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need help ulit.. kawawa ba sina baby pag walang ama?
« on: December 08, 2011, 09:43:56 am »

HI Its me again.. ngusap kame ng lola ko kanina at umiiyak siya kasi naawa aw siya sa mga bata pag nkapangnak n ko.. kasi may asawa nga si SD at di namin lahat ineexpect na magkakabalikan sila, okey na sana tangap na sa min kasi la naman anak at hiwalay tpos ngyaon mgkakabalikan.. nakakaawa ba talaga ang bata pag nalaman nila na anag daddy nila may iba asawa at wala sila tatay? kasi daw baka magrebelde sina baby.. wala ako magagawa sa ngyri sa min ni SD... as in kahit gustuhin ko.. ano dapat gawin ko?

Thank you mga sis. Di ko lang alm panu ippliwanag sa min na di naman kame nakakaawa...

hay...

Salamat ulit...

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Re: need help ulit.. kawawa ba sina baby pag walang ama?
« Reply #1 on: December 08, 2011, 10:33:30 am »

Hi mommy! Ilan na ba anak mo?

Anyways, i dont think just because wala ama ang mga anak mo e magiging kawawa na sila. its up to you how will you teach them. Nasa pagpapalaki mo na kung paano ang magiging attitude nila towards life. kaya you should be strong and love them much. although hinde mo mapupuno lahat but still give the best you can to raise them well. pag malalaki na sila saka mo paliwanag sa kanila what happened. oo hinde maiiwasan that at some point they will ask you kasi tintukso sila or whatever kaya better be ready. what is important is you and your love. and syempre your family must be supportive din. mahirap kasi pag sa family mo pa maririnig un masasakit na bagay. they should at this point show their love and support to you and your children. its not a time ng sisihan, kasi family is family. dapat nagdadamayan. but mommy better learn your lesson and never repeat the same mistake again.

Just pray always and teach your child as well. Maganda ma-instill mo na sa kanila even at early age the fear in God. God bless you mommy. Don't worry and just trust God. He will never give such carrying if you can't carry it.
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Re: need help ulit.. kawawa ba sina baby pag walang ama?
« Reply #2 on: December 08, 2011, 11:07:08 am »

Di ba sis sabe mo, hindi naman sila pababayaan ng tatay nila? So hindi sila mawawalan ng ama.
May mga batang kasama ang tatay pero parang wala lang kasi hindi naman sila inaasikaso.

Let your SD be the father to his children. Wala silang anak nung wife niya di ba?
Kahit hindi mag-work out yung relationship ninyo, iba naman yung relationship nila bilang mag-ama.

Still, kailangan maayos yung usapan ninyo.
Dapat siguraduhin niyang gampanan niya yung role niya. kasi kung hindi lang din niya gagawin yung role niya, yun ang mas masakit sa mga bata.

Wag ka matakot na mag-rebelde ang anak mo as long as you do everything to make them feel loved and cherished.

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Re: need help ulit.. kawawa ba sina baby pag walang ama?
« Reply #3 on: December 08, 2011, 12:03:32 pm »

i guess its how you raise them

i grew up na walang dad, my mom able to survive it naman
mahirap in some ways, specially siguro kung sobrang dependent ka don sa lalaki.
mind set lang sis. kaw na din nagsabi na hindi sila pababayaan ng dad nila

be there for your kids.kaya mo yan
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Re: need help ulit.. kawawa ba sina baby pag walang ama?
« Reply #4 on: December 08, 2011, 08:22:33 pm »

sis momynikambal,

di po magiging kawawa ang mga anak mo kasi anjan ka, ang family mo to love and support them...

sis, kami, lumaki kami ng wala un dad namin, kasi naghiwalay parents ko when I was 7y.o. (un sis ko, 5y.o. at bro, 3y.o. at that time), sumama sya sa ibang babae, kasal sila ng parents ko at pinili ng dad ko un kabit niya...

madami din ang nagsabi ke nanay na kawawa kami dahil walang tatay, kasi totally ala communication, wala sustento etc..maski kami sinasabihan na kawawa daw kami...

pero binusog kami ng nanay ko sa support niya at love...as in she's always there for us, at lahat ginawa niya para mabuhay, mapag aral kami...awa ng Lord, walang lumaking bulakbol samin, walang nalulong sa masamang bisyo at naging mabubuting tao naman kami (in my opinion kasi wala kami inaagrabyado tao hehe)...

nasa pagpapalaki yan ng magulang kun magiging kawawa o hindi...

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Re: need help ulit.. kawawa ba sina baby pag walang ama?
« Reply #5 on: December 10, 2011, 02:50:46 pm »

hindi po magiging kawawa ang babies mo sis kasi  anjan ka!! wag mo silang hayaan kamuhian ang mundo dahil hindi kumpleto ang pamilya nila. ipakita mo na kahit wala si SD anjan naman ang beautiful mommy nasusuporatahan sila all the way :).  always pray sis i know god has a better plan kaya d kayo nagka2luyan ni SD malay nten may nakalaan talaga saio. andito kami Sp moms para bigyan ka ng moral support :)
 
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Re: need help ulit.. kawawa ba sina baby pag walang ama?
« Reply #6 on: December 10, 2011, 04:29:00 pm »

hi sis momynikambal,

For me kawawa in a sense na maghahanap sila ng father figure at pag tinanggi ng sariling ama pero in your case naman hindi. Nakakalungkot man isipin yung pamangkin ko ganyan nung lumaki na sya dun niya nakilala totoong tatay niya tapos itinanggi pa. Wala akong masabi sa ganung klase ng tatay. Hindi na nga sinuportahan ganun pa.

Going back, alam kong tayong mga nanay we never fail to explain sa mga kids natin kung ano talaga ang reality. In time things will fall into place sis..

Lalo na kung andyan ang family mo, so no worries sis..

Always pray   :)
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Re: need help ulit.. kawawa ba sina baby pag walang ama?
« Reply #7 on: December 12, 2011, 11:16:16 am »

in my opinion sis di naman magiging kawawa yung baby mo dahil unang una nandyan ka to shower him with all the love and attention that you can give..single mom din ako sis same tayo ng fears pero i wont let it get the best of me. alam ko na triple ang effort na gagawin ko to fill in the  role of being a mom/dad at sobrang hirap nun pero wala akong ibang choice eh. swerte lang nung baby ko kasi meron siyang lolo at tito if ever mangailangan siya ng father figure. for now enjoyin mo ng husto ang baby mo kasi ang bilis lang nila lumaki yung fears mo lift them up to the Lord. stay strong sis lets enjoy and celebrate being a single mom :)
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Re: need help ulit.. kawawa ba sina baby pag walang ama?
« Reply #8 on: January 09, 2012, 09:53:24 am »

the fact na andyan ka for your kids never sila magiging kawawa
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Re: need help ulit.. kawawa ba sina baby pag walang ama?
« Reply #9 on: January 31, 2012, 06:24:26 am »

HI Its me again.. ngusap kame ng lola ko kanina at umiiyak siya kasi naawa aw siya sa mga bata pag nkapangnak n ko.. kasi may asawa nga si SD at di namin lahat ineexpect na magkakabalikan sila, okey na sana tangap na sa min kasi la naman anak at hiwalay tpos ngyaon mgkakabalikan.. nakakaawa ba talaga ang bata pag nalaman nila na anag daddy nila may iba asawa at wala sila tatay? kasi daw baka magrebelde sina baby.. wala ako magagawa sa ngyri sa min ni SD... as in kahit gustuhin ko.. ano dapat gawin ko?


In my opinion, Hindi naman sila magiging kawawa as long as you are there for them .. just want to share this, ako po, anak kami sa first Family, My mom died when i was 3 yrs. old. my father got married when i was 7 yrs. old. my stepmom took over all the obligations. and yes mabait naman siya, she did everything naman for us, she did love us like her own.. BUT.. Iba pa rin ang pagmamahal ng isang Tunay na ina.. Ang father kasi, they are just there to provide the need of the family, to support the Family..but too bad for me, i was also left behind by the father of my daughter..
i gave the love, attention, care. i became the father and the mother.. You know what,ang pagiging rebelde po ng isang bat ay depende sa pagpapalaki ng magulang., proper attention at communication lang.  Honestly,. agree ako dun sa kasabhan nila na Mawala na ang AMA wag lang Ang Ina.. dahil iba ang pagmamahal at pag aalaga ng isang Ina...   :'(   naiyak tuloy ako,, i miss my mom...
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Re: need help ulit.. kawawa ba sina baby pag walang ama?
« Reply #10 on: January 31, 2012, 08:23:12 am »

wag mong isipin na kawawa mga bata kasi pag iniisip mo yun lalo nila mararamdaman yun.pati family members mo dapat alisin nila sa isip nila yun. ang mahalaga eh mahalin mo sila ng husto.

minsan hindi rin naman factor yung walang tatay or walang nanay kaya nagiging rebelde ang bata. ifocus mo na lang isip mo kung pano mo sila mapapalaki ng maayos. pilitin natin maging masaya lagi.  ;)
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Re: need help ulit.. kawawa ba sina baby pag walang ama?
« Reply #11 on: January 31, 2012, 06:32:12 pm »

my baby's 7month old pa lang pero pinagiisipan ko na ang ganyang bagay.

in some ways, naaawa din ako sa baby ko, but then iniisipin ko na meron akong dad and brother na super love ang baby ko. good example and father figure sila. para sakin blessed ang baby ko kasi pinapaligiran siya ng taong nagmamahal sa kanya. kesa naman kasama nga niya papa niya pero ang puso nasa iba.

wag mong kaawaan ang kids mo, wag mong hayaan na kaawaan sya ng iba. kasi un lang iinisip niya na nakakaawa pala siya. be positive para habang lumalaki siya, wala siyang super bigat na dalahin. kasi for me ah, parang maholdback mga potentials kung ganun ang thinking.

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« Reply #12 on: February 17, 2012, 07:31:24 am »

So true! Hindi kawawa ang bata pag walang ama if the mom will be strong enough and be there for them every single day.. Taung single moms, we should be strong for our kids , let 's make them feel na walang kulang sa kanila just bec they dont have a father, sa atin mismo makita ng kids na strong tayo and we dont need a husband to function well. I've been raising my son alone and God has been very faithful to us since day one, he'a Father to the fatherless.. and now my son's 13 and I'm proud to say he's a really nice kid, i reiterate to him the importance of being a good man which includes treating girls right ,i told him to never ever make any girl cry,  and i know someday he'll be a good husband and a good father.  ;)

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Re: need help ulit.. kawawa ba sina baby pag walang ama?
« Reply #13 on: February 29, 2012, 05:54:34 pm »

Hindi naman kawawa. Tama yung mga posts ng mga mommies. Nasa sa iyo yun kung paano mo ipapaliwanag sa mga anak ninyo yung situation. I was also holding my breath if time comes and my daughter will ask me kung asan ang dad niya and what happened?

Pero nagulat ako kasi, at 4 years old it seems naiintindihan niya. Alam na niya yung situation. Kung bakit andito kami sa bahay ng parents ko. Kung bakit hindi kami pwede ni SD. I am telling her that pag laki niya kung gusto niya makasama si SD, it's up to her. You see, parang Sharon-KC-Gabby kami eh hehe.

Pero she understood naman. Hindi ako nahirapan mag explain.
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Re: need help ulit.. kawawa ba sina baby pag walang ama?
« Reply #14 on: May 30, 2012, 03:17:45 pm »

sa mga echosera sigurong tao magiging kawawa ang tingin nila sa baby mo...
pero huwag mong hayaan na maiparamdam mo ito sa anak mo...
hindi ưan magiging kawawa basta lagi iparamdam ang pagmamahal mo sa kanya at suporta...
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