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Re: help about "pagbukod"
« Reply #90 on: January 12, 2012, 07:03:08 pm »


at ang pinaka worst nakita ko ang kapatid ng hubby ko na nilagyan ng unan sa mukha ang anak ko 3 months old pa lang nun...at nangingitm na siya ng tinanggal ko unan,naligo lang ako nun at pinatingnan ko sa sil ko..kaya as in lupasay ako sa pag-iyak na lumipat na kami..wala akong pakialam kahit naririnig pa nila ako,talagang pinakita ko na sa kanila ang ugali ko na maldita din ako...



sis kawaiimaridel, bigla akong nalungkot sa kwento mo, bigla akong naawa sa baby mo na caught in the act mo pang tinatakpan ng unan yung mukha niya.. haay.. kung ako yun, giyera patane na.  >:(

kung ikaw SIL ang problema mo kaya kayo bumukod, ako naman hipag na hilaw naman ang problema ko kaya gusto ko na rin na bumukod na kami. pero mukhang matatagalan pa, hindi pa kaya ni hubby kasi dami pa namin kelangang unahin.  :-[
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Re: help about "pagbukod"
« Reply #91 on: January 19, 2012, 02:58:37 pm »

considerations of living on your own (i mean with your immediate family-- hubby, kids, caregiver) in no particular order:

1. shelter- house rent/mortgage (if loaned)
2. food- weekly groceries (i.e. baby's milk, diapers, canned goods, toiletries, cooking must-haves, condiments, etc.), viand every meal (i.e. fresh produce, meat/poultry, fish), rice
3. utilities- water and electric bill
4. transportation- gas (if you own a car) or fares (if commuter)

that's just the basics. wala pa dyan yung for leisure. i guess if the budget is enough, pleasure should be in the budget list, but if the money that comes in is just meager, you have to cut on expenditures. in our case, we don't have a cable nor a landline. we rely on our mobile phones, but our mom provided us with PLDT landline plus SIM card (i guess she only pays P200/month for that on top of their monthly phone bill) so we could check on my son while at work.

i must say that a dual income household is the trend nowadays, with the increasing cost of living. it also helps to have supportive family. although we are already living on our own since my son is born, our parents still assist us in little ways that they can, like what my mom did with the PLDT line, and my in-laws' ration of rice from the province.

while it's true that moving out gives you the liberty to be the parent that you want to be to your kid/s and to be the partner that you want to be to your better half, you have so many things to consider. the most important part of which is your financial capability to support your family's daily needs so you can peacefully live on your own.
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Re: mahirap ba ang bumukod?
« Reply #92 on: February 02, 2012, 04:24:25 pm »

hindi ahh sarap sarap nga bumokod ehh super sarap ang maginhawa sa pakiramdam...lalo na if yung asawa mo stay in sa work..hindi naman sa ayaw ko kasama mga inlaw ko wala ako problem sakanila super close nga kame ehh,pero iba kasi pakiramdam mas feel ko na may sarali na akong pamilya...
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Re: mahirap ba ang bumukod?
« Reply #93 on: February 07, 2012, 01:34:48 pm »

sa simula mahirap kase may mga gamit nga.. pero over all masaya.

unlike nung nkatira kame sa inlaws ko ang dami need pakisamahan plus dun din nakatira yung anak niya na isa na may asawa na din... at least now happy ako  ;)
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Re: mahirap ba ang bumukod?
« Reply #94 on: March 06, 2012, 04:37:59 pm »

Mahirap pero mas mahirap ang nakikisama sa in-laws :) sa pagrerent lang ng apartment monthly+bills+foods at iba pa naku kaloka yan monthly expenses. Buti nalang sapat pa sahod ni hubby at minsan may projects din kaya may extra napupunta minsan sa luho or di kaya naman sa bank :) hirap kasi makisama sa mga in-laws,sorry pero "hell" talga. Walang sariling desisyon kapag kasama mo in-laws mo.
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Re: mahirap ba ang bumukod?
« Reply #95 on: March 14, 2012, 10:11:49 am »

I being a solo parent i rather say Yes, its mahirap,,, But... worthy naman pag nakikita mo yung napupundar mo. and yung wala kang pinakikisamahan , yug walang nakatingin sa halos lahat ng kilos mo,, na ultimo subo mo ng pagkain nakatingin sau,,I being a single mom,, House rent, yaya, foods, allowance, etc.. ako lahat..
i started with nothing..NO sofa set, No tv, no gas range, as in nothing.. ang buhat lang naming mag ina,, when we moved in sa inuupahan namin,, our Few clothes.. For a solo parent like me who's earning not too much amount of money,,  I survived sa tanong na mahirap ba bumukod, at tanong na baka hindi ko kayanin alone..

Kung nakaya ko  mag isa.. for sure kaya nyo rin..
« Last Edit: March 14, 2012, 10:14:20 am by jealousygirl »
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Re: mahirap ba ang bumukod?
« Reply #96 on: March 14, 2012, 10:18:05 am »

mahirap pero masaya.... you have all the freedom, as in... especially the freedom na maglakad ng kahit nakahubo sa buong bahay mo!  :D :D :D
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Re: mahirap ba ang bumukod?
« Reply #97 on: March 14, 2012, 12:01:18 pm »

sabi ni mama mahirap daw bumukod. hehe ultimo mga plastic daw itatago. hehe eh kami naman hindi pa makabukod kasi me pinapaaral pa si bf.
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Re: mahirap ba ang bumukod?
« Reply #98 on: March 14, 2012, 01:30:00 pm »

@jealousygirl - Wow sis, I salute you. Sana soon makabukod na rin kami ni hubby. Kahit kasi gaano pa kabait in-laws mo, iba pa rin talaga pag walang ibang tao. lalo na kapag ang MIL at mga SIL ay maypagkapakelamera, pero mabait sila, kaya lang iba pa rin yung naaapektuhan yung decision nyo magasawa diba.
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Re: mahirap ba ang bumukod?
« Reply #99 on: March 15, 2012, 06:28:52 am »

@ sis jeuno.. yes po. tama po.. in my case,nakatira ko before sa parents ko.. come to think of it, na wala akong ibang pinagkakagastusan, though nagbbgay rin naman ako sa kanila. pero pinagpalit ko yun to live alone, to live separately, just for me to say to myself na kaya ko mabuhay sa sarili kong pagsisikap.. yes, single mom ako, and i wont let other people to degrade me , through sayings na palamunin, asa sa magulang.. and hindi rin kami magkasundo na kasi ng stepmom ko kaya umalis ako,, as in po sis,, naawa ako sa sarili ko nung lumipat ako , but sa tulong ng mga tao sa paligid ko , sa sinasabi nila na ganyan tlaga ang nagsisimula p lang,, you start with nothing.. and now after 3 yrs na nakabukod na ko,, ang saya saya ng feeling na nakikita ko na yung hard earned money ko,, na nasasabi ko sa sarili ko na kayang kaya ko.. knowing na mag isa lang ako,,

I hope i inspired you all to those who wanted to live separately .. aja,, fight. fight... kung kaya ng isa,, kaya ng 2.
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Re: mahirap ba ang bumukod?
« Reply #100 on: March 15, 2012, 02:58:15 pm »

^galing talaga sis. actually mas concern ko kasi sa pagbukod namin yung baby ko. parang mahirap kasi ipagkatiwala sa yaya lang, tho meron syang yaya ngayon naaasikaso pa rin sya ng MIL ko. yun nga lang medyo OA na, masyado na pinapakelaman desisyon namin bilang magasawa para sa anak namin. pano mo naayos yung sa baby mo?
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jealousygirl

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Re: mahirap ba ang bumukod?
« Reply #101 on: March 16, 2012, 05:52:38 am »

^ hi sis.. nung nag move po kasi ko ng house, si daughter turning 4 na rin,, so nag ask rin ako ng help sa tita ko na look for someone na napagkakatiwalaan na mapag iwanan sa kanya,, by then nag start ng stay out yaya and also gawa n rin konti sa bahaymm eh room lang naman kami nun before,, then i got one na nag stay in,, but i also made sure na okay,, pag kasundo ni baby go,, pag hindi uhmm bye,, ganun lang,, now,,  yung cousin-cousin ko nagbabantay sa kanya. , mas better po kung may kamag anak k n gusto mag service sau,then go.. ,
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Re: mahirap ba ang bumukod?
« Reply #102 on: March 17, 2012, 01:51:07 pm »

^yun nga sis, naghahanap din talaga ko ng malayong kamag anak na willing. pero itra-try ko rin muna tong yaya ni baby ngayon. okay naman sya e, kinakatakot ko lang, baka pag nakabukod na kami kapag naisipan ng yaya na umalis wala na ko mapagiiwanan kay baby kasi wala na pwede mag alaga.
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Re: mahirap ba ang bumukod?
« Reply #103 on: March 19, 2012, 06:37:41 am »

^ napagdaanan ko na rin yung ganun sitwasyon sis,, na umalis ang yaya,, hays,, hirap kasi nag w work ako,, buti lang rin kasi that time siya pa siya nag e school so,, hindi siya affectedm so, what i did,, pinagbaskayon ko muna siya sa mudra ko for 1 week,, or less,, while looking for the replacement,, i also seek help from them to look for a new one for me.. ganun tlaga sis eh,, dumating rin yung time na nasira ang attendance ko here sa office but now ok na.. ^^
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Re: mahirap ba ang bumukod?
« Reply #104 on: March 19, 2012, 11:38:10 am »

depende kasi sa situation. mahirap if both kayo need nyo magwork and medyo limited ang budget nyo to get your own yaya. syempre walang maiiwan sa kid/s nyo. or say parehas or isa sa inyo is di macontrol ang unwanted expenses. syempre if bubukod kayo (for example magrerent kayo), you need to pay your own rent, utility bills etc. if isa is medyo magastos pa, isip isip muna. kasi pag bumukod is malaking responsibility yun. mas malaking adjustment for both couple na medyo nasanay na tumira with in laws. but on the other hand, masarap kasi wala kayong pinakikisamahan. you can do whatever you want kasi sarili nyong house yun.
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