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Finding True Love as a Single Mom
« on: January 16, 2012, 10:29:59 am »

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Hi mommies! Warning: Medyo mahaba tong litanya ko ,kase medyo matagal tagal kong hindi nagopen up sa ibang tao. I just really can't keep it and I don't know what to do anymore. Para maliwanagan kayong lahat, iisaisahin ko po ah? :| sana wag kayo tamarin basahin. lol

I have a boyfriend sa Philadelphia, lets just call him Yuj. Mag-1 year na kame sa Jan.25, pero we're really on the rocks. Long dstance relationship kame and I NEVER SAW HIM YET , eVER. Pero I know i love him so much, I met him sa bestfrnd ko na frnd niya. So, bago mging kami ni yuj, may bf ako, nun nagkakagulo kami ng ex-bf ko dat time, sya yung nakakausap ko, then nafall nga ako sa kanya,so naging kami. habang kame, nakipagbalikan yung isa ex-bf ko before him, BINALIKAN ko. without him knowing, so I kept the rel. with him for 10months, nagbreak kame ni yuj kase nalaman niya na kame pa din nun ex ko habang kame, madame nalaman si Yuj about me, umabot pa sa puntong PINAGHARAP-HARAP KO NA KAMENG TATLO. Siya yung pinili ko over my ex. He gave me another chance, so okay nagkaayos kame ulit ni Yuj. Pero he always brng back yung kasalanan ko,oo i cant blame him. mali ako e. Pero alam mo un, im trying to make t up with him, lahat ginagawa ko, gumagastos pa ko ng load pang internet, calls, para lang maptunayan na seryoso ako na magpapakatino na ko sa kanya. kaso i found out na wala na talaga sya palang tiwala sken, sabe ko , bakit pa siya bumalik diba? kung aawayin lang niya ko ulit at ibabalik saken lahat yung mali ko everytime na magaaway kami. :(

next, habang wala kame, nkwento niya saken na nagpunta sya sa party, and may nakahalikan siya dun na babae. pero wala kame nun. pero syempre masakit padin saken un diba? malay ko ba kung may nangyari pA ASIDE DUN. to cut the story short, away bati kame. on and off. kada kame magaaway, ungkat niya lahat ng mali ko. gang sa minsan pinagbbintangan niya ko na 'u went out tapos nakipagsex ka lang kay ganito ganyan' as in ganun na kababa tingin niya saken. MGA SIS, nagkamali ako o nagloko ako pero hindi ako magpapaglaw sa lalaking hindi ko mahal o hindi ko bf. -.- Isa pang issue ko sa kanya, never niya ko pinakilala sa mga kaibigan niya dun sa kanila, he always tell me naman na kilala ako pero i doubt it, kase pag andun sya with his friends, medyo madalang sya magtxt o magmessage :( sabe niya kaya hindi niya ko mapakilala, kase alam ng mga friends niya DAW yung mga ginawa ko sa kanya, so ako naman hurt na naman, kase bakit hindi man lang niya ko madepensahan sa mga kaibigan niya? :( natatakot ako kase yung mga kaibigan nyang un minsan nababanggit niya nireretuhan sya ng mga babae :( kase siya lang walang kapartner sa barkda nila. tapos eto lang recently, nagaway kame. kase nagparty sya, so pinayagan ko sya. pero sana kahit papano magmessage sya, kaso hindi sya nagmmessage. so praning n naman ako since my record na nga syang nkpaghalikan sya diba ? so nagaway kami, ang ending , mali ko padin, inungkat n naman niya mga kasalanan ko. :(

Should  I stay o let go nalang ? :( pero mahal na mahal ko sya.

He's only 21 and I'm 24. :|
help me sisses. paliwanagin niyo utak ko :( kailangan ko kayo :(

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Re: Can we still find the right man for us single moms?
« Reply #1 on: January 16, 2012, 11:03:17 am »

@ sis yssa..  a big big hug for you.. start p lang, nakita ko na kaagad sarili ko sa sitwasyon mo..or shud i say were the same.. hayss.. ang hirap talga i handle ng isang long distance relationship, kasi may times talaga na nagkkaron ng hadlang,may pumapasok na iba.. lam mo sis, i do also have a bf now, and i also made a big mistake inside our relationship, but im also trying to prove him that i am willing to change,for us, cos i chose him over the 3rd party came in our relationship.. yes, its also happening din sa amin na uungkatin ang nakaraan, nakaka depressed ng sobra,, ang sakit,lalo n rin yung pagbintangan ka na may ginagawa kang malim, kahit alam mo sa sarili mo na wala talaga..
lesson that i learned,Magpatino talaga lalo na pag nasa relasyon tau, try not to entertain other..just to enlighten you sis.my bf and i still together and he often stay with me, kahit anong away bati.. kung talagang mahal ka niya sis, he will also try to understand you and also try to accept about what happened in the past.. its past and you can never bring it back anymore.. kung talagang mahal mo siya, just hold on, and try to prove that what he thinking about you is wrong,,
kung talagang hndi mo na kayam then let go.. marami pa nmang iba jan. kahit naman single mom tau, meron pa rin naman na ttanggap satin kahit ano pa tau..
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Re: Can we still find the right man for us single moms?
« Reply #2 on: January 16, 2012, 11:13:55 am »

Para kasing its too painful for me to hold on :( parang im startng to lose myself sa process ng pagmamahal ko sa kanya :( pero hindi ko sya kayang mawala :( ewan ko im very confuse :( gusto ko lang ng enlightenment :( tapos sinasabe niya 'tingin ko hindi tayo magkakatuluyan' eh whats the sense pa na nakikipaglaban ako for us kung un na ang nakamind set sa kanya? :( sakit lang sobra :((

same thing sis. balik din naman sya ng balik kase mahal daw niya ko. pwede mbang mahalin ang tao na wala ka ng tiwla at respeto dito? feeling ko gnagawa lang niya ko tuloy na past time pag wala syang kausap :(
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Re: Can we still find the right man for us single moms?
« Reply #3 on: May 24, 2012, 08:44:41 pm »

Whenever na heart broken ako in the past . I always. Think na . It may hurt me nowit happens. Hurt is inevitable in our lives. But God is so good. Bibigay din niya sayo yung moment m.Wala naman siyang ginawa na creature para lang masaktan. He all wants us to be happy. Yun nga lang in your case, you chose to be miserable.

Luma na to pero true. Paano m  nga naman makikita yung para sayo kung nandyan ka pa din kasama ng maling tao.
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Re: Can we still find the right man for us single moms?
« Reply #4 on: June 04, 2012, 06:01:00 am »

Nung nabasa ko to. Natatawa ako. :) Kase okay nako now. I mean I still think of him but, ika nga parang I remember the boy,but I don't remember the feeling anymoree. :) Thanks s mga advices sisses! :)
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Re: Can we still find the right man for us single moms?
« Reply #5 on: June 29, 2012, 12:49:57 pm »

Hi! 

Just like to give my opinion about your question:  Can we still find the right man for us single moms?

I think yes... if we will use both our heart and our mind. Let's admit, we used our heart more before kaya nga bumagsak tayo s wrong man, na akala natin sa una ay si Mr. Right na...

For single moms like us, maraming dapat iconsider, knowing na me mga anak na tayong pinoprotektahan.  We should choose wisely, hindi lang puro puso ang dapat umiiral. 

As of now, I'm enjoying being single mom... if God will allow me to meet Mr. Right, I know that I'm already completely healed and matured enough to love him and he's also matured enough to love me and accept my past and my kids...

True love waits...    :) :) :)
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Re: Can we still find the right man for us single moms?
« Reply #6 on: June 29, 2012, 06:12:34 pm »

Hi YSSA!
ano na? kamusta na ang pakikipagsapalaran niyo ng bf mo sa magulong mundo ng pag-ibig?
(sorry, feeling close ako.)
months have passed already. so im curious.

pareho tayo ng story eh. well, hindi naman LDR at 5 years na kaming mag-on at may anak na kami.
sa away inuungkat din ang past mistakes. tapos, laging away. tapos girls, girls, girls. tapos never sya naka-let go sa akin kahit ako gusto na mag moveon.

wala na ang trust at respect sa isat isa. and all im thinking right now is a second chance for TRUST and RESPECT. yan ang malaking tanong.
 
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« Reply #7 on: July 17, 2012, 06:47:59 am »

Hi sis Blake! We're both very happy now. WITHOUT EACH OTHER. :) TIme heals every wounds we have. And I think mas nakabuti samen na nagletgo kame finally sa isat isa. :) It hurts at first atleast now, I'm a better person and happy ako. Though, sometimes I am missing him. A LOT. We still talk pero hindi na ko apektado sa kanya not unlike before. 7months had passed and I can say I did well sa pagmmoveon. :D Naniniwala kase ako na pag nawala na ang TRUST and RESPECT, mahirap na imaintain yun especially LDR kayo. :( Like 2 out of 10 LDR work. pero grabe ang pinagdaanan nila for them to work. Eh yung saken mahinang kapit eh, kaya nasira :)))))
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Re: Can we still find the right man for us single moms?
« Reply #8 on: July 18, 2012, 03:19:50 pm »

oo naman! we can still find the right man for us single mom! may it be in the right love with the right man but at the wrong time   :-\
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« Reply #9 on: July 19, 2012, 01:05:03 am »

makakakita pa yan sis! Right man is always out there waiting and breathing. Mnsan nga naiisip ko pano kaya kng ang right man ko is foreigner hehe

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Re: Can we still find the right man for us single moms?
« Reply #10 on: September 07, 2013, 03:04:05 am »

The Single-mom's Dating Guide
Read about it on Smart Parenting magazine's September 2013 issue.
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Finding True Love as a Single Mom
« Reply #11 on: October 23, 2013, 12:13:24 am »

Hi Mommies!

Is finding true love still posible after being a single mom? SD denied the baby and left when I was just 3months preggy. Will be giving birth this December which I am very excited and thrilled about. Despite what happened to me, I think that my baby is still the best gift ever.

Lately nakakausap ko mga friends ko who had been married and has kids, however most of them are saying its better to be a single parent kasi wala na matinong lalake ngayon. Most of them are sharing bad experiences with their maried lives. It gave me the impression that no decent guy would be able to love me, much more my daughter kasi all guys are just there for the good times pero iiwanan din tayo with our kids pag nahihirapan na or if may makilala mas sa atin?

Any uplifting stories on how single moms met their husbands and loved the kids as their own?
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« Reply #12 on: October 23, 2013, 10:00:20 am »

it's possible sis because i was able to find mine. not everyone tend to look on one's past. pero syempre you have to be very selective because you have a child na. i was friends first with my husband before we became a couple so he knows that i have kids already na. he also knew then that hindi ko ipagpapalit ang kids ko for anybody, even him. until know i see how much he loves my children.
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« Reply #13 on: October 23, 2013, 12:11:55 pm »

I was a single mom also for 5 years until I got married last year. same story SD also denied the baby so no father information in birth cert; it worked to our advantage no hard time when I got married and hubby decided that my 1st baby should use his surname. Now I have another 6-month old baby girl and we are one happy family.
I came to the point also that I did not expect that I will be able to get married and have a "normal" family life - Prayers really help;
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« Reply #14 on: October 25, 2013, 10:54:09 am »

Sis julia_18 thats very nice naman. Yun kasi problem ko. I tend to doubt guys probably due to my past. Traumatic kasi yung ginawa ni SD so I developed trust issues. I think you are very lucky to find a man that will not only love you but also your baby :)


Sis YRAlonzo wow your story inspired me kasi same tayo ng situation. Sabi nga nila pag hindi mo na hinahanap saka dadating. Mas ok talaga pag you just your baby alone without any strings attached to the SD kasi your wouldnt find any complications when you decide to get married. Hindi kba nagkaroon ng trust issues after what happened with SD? Ako kasi yung talaga problem ko. I dont think I cannot trust anymore and feeling ko lahat ng guys iiwanan din ako :(
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