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Re: need help ulit.. kawawa ba sina baby pag walang ama?
« Reply #15 on: May 30, 2012, 06:03:18 pm »

It would depend on the moms and the immediate people around.  If your child feels truly loved and as she grows would not let your child feel that something or someone missing, then she would feel COMPLETE.  Even if others would question, she would would be confident that even without a father, she is a complete person because she is well loved.
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Re: need help ulit.. kawawa ba sina baby pag walang ama?
« Reply #16 on: May 31, 2012, 09:30:25 am »

I grew up na walang father as in walang support from him, pero hnd naman ako naging kawawa, naging maayos naman ang buhay ko. My mom never thought me to hate my father kahit dumating sa point na gusto kong isumpa tatay ko. Pero sabi ng mom ko, tatay ko pa din un, wala ako sa mundo kong hnd dahil sa kanya. Kaya hnd reason na magiging kawawa c baby pagwalng tatay.

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Re: need help ulit.. kawawa ba sina baby pag walang ama?
« Reply #17 on: June 08, 2012, 07:27:13 pm »

I'm not a single mom, but I feel for you sissies...

I believe mas kawawa ang bata kung wala ang ina.  as long as, he promised to support, then there's no problem.  in due time, your kids will understand the situation.  just be honest with them when the right time comes.

what other people are saying are just mere speculations.  it would basically depend on how you accept the situation, live with it, and make it easier for your kids to accept it.  your kids should know the realities in life that you, as their mom, is not perfect.  things will not be perfect always, but at least you know how to face them with your head held high.
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Re: need help ulit.. kawawa ba sina baby pag walang ama?
« Reply #18 on: July 10, 2012, 05:09:42 am »

The truth is, a child who grows up without a mom or dad will always feel a certain loss for that parent.

BUT it doesn't mean that vacuum cannot be filled with other friends or relatives. In short, hindi kawawa ang baby na walang daddy.

Whether your baby is "kawawa or not" depends on how you raise him - as a single parent. This post might help you more:  How To Manage Raising A Child Single Handedly (That Worked On Me) http://goo.gl/OUANv
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Re: need help ulit.. kawawa ba sina baby pag walang ama?
« Reply #19 on: July 16, 2012, 11:00:42 am »

if you feel that way ..you'll just attract negative vibes.
make the most out of it. kawawa naman talaga na walang ama ang babies natin but you shouldn't let them feel that way. malay mo it would be the better way than having the father stay.

i grew up with a complete family but the my parents got separated when i was 24 na yata & had my own kids narin. but then i also got separated from my kids father and i feel sad for them kasi they  would grew up without a father  which i really dont know kung anong feeling. as much as possible i try to fill that empty space by being nice to their father and never did i tell negative comments towards him. its really hard but we can make it through.  :)
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Re: need help ulit.. kawawa ba sina baby pag walang ama?
« Reply #20 on: July 29, 2012, 01:09:33 am »

I am a single mom but I don't believe na kawawa ang anak ko kung wala si SD.

Ayon sa www.urbandictionary.com, it means affected or characterized by sorrow or unhappiness.

di natin maaalis na darating ang panahon na makakaramdam ang bata ng kakulangan lalo kung exposed siya na yung mga kalaro/friends niya belongs to a convenitional family na me nanay at tatay.

pero bilang magulang, di natin dapat isipin na kawawa sila kasi kung tayo mismong single moms ganun ang naiisip maipapasa natin yung negative vibes sa anak natin.

di man lahat ng tao matatanggap ang sitwwasyon natin as a single mom dapat iparamdam natin sa anak natin na kahit wala siyang tatay na kasama or nakilala, maswerte siya kasi mahal natin siya and we will strive hard to support them all through.

di naman kasi lahat sinuwerte na merong nakukuhang child support sa mgs SDs nila, majority single-handedly kinakaya ang pagpapalaki sa mga anak nila.

your child can still have a father figure kung me tatay or brother ka. like me, my son super loves tatay (my father). kahit na di pa din matanggap ng buo ng tatay ko yung ginawa ni SD sa akin, he did not take it against my son at siya ang nag-aalaga sa kanya whenever I am at work.

at tama sila, nasa pagpapalaki naman ng ng mga magulang yan. di rason na dahil kulang ang magulang ay magiging rebelde na.

Look at Kim Chui (nanood kasi ako ng SIR kanina) palipat lipat sila ng kamag-anak at simula ng maghiwalay ang mga magulang niya di na nila ito nakasamang magkakapatid. Pero di naman yun naging dahilan para magrebelde siya, nagsumikap pa nga siya kasi kahit na wala na parang neglected na sila ng parents niya, inisip niya na meron pa siyang mga kapatid na makakasama.

remove awa from your mind and try to understand your situation and look at the brighter things in life.

be happy for your child or children and try not to get offended and respect what others might think.

this is just my opinion based on what I experienced.
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Re: need help ulit.. kawawa ba sina baby pag walang ama?
« Reply #21 on: September 07, 2013, 03:31:21 am »

"My mother-in-law pleaded with me to continue attending family gatherings so our kids would not be estranged from their paternal relatives and I relented."
-Icy
Read how her break up did not affect their children badly on Smart Parenting magazine's September 2013 issue
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Re: need help ulit.. kawawa ba sina baby pag walang ama?
« Reply #22 on: September 15, 2013, 09:01:04 pm »

Mommynikambal04

Hi mommy, like you im also a single mom, i recently gave birth to a baby boy, one of my dilemas before ako manganak is that my son would not have a Father figure while growing up. Naiisip ko baka walang magtuturo mag basketball sa kanya, wala syang makikitang handyman sa bahay, then i realized bakit ko ba ini-stress ang sarili ko sa mga gnung bagay. Naisip ko my dad (my baby's lolo) would be a fantastic role model for my son  rather than my SD. I still dont know how not having a father will affect my baby but i know he wont be kawawa for he has me, his lolo, his lola and my 2 siblings who will love him unconditionally.

Also everytime i hold my baby i whispher in his ears that mommy loves him very much, and everytime he hears me say that he smiles. I think you just need to let them feel your love. Thats the most important thing you have to do.
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Re: need help ulit.. kawawa ba sina baby pag walang ama?
« Reply #23 on: October 16, 2013, 12:24:49 am »

i cant blame you for feeling that way, normal naman talaga yan... kaya lang isipin mo, your child's situation is better compared to other kids, yung iba nga inwan sa orphage, yung iba naman kahit complete family, may ginagawa namang masama yung tatay nila. instead na mag self pitty, tingnan mo na lang na blessing parin kasi nandyan ka para sa kanya... kaya dont compare your life to others..

by the way, we have a group for single mom's on facebook(in secret mode) kasi topics are sensitive. if you want to join, you may search me, "ira chiara" and i will add you to the group. we hope to see you there. =)
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Re: need help ulit.. kawawa ba sina baby pag walang ama?
« Reply #24 on: October 16, 2013, 06:39:56 pm »

i have the same fear. i gave birth to my son without his father at our side. we were married but then he chose to be with his "first family" (they used to live together and have 1 child). i fear that he will be mad at me because he will grow up without a dad.
what i'm doing now is we go to my in laws house as much as possible so he would now that there are others who love him even if his dad is not with us.
but is it wrong that i am still hoping that we will eventually patch things up and live together as a family?
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Re: need help ulit.. kawawa ba sina baby pag walang ama?
« Reply #25 on: October 17, 2013, 08:42:10 am »

Hi  milesbiay

All you need is love.

Just raise your son with your love and let him experience how real it is from other people who love him...and I'm sure he will remember more of all that love...than noticing any loss.  Love and truth also go hand in hand...so while he grows up in love...make sure that he will not be denied of the truth.

I just love the following words of wisdom:

"Omnia vincit amor, et nos cedamos amori."  Love conquers all.  Let us, too, yield to love.

"The hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world"

You got two powers there, your love and your motherhood!

And just always return to the source of all love, truth, power and justice...leave everything else to God!

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Re: need help ulit.. kawawa ba sina baby pag walang ama?
« Reply #26 on: November 13, 2013, 04:48:20 pm »

sobra nainspire po ko sa mga nabasa ko im also single mom...i feel the same about my son whose about 9 mos...i love my son so much despite sa mga ginawa ng dad niya sakin.. thanks po moms for those inspirational advice nababasa  ko that i never alone in this kind of situation...
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Re: need help ulit.. kawawa ba sina baby pag walang ama?
« Reply #27 on: November 13, 2013, 08:45:03 pm »

^ Hi sis  I might inspire you in this story of mine.. 

http://babyexpo.ph/sandie's-crib/?p=197


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Re: need help ulit.. kawawa ba sina baby pag walang ama?
« Reply #28 on: November 15, 2013, 11:47:11 am »

Hi sis, I belong to a broken home din, as in never ko nakasama ang papa ko, 4 kaming magkakapatid, pero never naman namin naramdaman na kawawa kami. Kasi pinuno kami ng pagmamahal at tamang pag aalaga ng mama ko....magiging kawawa lang ang anak natin kung pababayaan natin sila. Maybe inisip ng mama namin na wala na kami makukuhang love sa papa namin, kaya dobleng love yung binigay niya...so nasa atin lang kung paano ang magiging lagay ng mga anak natin.

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« Reply #29 on: November 21, 2013, 09:09:26 pm »

Hi sis mommynikambal
-  sayang kambal pa naman yata baby mo. Mas masaya yan sabay silang lalaki. Dont think thAt they will be kawawa. Kaya mo yan. Just be strong and give them all the love and care that they need. Di man sapat atleast u give ur bezt. Pareho tau ng situation sis.. isa nga lang baby namin and shes 5 months palang. Her dad and x gf back together. Kawawa din kami! Pero di ko pinapahalata sa mundo na talo ko. Di natin kailangan isipin na talo or kawawa tayo or baby natin..kasi unang unang affected nun is baby/s. Basta just believe in urself ull be ok! Pag napalaki mo sila ng maayos atleast somehow pakita mo ky SD nagkamali sya!
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