which is ok lang kasi Gelo goes to bed at 7 pm so no way na mapatulog ko pa sya..malayo kasi ang house namin sa office it will take 2 hours travel..pero nasa bed ko na sya pinapatulog and kapag nagigising sya sa gabi naglalaro kami, feed him and put him to sleep again..in the morning maaga sya gigising mga 5:30 am..i hahatid namin si ate niya to school at 6:30..after ihatid si ate ipapasyal na sya sa subdivision until 8 am..pag weekend bonding time din in the morning and sinasama sya pag grocery and pag may occassion na pupuntahan..basta pag weekend kasama sya sa lakad namin kaya bihira ako mag set ng mga meet ups with others pag weekend unless masasama ko ang son ko..
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Re: working moms how do you keep a close realtionship with your babies
« Reply #22 on: December 08, 2011, 08:29:13 pm »

sa lahat ng mommies na nagreply at nagbigay ng advise sobrang salamat kahit papaano e nabuhayan ang loob ko at nawala ang worries ko madami din akong natutunan thank you! have a merry christmas! :)
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Re: working moms how do you keep a close realtionship with your babies
« Reply #23 on: January 03, 2012, 06:56:06 pm »

Aww I feel for you. That's really a big dilemma of working moms. You have to work to provide for your family yet you lose time with your child. As much as possible just try to spend time with your kid on the weekend.

Also, if you have an understanding boss, you can bring home work so you can get off mga 5-5:30pm tapos go home, play with your kid and then pag tulog na sha continue working nalang.
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Re: working moms how do you keep a close realtionship with your babies
« Reply #24 on: January 04, 2012, 11:17:48 am »

pajoin naman...

i work dayshift (6am-3pm) and my hubby works at 10pm-7am...when i arrive home, i immediately get the baby na from the yaya and i will wake my hubby up and we start playing..i make sure na pag nasa bahay ako, ako yung nag-aalaga kay baby - pakain, bath, play, etc. si yaya is there lang to assist..even sa pagpapatulog, i handle it kasi pagkagising niya sa umaga, nakaalis na ako ng bahay..usually pagdating ko eh tulog pa sya kaya me and my hubby can have our time together too, if not pag tulog na si baby..dapat din kasi may time for hubby ryt?..i also tell yaya na if my son did something wrong, wag nyang pagalitan..sabihin samen ni daddy kasi yung helpmates natin eh hindi pdeng magdisiplina ng anak..responsibility yan ng parents..there are also cases na pinapapunta ko si baby sa office then tutuloy na kame sa mall para gumala..pag weekends, kelangan din may isang araw na ilalabas namen si baby without the yaya..mahirap pero mas maiexperience namin ni hubby yung pag-aalaga kay baby both inside and outside the house ng kame lang..

balancing act nga talaga eto...mahirap but it is all worth it..  ;D
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Re: working moms how do you keep a close realtionship with your babies
« Reply #25 on: January 28, 2012, 03:56:36 am »

pa join mga mommies..

I work at night same goes with hubby, I found it more advantageous samin kc, tulog si baby sa gabi, then paguwi namin, I can get to play and spend time with him pa kahit 3 to 5 hours. After niya mag breakfast, take a bath, play a little tapos nap time n niya, nap ko ren.. after a couple of hours, gigising sya for lunch, tapos play ulit kami.. around 3pm I can go back to sleep until 7pm. During that time, yaya muna sya with the help of my dad who oversees baby den.
Mhirap, pero sacrifice tlaga. Msaya naman sya and fulfilling =)
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Re: working moms how do you keep a close realtionship with your babies
« Reply #26 on: January 28, 2012, 08:54:48 am »

i've been to that situation too.. working mom din ako.
yung feeling na mas close sya sa mil ko hay grabe
pinag-aawayan pa namin ni hubby yan before but
now na overcome ko na yun.. kasi sacrifice talaga..
we need to work for them. my son is turning 4 kaya
he understand na a bit but sometimes kapag sabihin
ko na aalis na si momi para magwork hayz hindi niya
na ako papansinin or sometimes sabihin niya ayaw
niya akong pumasok sa work.

may incident pa nga na.. nagbreakfast kami sa shangrila
heat.. then after that need ko pumasok kc training namin
sa office kaya okay lang malate.. nung nasa car na kami
nagsabi ako sa kanya na papasok na si momi ha then
nag-ask ako ng kiss.. hala hindi na ako pinansin then
kapag hold ko yung hands niya tinatapon yung hands ko
or iiwas niya hands niya. nung bumaba na ako ng car nag
text si hubby na umiyak daw son ko at wala daw sya
pinapansin kahit mil ko.

hayz sobrang nakakapanghina yun ng loob but need
to earn naman for his future.. kaya advice ko lang naman
dun sa mga momies na ganon ang feeling na baka mas
maging close si mil.. okay lang yan kasi kapag lumaki na
din naman sila at nagkaisip ikaw at ikaw pa rin naman ang
hahanapin nila.

hope it helps :D
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Re: working moms how do you keep a close realtionship with your babies
« Reply #27 on: February 04, 2012, 09:24:48 pm »

how did i bond with my babies?  i used the word "did" because they're grown-ups now and we have a close relationship despite my being a working mom all their lives.
 
since birth, i personally bathe them and feed them before i go to work.  i tended to all their needs whenever i'm at home.  like i've said here before, yaya's work is done the moment i step into the house.  there are times also that i got home when they're already asleep, so i make sure that i make it up on weekends.  i sleep with them, i take care of them when they're sick without any help from yaya.  so it never happened that they favored their yayas more than me.
 
my weekends are reserved for my kids.  now it's balanced between them and hubby.  household chores were already scheduled and delegated well to the helpers.  that way, i had more time with my kids rather than running the house. 
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Re: working moms how do you keep a close realtionship with your babies
« Reply #28 on: February 08, 2012, 07:25:17 pm »

Of course make the most out of your weekends. Since its close to valentines na, you may do these: Unique Valentines Crafts You & Your Kids Can Do http://goo.gl/6T0SD (there's a link inside that leads you to the valentines crafts)
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« Reply #29 on: February 17, 2012, 06:07:10 pm »

this was the most critical concern namin ni hubby, si hubby kasi is overseas so every year lang sya umuuwi and sometimes 2years pa sya bago maka uwi. Ako naman i work 8-5pm pero hindi pa kasama ang travel to office nyan.

What I do is i wake up super early para bumili ng stock sa refrigerator kasi Mother ko lang before ang nagbabantay sa kay baby minsan ayaw din ni Mother lumabas kaya I stock on food. I cook breakfast and then when its 6am na, pinapaliguan ko na sya, kiss and hug madami dyan and then feed her. pag clean na sya and settled na dun pa ako takbo para maligo and eat for work. noon break naman is calling and checking on her, same sa gabi pagdating sa bahay luto ng ulam and prepare her for sleep na kasi early dinner sya.

she was still 6months nung umalis husband ko for work abroad. Kaya by the time dumating she was already almost 2years old nah. halos umabot ng 1week bago lumapit sa papa niya and bawat tulog at gising umiiyak kasi nag wonder sino katabi ko or niya.

ayon, tapos everyday din yon na nagcry sya pagumaalis ako for work. ayaw na ayaw niya na magwork ako. so ayon pagdating ng husband ko. nagdecide na ako to resign and take care of my daughter, pero to help naman sa mga other means of income i work full time homebased na din.

kaya now, i can bond with her anytime, sometimes na sa likod ko lang sya naglalaro ng toys or coloring materials niya while I work.  Happy na kami, settled na si hubby kasi kahit malayo sya he knows na me parent pa din si baby na full time ng kasama and we can save for her schooling na din.
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