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love_katrice

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is this really the reality?
« Reply #30 on: April 13, 2012, 01:32:11 pm »

so sad to know na yong baby namin ayaw na samin, 2 months after i gave birth my mom na or lola niya nagbabantay sa kanya kasi work ako hindi ko naman maiwan work ko kasi kailangan eh, ka uumpisa palang kasi business nang hubby ko, so were still depending on my income hanggang ngayon...so sad lang talaga na everytime dumating kami from work hindi na kami makalapit or touch our baby....kasi iiyak sya pag kuhanin namin sa lola niya mas lalo na ngayon na he is 1 year and 5 months old...mas na iintindihan na niya na lage kaming wala...tapos my mom make him so spoiled, kung ano gusto niya ibigay agad ni mama kaya mas naging irritable siya ngayon lalo na pag yong gusto niya hindi maibigay...mga sis hindi ko na alam gagawin eh, hindi ko alam saan ako lulugar sa baby ko kasi pag ipupush ko kami nang mom ko ang mag.aaway it hapend na nga na we get  misunderstnading ng mom ko..if my time naman kami para kay baby lalo na sa weekend my mom dont gave way para sa amin at sa baby...parang nawawala na talaga bonding namin with our baby...masakit talaga isipin na ganito ang nangyayari...
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Re: is this really the reality?
« Reply #31 on: April 15, 2012, 06:39:23 pm »

Hello Mommy love_katrice :D

Working Mom din ako, at same as you lumaki din son ko sa pagaalaga ng Mother ko. Well, hindi nga madali pero i always find time kahit na nagwowork ako magkakaron pa rin kami ni baby ng bonding moments para kahit hindi ako mas madalas niya makasama makikilala pa din niya ako, like bago mag sleep nilalaro ko sya,kinakantahan hanggang makatulog, paiinumin ng milk, pagkagising naman ganon din kahit ilang minutes lang i try to find ways para makulit ko sya. There are times hindi sumasakto yung schedule ng uwi at gising ko sa tulog niya like pag dating ko tulog na or pag alis ko tulog pa din..so during day offs il make sure ako talaga ang hands on sa kanya which is hinahayaan naman ako ng Mother ko,sa una iiyak siguro pero hayaan mo sanayin mo sya.. habang bata pa maintindihan niya ikaw talaga ang Mother niya and try to make more effort talaga para makuha mo atensyon niya.

As for your mom, why not talk to your Mother ng maayos para maintindihan din niya yung sentiments mo for sure naman mauunawaan ka niya she's your Mom. Before din nagkaroon kami ng issue ng Mother ko since napalo ni hubby si son at pinagalitan sa sobrang kakulitan niya, nagalit Mother ko..pero pinaliwanag namin yung concern namin at need madiscipline ni uno  kase pag tumagal at lumaki kami din ang mahihirapan sa umpisa nagtampo pero as time pass by mauunawaan na din niya,Magulang sila.
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« Reply #32 on: May 04, 2012, 11:34:43 am »

thanks mommy RayJean sa reply mo, ngayon ko lang nabasa super busy hindi na ako naka pagnet..kinausap ko na nga mom ko kaso hindi niya ma gets ang situation mas lalo ata naking complicated kasi iba yong pagkakaintindi niya sa sinsabi ko minasama pa niya nong sinabi ko na  hindi dapat ibigay agad kong ano gusto..sabi niya bata pa yan its not the right time daw for dicipline...alam mo sis after kami nag usap ni mom hindi niya ako kinibo for a week...sa ngayon i find time talaga for my baby...hindi na nga ako sumabay kay hubby, uwi agad ako after work...kaso pagdating ko sa bahay yun parang hindi ako napapnsin ni baby,.... :(
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Re: working moms how do you keep a close realtionship with your babies
« Reply #33 on: May 04, 2012, 11:44:18 am »

Merged with existing topic.

@love_katrice - Take time to read inputs of working moms like you who are currently and/or surpassed the same trials you're facing right now.
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Re: working moms how do you keep a close realtionship with your babies
« Reply #34 on: May 04, 2012, 12:24:21 pm »

@love_katrice, we had same situation when I gave birth to my daughter. After one and a half month balik work na ako agad. Ang mama ko ang nag-aalaga sa kanya. But then ang pinasasalamat ko talaga is me and my daughter been so close. I don't know pero after work sa daughter ko na attention ko. Iniiwan ko muna mga things to do ko until she already sleeping na sa gabi. Sa tingin ko konting tyaga lang. Kasi pag matutulog na, ako talaga gusto katabi ng daughter ko (up this age she's four years and five months na) We sing and play together before bed time. Continuous every night during bed time (hanggang ngayon). Parehas kami working ni hubby pero pag sa house na kami yung daughter namin sa amin na agad.

Kahit na umiiyak sayo yung baby mo sis, try to think of something that makes him happy. Hanggang sa mapalapit na sya sayo. It is also good to reconcile with your mama and let her understand your situation (hoping to see your side as a mother). Pag lola kasi madalas talaga na-spoiled yung bata which is wrong sa ating parents. Kung hindi maintindihan ng mama mo, let your self do what is right like full attention to your baby. Play together and bonding moments. Hope everything turns out well between you and your baby.
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Re: working moms how do you keep a close realtionship with your babies
« Reply #35 on: May 05, 2012, 10:56:20 pm »

Great point from Rozzy. I'm sure pag nakausap mo ng maayos yung mama mo ay maiintindihan din niya. Baka nagtampo lang or something.

Pictures help kasi short pa lang ang memory ng mga baby so tendency is kung sino yung madalas nilang makita, yun lang ang kakilala nila. Have a family picture kung saan madalas mag-stay yung anak mo kapag gising siya para nakikiata pa rin niya yung face at maging familiar siya sa'yo.

Mahilig talagang mag-spoil ang mga grandparents. Yung anak ko rin kapag kasama ang mga lolo at lola halos hindi ako pansinin lalo na pag nag-stay siya dun ng 1 week. Tatawagan ko siya 2x a day para marinig ko boses niya at assure him na love ko siya. Kahit less than 1 minute lang dahil ayaw akong kausapin at "busy" daw siya, go pa rin kami. Kahit tawagin siya sa ng mommy ko tapos ayaw niyang lumapit sa phone, papasabi ko kahit good night lang.

Hindi ako nagdadamdam sa kanya kasi bata pa naman siya at choice ko naman na mag-work dahil kailangan.
Better kung makapag-bakasyon kayo ng kayong family lang kasi compared sa strangers na makikita niya sa labas, mas magiging ikaw yung familiar sa kanya so pwede ninyong ma-strengthen yung bond ninyo.

Sakripisyo talaga pero malalampasan din yang stage na yan.
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Re: working moms how do you keep a close realtionship with your babies
« Reply #36 on: May 06, 2012, 07:58:43 pm »

I agree mahilig talaga mag spoil ang grandparents, in my case naman 1 year old and 3 months na si baby nung nagwork ako kaya kahit mom ko ang nag-aalaga sa kanya pag nasa office ako super close pa din kame ng baby ko. Pag dumadating ako from work which is usually morning na I always make it a point na ako ang magpapaligo sa kanya, pate pagkaen ako din kasabay niya, then pag mag nap na sya sa hapon dun pa lang din ako matutulog since night shift naman ako. Pero ngayon medyo hassle sched ko 530pm till 230am. Nagstay pa ko sa office till 5am dahil nakakatakot magcommute, so when I get home at around 530am tulog pa si baby, sinasabayan ko din ng tulog and when he wakes up gising na din ako to play with him. I always alot atleast 2 hours para makapag play kame at makapag bond. since im on a shifting schedule lagi ko talaga pinaprioritize ang bonding  schedule ko with my son, and during RD we go out. Siguro it's a matter of time management lang talaga.
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Re: working moms how do you keep a close realtionship with your babies
« Reply #37 on: May 13, 2012, 11:22:47 pm »

If you work outside the office and often do overtime, you just have to make use of your weekends smarter. Devote at least one whole day just for your kids, doing activities etc. And mind you, the activities don't have to be expensive or anything elaborate.

Children are happiest when they spend quality time with their parents.

Some weekend ideas you can do are:
- play dress up
- cook mystery soup (let your child put anything edible in the pot)
- learn how to fold origami animals

You can get more ideas here: http://www.mymomfriday.com/2012/03/35-bonding-activities-for-working-moms.html
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Re: working moms how do you keep a close realtionship with your babies
« Reply #38 on: May 17, 2012, 05:00:22 am »

I'm a working Mom, and I love my new schedule :)

2AM-11AM mas mahaba ang bonding time namin ng anak ko, tabi kami sa afternoon nap niya, tabi pa din kami sa gabi, kalahating gabi nga lang yun. Tapos kapag rest day, talagang bonding kaming tatlo. Kaso ito lang ang problema namin :( Yung asawa ko nag iba ng RD Thur-Fri ako Sun-Mon, haaay naku ang hirap talaga ng buhay call center :(
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Re: working moms how do you keep a close realtionship with your babies
« Reply #39 on: May 17, 2012, 12:57:44 pm »

working mom din ako.good thing nasa government agency so 8-5 yung ofc time ko.pero usually may overtime talaga kasi nasa finance ako so aabot until 6:30.pero pagdating ko sa bahay ng past 7pm kakain lang ako din bonding na sa baby until sleep time.weekends lang yung pinakahabang bonding namin.specially now that my daughter is now 4yo pwede na sya ipasyal outside anytime.
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« Reply #40 on: June 05, 2012, 12:14:36 pm »

working mom din ako, sa laguna kami nakatira and sa manila ako nagwo work..usually maaga nagigising anak ko na 2 years old..everyday pag aalis kami ni hubby papunta sa work, kasama si baby ko hanggang tricycle den sa labasan ng village..tapos babalik na sila ni yaya niya..yon bonding moment namin kc karga ko sya sa tricycle..kainakausap ko sya na wah makulit etc..then sa gabi usually mga 730 nako nakakauwi ng bahay depende sa trapik..yong baby ko magtatanong na sya kung may pasalubong.....tapos mahilig kumarga tapos kikilitiin ko sya....suring weekend narin lang ang mahabang bonding namin ni baby.
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Re: working moms how do you keep a close realtionship with your babies
« Reply #41 on: June 05, 2012, 12:24:33 pm »

eh pano pag dalawa na babies.. as in babies talaga, like mine.. pa'no niyo nababalance while working?
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« Reply #42 on: June 05, 2012, 12:31:06 pm »

Nung 7 months na baby ko nag start ako magwork. After work, nilalaro ko anak ko. Or nillabas ko siya, kakain kami sa jollibee.
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« Reply #43 on: June 05, 2012, 01:08:58 pm »

so happy that I read this thread, problem ko din kasi ngaun bonding namin ng baby ko, after ML kasi I went back to work din and naiwan na si baby sa mama ko, he's now turning 5mos. and nakakasama minsan ng loob kapag ako kumakausap sa kanya no reaction siya, samantalang marinig lang niya voice ng lola niya ayun nakasmile na agad, even kahit nagbbreastfeed kami bibitaw talaga siya kapag narinig niya si mama... I make sure naman na weekends at sa gabi ako nag aalaga sa kanya, kaso no reaction talaga siya kapag sa akin.. nakakasad lang..
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« Reply #44 on: June 22, 2012, 02:34:13 pm »

Extra effort pala kapag schooling na ang "baby".
Dati kasi my son can sleep late to make up for lost time. Pero now na he has morning classes, he sleeps earlier - giving us only 2 hours of bonding time during weekdays.

So, I wake up 2 hours earlier now. 4:30 AM pa lang gising na ako, preparing school items and his baon, my baon and breakfast niya. I make sure ako nagpre-prepare ng lahat ng gamit niya sa school. Ako pa rin ang nagpapaligo sa kanya at nagbibihis sa kanya.

I call him around 2pm kasi yun ang gising niya from his afternoon nap and then ask him how school was.

If by 6:30 nasa house na kami, my husband and I eat fast. No gadgets policy kami ngayon sa bahay. And kapag weekends, monitored lang yung time na pwede siya mag-gadget. He can play with his educational toys pero he cannot borrow our phone, he cannot play on our laptop or pc.

We practice lines for 10 minutes. Yun lang kasi ang kanya niya and happy naman ako kasi madali siya matuto so no need for long hours. No TV din pagdating namen ni daddy sa bahay kasi nakanood na siya the whole afternoon while wala kami so story telling na lang sa gabi.

My husband's teasing me as the "stage-school-mommy". Masyado daw akong up-tight. What can I do? I need to make quality time with him. I don't do TV din naman. I don't log in na masyado sa sa laptop. Mobile lang yung gamit ko para madaling i-off.

Sobrang laking adjustment.
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