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nylej20

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How to get rid of Homesick
« on: December 22, 2011, 07:16:34 am »

hello mga mommies, I've been away from the Philippines for almost a month now. Me and my kids moved here in the US to be with my husband. At first, I was happy because finally my family is complete. But then after a while, i began to feel homesick. I know it is normal but up to this time i was'nt able to enjoy my life here.  Given a chance to choose between being here or in the Philippines, i will choose to be home even if it means being away from my husband. Is it normal? Nahihirapan na rin kasi ako. Sometimes i dont even talk to my husband kasi naiinis ako and i don't even know why. Super major adjustment talaga ito for me. all i want is to become okay and accept the fact na dito na ang buhay ko. Im also afraid na baka kung kelan magkasama na kami ni hubby, baka pa kami magkaproblema sa relationship namin. I felt so alone and feeling ko di niya nafefeel yun. That's it. I just want to vent out..Thanks mga sis..
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Re: How to get rid of Homesick
« Reply #1 on: December 22, 2011, 07:36:34 am »

hi sis! one month is short a time for u to adjust to ur new environment..normal lang sis na mahomesick ka since uv been here in PI all ur life then biglang ibang-iba na environment mo ngayon..tapos magpapasko pa..ibang-iba sa kinasanayan mong pasko sa pinas ang magiging pasko mo jan..but dont be sad sis..isipin mo na lang atleast kasama mo na ang buong pamilya mo..this is the time para bumawi sa mga paskong hindi kayo magkakasama :)..try to go out and make friends..im sure si hubby since medyo matagal na sya jan meron na din syang friends so try to make friends sa mga wife ng friends ni hubby..mas nakakawala ng homesick pag me nakakausap kang kababayan..tapos para din hindi ka mahomesick at mafeel mo pa din na nasa pinas ka tambay ka lang lagi sa SP..marami kang close friends dito di ba that u can talk to and will be there for u if u need them..ako, we may not have the chance to meet nung nandito ka but i can be a friend..i can be there for u ;D..so cheer up..ienjoy mo ma lang ang white christmas ;) kung me snow jan ha ;D..baka kasi sa california ka wala naman snow dun hehe..pero maraming pinoy so katulad ng sabi ko make friends now is the best time to make friends kasi its christmas time..at wag ka na din masyado mag-isip..baka nga mamya si hubby pa mapagbuntunan mo ng inis..basta bottomline is wag mong isipin ur alone were still here for you..ur friends from SP..u just have to go online and im sure there will be atleast one SP mom who's been close to u who is online too :)
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Re: How to get rid of Homesick
« Reply #2 on: December 22, 2011, 09:21:11 am »

mommy jelyn wag ka na ma homesick ...

better nga siguro na maghanap ka ng work..pero paano naman ang mga kids?

para mawala tambay ka nga lang dito sa SP at magkwento..saka sa FB,.

naiinip ka kasi SAHM ka tapos wala ka pang kausap masyado dahil nasa work si hubby siguro, samantalang dito sa pinas mangapitbahay ka lang saka isang text sa mga friends gora na..

hanap ka muna ng friends :D jan..

wag ka nang malungkot sis..pagiging happy daw is nasa choice ng tao..kaya choose to be happy!!!
mwahh...
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Re: How to get rid of Homesick
« Reply #3 on: December 22, 2011, 09:27:28 am »

Hugs Jelyn... sana stage lang yan na malampasan mo.
Adjustment talaga kasi iba yung andito ka sa Pinas na nagagawa mo lahat ng gusto mo at kung may problem ka, may masasabihan ka. Unlike jan, wala ka pa gaano friends and kahit may FB, kailangan mo pa maghintay na magtama yung oras ninyo.

Sigruo Jelyn,, think of ways na lang para makapag-adjust ka. Parang look forward, not sa past (your life here).
Find ways how you'll make new friends, how you'll be able to join a support group. Im sure may filipino communities jan na pwede mong masalihan.

Don't give up just yet and don't dwell on the negativity. Maganda pa rin yung fact na magkakasama kayo.
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Re: How to get rid of Homesick
« Reply #4 on: December 22, 2011, 04:22:23 pm »

Sabi nila give 2 years bago ka masanay. Lalo na dun sa mga OFW. I remember 7 mos na ako abroad inaatake pa rin ako ng homesick. Nauubos ang sahod ko sa kaka overseas call.

Pero look ka na lang on the bright side. Kasama mo yung buong family mo. Dun pa lang mas lamang ka na talaga. Bago lang sa experience mo pero ma-oovercome mo yan. Mas maganda kung makilala mo rin yung community nyo para may makaka-usap ka sabi nga ng ibang mommies. Kasi malaking bagay yung magagawa nun. Na may makaka-usap ka na mga ibang tao na naka-experience din ng pinagdadaanan mo ngayon. Mas ok din kung may mga relatives kayo jan na magbibigay ng suporta sa iyo. Yung pwede mong makausap.

Cheer up! Kaya mo yan!  ;D
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Re: How to get rid of Homesick
« Reply #5 on: December 24, 2011, 12:53:24 am »

hi sis jel,, Merry Christmas!... first christmas ko away from my family lalo na sa baby ko... sis jel, your blessed kasi kasama mo mga anak mo diyan and your hubby..yun na lang isipin mo sis, at oo nga need din na magkaroon ka ng mga friends diyan para ma enjoy mo. for me so far na eenjoy ko kahit pano life ko although namimiss ko sobra yung anak ko,may time na umiiyak ako magdamag.ang tulog ko dito 3am na,, pero pag kasama ko mga kaibigan ko and sister ko nawawala na din homesick.be happy sis, mas importante kasama mo mga anak mo diyan.
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Re: How to get rid of Homesick
« Reply #6 on: December 24, 2011, 09:10:25 am »

Naku sis, alam ko na namimiss mo ako noh! hahaha ;D ;D ;D

Wag ka na malungkot, sabi nga nila ikaw ang isa sa pinakamaswerteng nasa ibang bansa kasi you are with your family, though malayo sa pinas. For sure masasanay ka din at yun nga maghanap ka ng mga friendship jan, yung kasing loka mo para naman di ka nahohomesick.. Kakayanin mo yan, ano ba naman ginagawa ng dalawang bata sa tabi mo may hubby pa ngaun..

Wag pagtripan si hubby ha.. wawa naman :(

Merry Christmas sis. mwah mwah.. hugs! ;)

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Re: How to get rid of Homesick
« Reply #7 on: December 26, 2011, 02:12:23 am »

thanks mga sis..oo siguro masasanay din ako kasi for now wala pa kasi mga friends dito. di ata uso kapitbahay dito eh hehe..Nasa adjustment period pa rin ako talaga. Tama ka ilove_dadi miss kita hahaha! di lang ako sanay ng wala kadaldalan. Thanks mga sis..naapreciate ko lahat ng mga sinabi nyo and hindi ako nagkamali. Lahat ng ngpost dito ay yung mga inaasahan ko na magrereact sa post ko hehe! Love you mga sis!. Sis journey4life..ngayon ko lang ulit nabasa post mo..glad to hear from you. malayo ka nga rin pala and tama ka, maswerte ako at kasama ko kids ko.

well, tatambay na lang ako ng madalas dito sa SP katulad ng ginagawa ko dati..namiss ko talaga ang magkaron ng social life and nabobored kasi ako dito.  Thanks again mga sis...mwah!!! :) ;)
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Re: How to get rid of Homesick
« Reply #8 on: April 16, 2012, 04:39:05 pm »

Masasanay ka rin dyan sis Jelyn. baka dumating ang panahon na magbabakasyon ka dito hindi ka na makatagal kasi nasanay ka na dyan. hehe!

kung wala ka pa friends dyan mag computer ka madami kaming online lagi. oh diba? Dapat masaya lagi complete ang family wala naman major problem so walang reason malungkot.


 :-* nutela lang katapat nyan!
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Re: How to get rid of Homesick
« Reply #9 on: April 21, 2012, 06:00:37 am »

Masasanay ka rin dyan sis Jelyn. baka dumating ang panahon na magbabakasyon ka dito hindi ka na makatagal kasi nasanay ka na dyan. hehe!

kung wala ka pa friends dyan mag computer ka madami kaming online lagi. oh diba? Dapat masaya lagi complete ang family wala naman major problem so walang reason malungkot.


 :-* nutela lang katapat nyan!


thanks mamacharis..you never fail to make me smile talaga :) :)  medyo okey nako dito pero minsan nalulungkot pa rin. tama ka, isipin ko na lang kumpleto family ko dito. wala kasi ako kadaldalan dito kaya ganun.yung mga kasama ko naman sa work dyos mio hirap intindihin hahaha! mukhang di pa mahilig sa tsismis katulad ko hihi
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Re: How to get rid of Homesick
« Reply #10 on: December 18, 2012, 12:10:43 am »

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Re: How to get rid of Homesick
« Reply #11 on: September 21, 2017, 09:02:35 pm »

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